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my life is a huge mess
i posted a bulletin about my friends a while ago about how theyre never there for me. well yesterday that got put to the test because my boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me. he was my first kiss. first boyfriend (that was over a week long). etc. i cried all yesterday. i cried todayy. my friends had the nerve to talk about me behind my back to each other about how i have to get over it and its just a boy and how its annoying that i talk about him. its been one day. im questioning if theyre really my friends. i dont want to switch friend groups. if you were me, you would know how stuck i am in this group. please dont question that. well my question is how do i deal with a broken heart without the support of my "best friends"? i mean, i dont even know how to deal with it with best friends! this makes everything worse. please help meeee
thanks;;
hopelessss
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Sweetheart, I've been where you are. Even as an adult, my friends always seem to have better friends to hang around for some reason or another. Now, I have learned that it is strictly up to me to be here for myself. You know what I have found out? I am the best listener I know, sounds crazy talking to myself, right? However, at least this is the only way for me to help myself through it all. I've come to realize that for the most part, if my friends can't be here for me, the same holds true on the flip side. I don't make time for them now. I give them a dose of their own medicine. My best friend for 13 years now, decided to shut me out of her life for no reason. I went through a terrible mess with my husband and she really wasn't there for me. Then, a few months later, she had the same problem. She'd call and I'd listen, but I wasn't there for her like I used to be. I know, I haven't told you how to deal with your situation in a sense that may have been in the direction you were seeking, but I have given you a piece of advice that you will take with you for the rest of your life, and that is, you are your own best friend, you and you alone know how to take care of yourself. Good Luck!! If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
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You are most welcome!! Thank you for your kind words. If you ever need anything or advice again, I'm here for you!!
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Evaluate the situation; decide whether you have done your share to make the relationship fair; if you've done all you could do...then you need to realize that he may have not been ready for such commitment or something along those lines. Regardless of the reasoning; it's not your fault! Don't get down on yourself. And as for your friends: I do not agree with their actions. You're in need of some comforting and they aren't willing to provide you with that. It is a friend's duty to be supportive and offer guidance.These friends do you no justice. Hence, be on the lookout for the GENUINE kind.
Good luck and keep that chin up!
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