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sex with boyfriend?
13/f
my boyfriend has been talking about having sex in the summer, but....thats a BIG step, and i dont know if i should or not. ive been trying to figure out what the worse that can happen is...and if we use a condom...i dont think i could get pregnant.
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Okay here's my advice to you. Condoms are not 100% effective. If the condom breaks your out of luck.
I'm 13 as well so I understand what you're going through. I've been through the whole 'my boyfriend wants to sleep with me' ordeal. I said no by the way.
You really are to young. I am waiting for marriage but everyone's different. if youdon't want to wait til then, wait til you are way older.
Sex complicates things and makes emotions way more intense.
Once your virginity is gone you can never get it back.
So if I were you I wouldn't have sex just yet.
Hoped I helped hunnie!
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i really think you are too young, please listen to us and dont do it. if you and your bf are still together a few years down the road, then fine. there is no rush at all..save your virginity because once its gone, there is no getting it back. in your quesstion you also said you are trying to figure out the worst that can happen...pregnancy! condoms are 97% effective, but if they break, they obviously arent effective at all. please wait, and if you are still together a few years later, then consider sex
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Honestly, your not ready. You are young, but so am I and I understand how it feels to want to have sex with your boyfriend at a young age. I've been there. And if your boyfriend is planning ahead, and telling you in the summer, its not a good idea. You should have sex expectantly. It should happen when the time is right. Not when you plan it. I would really think about it. Because I don't think your ready for it.
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let me tell you what is completely wrong with this idea.
YOU ONLY 13.YOU TOO YOUNG
YOU CAN STILL GET PREGNANT EVEN WITH A CONDOM.
YOU COULD GET STYOUR BOYFRIEND TOLD YOU ABOUT HAVING SEX,YOU NEED TO BOTH DISCUSS SUCH A TOPIC.
pls girl im telling you dont be so naive.this guy just wants sex,not for love its more because of lust.you could say that he just wants to please his sexual pleasures.AT 13 YOU SHOUDNT EVEN BE THINKING ABOUT SEX.
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Everyone has it in their mind that they "won't be the ones to get pregnant", yet we all know that's not the truth. So many people do end up getting pregnant and a good share of those pregnancies were not planned.
Having sex should be a mutual agreement.
Your boyfriend only represents half the relationship and therefore, it is not just his role to decide to have sex.
Also, you are much too young to even do so with him.
You are going to be consumed by regrets if you give in, so honestly...
If he's worth your while, he will respect your choice to hold off on sex.
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You aren't ready to have sex if you 'don't think you could get pregnant'.
Pregancy is ALWAYS a risk with sex. Always. Even a condom and birth control and a little anti-fertility voodoo doll cannot make pregacy impossible. You need to be mature enough to accept and awknowlegdge that risk.
And of course STDS... but here is the big risk people never talk about: A broken heart.
Trusting someone is always a risk. Being in a relationship is always a risk. Being in a sexual relationship is the biggest risk of all to your emotions and self esteem.
I am not someone who think sexs should be saved exclusively for marriage, but it should be saved for two people who can respect one another completely, take responsbilty for thier actions and be completely truthful with one another.
Anything less is asking for wounds that will haunt you for the rest of your life. Don't step into this lightly or with delusions and don't step into with someone who will walk away in six months. Most teens aren't ready for sex because they don't have the maturity and experience to take care of thier patner in a respectful and honest way. Watch out for yourself.
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NO NO NO.
1. You're 13.
2. You're OBVIOUSLY not ready.
If you WERE ready, you would not be asking if you should or not over the internet.
What's the worst that can happen? Perhaps you should learn about sex before you do it, too. STI's/STD's are no joke. and if you do use a condom, you can still get pregnant. It can break.. and if it's not on correctly, can slip off.
There's no rush to jump into something so "BIG"
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If you are not 100% sure then do not do it ! You must only have sex when you are completly ready. You are still only young so do not rush into anything. x x
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