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Q: All of my boyfriend's friends tell me I'm ugly and he can do so much better than me. What are some ways I can improve the way I look? I just don't think I look pretty.

here are a couple of pictures of me (my hair isn't blonde and brown anymore it's dark brown/auburn)

http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=DSC00108.jpg

http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=l_77a2cb1b3f4578957a051490d299f973.jpg

Those are the only pictures I have that you can really see my face

I honestly do NOT think you need to change anything. You are pretty. Your boyfriend is still with you, right? Well if he is then he doesn`t care how you look, you shouldn`t change for his friends, if he likes who you are. Your probably going to be like i asked this question for you to help me out, but there is nothing to help you out with, you are gorgous.

Q: turned 13 recently. my mom and i do not get along at all anymore. she hates my friends music clothes me and just how i act. my friends are all i love not my family not my mom not my cousins nothing and nobody else. so my mom makes fun of my friends and says everything she thinks is wrong with them and how they dress and all about them. then i try to get her to stop she talks over me so i cant say anything then i yell then she yells then im grounded. then she says 'o i dont care what you do do whatever you want' then i do then a little while later she get even madder about it. everything i wear that is red purple black brown she gets mad and yells till i change. my jewelry she tells me to take it off then the next day after school its gone she takes my stuff. she tells me to burn things that I like and I wear. im screaming and crying more than ever. but when im around my friends im fine. their gothic their parents let them wear what they want. i cant even get the side bangs. my friend had them and died her hair redish brown it even mainly looks brown its not bad at all. her parents let her. shes having confirmation soon even. i told my mom then she starts saying thats stupid her parents are wrong for letting her do that thats just sick. WTF! why does it matter! now its to the point i have to hide my music i add songs i hate in a folder like glamorous and stuff like that then a folder for the music i like like evanescence and the used and stuff like that and i erased the names on all of them their just numbered. last time she heard it she freaked out yelling at me. then i hide my jewelry in a locked box saying pictures and when id go somewhere i would put some in my purse then wear it on later. my friends say me cry for the first time yesterday. they know about my mom so they came over wearing preppy junk and tried acting different for me so my mom would leave me and them alone. my mom said clothes doesnt make a person. so they said ya so why does it matter its just clothes. my mom said but MY clothes do matter. so all the yelling in my life is for nothing because clothes dont matter. but its who i am its what i like its my body not hers. gothic is another stereotype just like preppy is. my brother is preppy so he gets all he wants. my mom is trying to change me she wants me to dress like a slut all the clothes she gets for me. my Best friend is a guy which can never ever comeover hes even a prep. everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school. i can cut my hair it wouldnt help i could cut my wrists just might again deep id be quicker. but im guessing my moms rule is NO friends fun or freedom. ive been going trough this for about 2 years she will not budge i will not either. i will never give up. i tell her all this like one thing everyday till im sent to my room then refuse then get grounded. if she yells ill yell i even told her that. i act calm she yells then i do. i say how prep and goth are both just stereotypes how their just names and how she gives him everything because its a different name. i go through too much for anyone to go through. i only act tough because id be dead 2 years ago if i didnt. i cant get a therepist or even talk to my mom or write what else is there to do before i die and shell never even care. there is no way of ''kindly'' doing anything to her she just wont let me.

oh wow, i am so sorry. that is way to tough to figure out what to do. it`s wrong for your mom to judge you for what you wear. the thing about a "goth", "prepy", and what not, is that "goths" are considered bad like they are bad influence and they do bad things like drink, smoke, do drugs and stuff. a "prepy" person is considered more of a better person by the way they dress and stuff. i don`t think that that`s how it is though. i think that`s why your mom is on your case all the time. she probably thinks you`ll go do something stupid and doesn`t want you to.
since you can`t talk to her about it i`m not sure what else there is to do. but don`t hurt your self it isn`t worth it trust me. also maybe you could see a counseler in school and talk to them about it, or an adult. hope i helped at all.

Q: What should I do ?

carmex, is the best

Q: what are some waysss to know that a guy likes you? like cluess and stuff? thanx

Well when a guy flirts it`s really easy to relize it. He will talk to you a lot and kinda mess around with you. Sometimes guys will act so diffrent around you then they do around other girls. So when a guy is very friendly it could mean he likes you, but it might not always mean that though. I dono if i helped much.

& thank you :)

Q: does anyone know a song about a girl who likes a guy but doesn't even know his name?

thanks.

xox

There is a song with P. diddy and Christina Aguilera. It has somehting to do with what you're looking for.

Q: i think my friend lucy might like my other friend jessica's ex, or jessica's ex might like her or both. theyre both (jessica & lucy) my good friends. the thing is, jessica and this guy broke up a year ago but she just cant get over him ): i feel bad for her and i wish she could find a guy that deserved her. i know if lucy and this guy end up going out, jessica will come to me to try and talk about it. jessica already has told me about seeing them in the hallway together or something so she thinks they like eachother (dont ask me why). she always thinks all these girls and her ex are gonna go out and they never end up going out but it really gets her down. whenver lucy tells me stuff ab this guy, i dont tell jessica bc i wouldnt betray lucy. i dont want to betray either jessica or lucy though. what should i do? should i try and help jess find a new guy? what should i say when jessica says stuff to me about how she thinks lucy and this guy like each other?

Well, tell her she can`t do anything about him dating someone else they are over and done with so she cant do anything about it. As some people may say things happen for a reason and they aren`t meant to be sence they broke up a year ago so that means there is a guy out there for her. She hasn`t found him yet but she will. It takes time to get over someone but she just needs to try, tell her to go out and talk to new guys and tell her not to mind on what he does because it wont help anything. Also if the guy likes Lucy tell her you can never be sure they could be just friends. I dono what you can do with th whole thing when they both talk to you but just keep their stuff awayfrom eachother so it doesnt become a whole mess and your gonna part of it so that wont be good.

Q: is it okay for me to like a 9th grader and im a 10th grader? hes so hot and like hes a quiet kid and i really wanna talk to him i see him in the hallways and i saw his myspace i wanna add him too and i dont have any classes with him tho :[

Yes, it`s absolutly fine. I had a friend that dated a guy that was in 8th grade and she was in 10th. Don`t worry about it do what you want and if anyone says anything egnore them, what do people know anyways if you really love him go for it :].

Q: I am really concerned about my grades but i dont have a lot of time to study because i have extra activities, should I drop some or what?

By drop some do you mean the extra activities? well I hope you meant that, well yes you should because school is more important that the after school activity.

Q: There is a boy at my school and everyone fancies him but I go out with him and all he does at playtime is play with all the other girls, and he does'nt bother coming anywhere near me even when he sees me sat alone what should I do?

Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel about him talking to other girls and stuff like that. It`s all about talking toyour boyfriend when it comes to relationships.

Q:

I have a huge crush and he doesnt feel the same but I really want to be closer friends anyway. He doesnt like going places where he's the only guy so it has to be a group thing. What do you think we should do? I always thought of me having a holiday party and having a sevcret santa and "secretly" giving him me.He also loves the jets so I thought a couple of friends and I could go to the game. I really want something fun that can show him that i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl. Any suggestions? Movies, Jet Game, ANYTHING? Also tips on how to act when we're together so I'm not annoying but I'm cute...

Well movies are always fun to go to, whatch some movie you both would be interested in. Don`t try too hard or anything just play it cool but flirt around and stuff so he gets the hint that you like him. Hope i helped.

Q: hey i need some quote pages where i can find things to go in my profile

heres some examples...

RECIPE FOR DRAMA
1 cup of gossip
1/4 tablespoon of rumors
&& a dash of jealousy

god made us best friends 'cause no mom could handle us as sisters

tmobile is jealous because my sidekicks are better

quotes like that

i rate for good websites =]

http://www.xanga.com/x3YourOnlyOnex3

that`s a great site to get quotes, i use it all the time. if you look at her subscriptions there are whole lot of other sites.

Q: 15/F

My neighbor he is about to turn 18 in October we used to be friends as babies, toddlers and kids but we became distant around the age of 9 and never really talked again i became pudgy and didn't want to face boys! and i don't know if he felt i was ignoring him but now 6 years later i am thin and confident around boys and i want to build a friendship with him now but i think I'm doing everything wrong, I don't really think I'm being obvious that i have interest in him but my Mom thinks i am but i try and be outside to finally say Hello on my own without my dad saying hi first or whatever it would feel like a big Accomplishment! but i feel maybe i am being to desperate! he likes to listen to loud music so i get in my moms car and put the radio loud and look over to his house to see maybe he's coming but play it cool I mean he doesn't even look at me! So I don't think he noticed I was looking that way! or doing it on purpose.
Like today, i had just gotten back home and like 5 min later here he comes in his car and i get out and my Mom puts the music loud! and i go to the mail box and get the mail and he does the same thing but when he was walking to the mail box he looks down and turns his back against me and ignores me! and i feel maybe he hates me! or is just shy? And he sees I'm out there but doesn't say anything! and looks the other way we've had a few moments lol. Once i was in the car going down the street and he was leaving and he looked right at me and was smirking and i just grinned and looked at him too! and then one time where i was leaving and he just pulled in and he looked at the car and almost tripped getting out fast and i smiled! but he always looks dumb struck! but doesn't say anything and i don't know what to do?? Maybe he's getting the wrong impression? that i don't want to be his friend but something more?
What would you do if you were me? Want to build a friendship again with somebody you used to be friends with but hasn't talked to in person in years?
He is a Scorpio Zodiac and he's really good looking.
But he says Hello to my Dad and Sister but not to me?

you sent the same question twice lol.

Q: Hello xOx_BRUN3TT3_xOx,
I'm Ashley, Female , 15 years old from Florida.

My neighbor he is about to turn 18 in October we used to be friends as babies, toddlers and kids but we became distant around the age of 9 and never really talked again i became pudgy and didn't want to face boys! and i don't know if he felt i was ignoring him but now 6 years later i am thin and confident around boys and i want to build a friendship with him now but i think I'm doing everything wrong, I don't really think I'm being obvious that i have interest in him but my Mom thinks i am but i try and be outside to finally say Hello on my own without my dad saying hi first or whatever it would feel like a big Accomplishment! but i feel maybe i am being to desperate! he likes to listen to loud music so i get in my moms car and put the radio loud and look over to his house to see maybe he's coming but play it cool I mean he doesn't even look at me! So I don't think he noticed I was looking that way! or doing it on purpose.
Like today, i had just gotten back home and like 5 min later here he comes in his car and i get out and my Mom puts the music loud! and i go to the mail box and get the mail and he does the same thing but when he was walking to the mail box he looks down and turns his back against me and ignores me! and i feel maybe he hates me! or is just shy? And he sees I'm out there but doesn't say anything! and looks the other way we've had a few moments lol. Once i was in the car going down the street and he was leaving and he looked right at me and was smirking and i just grinned and looked at him too! and then one time where i was leaving and he just pulled in and he looked at the car and almost tripped getting out fast and i smiled! but he always looks dumb struck! but doesn't say anything and i don't know what to do?? Maybe he's getting the wrong impression? that i don't want to be his friend but something more?
What would you do if you were me? Want to build a friendship again with somebody you used to be friends with but hasn't talked to in person in years?
He is a Scorpio Zodiac and he's really good looking.
But he says Hello to my Dad and Sister but not to me?

PLEASE HELP ME?

And i hope you understand what i am telling you! if you don't let me know thank you.

Oh i understand what your saying lol.

Well if i was in your situation, i would just simply go up to him and say hi and be like wow i haven`t talked to you in so long how are you? Or be like wow we should hang out and catch up on the years we haven`t talked, and maybe bring up a moment from your past that you guys can talk about or laugh about. Just be confident and say hi and talk to the guy. Maybe the reason why he hasn`t said hi is because you haven`t said anything so just start talking to him and see what happends. :] Hope i helped at all and let me know what happens. :]

Q: haow many dates do you go on befroe you can call yourseves boyfriend and girlfriend?

It depends on the two people. You have to decide with the person weather you guys are dating or not.

Q: heyhey
my name is aimee and im a female (of corse lol) and i am 14.
anyway theres this guy i reli like who has been in my classes since about grade 3, i have liked him for years, n now my new bestfriend i just made, which is really awsome likes him 2. my friend is way pritter than me and im scared that if he goes out with her, i might get really jelous and lose her. but its not only her that ill lose. please help me out it will mean alot to me if u do. "thanx" love always aimee.

I`m sorry it took so long to answer your question. Well first off does your friend know that you like that guy? If she does then you guys need to relize your friendship is more imortant then any guy.

Q: what does "popped your cherry" mean>?

First time you have sex, your cherry pops; meaning some bloode will start to come out, but not a lot though. Hope that helped.

Q: what is the movie, "the exsocisum of emily rose" rated? thanks

It`s PG 13.

Q: can yoga help me lose weight??

Yes it will, but do some other exercises along with yoga. :)

Q: hey my crush an i e-mail a lot, and he never sent me an email on my birthday yesterday..
so i dont wanna seem like a dominant chick, but i still wanna remind him that he forgot it!
so is there a kinda funny way to let him know..that will make it less like im yelling at him or what not.. like anyway of saying in a humorous way that "duude you forgot my birthday!!"

thank you for your replies.