i have been dating this guy and i really am starting to like him. i have feelings for him that i have never felt before. i care so much for him. and i would give him the world if i had the chance. he deserves so much better then what he has had in life. his mom dropped him off when he was two years old at his grandparents house because she didnt have enough money for kids and drugs and she chose drugs. about a year or two ago, a tree fell on him and paralized his knees and now he is in a wheel chair for the rest of his life. as things were finally getting better for him (moved back in with his real dad and step mom) his real dad shot himself last night. that was all he had. i know i got to be there for him but i don`t know how. and i feel like a failure to this relationship. i promised him i would be there no matter what. but i can`t be there if i don`t know how. i tell him everything is ohkay and will be fine. but thats not good enough. i let him sleep in my bed because he didnt wanna go back to the house his dad shot himself in. but i`m not doing something right. i wanna comfort him and be the best girlfriend becuase that is what he deserves.
can someone please help me. and tell me what i can do or say to try to make things right. i really like this guy and i don`t wanna lose him.
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ok. (16/f)I definitley know how you are feeling. My boyfriend's grandma died yesterday in a car accident, and he doesn't have the best family either, abuse and such, and i want to give him the world like you do for yours.
The only thing you can say, after the sorry, and are you ok, is nothing. You just need to let it be known that you are going to be there when ever he needs you. turn on your cell and answer it anytime of night, if he's not at your house. Take him out and just talk, or try to make him laugh. Get his mind off of it. But also let him have some alone time, where he can get it out in his own way.
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K, so there's this guy I like, he's a senior, I'm a sophomore, the entire year has been filled with awkward moments (like, borderline does he like me? moments.) He has a girlfriend, and he flirts with me a lot.
1. He tricked me into offering him a blow job. embarrasing situation ensues.
2. When I said I didn't have a cell phone, he said that I should get one and let him drunk dial him at three in the morning.
... huh? what the heck does that all mean?
it seems like he's just using you for favors. He's a senior now(?) so let him go. he obviously doesn't deserve anything you have to offer
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Well... when yearbook orders went out I missed the deadline :(
Its the end of the year and yearbooks are coming out soon.
Obvioulsly i don't have one for people to sing..
so what are some non-lame ideas for a place for people to autograph (not a shirt or anything.. like a replacement yearbook without the school...)
14/f
my friend last year had a great idea, she brought a scroll that she had everyone sign, just instead of a ghetto paper yearbook, get something cool for people to sign
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do you think 18 is too young to get married? I love my fiance SO much, but almost every one thinks were young and stupid... well evry1 else thats older. What do you think?
if you both beleive that you can withstand 50-75 years together then yes. in the 1930's and such you would have been married at 15. As long as you guys can be together and are happy for a long time then i think to go for it
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I just got a new bathing suit, and i got 2 tops w/ one bottom peice. One top is a tankini, and the other is a bikini (and fits loads better than the tankini), but its one of the non-slutty ones. The problem is, i'm a total chicken and don't know if i have enough guts to wear the bikini in public. I've only ever worn one peices and tankinis, so i'd feel pretty awkward. I have a pretty average body, too. i'm definitely not fat, but i don't have a perfect body, by any means. so, should i just stick to the tankini? or if i should wear the bikini, how can i overcome the insecurities? I just wanna swim, not worry.
ok ditto, i just got a bikini and the top has more support than any tankini ever would have. i would say to just get over your insecurities. Guys love confident girls, so if you are confident then no one will care
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14/f, if it helps... there's this guy i know, and he's one of my good friends. Everyone is convinced that we like each other, even though i don't like him and i don't think he likes me. We do flirt a lot, but i don't really see it as flirting, more of just goofing off, ya know? But here's the problem: some days, he can be a total jerk. And others, he's one of the sweetest guys ever. Though i try not to, I seem to start to like him a little bit every time the sweet side comes out. i used to have a crush on him, so is it possible that i'm just not fully over it yet? I can't let myself like him, b/c that would just be a bad idea....suggestions?
i know what you're going through and the thing is i dont know what to tell you. I don't think anyone will. You may not be fully over it, and everytime that sweet side comes out you remember why you liked him in the first place. I would just keep being friends b/c more maked it complicated. and that just sucks.
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ok i'm tired of not being able to get over my ex. we went out for 3 months. the reason he broke up with me was because he said he wanted freedom but then i recently heard that he liked another girl so that maybe the real reason. i don't want him back but for some reason i get angry and jealous that he likes another girl. i'm not sure if i still have feelings for him but i just can't get over the fact that he got over me that quickly. so i need help on is how do i get over him? and i want to start flirting with other boys, no i don't want him jealous i just wanna flirt. so how could i flirt with other boys? thanks!
ok. you're probably just jealous of how fast he got over you and angry at how soon he likes another and lied to you about it. (It would have hurt more if he told you, but you can still be pissed he didn't). You may still have feelings for him, that's just natural. There is no real way to get over anyone, that's all up to you. You just have to give youself some space, and surround yourself with people who love you. Then when you're ready you can start flirting with boys.
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16/f-- okay. So I started hanging out with a guy from another school (17) a few weeks ago. He had a girlfriend that he didn't want to be with. He was only with her because he didn't want to dump her before prom. We started spending a lot of time together, and he told me he fell for me. He dumped her, but told her he'd still go to prom with her. He was also going to be taking me to my prom. Now, we have a lot of mutual friends, and they all told me what a great, wonderful, nice guy he was, so I let myself really start to like him. He told me how amazing I am and how I mean a lot to him. Then, when he went to his prom with his ex, he ended up getting back together with her. We didn't talk much for awhile, because he felt super bad, and I was hurt. But he was still going to my prom with me. So we went, and it was a little awkward at first, then it got fun. But he told one of our mutual friends that he wishes he would have chosen me. Now, he tells me he still wants to stay close to me. He came to my house last night to talk. He told me how unhappy he was with his girlfriend. He said that he would have hated himself if he didn't give her another chance (Which I completely understand). He said that she didn't change though, and he just looked at me for a minute and said that he was an idiot, and that he can't believe he messed everything up. Then he hurried up and changed the subject.
Now, I had to leave out some details to the story to make this a reasonable length, so those are just the basics.
A lot of my friends think I should just totally forget about him. However, I understand where he is coming from, I really do. And I can't help but like him. A lot. Yeah, he did some shady things, but I'm forgiving. But I don't know if I should be. What do you think I should do? Should I just keep being there for him? Should I totally forget him? Should I tell him how I feel (I'm afraid to spill everything because I don't want to sound desperate)
Any help would be great, I'm totally confused. Thanks.
I think that you should forgive him, but be careful. Make sure he knows that if something like this were to happen you won't take him back, because it'll cause you more damage than him.
So Go for it, but again be cautious
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this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?
i know that this is a horrible burden on you and i can't imagine the guilt you must feel. At one point you need to come clean, it doesn't have to be now, but one day you will most likely have too
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I am 16 and a junior going into my senior year.
I am homeschooled and I have also recently skipped a grade.
I'm afraid to graduate, I don't want to be considered an adult. I am afraid to grow up, I don't think I can handle the responsebility yet.
I am also having problems deciding on what I would like to do with myself for the rest of my life. Universities, jobs, where to live, wether I want to run away from my parents/past and never see them again as soon as I am old enough or not, etc.
Someone give me some encouraging words?
*I am being picky this time; I don't want some 'know-it-all' fifteen year old girl that has raging hormones telling me what universities to check out or how I should probably see a psychiatrist. I want an adult with maybe a few suggestions for my troubles. Maybe a quote I could remember to keep myself going.
...because right now, I just don't feel like hanging on.
ok. I'm 16 also, although i'm a sophomore becoming a junior. I'm already looking into colleges and I'm having a difficult dicision too, because I like so make different things. what you need to figure out is what you like to do, and what colleges offer it.
You really don't want to go like half way across the country away from your parents, you might get homesick. but you don't want to live at home, so safe distance anywhere from 30 minutes to 5 or so hours.
And growing up is difficult, I know. I was forced to grow up too fast when my grandmother died, I was 11. and you can handle the responsibility just believe in yourself and you can do anything.
I guess a quote you could go by, well, a book, go read Oh The Places You'll Go by Dr. Seuss.
"not all who wander are lost"
i hope that helps
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I'm 16/f and I have horrible bacne.
I use like pad things for it and
put spot treatment on it everyday,
but proms coming up and I reallly
want it to go away! I'm allergic to
Proactiv, but does anyone know anything
else that might help? Thanks!
ok bacne is generally caused by sweating so if you wear like a sports bra alot and don't wash your back that's prob the reason (if so wash your bra) if not then i use an expoliator, st. ives apricot scrub, and get a back loofa (basically a loofa on a stick) and put w/e body wash you use on it and wash your back every day. (but if you get the expoliator use that every few days)
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Can you get pregnant from dry humping?
as long as you have cloths on inbetween the two of you then no, but do be careful if he cums b/c it can get through cloths, and wear more than underwear b/c it'll get through that.
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Can anyone give me an honest opinion how to or how do you pick out a dress?
For the style, do I pick a style that's in right now, style I like, or style I feel comfortable in?
For colour, do I pick a colour I think is IN right now, my favourite colour, or a colour that suits and contrast and goes good with my skin tone?
I'm having so much stress right now because grd is coming and half the girls want poka dotted dresses and onyl one shop is selling them (dun dun dun) and everyone's scared they might get the same one. i just don't know what to get there's so many styles I want but I'm nto sure if it'll fit in or stick out too much
you pick a style you like and you look good in. if it's for prom(or a dance of somesort) something kinda comfy too. You pic a color that's good for you even if it isn't your fav color, something that looks good on you.
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Im going to the movies with a bunch of my friends, and my boyfriend's friends. Everyone has a date they're going with and my friend Ali is totally flipping out because I told her I can't sit by her at the movies. I promised my other friend, Beth, that I would sit by her. My boyfriend Dane is sitting on the other side of me so I can't sit by both Ali and Beth.
I really think it's totally stupid that Ali is making a big deal over who I sit by, but she's one of my best friends and she feels like I like Beth more than her and she thinks she'll be so left out at the movies.
I need some way to make Ali happy, because I don't want everything at the movies ruined.
just tell her that you'll sit by her next time, and that you can't back out on your promise to Beth b/c you made that first
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lately my friend has been ditching me for her other friends. I showed my anger towards her (i didnt tell her) and she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her this weekend. (we live across the city from each other so we don't normally get together) we participate in an after school activity with each other, but then one of my softball friends is doing it too.. so my friend feels left out.
I emailed her 4 times today asking her what she wanted to do, and she only replied once saying that she couldn't do anything until after 1pm. so around 2pm i called her 2 times and she didn't pick up. then I called her again around 3pm and she didn't pick up. I emailed her the 5th time asking her where she was and she replied an hour later saying that she was outside running and that she can do something next weekend, but i'm busy then!
she ALWAYS does this! I ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend or something (I always invite her over because I feel like our friendship is fading away) and then she ends up saying she can't make it or that she's busy. Sometimes she doesn't even have an excuse and just says next time. but there's NEVER a next time!
oh and another thing... If i ask her a question in one of my emails, she won't answer it. everytime I call her, she'll make up an excuse saying that she has to go. In school, she just wants to hang out with her dance friends. I play softball and when I talk about it (she hates softball) she'll get upset and annoyed. I seriously think that whenever I try to be nice, she has to be really mean to me.
I don't want our friendship to end, because honestly... I don't have many friends. all of my softball friends are so stuck up and mean to me. All of my friends at school already have best friends so they don't really include me.
I don't know... i just feel like my friend doesn't want to be around me, yet she still asks me if I want to hang out with her later (but she always break's them), she still emails me... but like once a day.
HELP! What should I do??
thanks for everybody taking the time to help
ok, well first off i know how you feel. One of my best friends is ALWAYS grounded, and my other best friend has other friends of her own. This past year the same thing happened we grew apart and never got to see each other, and we live 2 streets away. Then she got a car and we see each other everyday almost. Now what I'm thinking is that you should hang on for a while if you believe that she's a good friend of yours, and if maybe after 6 months, move on and start making new friends, because if you are amazing friends then she'll come back to you in the end.
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ok, so yesterday i went to my boyfriends house. we were messing around and he fingered me like really hard and when i got home, i noticed i was bleeding. did he pop my cherry? am i still considered a virgin? im so confused and worried b/c i didnt want to have sex or lose my virginity til im married
yes you are still a virgin, what he did was break your hymen, which is why they call it "popping my cherry", loosing virginity is different than fingering
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me and my friend always wet our selfs with laughter its so embarrasing help!?
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ok well...from experience i know that it is embarrasing, but all I can say is cross your legs, and if you know you're laughing too hard then go to the bathroom
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