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My girlfriend and sexuall intercourse for the first time (ages 21 and 22)
falright, hey internet. Me and my girlfriend ( ages 21 and 22 im older) have been dating for 4 and a half years. She asked me at the movies last night, if i could "massage her" some time, but the way she said it... I knew she wanted MORE then a massage. Are there dos and donts for having sex for the first time (im a virgin) any certain positions or styles? I know all of the stuff like oral, anal and normal genital-contact (penis in vagina) but, i wanted to know if there were any other forms, or whatever. Im asking you LADIES out there. What do girls like?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
So I'm guessing she is not a virgin? In that case you don't have to worry about hurting her, but if she is a virgin then I suggest you need to go as slow as possible.
And since you are a virgin i would suggest the same thing, there is no reason to rush anything or try to be amazing your first time. The faster you take things the more sloppy you will be, so just go slow and figure out what works best for y'all. Don't try any crazy positions or anything, you don't need to impress her. If it was my first time i would want something nice and slow and sensual, nothing fancy.
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First time sex for a virgin or two virgins is always best if you use the missionary position. Another good position is the reverse of the missionary position where the male is on the bottom and female is on the top.
This is a good position for the female who is a virgin as it gives her control of the speed and depth of the first time she is penetrated. The girl being above can make the first time less scary and maybe less painful for her if she is in control. It is something you can and should talk about.
Some advise from an old timer of a grandpa's age. When I give advise about sex the first thing I tell anyone is communication between the couple is key to a successful sex life. Second is that sex like anything else has a learning curve to it. Sure we all know the basics of it. But what makes it perfect. That is where the first part comes in. You need to talk to each other and tell and teach each other what feels good.
Most men think that you get a girl off in foreplay by shoving their fingers in her vagina. In the vast majority of women doing this will cause them to climax because they are vaginal in their pleasure. There are some women that get more pleasure from clitoral stimulation. If you don't stimulate their clitoris during foreplay it is very possible they will not be properly stimulated for intercourse. Again this is where communication comes in.
The same goes for the male. Most males can be stimulated easily and don't need a lot of foreplay. Still foreplay is very much part of having sex, a very intimate part for this is where your partner gets to explore your body. Now in some ways males are no different than females as they have likes and don't likes in the way they are touched or sucked. This needs to be communicated. For instance. There are many men that like to have or will tolerate having their nipples sucked. Many women like to do this. Their are some men that just don't like it.
Since you are a virgin let your girl try different foreplay techniques to see what you do and do not like. You need to tell her so then she doesn't do it again.
Last but not least. Sex has to be consensual between both parties. Meaning, for instance anal sex. You want to she doesn't. Then it is not done. You don't switch sides in the middle of sex thinking she might enjoy it. She has said no to it and NO always means NO. To force it on her is then rape. Stop also means STOP.
Either partner can say NO and either partner can say STOP. Those words mean exactly what they say.
Below is a link to a website I usually give to women who as the question about sex for the first time. If you are both virgins I suggest you both read it together. You should read it with her in any case as it will give you some insight and together it will start the communications you should have. You've been together for this long taking this next step should allow for communicating as well.
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hey, well for starters, all girls like different things and you will know whether she likes it or not. DO NOT do anal for the first time, just do normal you on top and her on top. everyone likes different things. she will say what to do and what not to do. trust me.
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