Question Posted Thursday September 11 2008, 12:33 am
I can have the hugest crush on a guy, the first date I will still have a huge crush on him, and then on the second all my feelings for him just evaporate. This happens every time, and I found the most amazing guy who really likes me and I DID really like him, the first date was perfect, we talked online, it was still perfect, I saw him, all my feelings evaporated.
Why does this happen? I hate myself for it, and I've only been with my boyfriend 4 days, and yesterday all my passionate feelings went away and I feel absolutely nothing for him except friendship kind of love.
I mean we had the most perfect amazing date, the most amazing conversations, and I really though wow this is real, I think we will be together for quite some time if not the rest of our lives.
I told him how I felt and he is willing to try and work things out if I'm willing, which I definitely am because he is such an amazing guy.
This has nothing to do with what he said or did, its all because of my own issues.
Please can anyone help me regain my feelings for this guy and make this relationship work.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? jobrolover3725 answered Monday September 15 2008, 6:29 am: i know exactly how you feel. this always always always happens to me. just please think about this before you do anything drastic because i just lost a guy that was really important to me because i act in these kinds of ways. ask yourself this: would you miss him if you guys weren't together? that's what i decided i need to start doing because i don't realize what i have until it's gone.
NikkiM answered Thursday September 11 2008, 2:19 pm: This could be because you always want hat you havn't got, so when you have got them, your feelings just go. You probably like the excitement of a new guy and trying to get them. If i were you i would stick with this amazing guy .. even though you feel like this just stay with him because maybe evetually you will start to love him. I use to be similar to you, after about a week of being with somebody i would end the relationship because i was kinda bored and didnt want to be with them .. but with my latest botfriend i stuck with it and for the first time in my life i have stayed with somebody for longer than a week. I have been with him for 10 month now and i am still very much in love with him. So stick with this guy because you will never know unless you give it a chance ;) x [ NikkiM's advice column | Ask NikkiM A Question ]
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