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im not sure what to day
19 f
ok so i went on a date with this really nice guy the other night. weve been talking to each other and everything has just really clicked. Well i wound up spending the night at his house. We didnt do anything really just made out and stuff. I then slept in the guestroom. WEll my bestfriend wasnt happy about it. She had already told me that it was still to soon to do that. While i agree with where she was coming from in regards to that i also wanted to make my own decisions on this. I chose to spend the night and it was one of the best night of my life. I just want to know what i can say to her that will tell her i really respect your opinion but at the same time you cant be mad at me for what my decision is. I value our friendship alot and i dont want to say anything that will jeperodize it. Thanks for listening.
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I think that what you just said sounded pretty good. So... Tell her how you feel. Start with something positive like... "You're my friend and I value your frienship. And I want you to know that I respect your opinion." Then tell her how you feel, "But I am an adult and capable of making my own decisions." Then make your request, "I would appreciate your support. Or for us to be able to at least agree to disagree and continue to be friends."
There is a chance that she will be mad. But that too is not your fault. You have a valid point and a valid request. If she can't respect that then maybe she wasn't such a great friend after all. I know it doesn't count for much from a stranger, and that you are afraid of losing her friendship... But sometimes you're truly better off without some people. She can't live your life for you, and it sounds like that is what she's trying to do.
I hope that she listens and that the two of you continue to be friends. Good luck. ;)
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Your friend is only looking out for you. Just tell her that you can make your own decisions and that she can't control them. Tell her that you had a great time with the guy and NOTHING happened. But make sure you say it in a way that doesnt sound rude. Mkae sure she gets the picture. After that tell her that you're sorry if your hurt her feelings.
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You're 19 years old, and your best friend is trying to run your life by telling you when it's a certain time to do something? Nah. That's not how it works.
You need to explain to your friend [in the nicest possible way] that you're an adult & that you can make your own decisions about your own life. What you do & who you do it with is none of her business nor should it be any of her concern. Although she may be looking out for you, I think you can handle it.
Tell her that you appreciate her input, your decisions are gonna be made your way & she shouldn't be upset or bothered by the things you do. If you make a mistake, you make a mistake, but you need to learn it for yourself. So all in all, do what you please & who gives if your best friend doesn't approve. You're an adult, and you don't need her consent nor her approval to do things.
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You can tell her that your are an adult and can make your own decisions, if you wanted someone to make them for you, you would let your mom or dad do it. Let her know that you are responsable enough to know right from wrong and what moving to fast is. Most people your age probably would have gone further than making out and you know your boundries and followed them.
Hope i helped and good luck!
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