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my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/

Say no.

He doesn't accept that? Well unfortunately, that means he doesn't accept you. It would be best to break off the relationship.

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Hey, I am 14/f and currently in grade 9.

When i made the transition from middle school to high school, i hardly knew anyone. Now, i know more people, and more comfortable. I am a really niice girl, smart and pretty. It took me a whole to realise it but i finally did. I'm pretty, but not like other girls. I have a huge nose, which takes up most my face. The other girls look so perfect. I have learned to work with it, and try to beautify myself more. Now, i do look pretty but not the way guys would want. And another thing. Im different. I am not like the other girls at my school. I am really smart, respectful to everyone and all the teachers, and i do not have a rep as a whore or anything. I seem like a nerd to people, and whatever i am fine with that, but these people cant accept me being different. I choose to stand out and not to drugs and be slutty. I choose not to give adtitude to my teacher and ive grown up to be respectful to everyone. But really, i seem like your average girl, i dress normally, i look normal, and i act like any other teenage girl. I just really need help though. The guys at my school make me feel ugly. They make me feel like I'm lower then them. They make me feel like waste, like im not "cool" enough. Just because I am not the skinnest, preetiest girl (in their eyes) they make me feel invisible. An example would be today. We were in class and a girl was sitting in front of me, talking to me. This guy that im somewhat close with, was leaving so he was bye and kissed her (RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE) and then turned to me, and patted me on the head. I was so frustrated over that because he made me feel so disgusting. Also, i like starting conversations with people and talking to them, so i usually strike up a convo with some cute guys in my class, and they usually just walk out of the conversation when saying one word or just act like they dont have time to talk to me or anything. It makes me feel useless, but i know im not. This is really irritating because i know i have something to offer, but the guys just look at the other (PRETTIER) girls and make me feel like crap. I know, this is only grade 9 and guys will change, but its lowering my self-esteem right now. I am smart and i've learned to only pay attention to those who matter, and mean something to me in my life but this has just gone too far.

Wow, you sound like me. Like a lot. I think we should start a club! I know exactly how you feel.

Anyway, one day there will be a guy who will like you for you. You probably understand this, and currently, you probably don't care. You want a guy now. We all do. But when a guy comes along that changes your mind about all the others, you realize it's worth the wait. You're probably too mature for the guys who are in your grade anyway, because you see past superficial things.

However, there probably is someone who likes you. You just don't see it. They are either too shy or they're dropping hints, but you're too busy looking at someone else. If you're as smart as you sound, and pretty too, there is definately someone out there who likes you.

Now, if you're sure no one likes you whatsoever, and you really don't want to wait, because hey, waiting only gets you so far, put yourself out there. Join a new club, take up a new hobby, strike up a conversation with an attractive guy at the mall, ask friends if they have any single friends they can set you up with, ect. Remember though: don't get too disheartened if this doesn't work.

Bottom line: Everybody loves somebody sometimes. And your sometime will come when fate wants it to.

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which channel is the superbowl on and when does it come on? thanks!

This is a little late, but it came on channel 5 at 6:00.

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what the hell do you tell someone when they ask you "whats up"



i hate saying "nothing much" coz thats all i say everyitme and i am TIREd of it

Here's a crazy idea:

Tell them what's actually going on in your life.

I mean, I feel so stupid saying nothing sometimes when obviously, something is going on. I'm not THAT boring. So, yeah, tell the person what you're doing.

OR:

Saying the sky/ceiling/stars/moons/spaceships and laugh afterwards as if it's the funniest thing you've ever heard.

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whats so great about the superbowl?

It's basically the championship for football, and us Americans seem to love football. Other than that, I can't see why it's so amazing. (I'm one of the people that just watch the half time show :]).

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i heard that if you count the days from your period and have sex on a specific day then you cannot get pregnant because there is no egg in there to fertilise...if so how do you do this?
thanx

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/fertility-awareness-based-methods.htm

This basically explains it.

It really is not a suffiecent means of birth control. Sperm can live in the vagina up to several days so you can still get pregnant. Use a condom everytime to be safe.

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http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3H-206107&page=1&cgname=OSBDYLOIZZZ&rfnbr=2552&pn=false
i love the way that smells.
if any of you know how it smells and you like it, what other lotions or perfumes (from any where, a price under $50)do you like?
thanks oxox

I'm kinda cheap, so I mostly buy the scents from Bath and Body Works. Nevertheless, they smell great! They are generally about $10 for the body spray or $30 for the eau de toilet (perfume). My favorite scent is Sensual Amber. Other scents that smell really good are Wild Honeysuckle, Pinkgrape Fruit, and Moonlight Path. Anything from Victoria's Secret usually smells really good too.

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15 f
i am very stressed out about everything in my life right now and im just sick of it i dont know how to stop caring about what other people say about me behind my back and i cant help but try to make everything i do be perfect so that people wont have a reason to talk but i just cant keep doing this stress has taken over me and its caused me to have really low self esteem ever since i reached the age of 13 all ive been worrying about is what others have to say is there anything i could do to build up my self esteem? and stop stressing?

OK this is going to sound completely ridiculous, but it really works. Sit in front of a mirror and write down everything you like about yourself, physically and mentally. Everyday, or just whenever you feel down, read over it. Furthermore, from now on whenever you look in the mirror say one positive thing about yourself.

To stop stressing, keep yourself occupied. Join a new club or take up a new hobby. It will help.

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Guys and girls awnser plz!If a guy asks if you have a boy friend or not, dose that means he's interested?like i was talking to this a guy that i know on msn and he was like "soo do u have a bf?"It was so random... it had nothing to do with the conversation...

He could just be wondering, but he is most likely interested.

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i know this is kind of stupid. but if a guy asks you to have coffee with him would it be called a date? i've only been friends with him for less than a week, he's a nice guy but he doesn't make me laugh and he's not my type. should i say yes to someone like that?

It could really go either way. It may be romantic, it may not be. Unless he specifically calls it a date you probably won't know until you actually go get coffee with him. You should give him a shot since you don't know him very well. He could be different than you think he is.

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(For a health project)

Which common illegal drugs are injected directly into the bloodstream?

Heroin and morphine are the most common illegal drugs that can be injected into the blood stream. Surprisingly, amphetamines and cocaine can be mixed into a liquid and injected into the bloodstream aswell. (I just did a health project on drugs too).

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people keep calling me with numbers that idk and i don't wanna call them back so i was wondering if there is any FREE way to type in a phone number into yellow pages or something and see who it belongs to? I've tried googling it but they all costed money

http://www.whitepages.com/5116

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Has anyone ever seen this workout where you lay on your stomach and lift your arms out infront of you and lift your legs up at the same time?

Does anyone know the name of it and what areas it targets? I know it targets your butt but is it for your back also or no?

It is called the superman. It targets butt, abs, and back.

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im looking for songs on these topics
i like everything but rap
although i prefer indie,alternative,rock,punk and even pop punk

but whatevers fine

-losing your best friend

-your first time

-you likesomeone who likes your bestfriend


-really good break up songs with good meaning

for both you breaking up with them

and them breaking up with you

-rape


whatecer you can do,id appricate

:]]

As WoahThereBabe said, Tattoo by Jordin Sparks is a great song for many of these. I've actually been listening to it all day =].

Others:
When You're Gone by Avril Lavigne
Bruised by Jack's Mannequin
Mr. Pitiful by Matt Costa
Karma Police by Radiohead
White Houses by Vanessa Carlton

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I am 14/f and i really want some pretty bras and underwear. the pretty fancy kind. mine r just regular and plain. my friends all have pretty ones too and i would just be really happy if i could have some. i also have a boyfriend tho and i dont want them for him-im not taking him anywhere right now haha so i dont want my mom getting the wrong idea plus i just dont know how in the world to tell her. and i want ones like from Victoria's Secret but my mom might think it innapropriate and uneccesary for a 14 yr old girl to shop there. Anywhere else i could go? Sometimes i get cute ones from Kohl's but most of the time my mom gets some for me. I need a bigger cup anyway tho so we are probably going to go buy some. i just need to know what to say. thanx so much :]

Something as simple as "Mom can I get some cute underwear?" would work. You have to remember: it's really just underwear. It's no big deal. Your mom probably wanted to wear cute underwear in her day too.

Stores with cute underwear: Victoria's Secret, Wet Seal, Forever 21

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when you are answering a question...how do you take like that part of google where its not a link, but you can actually type in your search...and it says

google___________________search

thanks!

[ search ]whatever you like here[ / search ].

Without the spaces (obviously, leave in the spaces between the words you are searching.

EDIT: Because I don't read other answers before answering. And there's only one answer to your question.

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ok so i'm 19/f
and i am addicted to porn...... i knw it sounds gross... but i can't seem to get off anymore..... no matter what... i reach climax and all but it's not the same....

how do i get rid of this addiction and get that "flare" back!


--embarrassed

Having a porn addiction is actually serious. Doctors say it's just as bad as being addicted to drugs or alcohol. You need to get a specialist to help you. Search around on google for support groups.

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Whats are the best exercises to get rid of fat on your inner thighs!? i do lunges but they dont seem to work..

You get target fat loss. Fat comes off all your body, not in specific areas. Do cardio and you will loose total body fat (ex: jogging, bicycling, ect.) To get muscle, lunges will work, and jogging will too.

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There's a guy that I'm growing 'attached' to, and we talk in the halls, joke around, around each other all the time, ect. I asked one of the StuCo people whether the dance was sadie hawkins style, or traditional [boys ask girls]. They said it could be both. Would it be weird if I asked this guy to go to the dance with me [I plan on bringing it up casually, obviously not gonna make a big deal out of it.] I asked one of my other guy friends whether they thought it would be weird, and they said that it wouldn't be..

What do you think?

It's not weird at all! It's the 21st century, girls can ask guys out! Guys like it when a girl is able to take the iniative to ask them out. Go for it.

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Hey,
I got an inbox saying something was "trippy". Do you know what this means?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=trippy

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