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Well i am a very friendly girl and love to help people! i wil try my best to give you the best advice possible and we'l just hope everything works out for you ;)
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okay so i've had an on/off crush on my friend anthony since last summer. he liked me the end of the summer & we sorta had a thing during winter break..i told him that i like him in april, but he said he was confused with a lot of things. as soon as i told him i started to not like him as much and then thought i didn't have any feelings for him (i do this with guys a lot) then like last week i found out that he likes my friend nicole and basically confessed his love for her. she doesn't want anything to do with him but i think she likes the attention she is getting from the situation. but i'm like jealous because i don't know why all of a sudden he stopped liking me (if he did). she thinks he started to like her because she was the only one home during the spring (they both go to community college) but now i don't know what to do, i don't want to ask him because i don't want him to think i'm jealous and being clingy. i need help.
My advice to you is to act like you couldnt care less. If you look like youre not bothered..this could make him start to like you more. Whereas if you act clingy towards him then it will only push him further away.
He will eventually understand that your friend doesnt like him and he will move on from her.
However, for me, any boy that likes my friend after supposidly liking me is not worth any of my time :/ Good luck xx
For some reason, I attract clingy, pushy guys. I'm 20/F and I'm upfront that I don't want a relationship at this point. So when I flirt/hookup with guys, they call and call and don't stop. I try telling them I'm busy or ignoring the call, but they're relentless! How do I go about handling this? I don't want to hurt anyone and it's not like I want to stop seeing them completely, but it'd be nice if they backed off a bit. How should I approach this and what can I say to them without being hurtful?
If i were you i would just tell them that you are not looking for a serious relationship, you dont mind seeing them etc but you do not want anything serious out of it. Tell them that if what they want is something serious..then they have the wrong girl :) This way you are not leading them on .. they know how you feel so what they choose to do is up to them.. :) Good luck! x
so when i first started dating my bf he was so much more into me than i was into him. He managed to somehow get me to give him a change because of the way he was acting towards me. always the sweetest, and surprising me and taking me places.
its been about 3 months and lately hes just been kinda whatever with me. he told me it was because he didnt think i felt the same way about him as he did about me, which was true. but that was about a month ago and since then i realized i liked him more than i thought i did, and started showing it. However, he is still not the same. He's barely ever sweet to me except when we are in person. he used to txt me all the time and call me and want to talk/be with me. now its like i call him about the same amount of times he calls me, and he barely ever texts me anymore. However, he constantly tells me he loves me. I don't get it? is it possible some people are just not that affectionate? today for example, he hasn't talked to me at all! if hes just not that affectionate, then why was he in the beginning? its why I gave him a chance in the first place. what should i do to let him know this lack of affection is bothering me? oh and as an extra note, he is affectionate when were together, just not when we are apart. he barely contacts me anymore. am i making a big deal about it when it really isn't???? is talking over the phone everyday necessary in a relationship where i only get to see him once or twice a week? advice?
The first thing i would say to you is to tell him exactly what you have told everybody on here. But i know that some people cant do that and actually want other advice.
I think this is a "wanting what you havent got" sort of thing. Like in the beggining the fact that you didnt like him that much made him want to make you like him more .. so he was sweet etc.
Now that you do like him more .. he doesnt feel the need to be like he was in the beggining..because in a way he has you now.
This doesnt mean he still doesnt feel the same about you because as you said he is still affectionate when you are together :)
If i were you i would speak to him about how it is making you feel .. how else is he going to know he is doing something to make you unhappy? Hope everything works out okay :) xx
I recently went to this party of one of my old bestfriends...I saw this guy named jamie there and he was the first and only one to give me a hug when he saw me ( I havent seen them in like 2 years) well I really never talked to jamie in middle school but i have known of him since 6th grade...now i really like him cause he is really cute and nice now
I got his number before i left the party but when should i call and I want to hang out with him what should i be like to make him want to hang out more...he was already telling me drama that was going on with a girl he liked but when everyone else came around he told me he'd tell me later so i take it that he trusts me..how can i keep this up with out messing it up????help give me advice to help him like me or not make him like me but you know make him think of me in that way thanks alot
If i were you i would just text him at first asking what he's up too etc. Just be friendly. He might carry on teeling you about his problem and just help him in a friendly way. By what you have said there is a good possibility he could like you .. soo if you keep at it then he may eventually tell you how he feels =] Good Luck x
well, there's this guy i have feelings for, and i'm almost positive he likes me but that's not the problem. the problem is i'm a sophomore and he's a freshmen, and i know age shouldn't matter and all, but i get this weird feeling whenever i think about the grade difference. people at my school are really judgemental, and i don't usually care what people think of me, but this issue is eating at my nerves. is there a problem with dating a freshmen, or should i just not date him? or do you have any other advice? thanks in advance.
There is no problem with dating a freshman. If you both like each other then you shouldn't let what other people think stop you. Even if they do make comments at first, they will eventually get use to it and say nothing. If u want to date him then go for it ! =] x
me and my guy have been in a serious(long distance) relationship for two years now.. we had been in alot of fights but we always made up because we love eachother alot.. recently we came across a fight.. u see in both our FB(facebook) accounts we had put on our relationship status as "in a relationship".but recentlt my guy asked me permisiion to chnage his profile status to single becuse he had to add a married cousin sis of his whose a critic on love affairs.i understood him(bcos his cousin whose much older than him loves him like her son)... so i said ok to it and he asked me to open another new profile for him and put the staus on rwelationship.. i did as he told.. and increased his privacy settings so that his cousin sis wont find him on FB.i put on his profile info from his original profile and added a pic.. and i told him about it, he said to remove all personal info from his profile.. and i said "its ok forget about opening a profile for me then"..
and i was very hurt.. didnt talk with him properly for the whole day..and i didnt give him the reason for it.. the next day i spoke he was angry with me... anyway it went on like that and i ended up telling him "i hate you, why are you always getting angry with me, i didnt even complain about that profile but i was hurt about it".. and now he's angry with me for 2 whiole days.. i called him many times but he sounds distant.. i begged him to forgive me but he says i have crossed his limits..
i love him to death.. and i didnt mean what i said when i said i hated him :'(... i told him that, sent him an -card.. cried, begged himk back... i know he got very hurt over what i said.. bcos he has never done like this to me before. what shuld i do... i miss him so much.. how do i win him back again.. please help me out
please dont give me lectures on what i dd was wrong.. i accept that.. and i deeply regret it and i will never do anything like that again.. but what should i do now to get him back???
I dont think you have done anything wrong .. if anything i think he is in the wrong for wanting to change his profile in the first place. I understand about his cousin but he should have just delt with it, even if that ment his cousin lecturing him.
As to getting him back, i think if u keep begging him it will only annoy him and not really make him want to talk to you. Whereas if you leave him for a while and let him calm down, then he should start speaking to you again because he will miss talking to you. Hope you two sort everything out x
I can have the hugest crush on a guy, the first date I will still have a huge crush on him, and then on the second all my feelings for him just evaporate. This happens every time, and I found the most amazing guy who really likes me and I DID really like him, the first date was perfect, we talked online, it was still perfect, I saw him, all my feelings evaporated.
Why does this happen? I hate myself for it, and I've only been with my boyfriend 4 days, and yesterday all my passionate feelings went away and I feel absolutely nothing for him except friendship kind of love.
I mean we had the most perfect amazing date, the most amazing conversations, and I really though wow this is real, I think we will be together for quite some time if not the rest of our lives.
I told him how I felt and he is willing to try and work things out if I'm willing, which I definitely am because he is such an amazing guy.
This has nothing to do with what he said or did, its all because of my own issues.
Please can anyone help me regain my feelings for this guy and make this relationship work.
This could be because you always want hat you havn't got, so when you have got them, your feelings just go. You probably like the excitement of a new guy and trying to get them. If i were you i would stick with this amazing guy .. even though you feel like this just stay with him because maybe evetually you will start to love him. I use to be similar to you, after about a week of being with somebody i would end the relationship because i was kinda bored and didnt want to be with them .. but with my latest botfriend i stuck with it and for the first time in my life i have stayed with somebody for longer than a week. I have been with him for 10 month now and i am still very much in love with him. So stick with this guy because you will never know unless you give it a chance ;) x
hi,well let me say my story sorry if its too long.
ok i have a boyfriend and we been together for a yr already.now he is a freshman in high school and im a sophomore,in the morning when he sees me he dont even go up to me, not to even say hi or anything,and then in lunch he dont even go to my table to sit with me,he just stays wit his friends,im seriously confused.sometimes i think he is just embarresed to be with meh im soo sad,and when we walk together in the hallaways he dont even hug meh or kisses me.today i felt like braking up with him but i dont knoww i love him to much and im scared to loose him because he is my fisrt boyfriend nd the man i really love.
This behavior doesn't mean he is embarresed to be with you. It probably isn't you he is embarresed about, it might just be the whole talking to you around his friends etc. Or maybe he is embarresed to just come up to you when you are with your friends. You have been with him for a year so it is unlikely that he is embarresed of you. If i were you i would talk to him about how you feel then maybe he can explain his behaviour. =] x
17/f, Boyfriend 20/m
So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 5 months today. The other day I asked my boyfriend if he thought he was in love and he said yes and asked the question back. and all I could manage to say was I don't know first. and I went on to say that I loved him but wasn't IN love with him. I know that's bad admitting that to him and it's already been over a year. He understood.. i think. I went on to saying that If I was in love with him, I'd know. I would have told him. That, that's one of the reasons why I haven't given him my virginity and the other was that he's not a virgin like me and it wouldn't be AS special as it would be if he was and also that I wasn't ready and what not... but back to the point. I still managed to admit to myself that I still had SOMETHING for my ex to my mom. I know it's awful and I hate myself for it but it's known. I'd think my boyfriend would know b/c I don't think you really get rid of those feelings. NOT that I would ever go out with him and/or could develop more than ehhh idk. BUTT the thing is.. I feel like I'm being unfair to him, being in the relationship.. without actually being in love and I don't know.. maybe even losing interest. I love this guy. I really do.. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to lose a great guy like this. I'd feel like I'd be losing alot and I wouldn't have a good enough reason to just.. leave. and on top of it.. he lives right across the street from my highschool.. but he has work and college. Any ideas on what to do.
Have these feelings about your ex only just started ? Because you have been with your parter for over a year and you love him so i wouldn't say you are being unfair to him. I think maybe if the feelings for your ex have only just started, then because you are maybe loosing interest with your current partner your are looking for a reason to leave so these feelings for your ex have started to come back.
If the feelings have always been there however, then maybe you should think about who it is you really want to be with. If you are 100% sure you want your current bf, then ignor the feelings because like you said maybe you never really get rid of them feelings; you have to carry on with your life and forget about the feelings.
If you think you want somebody else, then you know what to so.
before me and my boyfriend started going out he asked my friend out and she said no. then he asked me out and i said yes. then my friend told me that she saw on of my boyfriends friends and he said that my boyfriend liked her. my friend told me this then said i'm pretty sure he likes you more. i think he does but for some reason i'm scared. he always tells me he loves me but i dont know if its true. i'm scared of losing him. ANY ADVISE????
Personally i think you should talk to him about it. Don't accuse him or anything just tell him what you think and see what he says. You need to communicate with your partner unless your relationship will never work .. trust me. x
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ok, i like this guy. me and him became really close last year as friends. but he liked me i liked him. now this year i was lucky enough to have him in my homeroom. i was super excited! but the first day of school i didnt talk to him but today (2nd day of school) he talked to me beacuse yesterday our lockers wouldnt open and he came up to me and asked me if our lockers were ready yet. but like last year when he would talk to me i kinda felt like he liked me and he was flirting but when i talked to him today he seemed to talk to me like i was his best friend. I think the prob is that he thinks i dont like him and i think the same thing, im thinkin he doesnt like me. so idk what to do. help
If i were you i would just flirt with him a little .. not too much but just enough for him to catch on. Then maybe if he realises that you do like him he will start flirting back like last year. If he still treats you like a best friend then you will know he only see's you as a friend. =] x x
lately, my urine is darker and has a strong odor. i've had infections before but this time.. i'm not sure what it could be. there's no change in discharge, no burning when i pee, no cramps or sharp pains. Just orange tinted urine and a strong odor. It's not a bad odor, like a yeast infection, just.. has a really, really strong smell. could this be related to dehydration?
Yes it is most likely that you are not drinking enough water. If i were you i would try and drink more water in my diet, then if it still did not change i would go to your doctor :) x x
my mom is going to get a new computer soon, and i use itunes. if i download it on my new computer, and plug my ipod into it, will it erase all the stuff of my ipod, or will it save it to my library?
It will erase everything off your ipod :\ x x
ok so i might sound like a complete loser.. but me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year, and at the begining it was great, i thought i was so in love with him and i just always wanted to be with him. but as it went on i started excluding my friends and eventually my friends just stopped talking to me because i would always turn them down when they wanted to hang out and ect. for my boyfriend. and now my boyfriend is pretty much the only friend i have. for the past few months ive realized that i dont really even like him much anymore. hes become a total jerk to me, but the only reason i think ive stayed with him is beacuse i think i love him because hes the only one there for me.. idk what to do?
If i was you i would try to start talking to your friend again. Do this whilst your still with your bf, so they dont think your only doing it because you have no-one else. Spend more time with them, and still spend some time with your boyfriend aswell. Eventually, when you have your friends back, you can leave your boyfriend is he is being a jerk with you. Once you have your friends back you will probably realise that you really dont like him that much anyway :) Good Luck x x
So, I dated a boy for over a year. He was really great, but I just had to leave, I wasn't feeling the relationship anymore.
It's been two months, and he just messaged me, a very long message, saying if I'd like to go out on a date ,it was long and very sweet but he also sounded really sad.
The thing is i don't want a relationship with him again, and I have another boyfriend.
I just don't want to hurt him, can i tell him we can have dinner as friends? I don't want to get his hopes us. I feel very awkward saying we can't get back together.
i think you should tell him that you would like to have dinner as FRIENDS. Make sure you make it very clear to him that you only want to be friends so he doesn't get his hopes up. Let him know that you have anoter boyfriend so again he knows that dinner would be strictly friendly. Say to him that if he doesn't want dinner as friends then you understand. But he has to understand you dont want another relationship with him :) Good Luck x x
i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years i recently asked him how many girls he has been with since we were together he said one he asked and i said none i didnt know he was talking about when we were broke up so i told him yeaterday i have been with one other man but him but we were broke up at the time and he said that he was with one other women when we were broke up bt now he is furious with me and said i lied to him i told him i didnt lie to him he asked while we were together not broke p but now he refuses to talk to me what did i do that was so wrong should i have just not told him ???
You have done nothing wrong because like you said he asked for when you were together. And yes it is a good job you told him because now everything is out and it can not cause trouble later on in your relationship :) I would just give him a few days too cool down and he'l soon come round and realise he is being stupid. Good Luck x x
ok so my bff and a guy had a major thing at the begining of last school year. It kind or died away when she moved on. A few months later i started hanging out with that guy. We got close, she really doesnt like it when we hang out im not sure if she is jealous even though she is the one who left him or what but she doesnt like it. anyways ok so me and this guy were hangin out one night and i lost my virginty to him. this was like 2 months ago and i still havent told my friend. she knows everything about me but this ahh should i tell her and take the chance of her being really mad or just live by the "what she doesnt know wont hurt her" standard???!?!!?
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I think you should tell her. Its unfair on her for you to keep it from her.. even though she was the one who finsihed with the guy in the first place. She may be upset at first, but imaine if she found out of someone else later on ? Plus, if she is a really close friend then eventually she should get over it :) Good Luck x x
ok so to start i go to a house school its were you get home schooled at some one eles house im 13 another girl is 13 my sister is 12 and the boy is 12 also and one day at school the boy was talking about his ex girlfriend and one thing he said was his girlfriend was "loded" do you think that its ok for a 12 year old to say stuff like that because im worried about him do you think i should stop freakin because of a stupid thing he said thanks
I dont think you should worry about it. He was probably just bragging anyway :) x
Ok so normally, i would be the person to solve everyone elses love problems. but now i have my own problem and im stumped. So theres this guy that i am still in love with. We dated for 3 months and we just recently broke up. We have decided not to get back together because he is currently seeing someone else. His ex whom he dated before me. I found out when we were dating that he called her all the time and told her he still had feelings for her and one time i read a text message he sent her that said goodnight baby. So i told him i couldnt do it anymore because i was tired of feeling like i was always coming in second place to him when i always made him my priority. I felt like it just wasnt fair to myself. So he is dating her now. But he keeps telling me that he still likes me alot and knows that one day we will be together again but right now he just needs to be with her because he cant hurt her again and he just needs to do that for now. But i still just cant let go. so my question is do I just walk away and move on? or do i wait for him like i want to? We both know that were going to get back together again but what am i suppose to do while he is with her???
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Ok i wouldn't just sit around and wait for him..that just shows him that he can choose whoever and you will always wait for him. I think you have to carry on with your life whilst he is with the other girl. Maybe meet someone else for now :) Then if one day he turns round to you and tells you he wants to be back with you then you can get back with him :) Who knows maybe you might not want to anyway :D Good Luck x x
13/f
my boyfriend has been talking about having sex in the summer, but....thats a BIG step, and i dont know if i should or not. ive been trying to figure out what the worse that can happen is...and if we use a condom...i dont think i could get pregnant.
If you are not 100% sure then do not do it ! You must only have sex when you are completly ready. You are still only young so do not rush into anything. x x