Question Posted Wednesday December 27 2006, 5:30 pm
i think my friend lucy might like my other friend jessica's ex, or jessica's ex might like her or both. theyre both (jessica & lucy) my good friends. the thing is, jessica and this guy broke up a year ago but she just cant get over him ): i feel bad for her and i wish she could find a guy that deserved her. i know if lucy and this guy end up going out, jessica will come to me to try and talk about it. jessica already has told me about seeing them in the hallway together or something so she thinks they like eachother (dont ask me why). she always thinks all these girls and her ex are gonna go out and they never end up going out but it really gets her down. whenver lucy tells me stuff ab this guy, i dont tell jessica bc i wouldnt betray lucy. i dont want to betray either jessica or lucy though. what should i do? should i try and help jess find a new guy? what should i say when jessica says stuff to me about how she thinks lucy and this guy like each other?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? xOx_BRUN3TT3_xOx answered Saturday January 6 2007, 9:56 am: Well, tell her she can`t do anything about him dating someone else they are over and done with so she cant do anything about it. As some people may say things happen for a reason and they aren`t meant to be sence they broke up a year ago so that means there is a guy out there for her. She hasn`t found him yet but she will. It takes time to get over someone but she just needs to try, tell her to go out and talk to new guys and tell her not to mind on what he does because it wont help anything. Also if the guy likes Lucy tell her you can never be sure they could be just friends. I dono what you can do with th whole thing when they both talk to you but just keep their stuff awayfrom eachother so it doesnt become a whole mess and your gonna part of it so that wont be good. [ xOx_BRUN3TT3_xOx's advice column | Ask xOx_BRUN3TT3_xOx A Question ]
xomichelle891xo answered Wednesday December 27 2006, 6:06 pm: I think you need to seriously have a talk with Jessica and tell her that she needs to get over her ex. Its been a year! I know its hard (Ive had friends that cant get over their exes) but tell her he's going to see other girls, and that she should get out there and try going out with other guys! Once she does, she'll be happier. I think its a great idea for you to help Jess find a new guy but dont make it seem like youre trying to push her into anything too early. Simply ask her to hang out and if its allright if your guy friend came who you think she might like. Also, try to talk to Lucy about not being too obvious about going out with Jess's ex-boyfriend. Hopefully, she will sympathize and understand where Jess is coming from! Theres honestly not much YOU can do. Maybe Lucy and Jess's ex wont even go out! Who knows? I would try to stay out of it and let whatever happens, happens. Its not really your deal and youre not betraying one or helping the other. Youre trying to be a good friend to both. I think telling them that will help, too. But it would really help to try not to get involved that much..Ive learned from experience if you do, it will backfire. I understand they turn to you for advice but just try to listen to what their saying. Its all just guy drama & most likely it will blow over soon! So I wouldnt worry. [ xomichelle891xo's advice column | Ask xomichelle891xo A Question ]
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