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What to do?
17/f, Boyfriend 20/m
So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 5 months today. The other day I asked my boyfriend if he thought he was in love and he said yes and asked the question back. and all I could manage to say was I don't know first. and I went on to say that I loved him but wasn't IN love with him. I know that's bad admitting that to him and it's already been over a year. He understood.. i think. I went on to saying that If I was in love with him, I'd know. I would have told him. That, that's one of the reasons why I haven't given him my virginity and the other was that he's not a virgin like me and it wouldn't be AS special as it would be if he was and also that I wasn't ready and what not... but back to the point. I still managed to admit to myself that I still had SOMETHING for my ex to my mom. I know it's awful and I hate myself for it but it's known. I'd think my boyfriend would know b/c I don't think you really get rid of those feelings. NOT that I would ever go out with him and/or could develop more than ehhh idk. BUTT the thing is.. I feel like I'm being unfair to him, being in the relationship.. without actually being in love and I don't know.. maybe even losing interest. I love this guy. I really do.. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to lose a great guy like this. I'd feel like I'd be losing alot and I wouldn't have a good enough reason to just.. leave. and on top of it.. he lives right across the street from my highschool.. but he has work and college. Any ideas on what to do.
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Have these feelings about your ex only just started ? Because you have been with your parter for over a year and you love him so i wouldn't say you are being unfair to him. I think maybe if the feelings for your ex have only just started, then because you are maybe loosing interest with your current partner your are looking for a reason to leave so these feelings for your ex have started to come back.
If the feelings have always been there however, then maybe you should think about who it is you really want to be with. If you are 100% sure you want your current bf, then ignor the feelings because like you said maybe you never really get rid of them feelings; you have to carry on with your life and forget about the feelings.
If you think you want somebody else, then you know what to so.
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