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Q: (13/girl)
I really like my best friend. I've liked him for almost 5 years now... its starting to get unhealthy. Like i think about him 24/7. We've gone out once, but we broke up. Well this year is different. When he found out i still like him he started treating me like i wasnt his friend. It rly hurts me that he does that. more than i want him to go out with me i want him to be my best friend again... Wat should i do? Plz post this!

I'm sorry it took forever to reply i haven't been on here for awhile. I think you should tell your friend how you feel about all of this. Maybe he'll change the way he treats you.

Q: Hi. My name is Daphne. I am 11 years old. Ever since the first day of school I have been majorly crushing hard on a guy named Dallas. 2 of my friends, Olivia and Bella, like him too. Bella just thinks he is cute but Olivia gets mad at me if I say I like him. We just had a Halloween Dance last night. He was going to ask me to dance, but I danced with my friend Sheila as a joke because I didn't think he would ask me. So, he asked Olivia instead. It was a slow song, and I was kind of jealous. Then, after the dance while Olivia, Bella, and I were helping clean up, he was there and we talked after and stuff, (nothing big, just talking!) Anyway, Olivia said that we were backstabbers now! Today we had a carnival and he flirted with me and he walked all the way across the carnival to me to say bye to me when he was leaving!!! I am confused on how I should act with him... does he want to be friends, or more than that!!!
Your friends seem to have a problem with it and you shouldn't loose friends over a guy. But if you think its ok to like him then go for it and talk to him about it, and see how he feels about you.

Q: its really a long story, this is how it started:

My friend had this cush, Sean. Megan, my friend who had a crush on sean, wanted a hand on telling him that she like him, and so on. she wanted me to get to know him and be friends with him so that i can tell him, but megan was too afraid to tell herself. So i got to know him, and we had a lot in common.
Anyway, after megan got her hard stomped by sean, wen sean said he didn't like her like that, megan didn't like him. But, that didn't stop sean from becoming even better friends with me.
It's been two years since i've been hearing that Sean has liked me since i first met him, but i don't believe that. You know why? Because of popularity. Thats rite folks. Sean is in this popularity group called VPSKS, which is basically a cleque group of the most popular ppl in skool. and now, i do wonder why he gives me weird stares, or even why he likes me this much, but i wonder; why would he like me? I'm not from his group.
This group is seriously high, they don't include anyone. So, now i'm asking, do u think he likes me? I know it seems stupid, but even my friends have turned on my and said that he does like me. But how?
I'm a girl, in gr.7, i started becoming friends with sean since gr.5
It's not about popularity when you like someone. You like them for who they are and you can't help that. I think he does like you if you've heard it alot.

Q: Ok the kid i like is dating someone.. he always flirts with me though like all the time LIKE ALOT LIKE A WHOLE LOT!! he knows i like him... i dont really think he likes his gf.. wat do i do?
talk to him about. tell him how you like him and ask him if he likes you, since he flirts with you alot.

Q: 0KAYY, WElL i JUST GOT A BOYFRiEND, A FEW WEEKS AGO. AND MOST OF THE TiME ALL HE SAYS iS i LOVE YOU, ONCE iN A WHiLE. LIKE iT SEEMS LiKE HE DOESNT LiKE ME. & SHiT. & WHEN WE KiSS, HE HAS AFULL BREATH, HOW DO i LET HIM KNOW WiTHOUT HURTiNG HiS FEELiNGS? & LiKE BEFORE i MET HIM, LiKE i THOUGHT NOBODY LiKED ME [GUY WiSE.] BECAUSE i REALLY HAVENT EVER BEEN iN LOVE AND STUFF.

BUT LiKE iDK WHAT THE HELL TO DO ANYMORE.

i DOUBT YOU CAN HELP.

i WANT HELP ON HOW DO i TALK TO MORE GUYS,

i THINK iM UGLY & FAT & HIDIOUS. AND WHERE CAN i GO TO LOOK TO LOSE WEiGHT, WiTOUT CHANGiNG ALL MY EATiNG HABiTS, AND NOT JOiNiNG A PROGRAM. liKE A DVD.?

HOW DO i STOP HATiNG MYSELF.?

WHY DO i THiNK EVERTiME i MASTURBATE, iTS WRONG. LiKE iM THE ONLY ONE THAT DOES iT.? DOES EVERYONE DO IT.?

& HOW DO i HELP GET MY BOYFRiEND FASTER, ALL HE EVER DOES iS KiSS. i WANT TO MAKE OUT, OR 3RD BASE.

PlEASE HElP ME.

THANKS.
He is your boyfriend, just tell him the truth. Be like i'm not trying to be mean or anything and i'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but your breath stinks. You could offer him a mint or gum or something like that.

So many girls say they are not pretty, and how they are fat, but in reality they are over reacting. Be confident, not too confident though it's kind of a turn off. Just talk to guys, flirt and have fun and be yourself that's all you can really do.

The easiest way i can tell you to loose weight is by exercising, try joining a sport or something.

Masturbating is normal some people like to do it some don't, it's just based on the person. There is nothing wrong with it.

To go to a different base try talking to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he's shy and never did anything before so he doesn't want to do something wrong. Just have a talk with him about moving to a next base. Don't rush it, you have time for all of those things don't worry.

HOPE I HELPED AT ALL.

Q: right im 15/m and i love my gf to bits and i meen bits! she is the most beatiful caring lovable person in my life and i have a sudden urge to by a gift for her i want something perfect any idea's ppl? thanks for your time:) xx
Try getting her jewlery, like: bracelet, necklece, or a ring. Maybe a promise ring or something like that. Also you could make something yourself and give it to her things like that mean the most sometimes.

Q: theres this guy that i really like..i think he likes me too but i don't wanna ask him out cuz thats weird..how do i make him ask me out?
Talk to him, and try to hang out with him. Try not to annoy him that`ll just ruin it. If he gets to know you he may like you at the end may ask you out. That`s what i did with my boyfriend and we`re still together.

Q: what are some waysss to know that a guy likes you? like cluess and stuff? thanx
Well when a guy flirts it`s really easy to relize it. He will talk to you a lot and kinda mess around with you. Sometimes guys will act so diffrent around you then they do around other girls. So when a guy is very friendly it could mean he likes you, but it might not always mean that though. I dono if i helped much.




& thank you :)

Q: is it okay for me to like a 9th grader and im a 10th grader? hes so hot and like hes a quiet kid and i really wanna talk to him i see him in the hallways and i saw his myspace i wanna add him too and i dont have any classes with him tho :[
Yes, it`s absolutly fine. I had a friend that dated a guy that was in 8th grade and she was in 10th. Don`t worry about it do what you want and if anyone says anything egnore them, what do people know anyways if you really love him go for it :].

Q: There is a boy at my school and everyone fancies him but I go out with him and all he does at playtime is play with all the other girls, and he does'nt bother coming anywhere near me even when he sees me sat alone what should I do?
Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel about him talking to other girls and stuff like that. It`s all about talking toyour boyfriend when it comes to relationships.

Q:

I have a huge crush and he doesnt feel the same but I really want to be closer friends anyway. He doesnt like going places where he's the only guy so it has to be a group thing. What do you think we should do? I always thought of me having a holiday party and having a sevcret santa and "secretly" giving him me.He also loves the jets so I thought a couple of friends and I could go to the game. I really want something fun that can show him that i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl. Any suggestions? Movies, Jet Game, ANYTHING? Also tips on how to act when we're together so I'm not annoying but I'm cute...
Well movies are always fun to go to, whatch some movie you both would be interested in. Don`t try too hard or anything just play it cool but flirt around and stuff so he gets the hint that you like him. Hope i helped.

Q: haow many dates do you go on befroe you can call yourseves boyfriend and girlfriend?
It depends on the two people. You have to decide with the person weather you guys are dating or not.

Q: hey my crush an i e-mail a lot, and he never sent me an email on my birthday yesterday..
so i dont wanna seem like a dominant chick, but i still wanna remind him that he forgot it!
so is there a kinda funny way to let him know..that will make it less like im yelling at him or what not.. like anyway of saying in a humorous way that "duude you forgot my birthday!!"

thank you for your replies.
Be like:

hah, guess what!
he`s gonna be like what.
be like yesturday was my birthday :)

Hope I helped at all 1

Q: okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?
Oh my don`t go out with him. For all you know he could be a 40 year old man or somthing. Never go out with someone you meat on internet. People lie on there and everything so don`t put your self in a risk of getting raped or somthing like that!

Q: Do guys mind if girls ask them out? Usually, it is the guy who asks the girl so I'm just wondering if it is okay for "her" to ask "him".
It`s fine! It makes it easier on the guys.

Q: I'm going to be swimming with my crush every day this summer. What do I wear to hint I like him, or how do I act so we can be touching. I really want to end up making out so what games can we play or what we can do so we're touching or something. Also, about what I wear, what do I wear to show a lot of cleavage? I really want to be awesome.
Some guys don`t actually like when girls show too much. Sure they like to see it but they don`t want their girlfriends doing it though. So just wear a cute tank and some cute shorts nothing too showy really it sometimes is a turn off. Well when your in the water play around with him drown him and stuff it`s fun and flirtty! You guys could play truth or dare usualy guys love that game.

Q: ok so recently i encountered one of my good guy friends that i havent talked to in like 2 years, because he moved away.
we liked eachother alot then.
my question is if he gave me his number is he still interested in me?
i didnt ask for it or anything.
also when i talked to him he was being a big flirt.
Tha really means somthing. He could still like you just go along with it and flirt too. That`s only if you want!

Q: Ok. how do you make out? cause i have no idea how to or what it is! can someone tell me what it is and how you do it? I REALLY NEED HELP! and if the person your doing it with knows how will you look like an idiot or can they not even tell?
There isn`t a way to make out. You just do it. Don`t be nerves or anything you could be really good at it. So just go with it. & you could also tell the person you are making out with that you haven`t done it yet and they can show you how. Trust me you aren`t the only one that hasn`t kissed a person so don`t worry about it. Don`t rush just wate till it happens.

Q: well me and my boyfriend broke up and now i like this other guy. we have been hanging out alot and everything but i dont know if he likes me or not. he said he wants to make sure me and my ex are completely over with before anything happens then maybe. but now he acts totally different. like nothing could EVER happen. i asked him and he was like well we barely know each other we have to hang out more. what does this mean? should i give up or keep trying? thanks
If you really like him then keep trying. At least you still get to talk to him and hangout it`s better to get to know him before anything happens. So just give it a try again.

Q: okay..this guy i like and he liked me too..is moving far away like to another state and we were gunna date but now that he's moving we're not going to obviously..what can i do to make myself get over him leaving?
Just don`t thinking about it too much. Go out with your friends and have fun! It`s okay, I mean you will meet someone else.

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