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she's pissing me off. [kinda long]
my friend [let's call her bert] has, like, a serious problem. or so she says. i think its just because she has practically no self control and can't restrain herself. but, anyway, when she has a "good" book, she's ALWAYS reading. now, first thing you might think is: "well, good for her, most kids aren't reading ENOUGH." but when i say always i mean ALWAYS.
last week really pissed me off 'cause bert, i, and another friend [lets call her adam] were on a field trip and we stuck together the whole time. except instead of talking to us like friends should do bert read and read and read. and when we tried to tell her to restrain herself 'cause she was ignoring us, she said she didn't care [but she doesn't say that if she's not reading].
another thing, this might just be because i'm on my period, but bert is seriously pissing me off. she reads during school when she should be paying attention [even more so because her grades aren't great] and then who does she ask for help? me. who's actually doing my work 'cause i actually get it 'cause i was actually paying attention.
it wasn't like this before, it started this [school] year. & i don't know what to do.
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ok im just going to say what i would do.. not necesarily meaning its the best idea, but im going on what i think is best. um, you dont have to be friends with this girl, and dont waste so much time worrying about her. i once felt kinda the same way about some guy in my class that got picked on alot. i used to constantly worry about him, and i wouldnt be mean to him like the other kids would, but not really friendly either. i wanted to try and talk to the teacher to set up stuff so other kids wouldnt make fun of him then im just like thats his life.. and as long as im not mean to him, atleast im doing something.. and i cant really change what this guy is doing, because hes REALLY weird, but whatever. its kinda the same with this girl. just do the best you can and get along with your life. since she's pissing you off, tell her that you want to concentrate during class, and maybe offer to help tutor her on the weekends. its not that bad because you are actually studying yourself when you tutor someone, and it shows how much of the subject you really know. so that girl learns as you learn too. and maybe you can even charge her for the tutoring and , BAM, you've got a job. it doesnt even have to be that often. maybe like once or twice a week? depends on your schedule. if she keeps bothering with asking you questions during class, at the end of the class ask your teacher to change your seat because she's bothering you. if your teacher like changes seats at the end of the marking period like some teachers do, ask him to do it then, so it wont be that obvious that you dont wanna sit near hear, and you wont hurt her feelings.
and, did you ever ask her on the books she was reading? like what was her personality when she talked about them? some people just love books like that. i used to be a little bit like that, reading during lunch, occasionally during class, and in the hallways, then i just stopped because i could always read at home when i wasn't busy, or when the teacher assigns you to read a freechoice book. you cant force her to be social.. amazingly i have another similar story. theres this girl that draws ALL THE TIME. probably as much as you say this girl is reading. its freaky. and its all like anime/manga characters, and she reads alot of manga and watched alot of anime too. she has like no friends, and i over read her journal (we write journals during literacy) and the topic was like the funnest thing you did with your best friend, and her best friend was a comic book character! oh my god! crazy, huh. i tried to get to know her.. but shes just annoying so thats the end. dont get too worked up about it, when they wanna break out of their shell and be more social, they will. otherwise, let them continue in their quirky ways.
or i dunno.. talk to a school counselor that your concerned about her, and maybe she'll take it from there, and talk to Bert about her situation. i mean she really could be happy the way she was, like that crazy artist girl i told you about. i have no idea why.. i guess people have diff values. but you dont have to solve this girl out.. just focus on your life! have fun with the friends you wanna hang out with! you dont have to make big sacrifices like that, well unless you wanna break her out of her shell, but dont do it until she wants to do it, otherwise thats called PEER PRESSURE! haha
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Let your friend do what she wants. You can't tell her not to read. If she wants to read, then let her. You're no one to say when she can & cannot read. She'd actually be a little better off than you. Your grades might me better, but her vocabulary will weaken yours. Just talk to her about it and if she still does it, then get over it.
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maybe, you should give bert a taste of her own medicine i guess you could say...when she starts talking to you be like oh sorry im busy or be right back or something like that... maybe she will get the point ane respect you and you other friend more and realize that shes being rude. or... you could just say it right to her that u think shes rude about how she does that or even just find some new friends to hang with...when she finds out that she has no friend left maybe it will hit her that she should treat them right...hope i helped
-katie
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