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So this question has been weighing on me ever since my mom and I talked last week. She happened to mention how bogus it was that when we were kids in public school, she claims we were "brain-washed" (rolling my eyes) by the system to partake in recycling programs, and yet when she gave in and signed our household up, she witnessed firsthand the crew take our blue bin and throw the sorted contents in with the rest of the trash and drive away. It got me thinking, I just moved and signed up for recycling, however you don't need to sort. I know we have technology that might do that for us, but it makes me suspicious coupled with the fact that theres only 1 garbage truck. What do they do with the bins contents, like where else do they put them other than with the rest of the trash??
If it's fake, fine but are there REAL programs I can count on? I hateeee waste, but I don't want to also WASTE my time if it turns out recycling is bogus. I will do anything- I'll drive out of my way if that means my stuff can TRULY be RECYCLED. Are there resources I can use? A trusty company? This is driving me bonkers so any advice is appreciated, thank you!!

IK can't truly answer your question for I don't know where you live or how the Township or County is Contracted to have the Recycling collected. What I do know is as follows in the following two examples.

1) In the County next to the one I live in the do not have a landfill for trash. All trash is first picked up and taken to a transfer station where it is sorted. Trash that can not be recycled is separated or burned is separated and put in bins to be trucked to another state landfill. What is recyclable is separated and trucked to a recycling center. The rest is incinerated.

Because of how this County does its recycling are done both together and on separate recycling pick ups. In this manner they have 100% recycling participation.

2) Where I live when recycling started they asked us to separate the recycling. No the same truck that picks up are trash comes back on a different day and picks up only recycling. Since that truck is your standard garbage truck we no longer need to separate our recycling.

I have in my job, as a Rep for a major Hand Tool Manufacture, visited with the maintenance people at many different recycling centers. From what I have seen there is no one tried and true method for a recycling program. Unless the county or township operates its own program then they out a bid out for a contractor to provide a program. As in all government contracts the lowest bid is selected.

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Hello adviceman49,

thank you for answering to,' what does he mean if he asks do I have a chance with you' question but unfortunately I don't understand your answer as it seemed like you were answering about period and pregnancy. therefore, could I kindly ask you to reply the question one more time, please?? looking forward to read it. thanks a lot.

Sorry about that It happens occasionally when my eyes are irritated, damn hay fever.

I believe you pretty much answered your own question. "Do I have a chance with you." It is a question I might ask or maybe back in the day when I was your age I might have asked of girl "Friend" I might have wanted to date to see if a relationship could be had.

The reason for the question in my mind is once you go down the road from friendship to relationship; if the relationship doesn't workout you lose a friend and a girlfriend. Hence the question "Do I have a chance with you." Meaning are you interested in me in the same manner I am interested in you.

I lost two very good friends because I once dated a girl that became his wife. In high school we were all very good friends. I date his now wife he was dating another friends sister and so Forth. On Friday or Saturday night we would find a parents house where one of our parents were out for the evening and split up into different bedrooms.

It was nothing serious with her for two reasons the most serious on was I was not ready for college and would be going into the Air Force after High School. The Vietnam war was raging at the time and I did not want anyone sitting at home waiting for me.

While I was away they started dating and two years later when I was in the Philippians' I received an invitation to their wedding. Of course it was not possible to get there as it cost a fortune to fly to the east coast.

When I returned home I was invited to visit with them. The friendship the three of had was no longer there. Partly because of the different experiences we all had in the four years we were separated. Mainly I believe our friendship was ruined because a guy who was my best friend for years believes I slept with his wife before him.

The best way to ruin a friend ship is to loan them money or to have sex with them. My advice her is if you do have feeling look at long term rather than short term. Is he someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with. If the answer is not then your answer to his question is no.

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Hi, I had sex with my bf on 25 of last month and my period date is 13 itz been 20 days I dint get my periods. I always get my periods on time probably this is the first tym it got so delayed. We had used condom and had done a water checking and it dint leak so still is it possible dat I may be pregnant plez help?

The short answer to your question is, Anything is possible. The probability that you are is pregnant is not likely.

There are many reasons other than pregnancy as to why a period is late or missed other then pregnancy. If your a teenager and living at home then you fall in to the biggest category for missed periods that being; anxiety and stress.

Stress causes more late or missed periods then actual pregnancy. as a female your body is more finally tuned ten a males and it doesn't take much to through it out of balance. Stress is the biggest factor, being ill is another factor and if you take any medications, prescribed or OTC, these can throw your system for a loop and you miss a period. This will happen form time to time until you hit menopause.

If you want to know for certain, and relieve the stress of not knowing. Then I recommend taking a home pregnancy test.


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what does he mean when he asks,'do I have a chance with you?' I like him but not entirely sure about him. I'm just thinking he must have figured it out that I like him so just trying question me. I can't dare to say anything because we're good mates and taken. I do get the feelings that he likes me in some level because he won't chat and joke with other girls the way he does with me. I think he knows I'm into him or maybe is he just making totally sure that I like him so he's asking if he has a chance with me because he fancies me too? or what could it be? I don't get it. thank you for the answers

The short answer to your question is, Anything is possible. The probability that you are is pregnant is not likely.

There are many reasons other than pregnancy as to why a period is late or missed other then pregnancy. If your a teenager and living at home then you fall in to the biggest category for missed periods that being; anxiety and stress.

Stress causes more late or missed periods then actual pregnancy. as a female your body is more finally tuned ten a males and it doesn't take much to through it out of balance. Stress is the biggest factor, being ill is another factor and if you take any medications, prescribed or OTC, these can throw your system for a loop and you miss a period. This will happen form time to time until you hit menopause.

If you want to know for certain, and relieve the stress of not knowing. Then I recommend taking a home pregnancy test.

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I don't know what to put for the major/degree program. I can't leave it blank.

Nursing would be the area of degree.

You are aware that a CNA is a "Clinical Nurse Associate" and not a true nurse. In general this course is 4 weeks long and you become a licensed CNA. The CNA's do all the drudge work the nurse don't want to do such as cleaning bead pans bathing patients and bringing them their meals.

Actual nursing is done by registered nurses which is a degreed course taught at a four year institution.

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Does where a man cums mean anything?

I'll go one step further with Dragonflymagic's answer since you were not descriptive in you question.

If you mean, "Does where a man cums mean anything" say while having sex then the answer would be in my mind yes.

Only vaginal intercourse can result in pregnancy. Oral or anal sex cannot make a women pregnant. When having any type of vaginal or anal intercourse the male should always wear a Condon. A condom will during vaginal sex protect against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus and works well in preventing pregnancy.

The anus has many germs and anyone engaging in anal intercourse the male should wear a condom to protect himself from those germs then after wash himself with hot soapy water around his entire groin area. Never go from anus to vagina without first washing.

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Hi F/18
Me and my bf had intercourse. We used a condom and I had a low chance of getting pregnant( had sex 2 days after my period ended). I took a pregnancy test 2days before the day I actually should (2 weeks after sex) and it was negative. My period is due in a week but I have really bad cramping in my lower abdomen. I have a waterish discharge and it's colourless. I feel a bit queezy but not as much. No change in my boobs. What should I do?

Your not pregnant. For 85% of women they have a safe window of 7 days after their period and 7 days before their period where they can have sex and not get pregnant. The 14 days in between is the span of time during which you ovulate. It is during a 3 day window on either side of ovulation that a women can get pregnant is she has unprotected sex or is not on some type of birth control.

The other things you write about are all completely normal for a woman your age. For one thing you may still be experiencing things related to puberty as for many puberty can last into their early twenty's. Your body may still be getting use to new hormones being released.

This present experience has nothing to do with the fact that you had sex. Not all women experience bad cramping with every period or watery discharge.

Now none of us are doctor's we right or answer from personal experience or education. Therefore it is my advice if you have any concerns a phone call to your GYN is appropriate to put your mind at ease. Your GYN knows you best and if needed an appointment will be made for an examination though I feel just speaking with your doctor will ease you mind.

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Right, I'm sorry but it's little too long. known him for a year but we both have partners yet we do tease and joke. we just get along. he's got good sense of humour. very nice guy. basically, we can talk about any topics but not sex until he started to ask very recently, when I'm rushing with the project he asked like (jokey but not in a gross way) are you this wild in bed oh I like wild, I said I think I'm ok, told him come on, this is embarrassing chatting about the sex with you he said, we both are adults and we're friends so it shouldn't matter. I said ok but I'm little embarrassed, he said I'm sorry, won't bother you talking about sex then, that moment I couldn't resist and I ended up saying I love sex as I do and don't mind anytime, when I said don't mind anytime he was like alright ok (you're like me then he wanted to say probably coz I could tell by his face expression). asked me about the position and how'd I like it, I said I'm normal, asked him back the same question he said hard, we just laughed afterwards. I think we like each other I think he knows I like him because this guy at college was hitting on me one time and I said no chance with that guy and he asked me do I have a chance with you (few times), I asked back what do you think? he said don't know yeah if we both are single, yes you have a chance with me and he smiled. So, do male friends talks like this with their female friends or just messing about? or is he starting to have a feelings for me or nothing else? could I have an honest feedback please? sorry for the long details. thank you ever so much

Some guys have girl "friends" that may be like big sister that they can talk about anything with. The girl that lived next door to me was like that and still is some forty odd years later. While I did have a sibling sister she was much younger than me and some things need a sister closer to my age that's where the girl next door came in. I was the brother she never had.
To answer your question yes she was and is a beautiful women and I would have loved to get to know her in the biblical sense as our parents would have called it. IT just wasn't to be we were to close to see each other in any other way but brother and sister.

In your case I believe he has developed feelings for you and is trying to feel you out to see if those felling may be mutual. Asking questions about sex may be the wrong way to go about it though. But he may be timid in the fact that while he would like to have a relation ship with you he is fearful of loosing you as a friend.

You say he is a good guy that you get along but that you both have partners. May I make a suggestion. Many great long lasting marriages start off from great friendships. If you can see him as something other than a great friend then sit down and compare your partner to him. Do a comparison on paper. on the left side put down everything you are looking for in a husband/companion. then draw a line down the center of the page and put there names a top each side of the divider and check of each attribute you want against each of them and see who stacks up the best.

If he comes out ahead of your present partner then tell him you could see yourself in a relationship with him but he needs to do the same comparison you did. Why because you should not break up your present relationships until you are sure you two are compatible. Once he has done his then you compare the to comparisons and see how compatible you actually are.

Being good sexual partners is not a way to build a relationship. In fact you are building on quicksand if that is all you have in common with a partner; for at some point you wake up and need to talk with one another and find you have nothing in common. That is when the relationship and or marriage heads down hill.

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I was fingered by my bf after 5 min I got heavy bleeding and pain ...it is continuously bleeding for 2 hour..why

I assume you are a virgin. If so there is a high probability that while fingering you he tore your Hyman. When he did this it is the same as if you cut yourself as the Hyman is a piece of tissue that partially blocks the opening of your vagina. When a penis, or a finger penetrates the Hyman it literally tears it from the sides of your vagina and you have pain and bleeding.

There is noting wrong with you and you are still a virgin by todays standards. Today a girl is a virgin as long as a boys penis has not penetrated, entered, her vagina. The old standard of a girl having to stain the bed sheet on her wedding night when her husband penetrates her for the first time and ruptures her Hyman is long gone.

There are many reasons for this, first are the use of Tampons. Tampon usage will most likely rupture the Hyman. Then there are many different activities fro Ballet to Soccer that participation in can cause the Hyman to separate.

Women/girls are just far more active today then when your great grandmother was your age. Even if you are still a virgin on on your wedding night your husband should not expect you to stain the bed sheet for if you were an athletic or active teenager you probably lost your Hyman long before you met him.

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y is it dat someone feel pain after having sex for the frist time also is a must blood must come out during sex also will someone get pergnantduring sex without using condom

Lets start with the last part first. Condoms serve two purposes. First; they offer a great means of protection against pregnancy when worn correctly, Because the male must know how to wear a condom they are statistically 85% affective in preventing pregnancy. Second; a condom prevents the transmission of many of the SYDS and the HIV/Aids virus.

A gentleman will always wear a condom when having sex until he and his partner are in a long term relationship and they both have been tested for SATDS and the HIV/AIDS virus and his partner is on some other form of birth control.

These days the deck is stacked against you to have sex with someone and not insist on condoms. There is always the possibility of an STD and if you are the male. That few minutes of fun can lead to q8 years of responsibility for the child that results of the few minutes of fun.

As to pain for the first intercourse for a women and bleeding. Some women feel pain some don't. As for bleeding a women whose Hymen is intact will bleed when the penis ruptures it. If her Hyman is not intact it does not mean she is not a virgin. Todays women are very active in sports and other activities that could dislodge the Hyman. "The use of Tampons can also dislodge the Hyman.

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How do you cum

The answer given by Dragonflymagic is the best answer we can give you at this time without knowing your age and sex. Why is your age and sex important.

There are a couple of reasons to ask for this information. You did not give your age so we have no idea of why your asking for this information. If you are a young teen or preteen there is different information we can give you to help start you on the discovery of sex. But is you are in your late teens and having trouble coming, then there is much different information we need to supply. All of this is also based on your sex.

When you write to us only those of us who answer the questions can see the questions and the answers. No one can see you personal information but the webmaster. You can also write to any adviser in private then only that adviser and the webmaster can see the question.

If you would lie a more definitive answer to your question you can write a private message to either me or Dragonflymagic. Please be honest about your age and the reason for your question.

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My boyfriends mom recently lost a close relative and i know she is very upset about it and my boyfriend is out of state at the moment. ive met her a few times and ive talked to her a handful of times, me and her son are new in a relationship. ive texted her every other day for the last few weeks just to talk and see how she is doing and stuff. well i found out yesterday that she lost someone and that its been rough. i was thinking about showing up to surprise her at her house with a movie and snacks, since she loves watching movies to see if she wants some company. a friend mentioned i should take sympathy flowers and the movie and snacks and just say that i was stopping by to give her the flowers and i had a movie and snacks if she wanted some company. i want to show an effort in trying to get to know her or hangout with her cause i know if i had a son id want his girfriend and i to get along, i know my boyfriend would be super happy if i got along with his mom, and i know i would be happy if someone did that for me. my question is should i do the flowers movie and snacks? just the movie and snacks? just the flowers? or should i do something just a little different. im open to suggestions and ideas. thankyou so much in advance!

IF you can afford the movie, snack and flowers then do all three. Getting to know his mum is one thing. Being there for her while her son isn't is another. If her son is going to be away for any time longer you might invite her to do other things with you. Such as going shopping together or having lunch or dinner together.

Do you cook? If you do maybe you could bring the ingredients for a meal and cook it at her house. I know when I'm out of town my wife will subsist on soup because she won't cook for herself. If you cook a meal for her at her home cook something large enough that there are left overs she can eat later.

These are some of the things you can do to get to know her and to let her know you care for her and her son.

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I’m 19 years old and when I turned 18, I decided I wanted to move in with my friend and her brother, who are very nice and reliable and I’ve known them for years. Even though I’d be moving, it’d only be an hour or two away from my family’s house. My family is a different story. I have been fighting to move for a year and a half and I just keep continuing to get screamed at by all members of my family. I have money to pay for things, as I saved up a lot, and I tried to get a job but when I wasn’t hired I was continually told by my mom that it was my fault I didn’t get the job and I can’t do anything right. I can’t drive, but my friend’s family said they’re willing to teach me (My own family won’t let me because they don’t want to risk me wrecking something) I very calmly explained that I’d like to move to my mother and my plan for everything, and she either screams or gives me the silent treatment, saying “You’re not moving and you’re stupid if you think you’re an adult.” I told her that by law, I am an adult and she just took away everything so all I could do was eat or sleep. She told me that as long as I graduated, she didn’t care where I went and now that I have, she says I owe her for when she helped me with homework and I only graduated because of her. She also constantly brings up my faults and things I did wrong or said years and years ago. The other day, I tried one more time, calmly telling her I wanted to move and she screamed and called my dad in, and he screamed and they threatened to send me to a boot camp, or find other ways to “make me listen and have respect” I was shaking and crying and I had suicidal thoughts at a few points in my life. Nothing too serious, but just “what if’s” My mom overreacts, when I told her I just wanted to hang out at a friend’s house (who she knows) she told me to “Watch how I talk because I’m not an adult.” Her strict friend, who’s coming next month, (When my friend and her brother want me to move with them) told her she’d take me back with her and “Teach me how to work, and make sure when I’m done, I’d listen to my parents.”

My friend says I should just leave, but I don’t know what to take, and I’m honestly terrified of my parents. (They scream a lot) At the same time I’m really sick of yelling and them not listening to me. (They also like to guilt trip me)

So because that was really long, here’s a quick summary.

I can’t drive but my friend’s family is willing to teach me.
I’m applying for several jobs once I move (If I move)
I have enough money to pay for my own things.
My parents and family scream at me all the time, guilt trip me, and never listen to what I want to say without cutting me off and just saying forget it, because it won’t happen.

I’ve been threatened to go to boot camp, a church place (don’t remember what they’re called), going to my mom’s strict friend’s to “learn manners and respect”
My friend’s family fully supports me and whatever I want to do.
I don’t know what I would take or how to move or how I would leave (Someone is always here) and my family constantly says I’m a failure or will be.

What do you guys think I should do? (And I know its legal that I’m 19 and can move out, but I’m wondering how to deal with my situation exactly, because they and it terrify me.

Thank you!

By law you are an adult able to do as you please without parental consent. You cannot be forced to go with anyone for any reason that would be kidnapping in the 2nd degree. You cannot be stopped from leaving; doing so would be a violation of several laws including kidnapping for which if you wished you could file charges. At the very least you could get an order of protection from your parents which means they must stay a certain distance from you. A legal aid attorney will help you file for the protective order; ask the clerk of the courts at the District Courts for one to assist you.

Based on what you have written leaving is probably the best thing for you. I would suggest you say no more to your parents about it. Go to the County District Court House and, ask the clerk of the courts how to file for a protection order. If you need help ask for a legal aid attorney they work for free. To be given an order of protection you need to convince a judge your parents will keep you from leaving home through fear, intimidation or kidnapping. From what you have written I think you can do so.

Once you have the order of protection be prepared to move immediately for it will be served on your parents immediately. Ask for a police officer or sheriff deputy to go with you to collect your things. The officer is there to order your parent out of the house and as far away as the order provides while you collect your things.

You are entitled to take anything which is yours. This would include clothing, books furniture, medication, make-up anything you purchased or was purchased by others and given to you. Once something is given it is yours and cannot be taken back unless originally given as a temporary use item. This includes anything your parents purchased for your exclusive use including a cell phone. If they are paying for the service that they can terminate but they cannot take back the phone itself.

The protective order includes them not harassing you by phone, email or any other method for generally a one year period. It is hoped that at the end of the year the disturbing party will have cooled off.

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17/f
Ive been having my period since i was 10 and I'm on the pill so im never late. I'm a virgin. I'm 4 days late and i dont know why. All the females in my family struggle to have kids and my older sister hasnt had her period in 2 years. I'm just really scared there is a problem. I also dont wanna tell my mom because she'll think im pregnant and probably wont believe me that I'm a virgin but i dont wanna lke and say i do have it and then there's actually something wrong.
Ive been out of breath constantly lately and have had headaches, tiredness and dizziness if that could do with anything. Please help im really stressed

If your a virgin and on birth control it is impossible to be pregnant. Because a women's body has many different functions it is more finely tuned then a mans. The fact that you been out of breath constantly lately and have had headaches, tiredness and dizziness are most likely the cause of your period being late. If you are taking any medications, even over the counter medications, these can upset the balance your body needs to menstruate.

The headaches, tiredness and dizziness you are experiencing are not normal signs of pregnancy. They are signs that something is seriously in need of a doctors attention. Given the fact that your period is late; if your mom won't take you to the doctor for the symptoms you have without telling her your period is late. Because you are over 14 years of age you can make an appointment to see your GYN yourself.

A federal law called HIPPA allows anyone over the age of 14 total confidentiality over their reproductive system. This means you can make doctors appoints to see any doctor concerning you reproductive system without parental permission. You parents will never know why you were there, what the doctor examined you for or what the diagnoses is. The doctor or anyone in his office can go to jail for releasing this information without your written consent.

If mom were to accompany you to a doctors visit and a female examination was to take place mom has to wait outside the exam room unless you consent to her being there. You can not be coerced into allowing her to stay either. A parent cannot force a female over the age of 14 to have a female examination either for the purposes of finding out if she is a virgin which the doctor can only say if her Hymen is in-tact.

My suggestion is you see a doctor for the symptoms you are suffering which most likely are the cause of your late period.

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what does ((IP)) on my dashboard warning lights mean

depending on the make and model of the car it could mean different things. Your owners manual should tell you what it means. If you do not have an owners manual call a dealers service department for manufacturer of you car and they will tell you what it means and what needs to be done to correct the problem it is reporting.

Any warning light should not be ignored. If you do not have the owners manual call the dealers service department with the model and year of your car. DO so today before you end up broken down on the side of some highway.

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28 female

I am trying to learn how to cook and I was wanting some suggestions for easy recipes. I have already learned how to make hamburger helper and wanted to learn something new that wouldn't be to difficult. I have also learned how to make pancakes.

I learned to cook watching PBS cooking shows and cooking shows on the cooking cable channels. The most important thing about preparing any dish is preparation. Having all the ingredients from the recipe portioned out and prepared before hand is important as assembling and actually cooking the meal is in the timing of when you add the ingredients and in the proper order.

I know that sounds a bit scary though it really isn't. Every recipe comes with an ingredient list. Get all the ingredients together then portion them out into individual bowls. For the novice cook read through the preparation directions and line the bowls up in the order you are going to need them. It is just that simple

Simple recipe - Chicken Parmesan

Ingredients

1 - pack boneless, skinless chicken breasts

2- Jar Marinara Sauce - Your favorite variety of Spaghetti sauce in Marinara will do.

2 - Eggs Beaten

Flour

Seasoned Bread Crumbs (Italian)

Oil ( I prefer Extra Virgin Olive oil as it is lighter

Directions

take 3 bowls, beat the eggs in on, put 2 to 3 cups of flour in another and an equal amount of bread crumbs in the third.

I like to warm 1 jar of the sauce in a sauce pan. Now would be the time to do that and to put a frying pan on the stove with about a half inch of oil. You will also need a baking dish and you should preheat the oven now to 350 degrees.

Take the chicken breasts and rinse them under clod water then dry them with paper towels. Have a plate ready to hold the dredged breast until your ready to fry them.

Using one hand put each breast first in the beaten egg, thoroughly then into the flower, shake of the excess and then into the bread crumbs. Repeat with each breast.

Heat the oil until it is hot enough to fry. A test for this is to take a few bread crumbs and drop them in the oil. If they start to fry carefully place the breasts in the oil. You just want to brown the chicken so 3 to 5 minutes preside is enough.

While the chicken is browning place a light coating of the Marinara in the baking dish. As each breast finishes browning place it on a paper towel to drain off excess oil then place it in the baking dish.

When all the breasts are finished browning and in the backing dish cover the chicken with the Marinara sauce and place in the oven for about 20 to 30 minutes. The breast should com e to a cooing temperature of about 155 degrees.

While the breast are backing heat up the second jar of Sauce and prepare your favorite type of spaghetti per box instructions.

After the chicken has backed for 230 minutes if you have a meat thermometer check the temperature, if not don't worry. Place the cheese on each breast covering the top of each and place back in the oven to melt the cheese. When the cheese is melted. Dinner is served. Pair with a nice wine

Note: If preparing for guests and they have not arrived by the time you are ready to put the cheese on. Turn the oven down to warm. When your guests arrive and your ready to serve turn the oven back to 350 place the cheese on the chicken and serve when melted. Hold back a ladle of sauce to put over the chicken when plated this will insure it is warm to hot to the mouth.

This may look complicated but it is really easy. It was one of the first dished I made.

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I'm a writer and I'm in the works of a novel I've been thinking about. I have finished my rough draft and I just realised I didnt really put a lot of diversity between characters. All of them are white. Diffrent shades, but still white. I've accidentally did this before and got called a racist because of it. I really like my characters present appearances, but I don't want to offend anyone. Should I go back and make one African American or Hispanic?

I cannot give you a flat yes or no to that answer. I do some writing myself. If I was to go back and change a character in some manner it has to have some affect on the storyline. Then the question becomes how much of the storyline am I willing to change to support this character.

You might be lucky and be able to make the change without effecting the storyline. Just be honest with yourself if you make the change as to how the changes effects the storyline.

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Hello there,
Is it weird or compliment if your guy friend thinks of you that you're sexy. She don't wear sexy outfits but it's just that she has something it makes her sexy. Is it rude for a boy to think like that of their girl mate? Cheers

My wife loves it when I call her sexy. I think women love to be called sexy. Now there are some women who purposely dress down to hide their figures and do everything they can to not look sexy. Those women will tell you not to call them sexy if you ever said that to them.

Calling a women sexy is a complement when said at the right time. Saying she looks good or is beautiful is also a complement. Most women I know like to be complemented. There is one problem with complementing a women today though. Some women will think its sexist when a man compliments them on there looks or sexuality so know the women before making such remarks.

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For the past few nights ive slept on amatress in thr lounge with my mom because my room has been freezing. The one night i had a dream my house was burning down and the next night i had a dream that soneone broke in. Now this morning my mom told me that last night i sat up pointing saying that a man js trying to take bella (my dog) and when she laughed i just fell back down. I dont remember any of this. There's been a few times that something like this has happened that i dont remember.
In my old house when i slept in my sisters room a few years back in the middle of the night i sat up and stared out the blinds on my window telling my sister theres a man outside and then i just fell back asleep. I'm not sure if this is sleep talking or ive seen stuff about some shadow man or something. What could it be?

Your normal we all do this from time to time. There are times when we have very vivid dreams and we react to them in our sleep.

I had a dream one night I was in a fight. in the fight I was pulling a guys head down toward my knee so I could bring my knee up and launch him across the room. I had watched a movie before bed where this had happened in one scene. Only problem was when I brought me knee up in my dream I launch my wife into the headboard. I n the morning we had a big discussion about getting separate beds. We didn't we bought a queen bed instead.

We all have had those type of dreams. My wife has them. She has woken me up said something to me rolled over and gone back to sleep. In the morning she has no recollection of ever saying those things and accuses me of making fun of her. Then I reminder her of how my knee came in contact with her butt while I was asleep.

Your normal, your subconscious is just being a little over active at times that's all.

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So me and my boyfriend are both 18 years old and virgins. We're both each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend. So the other day we were making out and he went lower down my neck and to my boobs (I was wearing a bikini at the time and a swimsuit cover). We've made out a lot but this is the first time he went that low (we've been dating for 8 months) and he started kissing the exposed part of my breasts. He suddenly gripped my butt hard and pulled away looking at me. I asked him what was wrong and he was reluctant to tell me but eventually said he wanted to go lower as in pull my bikini top off. I said no because 1) our parents weren't too far away and 2) I wasn't ready... So he changed the subject and act like nothing happened. Today, a few days after, he still acts like that. I made a small joke regarding something about it just to clear the ice and because we're always joking and laughing with each other (I texted him the joke) and he just didn't respond and just changed the subject. Now I feel like I let him down or something. It's almost like I disappointed him... I just wasn't ready to be touched that way. I wasn't ready to expose my body yet. I wasn't comfortable. To this day he hasn't said anything about it. I've mentioned to him before that I was abstinent. He is a Christian like me but he isn't abstinent. I'm kinda scared that because I'm abstinent will hurt our relationship. Should I feel bad that I said no? I love him and treats me like a queen. Maybe he felt deserving of it? Maybe he was? :(

You should not feel bad, you have your values and they are good ones. You are legally an adult and if you wanted a sex life you could have one. IF your values say tom wait then wait don't be pressured to give up on your values.

When it comes to sex, any type of sex NO means NO. It is just that simple. Making out is a form of foreplay which puts it in the category of sex. If you are being pressured to do something your not comfortable with, such as exposing your breasts to him; that is sexual harassment a violation of the law punishable by real jail time.

Teenage boys want to have sex to prove their manhood. They will say or do anything to get a girl to do something she is not truly willing to do. One famous line is, "I love you if you love me you will have sex with me." This is the worst reason to have sex with some one to prove your love for him. Sex is not how you prove your love for someone.

Your boyfriend is pouting, giving you a cold shoulder so to speak. HE wants you to bare your breasts to him. Do not give in to him. Make it plain to him that you have values and what those values are. Turn the tables on him and say, "If you love me you will abide by my values and not pressure me to do something I'm not willing to do." Then you will find out if he loves you or merely lusts for you.

He is not deserving of sexual favors, no man is. They are given when a women feels loves and is trusting of her partner; not before

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