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Hey I'm Francesca!
I know I havent been through everything, but I have had my share, and I would be glad to help you!
Ever broken any bones? How about rules?

What are the 3 things about you that you wouldn't want me to know?
1) I fall in love too fast 2) I HATE my body 3) I hide everything I feel
What is your favorite food color?
Purple
Do you sleep thru thunders and storms?
No, i'm a very light sleeper.
Are you a dog or a cat person, or rather prefer a comodo dragon?
i love cats, but I have a dog cause i'm allergic to cats.
What is the single feature people compliment about you the most?
My legs
Are you ALSO scared of spiders?
I don't like them.
What is your biggest fear, except for spiders?
Death, afterlife.
Name your most favorite part of day?
Daytime
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
Yes, her name was Masa
Ever been in an accident?
I have been in a car accident.
Have you ever stolen anything from a store or from someone?
I stole lotion from my grandma...
What are your turn on's and turn offs?
on's: attractive, loves God
off's: rude, having a "big head"
Are you a morning person?
I'm a morning and a night person.
What are your most favorite and least favorite foods?
Most: sushi
Least: black olives
Name the one piece of clothing you can't live without.
A bra
Do you have tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they?
I have a tattoo down my spine that says 'you are the light of the world'
My ears are pierced twice and my cartilage is pierced and my belly button is pierced.
What is/was your least favorite subject in school?
Math
Do you take showers in the morning or at night more?
After I exercise
What are the most important 3 things in your life?
1) God 2) my family 3) my friends

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Ok my boyfriend stayed at my house. Hes 22 Android in 20 the started kissing me. Then started taking my closes off. The took off his closes then stared putting his dick in smokies pussy. Its been a month i took a home pregraunt test, Android it came postive. What do i do????:(

Tell him.

I like this girl, and ill be really happy if we were together. We sometimes hug, and sometimes we make eye contact and just tease each other by showing our tongue. But i still dont think she likes me, i know if i ask her out she'll reject me. I have already been rejected and it doesnt feel good, but i really want her. And other people say that she plays with her hair or her jewelry if she likes you, but she doesnt! please help tell me what to do, tell me if she likes me or not!!

Well you didn't give very much information. Is she the player type that flirts with lots of guys at a time, has she had a lot of boyfriends? She could just like the attention you give her so she acts flirty towards you when she doesn't like you.
If she is more of the shy type that hasn't had many boyfriends and isn't much of a social butterfly I would say she definitely likes you. Girls give very subtle hints, such as the ones you described, and they assume that all boys understand them.
if you like her there is no reason in hiding it. Yes rejection sucks but what do you have to lose? If she says no then you will be sad for a few days then get over it and move on to someone new, but right now you are wasting your time and energy on this girl. so you need to stop playing around and just ask her. And if she says she liked you then thats awesome!
Don't keep wasting all your time on her if you don't even know if she likes you yet!

so i wash my teeth 2 times a day, morning before i go to school and evening before i go to bed. But every day i have i stinky breath, so i started to eat lots of gum and that works but i really dont want to go around every day eating gum. I dont know why this breath comes and stays, im asthmatic but i dont think that's the problem.

Try gargling with hydrogen peroxide before you go to bed. Mix a little hydrogen peroxide with water and swish it in your mouth. It doesn't taste very good but it is very good for your mouth, and it helps whiten teeth as well.
If you are conscious of your breath throughout the day, bring around a small amount of mouth wash with you, so you can gargle with that, and it is much healthier then gum.

okay some and my boyfriend just recently broke up because we realized we were really different. We do love each other and we already do miss each other.I have had a lot of time to think and i think that we cn make it work even though we are different. Can i make it work?

None of us know anything about you and your Ex's relationship, so we can't tell you anything about that.
But I can give some insight on if opposites attract. I personally am attracted to people who are opposite me; right now I am dating a 'skater' type boy, and I am definitely not that type. I think it depends on how opposite you are as well. I know I wouldn't be able to get along with someone who hated everything I liked, you need to have at least something in common.
If you still like your ex then tell him, there is no reason not to.

We didn't have sex, just a hand job. He said he didn't come but I just want to make sure. Is it possible to get pregnent ?

Unless he came all over your hand and then you shoved your hand in your vagina; there is zero chance.
If your going to be scared about little things like this then you need to use a birth control method.

i had sex with my bf bt he didnt ejected on me. bt i feel if sumthing is wrong thats why for being on a safe side i have taken an i-pill within 72hrs(exactly at 49th hrs). so is there any chances of being pregnant?

I would say there is a very slim chance of a pregnancy.
If you want to know for sure then take a pregnancy test.
And next time use a condom.
Be safe!

How do I stop my period after its started

If you are on birth control you can just take the normal pills and it will stop, but if you aren't then there is no way to stop it until it naturally stops.

falright, hey internet. Me and my girlfriend ( ages 21 and 22 im older) have been dating for 4 and a half years. She asked me at the movies last night, if i could "massage her" some time, but the way she said it... I knew she wanted MORE then a massage. Are there dos and donts for having sex for the first time (im a virgin) any certain positions or styles? I know all of the stuff like oral, anal and normal genital-contact (penis in vagina) but, i wanted to know if there were any other forms, or whatever. Im asking you LADIES out there. What do girls like?

So I'm guessing she is not a virgin? In that case you don't have to worry about hurting her, but if she is a virgin then I suggest you need to go as slow as possible.
And since you are a virgin i would suggest the same thing, there is no reason to rush anything or try to be amazing your first time. The faster you take things the more sloppy you will be, so just go slow and figure out what works best for y'all. Don't try any crazy positions or anything, you don't need to impress her. If it was my first time i would want something nice and slow and sensual, nothing fancy.

F/17
I was with my boyfriend for 6 months when our relationship went down hill, I started to feel as though he was drifting away from me. He would never put the effort in to seeing me as much as he used to, he would hardly text me and I'd open up about it and say, look I don't like how you're behaving, he would tell me to stop moaning and being a bitch, he would never understand where I'm coming from and he made it out to be my fault that he was drifting and acting not interested, he would say that "you're pushing me away with your constant moaning" but I had to tell him how I was feeling, we got back on track for about a month, all I did was make effort, I texted him as soon as I got up in the morning, he never would text me first, I made effort in seeing him, making plans, keep the conversation going and he seemed really not interested, once again. So the other day, I told him that he's taking me for granted, I told him how he's making me feel, by all means I can't be the one putting the effort it. He never texted back all day, until night (I sent it in the morning) it's obvious he checked his phone. He replied saying "why do you send such long messages" ok so now I'm stuck in between what to do, I know this isn't him, he's not the person he used to be, what am I supposed to do? I told him "what's the point anymore? Move on. Take care" and he replied with "you take care too" Wow? He never even fought for me, he never turned around and said "no, I love you" I know I'm only young, but I have never felt like this for any boy before, he's blocked me on facebook also, and when I asked him to unblock me, he wouldn't. What's going on? Does he even care anymore? Please someone help me with this situation. Thank you, I'd really appreciate it.

The best explanation I can give for his behavior is that he is a very immature teenage boy. I have been through all of this, and the reason he acts this way is because he doesn't care. He thinks there are so many more important things in his life besides you. I'm sure he felt extremely suffocated and overwhelmed when you texted him every day and tried to talk to him about your problems; and by doing that you got rid of the chase, he knew he already had you in his grasp and he didn't even have to try anymore. Guys LOVE the chase, it is their favorite part; if they know a girl doesn't isn't interested in them it just makes the girl more appealing. I'm sure at the beginning of y'all relationship it was exciting and fun, but he probably just got used to it and wants something new.
I'm really sorry about that! But don't worry, boys get better as they age!

If a man cheats on his wife wiht the same woman for 4 years, hangs or with her occasionally, calls her, texts her, etc.(and tries to hide it), does that mean he has feelings for her? If so why does he stay married?

Of course he has feelings for her, people don't keep long term relationships if they don't like the person. This does not mean that he doesn't like the wife though; he could like both women. He might stay married because he likes the security of being married and in a stable relationship.

Wanna be dead, sexless relationship,no money ,arguing,no love,more take than give, missed out on my children's life, gold digging women

So I can see that you are just listing all the negative things about your life, and yes, just seeing that would definitely make me depressed too.
If you really think your life is worth nothing and you have nothing to add to the world anymore then why don't you change that.
You seem like a nice person, you have children and you want to love/be loved, so why don't you change your life completely and dedicate yourself to helping others. Join the Peace Corps, volunteer, do something. You probably feel like no one loves you anymore and you are no use to the world but change it; if you are being productive you wont feel that way anymore, you will feel useful and loved.
There is no use in killing yourself then making your kids live with that their entire life, there is no use in making others suffer.
Stop thinking about the negatives in your life and be positive.

I've posted other poems about love and my nan passing, this poem is about my first ever pet. hope you enjoy.please post honest comments. =)

They were all so similar,but exeedingly cute
Finley,Fred,Lucky and Loot (it was a name it also fits in)
Then there you was in the corner, moody from tail to jaw
Hissing and scratching,showing tiny every claw.

The name Lilly did'nt suit you, they are pretty and small
And you was a killer. As social as the floor.
“I want that one” I say and point to the green eyed beast.
“no way” mom says not impressed the least.
with a chuckle dad says “that ones got spirit!”
So he chased you around you acting like a whippet.

We grew together,you and I
Me and my cat, together but why?
Love is the answer,once its there thats it
Run,shout and hide but us you can't split
Now I miss you you see
your fiesty little ways
You had'nt cutenes as a power
But you were my flower.

I agree with the other answer, your poem is very cute and fun to read but if your audience is aimed at older people, it is sort of childish with the rhyming. I like poems that really paint a picture, that make me actually see and feel. It is very cute though!

She was my best friend. My soul-sister. Now? She hates me. She thinks I did some stuff (which I didnt) and every time I try to explain things to her, she thinks I'm lying. She spread rumors about me. I'm hurt. I just want things to go back to the way it was... But the wound in my heart is just too deep and I can't bear it anymore. It's like, half of me wants to punch her for being such an ass, and yet half of me just wants to apologize even if I'm not wrong...She bears grudges and its so hard to talk to her. I feel so helpless. :(

I know you don't want to hear this but you need to give her some time to heal and get over whatever happened. Most people need to time to actually realize that it is okay and then they can forgive and forget. Don't pressure her into it too soon. After a little time i suggest writing a letter with all of your feelings for her. This sounds cheesy but it is the best way to really get out what you want to say. Tell her how much you miss her and everything, let it all out. I hope everything works out for y'all.

Hi. I have been goin out with my boyfriend for like 6 months now, but I dunno wat to do that will kinda turn him on but yeh he kisses my neck, squeazes my bum n shizz, but like I wanna give him something but not SEX, something that gonna turn him on, I love him really but just wanna give him a little pleasure without acto sex xxxxx n I'm 15, sooo if u know anything I could do to make him horny while making out or something please help

I agree, it is really good that you are deciding not to have sex yet. The only problem is that if you get too crazy it is going to be harder to resist! The other advice was good, sitting on his lap straddling him will definitely turn him on, especially if you kind of grind your hips down into him in a circular motion. I have found they like it when you run your fingers through their hair. You could also put your hands under his shirt in the back and lightly scratch. You can bite his lip softly while kissing, or moan a little. I hope this helps but be careful!

I have a few zits on my bum cheeks..what can I do about butt acne?

probably the same thing you do this the rest of your body. use body acne wash, like neutrogena or clean and clean and clean it like you clean your chest and back and stuff.
you can use an astringent too if you want. And make sure to wear clean clothes.

how can i clean my vagina?

You don't want to necessarily "clean" it, that causes yeast infections. don't use any scented soap or anything, but if you have dial or something like that than in the shower just use a little of that and water.

is it safe to double up on birth control pills to
stop continuous bleeding?

No you should definitely not do that, i don't know if it will harm you, but it is not going to help with your problem either. Just go to your gyno and tell them what is going on, you might need to be on a different birth control.

The prompt is: Tell us about a personal quality, talent, accomplishment, contribution or experience that is important to you. What about this quality or accomplishment makes you proud and how does it relate to the person you are?

I was planning on writing about a volunteer experience I had over the summer. I volunteered at UCR with one of their summer international programs and basically helped lead groups of students around, formed lasting friendships with kids from all over the world, helped teach them about American culture, improved their English, etc. I was planning on writing about my interest in foreign cultures and improving my leadership skills and being able to form bonds with so many diverse people.

Does this sound like a good idea? I'm having some difficulties writing. Any tips/advice would be appreciated, thanks.

that sounds like a great idea, they love to know about volunteer work!
Just make sure you really answer their question completely! it is really easy to stray away from the prompt but make sure to stay with the prompt because that is what they are looking for. good luck!

So about a year ago I asked out this guy that I worked with, at the time I was 20 and he was 26. He flirted with me all the time at work so i thought he might have liked me too. So I told him I liked him and asked him if he wanted to go out sometime, but he said no.

I asked him why and he said that he thought I was to young for him. I'm not sure if that was the only reason but that's what he told me.

My friend that worked with us talked to him about it a couple times. The first time she told him I liked him and he said He knew but he thinks I'm to young. Then probably like 6 months after that they talked again. She told him I still liked him, and he said to her I know, I probably should have said yes.

That gave me hope again, now I no longer work with him and I turned 21 so it sounds a little better than 20. It's been a year, do you think I should ask again? And what would I say?

I feel like I have nothing to loose, but on the other hand you would think he would have asked me out if he changed his mind. I miss him and I don't know what to do.

Let me know what you think? Should I go for it and what do I say to him
Thanks!

If you don't think it is awkward if he says no, than I say go for it, yeah rejection sucks but you wont know if you don't do it!
He might have said you are too young for him because your probably still in college and he isn't, y'all are in two separate places in your lives, but hey you can still try!
if i were you I would talk to him and be like, so have you changed your mind about me yet? just keep it playful and not too serious, don't hound him with the question. And don't get your friends to do your dirty work by the way it just shows immaturity! If you want to know why he said no than ask him, have a good adult conversation!!
Best of luck!

I'm 11, and I already say I love you to my boyfriend.
We haven't kissed, and we've been close friends for a year before we started dating. We've been dating a month now, and we say 'I love you.' all the time.

Is that bad?

If you honestly feel like you love him than no that is not bad. there is no age that you are supposed to say i love you, there is no time or anything it is just when you feel it!

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