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yikess hellpp
ok so my bff and a guy had a major thing at the begining of last school year. It kind or died away when she moved on. A few months later i started hanging out with that guy. We got close, she really doesnt like it when we hang out im not sure if she is jealous even though she is the one who left him or what but she doesnt like it. anyways ok so me and this guy were hangin out one night and i lost my virginty to him. this was like 2 months ago and i still havent told my friend. she knows everything about me but this ahh should i tell her and take the chance of her being really mad or just live by the "what she doesnt know wont hurt her" standard???!?!!?
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I've noticed that the best way to deal with situations like this is to be honest. I think that if the topic of hanging out with him comes up, that you should let her know what happened. Tell her that you are telling her because you would rather her hear it from you and not somebody else. Of course, if your friend had something to tell you, I'm sure you would want her telling you and confronting you about it instead of hearing it from somebody else or a comment about it on the internet. Waiting for that to happen might make things seem (as is the case most of the time) that you were hiding things from her.
If you really are best friends, then just tell her. You have nothing to lose with telling her. If she doesn't want to be your friend because of what happened and doesn't want to accept you either, then the same thing would probably have happened if she found out by somebody else...only waiting for that to happen would probably turn out to be a nastier situation. So don't be afraid to tell her, but this seems like something that you should be the one to tell her and not wait to hear it from someone else. Best friends shouldn't have to keep things from each other to 'not hurt their feelings', because thats why you are best friends - you know you will eventually get over that stuff. Hope that helped and good luck.
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in a way i think you should tell her but then again i dont think you should tell her. eaither way your friend will be hurt. if it was me i would tell her that i really like him but not about the sex part just yet. give her time to get her mind right about the whole yall dating thing. i think if you value your friendship tell her at the right time. dont take to long she might find out by someone else. remember guys talk.
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honestly i dont think you should tell her.
its over now and what good is telling her goin to do? if you and that boy still had a thing then i would tell her but if not yea what she dont know wont hurt her. its not like what you did was wrong so if you feel guilty or that you should tell her just do that but if it was me id just let it blow over
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Hey, my name is Em231 and I think I can help you
You are friends right? If you are you have to be honest because friends don't keep things from people even if it might hurt there feelings ! If she was
a great friend she will understand!
I hope I helped!
Em231:)
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well. The best thing to do is to tell her. But to fix it all maybe if you really like this guy, just go up to her and say "im so sorry, i really liked this guy but...its obvious just to say I had sex with him, Im so Sorry if you're mad but I just liked him so much. It may have been a mistake may not have, but I've got to move on and just tell you sorry." Now if you know shes gonna get mad at you just turn around and walk away after you say that, If shes still mad at you after like lets say a week just try and talk to her.
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I think you should tell her. Its unfair on her for you to keep it from her.. even though she was the one who finsihed with the guy in the first place. She may be upset at first, but imaine if she found out of someone else later on ? Plus, if she is a really close friend then eventually she should get over it :) Good Luck x x
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