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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ok im about to go to a b-day party and my crush is gonna be there. what should i do? i want to let him know i like him but not tell him. like how can i flirt with him? hes my best friend and according to my instincts he likes me back. everyone thinks its so obvious that we like eachother but he hasnt said he does. so how can i let him knoe im interested? its gonna be super fun with like tons of ppl and i just want tonight to go well since i never get to hang out with him outside of school. who knoes maybe even a kiss may happen! ahh cant wait help please. anyhting works! just please hurry befor i leave haha. im 14/f by the way.

When you get there, make eye contact, and smile. Laugh at his jokes, tease him playfully [make sure he's laughing with you though], and just try to spend some time with him. Don't spend all of your time with him though because it would be rude to your other friends.

This morning my mom was cranky and kept snapping at me to the point we had a a tiff. During the course of the fight she said; I know you ask questions about weight and other things on the computer, these people are not experts, I see what you do; (But she really does not see because I log out when she comes near my computer) And of course she and I went back and forth saying nasty things to one another. (But I like asking and getting advice on Advicenators and other websites like Advicenators and the advice makes me feel better.) SO MY QUESTION: If you were me (or even it happened to you) and someone criticizes the people that you get advice from online how would you handle it? I mean would you ignore, defend it or other (and tell me what the other is)

I do agree with ammo and your mother. The people who answer your questions could be kids who don't even know what they're talking about, or kids who have been through it before but can help. Sometimes the advice is crap & doesn't help you, but it's not like that constantly.

If you want to ignore it, then do so. But, if you would like to defend it, then do that too. Defending it could start another argument though, so I would just ignore her comments. As long as you know that the advice your getting could potentionally help you, then that's all that matters.

Someone give me quick easy ways to calm down that works? I get A's on projects and eassys but right at end end before it's done I always go into a panic attack. i got everything there and point form notes, I just need to put them all together but I can't because I go crazy and can't think because I can't calm down.

and I can't listen to music or else I cant' think!

Get a drink or go outside & go for a quick walk around the block. If you can't go outside for fresh air, try to just sit on your bed & relax.

I'm trying to figure out if a guy likes me. He's giving me mixed messages, and sometimes he sounds interested, sometimes he's not. I thought this part of our conversation was very weird. Let's call him "Bob."

MeTheGirl says:
My sister said I'm a loser and a dork because I'm single.
HimTheGuy says:
tell her u have a boyfriend

I think he likes you. Ask him what happened at the end of your conversation & see what he says.

so i have this friend joanna she just broke up with her boyfriend and they were going out for a year. jessica and this kid lenny were hooking up last week and lenny kept telling his best friend matt that he didnt even like her and he just wanted to have sex with her. on sunday joanna had sex with her exboyfriend andrew. joanna told me and i wasnt supposed to tell anyone but matt promised me that he wouldnt tell anyone. and he told lenny. me and matt like eachother but im not talking to him. he keeps calling me and begging for my forgiveness. i told him that if he tells lenny that he was lying that would help me forgive him. he is really sorry and he understands what he did.

should i forgive him?

sorry its long.
thank you

Wow that was confusing, but I think I got it.

Okay, he told his friend something after he promised not to tell. If he's sorry, then forgiveness should be happening, BUT he did break your trust and his promise to you and who knows how often that could happen from now on. You need to talk to him about this and really come to terms with what you can believe and what you can't. I personally think you should forgive him, but not trust him.

okay..me and my ex boyfriend who were together for 3 years..broke up because of the distance..he has a new girlfriend now who he's been with about 2 months or less and he calls me all the time..like 7 times a day about just to talk..his current girlfriend doesn't want me talking to him at all but he doesn't care what she says because he wants to keep talking to me and to stay friends with me and he says he still loves me and cares for me and that we'd be together if it wern't for the distance..because he lives about an hour or so away from where i live but when we were together we were together all the time..but we ended up breaking in January..but i dunno what to do..i still love him..i just dont know..he's confusing because sometimes he has his days where he says i don't love you i'm with her i really love her..but idk..what do you think??? please give advice..or at least what you think this all means or something.

He's not over you, but then again, he doesn't know what the hell he wants. He'll tell you he loves you, and then some days he'll say that he loves her & not you. So which is it? You've gotta tell this guy to make up his mind. It's either you or her, and there is no both. If he still wants to be friends with you, cool but not to lead you on & think you've still got hope if they decide to break up. And if he doesn't wanna be friends, then cool with that too but not to call you.

So you really need to talk to him and see what the hell is help because he can't keep doing this to you. It gets confusing, and you can't keep catering to who he's in love with each week, right?

in raise your voice. what concert did they go to see?

Three Days Grace.

my dad ordered a computer from dell but they failed to included a dvd burner and floopy disc drive so they sent those parts and a ribbon connector
my dad installed the dvd burner and floopy disc but the ribbon connector did not match
where can we get a ribbon connector that will match

You need to call Dell again and explain it to them so they can send you the right one.

i dyed my hair but since it was my first time the lady didnt want to use bleach so basiclly i have unbleached dyed hair will it turn orange if i wash it? if not how can i prevent it from turning orange? i dyed my hair yesterday

Don't wash it for about two days.

okay i dont why but i feel like i have a lot of water in my body and i feel bloated. my eyes are like puffy
my friend tells me to pee it out, but i cant lol should i like walk or something?

Take a midol.

lately my friend has been ditching me for her other friends. I showed my anger towards her (i didnt tell her) and she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her this weekend. (we live across the city from each other so we don't normally get together) we participate in an after school activity with each other, but then one of my softball friends is doing it too.. so my friend feels left out.

I emailed her 4 times today asking her what she wanted to do, and she only replied once saying that she couldn't do anything until after 1pm. so around 2pm i called her 2 times and she didn't pick up. then I called her again around 3pm and she didn't pick up. I emailed her the 5th time asking her where she was and she replied an hour later saying that she was outside running and that she can do something next weekend, but i'm busy then!

she ALWAYS does this! I ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend or something (I always invite her over because I feel like our friendship is fading away) and then she ends up saying she can't make it or that she's busy. Sometimes she doesn't even have an excuse and just says next time. but there's NEVER a next time!

oh and another thing... If i ask her a question in one of my emails, she won't answer it. everytime I call her, she'll make up an excuse saying that she has to go. In school, she just wants to hang out with her dance friends. I play softball and when I talk about it (she hates softball) she'll get upset and annoyed. I seriously think that whenever I try to be nice, she has to be really mean to me.

I don't want our friendship to end, because honestly... I don't have many friends. all of my softball friends are so stuck up and mean to me. All of my friends at school already have best friends so they don't really include me.

I don't know... i just feel like my friend doesn't want to be around me, yet she still asks me if I want to hang out with her later (but she always break's them), she still emails me... but like once a day.

HELP! What should I do??

thanks for everybody taking the time to help

Tell her how you feel about the situation. Since you haven't told her how you feel about things, she doesn't know which just causes her to do it more.

Try to hang out as much as possible. If things don't go through, try another day. If you guys still don't hang out over time, then try to hang out with other people & devote your time to them.

Who sings this song? I've tried google and about everything else. It goes:

I'm a cheerleader and you're not, I rule the school and I'm hot...

It's from Bring it On: All or Nothing

My cheerleading squad wants to do a dance to it, no one can find it.

Thanks in advance.

Look for the soundtrack of the movie, and see if it's under there. If it's not listed, it might've just been something done for the movie.

how do i look my boobs look bigger? without plastic surgery, or anything like that. How do you stuff your bra without making it look obvious. Thanks.

Get a push up bra or wait for your damn boobs to grow. You're probably young so you've got a lot of time to get boobs. Stop trying to grow up so damn fast.

to convert youtube videos to mp4 and put them on your ipod because it seems to good to be tru

Yeah. But then again so is downloading music off of Limewire or Ares & then putting it on there.

me and my friend always wet our selfs with laughter its so embarrasing help!?
?

When you laugh too hard, go to the bathroom.

my friend [let's call her bert] has, like, a serious problem. or so she says. i think its just because she has practically no self control and can't restrain herself. but, anyway, when she has a "good" book, she's ALWAYS reading. now, first thing you might think is: "well, good for her, most kids aren't reading ENOUGH." but when i say always i mean ALWAYS.
last week really pissed me off 'cause bert, i, and another friend [lets call her adam] were on a field trip and we stuck together the whole time. except instead of talking to us like friends should do bert read and read and read. and when we tried to tell her to restrain herself 'cause she was ignoring us, she said she didn't care [but she doesn't say that if she's not reading].
another thing, this might just be because i'm on my period, but bert is seriously pissing me off. she reads during school when she should be paying attention [even more so because her grades aren't great] and then who does she ask for help? me. who's actually doing my work 'cause i actually get it 'cause i was actually paying attention.
it wasn't like this before, it started this [school] year. & i don't know what to do.

Let your friend do what she wants. You can't tell her not to read. If she wants to read, then let her. You're no one to say when she can & cannot read. She'd actually be a little better off than you. Your grades might me better, but her vocabulary will weaken yours. Just talk to her about it and if she still does it, then get over it.

how can you make him become a better kisser without hurting his feelings? seriously this kidis really bad at it yet hes completly perfect at everything else. help!

Kissing isn't the thing you should be concentrating on about him. Just take lead while kissing, or teach him yourself without actually letting him know he's being taught.

Well I like this boy named Robert and it is hard for me to talk to him well all of the boy i like!!!! can anyone help me?

Just say hi to him. It seems cliche, but that's all it takes. If you wanna be cute & funny about it, ask him how much a polar bear weighs. When he says "I don't know." Say -- "Enough to break the ice. Hi, I'm [your name here]." I can gurantee that will put a smile on his face & it might even make him laugh. Then proceed to talking & get to know each other. Maybe exchance phone numbers, sns or myspaces. =) Good luck.

yeah i know i should drink lots of water.but i love juice is that still okay to drink if im trying to lose weight and i drink power-aid are thoughs alright to drink

I think drinks like Power-Aid & Gatorade are only okay to use when working out since they keep you hydrated & give you more energy. There's a lot of sugar in them, so to drink them on a normal, daily basis could be a little much.

Try drinking juices that are healthy for you like orange juice, or apple juice. And if you don't like water because it's tasteless, buy flavored water. It'll be easier to drink it. Just make sure you get the right one because there are some that really suck.

19 f
ok so i went on a date with this really nice guy the other night. weve been talking to each other and everything has just really clicked. Well i wound up spending the night at his house. We didnt do anything really just made out and stuff. I then slept in the guestroom. WEll my bestfriend wasnt happy about it. She had already told me that it was still to soon to do that. While i agree with where she was coming from in regards to that i also wanted to make my own decisions on this. I chose to spend the night and it was one of the best night of my life. I just want to know what i can say to her that will tell her i really respect your opinion but at the same time you cant be mad at me for what my decision is. I value our friendship alot and i dont want to say anything that will jeperodize it. Thanks for listening.

You're 19 years old, and your best friend is trying to run your life by telling you when it's a certain time to do something? Nah. That's not how it works.

You need to explain to your friend [in the nicest possible way] that you're an adult & that you can make your own decisions about your own life. What you do & who you do it with is none of her business nor should it be any of her concern. Although she may be looking out for you, I think you can handle it.

Tell her that you appreciate her input, your decisions are gonna be made your way & she shouldn't be upset or bothered by the things you do. If you make a mistake, you make a mistake, but you need to learn it for yourself. So all in all, do what you please & who gives if your best friend doesn't approve. You're an adult, and you don't need her consent nor her approval to do things.

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