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Hypocrite
17/f
I've been dating this guy for about two weeks. He is my first real boyfriend. On our first date, I kissed him. Actually, he kissed me and it was sort of like a mini make-out session more than a kiss. I met him on MySpace and he goes to another school close to mine. I talked to him online and then on the phone for a few days and he asked me out. The day before the date we met at a public place to sort of break the ice so it wasn't awkward before the date. So, in other words, I kissed him the day after we met.
In the past two weeks after the date, we've made out, grinded, fondled each other, I've given him a handjob and even a blow job (not to orgasm, but I don't think that matters). He recently left for vacation in another state and before he left he told me he loved me. It's all going to fast and I like him A LOT...like crazy like him, but I have a problem.
Before I got a boyfriend I always thought those girls that were giving their boyfriend's blowjobs and handjobs and told me about it were just slutty. And girls who were like "I love him!" after only weeks were just naive and immature. I feel like a skank and a hypocrite for doing the things that I always thought was so slutty.
I don't brag like some girls do about what I've done. Only one other person knows everything I've done with him. And I told go around saying I love him all the time. I'm just going with the flow with him. I feel comfortable doing these things, and he's not forcing me (he knows sex isn't coming for a while), but I can't help but feel like a hypocrite.
Any opinions/advice?
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"I've given him a handjob and even a blow job (not to orgasm, but I don't think that matters)."
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I guess the best way I can describe what's happen is not to judge someone until you've been in their shoes. :]
To anyone who's not been there it does seem slutty and I agree with you regarding telling someone you love them after only a week or two but just like love has no age it also has to time limit. You thought this way about those who said this because you yourself had never been in their place which has now changed. I will admit though things with you and this guy seem to be moving very fast and I suggest getting to know the guy a lot more. I don't mean to sound negative but all guys are lovely at first, it's what they are like afterwards that counts. So get to know him better and take things slowly for your own good. You also stated that this is your first real boyfriend so this will also play a big part in things going fast. It's a new experience, a new rush and new feelings - it does happen so try not to feel too bad. The same had happen to me with my first serious girlfriend too. Thing is to try not to get caught up in it all and do something that you may later regret or feel bad about.
Take it from me at least you have the courage to realise that you were maybe judging too harshly. Most people would have just carried on and paid no heed to it at all. If you really do feel things are moving way too fast though (you may have now gotten a chance to think it through becuase he has left for a little while) then I would suggest talking it through with your boyfriend and letting him know and then taking things down a notch.
Good luck with him. :]
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end."
-Benjamin Disraeli.
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Dont feel like a hypocrite..you probably just didnt understand situations before you did those things and now you have done them..you see it all differently. Dont worry bout it..im sure that feeling will pass eventually =) x x x
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