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friendship fading away?
lately my friend has been ditching me for her other friends. I showed my anger towards her (i didnt tell her) and she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her this weekend. (we live across the city from each other so we don't normally get together) we participate in an after school activity with each other, but then one of my softball friends is doing it too.. so my friend feels left out.
I emailed her 4 times today asking her what she wanted to do, and she only replied once saying that she couldn't do anything until after 1pm. so around 2pm i called her 2 times and she didn't pick up. then I called her again around 3pm and she didn't pick up. I emailed her the 5th time asking her where she was and she replied an hour later saying that she was outside running and that she can do something next weekend, but i'm busy then!
she ALWAYS does this! I ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend or something (I always invite her over because I feel like our friendship is fading away) and then she ends up saying she can't make it or that she's busy. Sometimes she doesn't even have an excuse and just says next time. but there's NEVER a next time!
oh and another thing... If i ask her a question in one of my emails, she won't answer it. everytime I call her, she'll make up an excuse saying that she has to go. In school, she just wants to hang out with her dance friends. I play softball and when I talk about it (she hates softball) she'll get upset and annoyed. I seriously think that whenever I try to be nice, she has to be really mean to me.
I don't want our friendship to end, because honestly... I don't have many friends. all of my softball friends are so stuck up and mean to me. All of my friends at school already have best friends so they don't really include me.
I don't know... i just feel like my friend doesn't want to be around me, yet she still asks me if I want to hang out with her later (but she always break's them), she still emails me... but like once a day.
HELP! What should I do??
thanks for everybody taking the time to help
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i hate to say this, but this might just be her way of trying to break apart from you.
some people have issues with committment rather it's a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend. i guess they just get bored of that person. hah, i don't know. i used to be friends with someone who did sort of how you described & all i did was just give her some space.
don't get mad when she doesn't want to hang out or anything, just say, "oh, okay. that's fine." or something.
for now, just get one of your friends to ask her if she still likes you or if she's mad or anything.
good luck!
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You can always make new friends, which is an open possibility, but it's not the choice anyone wants to hear. So, instead of finding new friends, catch up with old friends. Spend your time with the people you KNOW you are comfortable around. And, you can also continue trying to find a date to have fun w/ the friend who you're "drifting apart" from.
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Tell her how you feel about the situation. Since you haven't told her how you feel about things, she doesn't know which just causes her to do it more.
Try to hang out as much as possible. If things don't go through, try another day. If you guys still don't hang out over time, then try to hang out with other people & devote your time to them.
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ok, well first off i know how you feel. One of my best friends is ALWAYS grounded, and my other best friend has other friends of her own. This past year the same thing happened we grew apart and never got to see each other, and we live 2 streets away. Then she got a car and we see each other everyday almost. Now what I'm thinking is that you should hang on for a while if you believe that she's a good friend of yours, and if maybe after 6 months, move on and start making new friends, because if you are amazing friends then she'll come back to you in the end.
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