about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

If I wanted to get tested for STDs (just to be safe) where would I go?

Your doctor, or Planned Parenthood.

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I need help on getting a proxy that isn't blocked to get on myspace at school, or anywhere that it is blocked. the only thing is, is that im always searching proxy lists but those sites are blocked too. it seems like everything is blocked at school, and i shouldn't complain but it seems unreasonable, ridiculous, and unneccesary. (sorry for spelling errors.) How do i create my own Proxy Site or whatever that my school won't know and wont block?

I tried some of the ones that Thew suggested, and they didn't work for me at school because the school blocked those too. I don't think you'll be able to get onto MySpace from school.

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A LOT of people at my school talk about how they always steal from hollister & abercrombie, all the time. they say they never get caught, i really don't think that it's a good idea, but i'm just wondering what are the chances of getting caught stealing at abercrombie or hollister, if you bring the clothes into the dressing room and rip off the tags and stuff them in your purse or whatever. thank you.

I don't suggest stealing from them because there could be a high chance of getting caught. Think about it, if you were to get things & walk into the dressing room with them & then walk out without them, wouldn't that be a little odd? That store is overpriced, yeah, but you still shouldn't steal because even if they are overpriced, stealing doesn't make it right. And besides, you wanna do it because of everyone else? Wow, how shallow. That's like saying you'd kill yourself if everyone else did. Start thinking for yourself sweetie, and buy your clothes.

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okay my best friend CR and i have been best friends since like 2nd grade and i tell her everything. Then in 8th grade i started taking seizure and i had good days and bad days and on a day bad i said alot of depressed stuff and she took it seriously and told my teacher and the whole school thouoght i was a wake job and i have to c a shrink now or i wont be let back in school. well ever since she told i didnt talk to her until like 2 weeks ago i said id try to look past it bc we have been friends forever. but how do i trust her again after what she did?

You've gotta talk to her about it. Your friend didn't do it for a bad reason. She did it with the intent & focus of helping you & getting you help. You honestly should be thanking her. She's saving your life & instead of appreciating the fact that she cares, you get mad.

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My boyfriend used to be a huge drugaddict. When we first started dating, I told him that if he started that stuff again I was done. It's been 7 months, and now he wants to get back into them. Things such as coke and heroine. I honestly love him to death, but it seems like hes choosing these things over me now. I have no clue what to do.

help please?

Get him help. If he doesn't take it, leave him. You can do better than drug addicts.

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my friend is going out with the guy i like and she knows i like him but i told her that i didnt like him but i told her i didnt so now i cant stand seeing them together help

You shouldn't have lied to her. This is your own fault.

Admit to her you lied.

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Okay,
So me and my bf have sex alot and just about everytime he cum's in me but if i dont cum can i still get preg.?

Uh yeah. If you don't use any type of birth control [the pill or a condom] then you have a high chance of getting pregnant.

It doesn't take an idiot to figure that out.

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okay so my friend..umm,bob[not really]tells me alot of things.if she tells me something about my friend fred[not really]thats like mean or something i tell fred what bob said.and i have no idea but i think bob is begining to know what im doing.i know its bad that im doing this:telling fred all the things that bob says nagitivly about her but i dont know,its just hard.we[me and fred]have been close for alot longing than me and bob have so i guess i just feel like i should tell her everything,including the things about her being mean or that bob just plain doesnt like her.and i want to agree with bob but at the same time i dont want to because of freds case.i know its gonna end bad.how do i change that from happening?.

This is tough.

If you don't tell Fred what Bob said, she's gonna get her feelings hurt, or she'll never find out. If you do tell, Bob is gonna get mad at you & call you a backstabber. Either way, you get shit on for what you do/don't do.

My suggestion would be to tell Bob that anything she has to say about Fred to say it to Fred instead of you. Tell her you refuse to get in the middle of it anymore because it's stressing you out with decisions & not knowing what you're supposed to do.

Whatever problems they have with each other, let them solve it. You shouldn't have to play monkey-in-the-middle because one of your friends can't be direct with her shit-talking.

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I need a good way to convince my mother to let me get my belly button peirced. Any one have any ideas on how I can help convince her? Oh, and if you had one how much did it hurt?

Tell your mother all the positives/negatives of the piercing. Tell her exactly why you want it, what you'll do for it, & that you'll be responsible of caring for it once you get it. It sounds like having a puppy, but the responsibility is necessary nonetheless.

Pain varies from person to person. No one person will have the same amount of pain as you. What hurts for you could tickle for another person & vice versa. So, I can't tell you exactly how much it would hurt for you. I don't know how you stand pain, and you don't know how I stand pain.

As for the place you get it done at, make sure they're clean. If they don't open the needles in front of you, and the needles are already laid out when you go in the back to get pierced, leave. It'll seem rude, but chances are that those needles are dirty & you can get an infection. I've heard of people getting Hepatitis because the piercer/tattoo artist used old needles that he used on someone else. Make sure they open everything in front of you, and explain everything to you. Such as what they're gonna do, what they're gonna use, what to do while they pierce you, & how to clean/take care of it. You also might like to search different places & ask them their prices & then compare them so you know where to go. =) Good luck.

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okay what are some fun things to to while making out? could range from using Poprocks to.. well anything. im open to anyyything. thanks ill take all the advice i can get!

Hahaha, I did the poprocks thing before. It was cool, try it out.

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okay me and my best friend lets just call him louie and i have been friends for 3 years but this year i started having feelings for him and one day we started ....cybering and then i told him i liked him (well i let my other friend tell him) and like the day after he found out we cybered again only the second time was more intense and we went a lot farther then we thought we would. the next day i didnt regret it but he IMed me and told me the only reason he did it was to c if id actually do it and i never felt more like a whore then that moment. Now we still talk like we use to but i cant forget it n he always likes to avoid the topic. what do i do? and whats worse is i dont like him nemore i just really REALLY want him.

what shuld i do?

So wait, I'm lost here. Did you guys actually have sex or did you "have sex" online? I'm lost.

If you actually had sex, then he was just in it for some ass. He's a jerk & he used you for his own pleasure & personal needs. Talk to him about it, even if he avoids the topic. Don't give up until you give answers.

If you did it over the computer, then play it off. It was over the computer, and it didn't really count. Just continue to be friends, but also let him know how you feel.

You're not a whore by the way.

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okay so at my school now, im kinda really quite and shy. and i really hate it becuase i want to be able to meet new people. i was fine with it because i had my best friends and stuff, but we got in a big fight. and its over for good. i was devistated... and i was so depressed and lonely... and i still am now. but im going to go to a new school next year and i need so advice on how to meet new friends.. and how to over come being shy... and stuff like that.

Join clubs & do sports. Put yourself out there. Say hi to everyone, even if you don't know them. People will talk to you though. They shouldn't just neglect you because you're new.

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When a guy fingers you or when you give him a handjob, do you still keep kissing while doing it or do you stop kissing?

It's up to you.

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Are there any ways to get herpes other than from sex?

Sure, it's a pretty simple question, but everywhere I go they only talk about the sexual side.

[Is this the only side?]

You can get it from oral too. Always use a condom.

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Okay, i am 13 years old and a girl.
My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago. Heres some background info:
On saturday night i went to my friend domoniques house with some other girls. and my ex wen to his friends house with some other boys. They live right across from eachother. So we went to go hang out with them, and as i went to say hi to him, he just rode down the driveway on the bike he was on. so i go to say hi agian with my friend domonique and he only says hi to her. So i keep trying to talk to him the whole night, but he doesnt answer. So i decide to forget bout it, because i thought he wuld talk to me wen hes readii or w/e. mayb he just wanted to be with his friends? well anyway..he was talking to domonique the whole night, convincing him to break up with me and making up lies that i called him a bad boyfriend.

so i call him sat. night nd his fones off, i call his friend because he was sleepin ova his house, and thy ignore my call the first time. i try again and he says that ryans[my ex] sleeping.
so i call again in the morning and hes lik yeah ill tell him you called.

i never get a call back. and i come online at night on sunday to find hes breaking up with me.
he said it was b/c he was sick of the way i was treating him, and i admit that i WAS kinda meen but when he told me how he felt i stopped instantly because i didnt wanna hurt him. that was a longg time ago too. and the other reason was...he couldnt find time. hes really serious about baseball and thats basically his life.

so we broke up sunday and talked for the first time last nite. and he said that he needed to find time. so i dont know if he meant that maybe we could go out in the future?

Well if we do i know its not going to be soon. but, he asked if we were frends so i was like yeah but im not going out of my way to talk to you, you broke up with me and as much as i wanna talk to you, thats up to you. and he was lik fine same here. but i think that he mite. he was online before but i was away but my a.m said still here; he was away too. so idk?

the main thing is
should i im him when he comes back on? or let him im me?

and i know you mite think im too young to be in love but i reallyyyy am....he was lik bragging in school but i dnt kno i just have a feeling he dosent mean it. and i just want to talk to him lik everythings ok.

and another thing...should i wait a little while for him? or try and start moving on?
i want to move on as in be ok with the fact that were not together, but i do want to go back out with him.

pleasee help me

Let him IM you. You tried to make things work, and you told him that you were there when he wanted to talk & he agreed. Like you said you weren't going to, don't go out of your way to talk to him. He broke up with you, remember? Give him space & time, and hopefully he'll come around.

I would suggest to wait a little while & if nothing happens, then forget about him & move on. If he doesn't wanna go back out, you can't make him be with you. Try finding someone else you could possibly be interested in.

If you guys ever do go back out. Be nicer to him. He loves/loved you & you treated him badly. He had every right to dump you. No offense.

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ok well i am 13 and i havent had my first kiss yet. well my boyfriend (who doesnt know that i havent had my first kiss) said that he was going to kiss me tomorrow. well i have no clue what to do. i mean i have heard that it is so much more than just tocking lips. i mean where do i put my hands? how close do i stand? do i open my mouth? do we french? please help!!!

thanks in advance

You've got nothing to worry about. Like everyone says, kissing comes super natural.

As for where you put your hands, wrap them around his waist, or hug him while you kiss. If you don't wanna open your mouth, then don't. Don't french if you don't want to, and stand as close as you want. Tell your boyfriend that it's your first kiss. I'm sure he won't mind & he'll be able to lead you.

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so i liked this guy(he will be called A)over the summer A told me he liked me and he would always say really sweet things (we never really talked on the phone all we did was txt) well one night A ask for some pics of my boobs so i give him the pics after he tlks me into it and just bout every night he asked for pics so i gave him the pic. he said how he wouldnt show anyone well when school starts i found out that he did show people. to make a long story short i still liked him after that and he knew it(we also messed around twcie after i found out bout the pics n stuff) so i think i am over him now. so i was talking to his friend (i will call him B) B asked for pics n i gave hime some after he talked me into it.i really like B alot and he said that we sould be special friends (like friends wit benifits)i really wanna tell B that i want a relationship cuz im tired of getting hurt but i dont wanna sound corny bout it u kno..if anyome has advice please give me some!!!

No offense, and I don't mean to be rude, but you should feel like a whore. You sent two different guys half nude pics & you weren't even dating them, and then after one of them showed people, you still contacted him.

Chances are this guy will do the same thing & neither of them are worth your time. Talk to a guy who will give you the respect you deserve & make you feel nothing less than what you are.

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Ok so i was just wondering...if we overdose on advil or something what will happen? and about how many do you have to take to get overdosed

You would need to take about 50-100 pills to die, and I don't suggest taking any because it's a bad idea.

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iam 18 years old and a 15 year old asked me out and was stupid enough to say yes becouse i don't know weather i can go to jail or not if iam an 18 year old girl can i go to jail for dating a 15 year old boy?

Only if you have sex with him.

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theres this guy in like almost all of my classes. He flirts with me a lot and teases me, (lol i seriousely just noticed that today) but you see he has a girlfriend. So why would he be flirting with me and giving me all of this attention?? I would just like to know why? Or a better question is why do guys do that even when they know they have someone already?

He probably likes you, or he's a player. Chances are he's a player.

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