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boy keeps calling.
Keep in mind that I'm taken.
I made a new friend "J" and saw him with his friends all around school. Occasionally he would say hi and whatnot. We added each other on myspace and he left school. Right after he moved to a different school, HIS friend "W" added me on myspace. He said very perverted things. I laughed at it because it was a joke, yeaa? So we talked for hours online and saw each other sometimes at school.
So last week, he hung out with me and it was very awkward.. very quiet. "J" messaged me saying that "W" liked me or something. i wasn't sure but "W" has something to tell me. [I think he's going to confess his feelings for me]
But dudeee, we have only been talking for a few times in about 2 weeks. And of course he's nice but I'm in a relationship! A good relationship.. He must think I'll leave my boyfriend for him.
I gave him my number to talk a little and decide to hang out sorta thing. I thought it would be really cool to have another "close" ish guy friend because I usually have lots of girl friends. So we decided we would talk at 6 or 7. But GOD DAMN, the boy called hours earlier. I was busy, I told him that and he kept calling and calling. He called about 8 times in 2 hours. In total, he called 18 times in a few hours. I told him that my parents were getting angry and that I couldn't use the phone until my work was done. Most my room's stuff had to be taken out and smashed because i'm getting new furniture and stuff. I also had to clean my room, which is really messy and crowded. He didn't understand it! My parents told him I was busy or that I was out.. AND I WAS! but he kept calling.. asking for me.. acting like he didn't call those many times before.
Today, I told him i was going to be out all day and that I didn't have any time for phone calls because I'm not supposed to use the phone after 10. He called about 3-4 times about 4 minutes before 10! I'M GETTING IN TROUBLE BECAUSE HE'S NOT LISTENING!
i don't know what to do! please help me. i don't want to be mean.
i also don't know what to do about him having a crush on me.. because he's been dropping off hints and i've been ignoring them..
He knows i'm in a relationship too!
help please!
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Hi.
Wow, I can understand your frustration and to be honest I think you've been extremely patient with this guy.
There's a few different things here you can do.
The first is to have a chat with your friend "J" and explain to him what's going on (since their friends I would think) he can talk to his friend "W" and try get things straightened up i.e. explain that firstly you are taken and secondly to ease up on the ringing you all the time because it's getting you into trouble.
The other is to talk to your parents and explain what's going on and let them know if he calls again to tell him to stop calling the house from now on.
Lastly you can talk to him yourself and tell him he needs to stop becuase not only is it getting you into trouble he is also coming across as some kind of stalker type with the way he keeps on calling you constantly.
In addition to either of these YOU need to tell him that you have a boyfriend who you're very happy with so the only thing you're looking for is a friend - nothing more. You need to make sure there's no room for a misunderstanding so you will need to be very explicit with this. The sooner you let him know the better and although hinting to him you're not interested is good I seriously doubt he will get the hint considering his behaviour thus far from what you have described. You need to tell him this asap so he will know where he stands.
I know you don't want to be mean but I'm afraid sometimes you can't have it both ways. Trust me it's better to let him know the truth now than to wait it out because he may just get worse and it might become harder for you to talk to him about this. Also the last thing you want is him turning this all onto you by saying you led him on by not saying sooner etc, etc. A lot of rubbish but in his defence he may try that.
Good luck and I hope I was some help.
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