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My boyfriend used to be a huge drugaddict. When we first started dating, I told him that if he started that stuff again I was done. It's been 7 months, and now he wants to get back into them. Things such as coke and heroine. I honestly love him to death, but it seems like hes choosing these things over me now. I have no clue what to do.
help please?
<3Katie<3
16/f hes 18/m
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Set him straight.
Let him know you're not comfortable at all with him doing ANY drugs and that if he does start it again either a] the relationships over even though you love him or b] you're going to get him help from a professional.
Both ways will be hard but it will be better for yourself and him in the long run.
Good luck.
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I think you should dump him and move on. He's not someone you want to associate yourself with, esp. since he's doing illegal things. If he wants to do drugs and ruin his life, there's not much you can do about it.
If he really cared for you, he wouldn't do the drugs if you said you would break up with him. He will only cause you trouble. If you stay with him, there's a chance he could get caught with the drugs and if you're with him, guess what? You go to jail. Do you really want that?
Remind your boyfriend that he stopped using drugs once and you love him for it. If he starts back up, there's no reason for you to stay with him.
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Before you just go and dump him if you really love him as much as you say try to get him more help first. if he refuses to go for it.give him the altumation (sorry about the spelling). tell him he goes for help or he loses you.
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Sorry for being an ass, but I'm going to be honest.
Unless if he lied to you and was never broke the addiction, I don't see why he would want to do them.
he's already quit hard drugs, why go back into them? Unless of course he is a self destructive idiot; and hopefully natural selection will take care of him.
It will hurt you to break up with him, but you'll get over it over time and you'll be stronger. however if you choose to stay with him, staying with him as he hurts himself is only going to hurt AND SCAR you more than it would to dump him.
Don't be dragged down with his stupidity, make the smart decision.
Good luck.
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set him straight!. say wat you have said before tell him: "remember if you start this stuff again, we are done. it me or them!"
hope i helped ♥
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I would speak to your parents and be honest about your boyfriend's past and that he is beginning to slip back into that old behavior. See if they can contact his friends, family and meet together and encourage him to seek help.
Tell him you intend to be his friend and someone who can help him but that you're someone of your word and cannot and will not date him until such times as he gets help and stays away from drugs.
You have to break it off as it's not a safe situation for either of you. If you love him you'll break it off, be his friend and stage some kind of intervention where the people he loves try and get him help and support.
You don't want any part of an addict's lifestyle or cocaine and heroin addicton in your experience or to be dating someone who is sliding into the abyss. It's very traumatic and dangerous for you both.
Tell your parents the truth, break the romance off and let him know you're always there for him if he needs support as is your family. It's just not right for him to expect watch someone you love self-destruct. It's a hard line to take but you have to.
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Get him help. If he doesn't take it, leave him. You can do better than drug addicts.
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well i think maybe he should get some help maybeb u can take him to meetings or whatever and if he refuses to go then id ask him to choose u or drugs n if he chooses drugs id leave because maybe thats the best thing you could do for him
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