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Q: it's my freshman year of college and i'm taking general chemistry. the class is made up of a mix of sopomores and freshman, and i think there's a few juniors in there.

my lab partner is a sophomore. but she has no idea what she's doing. granted, sometimes i'm not much more competent, but i do have the general ideas down. on the last test, she got the lowest score in the class (while i was just below the class average). she always wants to get together to do our homework together and always call and texts me for help.

is it rude of me to not want to help or give her the answers? it's just getting really annoying. i barely have time to do my own work, let alone explain it all to her. i feel like it's hurting my grade because i'm always helping her and explaining things to her and i don't even have time to do my own work. anyone have any advice on what i should do?

You should tell her to get a tutor. Your college may offer tutoring services. Just explain how you're a freshman and this is a crucial year for you and that you don't know the material that well either to help her out. If she calls, just tell her sorry but you are busy doing some other work. Or if you really want a quick way out, refer her to someone else. I know how you feel. I'm actually in a similarish situation.. but no she is being rude because if she is not catching up that fast with the rest of the class, she should seek extra outside help with a teacher instead of dragging you down. You're a tutor there. There should be other people there to help. She could also form a study group with other people. Good luck.

Q: How important to colleges is volunteer work?

You need to do at least some.. depending. If you are already outstanding in sports, music, art, or some other extracurricular then don't worry about it.

Q: I want to become a scene girl. I've seen scene girls and guys all over the place lately and I really like the style. My mom said she will take me to get a scene haircut and dye job soon if I really want to become a scene girl.

I want to be scene like Kiki Kannibal, Audrey Kitching (Twigg Violence), Dani Gore, Dakota Rose, Jac Vanek, Jesse Cupcake, Sarah SCream, Holly Horror, Hanna Beth, Zui Suicide, Raquel Reed, Dana Killer, Lizz Mohin, Sommer Ata, Tara Mason, Rainbow Kittie, Molly Steele, Danielle Fidelity, Clementine Suicide, Aida Kamikaze, Ashlee Lauren, Lindyfu, Alaina Beaton, Brittany Kramer, and even Lexi Lush.

I definately do not want to look like a drag scene queen though! I am a girl and I definately want to look like a girl and not like a boy-dressed-as-a-girl! So I want to steer away from the drag scene queen styles of Jeffree Star, Izzy Hilton, and Hilary Haywire.

Can anyone give me tips on how to become scene?
Should I start having people call me by a name that is more scene like some of the above mentioned (Hilary Haywire, Holly Horror, Sarah SCream, Kiki Kannibal, etc.)?

Take tips from Urban Dictionary. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=scene

Q: We're 3 girls, we love creativity! We need something that we can go as a group, and possibly make our own outfits if we don't run out of time. But we're not limited to just making our outfits. We're willing to go out and buying them if it's a really unique idea. We don't wanna do anything like Charlie's Angels, etc. Something really creative, not many people have done!!

You guys could go as different eras/decades in time. For example, someone can be a Flapper from the '20s, or a punk or hippie from the 60's and 70's. The 80's were horrible lol like aerobic dance instructor wear but that could be fun to dress up.

Q: i'm 14 years old and COMPLETELY FLAT-CHESTED.
every every every one of my friends and people i know my age has at least started to get boobs and i haven't.
i'm so sick of it.
i'm so flat.
people keep saying it's normal, and that i should just be happy and "everyone develops at different rates."

well it sure doesn't seem normal. everywhere i look EVERYONE my age (unless there's something wrong with them) has boobs. at least a little.

p.s.: i'm small and i haven't started my period yet. does that mean anything?

People are right.. you may be a late bloomer. Don't worry. You will get boobs by the time you are sixteen probably. Look at your mother and grandmother to determine your approximate breast size. Ask them when puberty started for them.

Q: i love books like TTYl, the boy book, and the boyfriend list.. does anyone have any book reccomendations for me? thanks :)

You mean like Chick Lit? Anything by Meg Cabot, Sophia Kinsella,Jennifer Weiner, Sarah Dessen. They have too many books to list and they're all fun to read.

Q:
"grandiose"

...how do you pronounce that word?

haha

In the future, just look words and their pronounciation up at http://encarta.msn.com/

Q: so I am 15 and I do not have a job at all. my parents are broke right now. I really want to have my own money to spend for presents for them. I would like to know any ways we could raise money before christmas. do you know of anystores that would let you sell candy in the front? what do you think will attract people. Halloween and thanksgiving are coming soon..can you think of any good fundraisers i could do involving that?

You can also go door-to-door selling candy, flowers, etc.

Q: what's is a good drum set for a rockband. I don't wantto buy a sucky one. Like maybe one from ebay but i would just want to know what a good one would be.

Pearl makes the best drum sets. Or Sonor, Ludwig, Yamaha, Slingerland, Gretsch, and Pacific are pretty good.

Q: When a couple goes to the movies, how would be best to sit if u wanted to finger or to feel up or makeout?

In the back, the last row on top.. in the dark, dark corners not the middle.

Q: when me and my boyfriend makeout, its always regular kissing with a bit of french. what can we do to change it up a bit?

Lookie here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=529020

Q: Ok so im have a b-day party this saturday and i need some help. i have some movie ideas but i want some backup's. i want to watch scary movies and when i say scary i mean extremely scary i can never find a movie that is scary. the 8 horror films to die for are not scary at all and i just really want a good scary movie. so just give me whatever you can think of thanks for the help in advance

I thought the movie The Cell was creepy scary. Not like a traditional horror film scary but it freaked me the crap out.

These are the genres the movie belongs to: Crime | Drama | Fantasy | Horror | Sci-Fi | Thriller

Here's the synopsis:

Catharine Deane is a psychotherapist who is part of a revolutionary new treatment which allows her mind to literally enter the mind of her patients. Her experience in this method takes an unexpected turn when an FBI agent comes to ask for a desperate favour. They had just tracked down a notorious serial killer, Carl Stargher, whose MO is to abduct women one at a time and place them in a secret area where they are kept for about 40 hours until they are slowly drowned. Unfortunately, the killer has fallen into an irreversible coma which means he cannot confess where he has taken his latest victim before she dies. Now, Catherine Deane must race against time to explore the twisted mind of the killer to get the information she needs, but Stargher's damaged personality poses dangers that threaten to overwhelm her.

Q: Just wondering what some peoples goals are. some things you would like to do before you die.Your dreams.

- Skydive
- Learn how to cook
- Learn French
- Travel to at least each continent
- Read entire works of Shakespeare

There's a movie about a list of things to do before one dies called The Bucket List. Here's what was on it:

The "Bucket List"

1. Witness something truly majestic
2. Help a complete stranger for a common good
3. Laugh till I cry
4. Drive a Shelby Mustang
5. Kiss the most beautiful girl in the world
6. Get a tattoo
7. Skydiving
8. Visit Stonehenge
9. Spend a week at Louvre
10. See Rome
11. See the pyramids
12. Get back in touch (previously "Hunt the big cat")

Q: ok so i am really addicted to mountain dew. so i thought maybe i'd be a bottle of it for halloween, cause i'm kinda random like that. i REALLY don't have a lot of time on my hands, so does anyone know of an EASY, cheap way to make this that won't take up too much time?

Haha cute costume idea!

The answer below is good but if you want another alternative, here is something a little different:

Head: Cap (just a square white hat)
http://www.lynchs.com/images/1895.jpg
^ Like in the photo above without the brim.

Face: Green face paint.

Torso: Wear a green long-sleeved tight shirt and on top a green shirt with the logo screenprinted on so that it wraps around you. This is if you're really pressed for time. Or do something like the below:
http://www.killercoke.org/rbccan.jpg
http://www.komar.org/bbq/bbq_grill_recipes/mcdonald-french-fries/coke-can.jpg
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/34/69589022_86b8c08251.jpg?v=0
http://www.thriftyfun.com/images/feedback_image.lasso?id=54785324

Legs: Wear green tights.

Feet: Green fuzzy shoes (that'd be so cute).

Q: I never really had a problem with public speaking, only the typical slight nervousness before i would go up and speak. But lately ive been having real problems with going up infront of a group of people and speaking. the last three times i did it, i started sweating, and feeling fain, very similarly to an anxiety attack. Now im becoming anxious that next time i public speak this is going to happen again. Is their anything i can do to be less nervous?

There's actually a phobia for public speaking.

Whenever I have to talk in public, my throat gets caught and I shake. Even if it's something as simple as just answering a question in a class.

If you really have a fear, then you should get help for that.

If it's just plain butterflies, just make sure you know the material down cold and get lots of practice in front of a "pretend" audience. Look above people's heads if you must when you're presenting if eye contact scares you.

Q: does anyone know of the best vitamin\mineral for, mental health?...

like protein is good, but what else is good?

thanks.

Not sure if you want to know the exact vitamins or just want to improve your health.

Omega 3 Fatty Acids. (fish oil supplement pills)

You need all kinds of vitamins and minerals for mental health in moderation.

Just pop in a Centrum daily and get eat many vegetables and fruits in different colors for good nutrition. (a rainbow of veggies and fruits)

Q: I'm making a "birthday food package" for my boyfriend containing things to eat throughout the whole day.

im putting his favorite cupcakes, cookies, junk food cereal, candy

what else??

In the center, have one of those birthday cakes with an edible pictures on it. With your photo. Haha he can eat you up. =]

Q: ok wellll for halloween i want to have a really slutty costume so i was wondering if any one had ideas? im going to a party with my bf and im gonna dress really slutty hehehe. thanks!!

Yeah you can make anything slutty.

Some popular ones:

- Zombie Cheerleader
- Nurse
- Policewoman
- Cowgirl
- Bunny

to name a few.

Q: i have a lot of anger from drama and stress and relationships in my life. i was thinking about taking up something like boxing for an outlet but i hate violence lol and i would never be able to hit someone. so i was wondering if anyone knows about any classes or something like boxing ect that allows you to hit?im 19 if it helps/ female

Kickboxing!

Q: Hi I was wondering if any of you knew any good romance movies? Some of my favorites are Crazy/Beautiful and the Holiday.If you know of any like that please let me know? Thank you!

Not repeating previous answers, also Pride and Prejudice, Becoming Jane.

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