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I'm a new young mom who has a lot of things to say to whomever is willing to listen :). I promise not to judge you no matter how crazy you may think your questions are and I will give the best answer I possibly can!

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Me and my fiancé had unprotected sex 5 times in a 6 day period. After the 5th time I got what I though was my "period" but it lasted 3 days and was light. About a week later I started having light cramps and discharging. Lately I've been hungry nauseated, extremely tired, bad back ache, and dizzy. It's now been 2 weeks and 4 or 5 days since I last had unprotected intercourse. Could I be pregnant? I'd be extremely happy if I am :)

All the symptoms you described are EXACTLY how I and many other women felt/ feel when they first become pregnant!! Unfortunately there are other things that could cause these symptoms as well so there is no way to know for sure until a test is done. Give yourself a couple more weeks then get an at home pregnancy test!! Good luck!!!

I kickbox twice a week, I'm at the gym doing cardio on the treadmill for 20 and elliptical for 20 plus calisthenics and some light weights and lunges twice a week, I stay active on my weekends seasonally. Why is my butt growing? Is it simply diet...some junk in the trunk or could it also be an exercise I'm doing?. Help sheik the bit for me please!,

Don't be too worried about it! I'm almost positive(not FULLY positive only bc idk you!) you're experiencing this because you're building muscle underneath the "junk in your trunk." With time, cardio will fix this. Just give it a couple months(depending on your diet of course)

im 16f and he is 19 year old male. we have known each other since i was 12. started dating him at 15. do yoou think hes too old?

Personally, I don't think he's too old. You may just be at a different maturity level than most ppl your age and get along with ppl who are older than you better! Nothing wrong with that! However, you may want to look up laws in your state about this. In some states, the age of consent(the age you have to be to decide you want sex with someone older than 17 without it being rape) is 16 and others its 17. If your state is age 17 then your parents could get him arrested for rape if you two decide to have sexual relations.

Hi. 25/f, here. I'm confused. Like, very. I'm about to go into a graduate program for clinical psychology and I can't figure this out. I need another (few) sets of intelligent eyes on this situation to help me.

So, my boyfriend and I broke up a couple days ago. Prior to all that, we were on a break, and a friend of his made it all but stupidly obvious that he has a thing for me. I've known it for quite awhile, thanks to a couple we're-the-only-people-awake-this-ridiculously-late style conversations, including his being very supportive while I was losing my mind about my then boyfriend and his immaturity issues. I was honestly hoping it would all remain platonic and it'd be fine. I was hoping my - well, now my ex - boyfriend and I would get back together and this guy would scooch out of the picture, respecting his friend and knowing that I would never do something so disrespectful as cheating.
Buuut we broke up instead.
Now I'm confused, because on some level I think I'm attracted to this guy. He's nowhere near my "type," but he's intelligent, he's interested in me and my life, he's independent, and... I don't know. Loathe as I am to admit it, I don't think I could ever be sexually attracted to a heavier guy. I work hard on my body, running is a big part of my life, and I don't know if I could deal with someone who doesn't match me in that sense.
But really - am I just rebounding? Should I even consider this as a possibility?
My life is ridiculous...

More so than not, I root for the underdog. But, as in putting myself in your shoes, it seems to me like a rebound. Usually the rule I have is if you wouldn't/couldn't brag about them(looks included) to your bestfriend, then he's probably a rebound. And if you have to ASK yourself if he's a rebound, then he probably is. I could be wrong, it wouldn't be the first time, but from the outside looking in, that's the way it seems.

Im 15, female single for around a year now and i just am an awkward person. all i want is a boyfriend, there are a couple of guys i think are hot and i would love to talk to them more but i just dont know how. one is in my spanish class and is my friends cousin and she told me she would talk to him, let him know about this partner dance them poms team im on is doing but i dont know if i should strike up a conversation in spanish class or what?! help please this is driving me nuts!

Talk to him!!!!! If you're feeling a little awkward just start small!

For example, one day ask him to borrow a pencil or anything for that matter. Then the next day talk to him again thanking him for letting you borrow it and maybe make up some story about how you had to ask someone in every class for a pencil and how you felt silly doing it. Just to get the convo going.

OR ask him a Spanish related question. Such as how to pronounce something or what the homework was.

Pretty soon you'll be talking to him casually like its no big deal and then you can build a friendship which will hopefully lead to more!

If you don't talk to him you might regret it! What's the worse that could happen?! Give it a go!

I am 14/f. My best friend ( we will call her Jane) is being abused at home. We have told the counselors about it and i went with her for support. The woman who is abusing her is her dads girlfriend of 6 years who is still married to her ex husband. She is the one who is abusing her. She leaves deep nail marks that draw blood all over Jane's arms and neck> SHe drags her around the house by her hair and throws her around. It has made her head bleed. After we talked to the counselor, Jane was deathly afraid to go home. She was scared that her dad's gf would find out that she told. Long story short, she went home to a house full of enraged adults. Her parents called her a little sh** and carried her off the ground by her hair. She went up to the counselor today and told her and the social worker that everything was perfectly fine, but i knew that it wasn't, so i went and told the counselor everything that Jane had told me after she went home that day. Now she's really mad at me. She says she just wants everything to go away but i know that it wont just up and disappear. How can i help her? i cant just do nothing and watch my friend suffer.

First off, id like to say that you did the right thing so don't feel at all guilty! Second off, let your friend know that you care about her a lot and that's why you felt the need to tell. Ask her what she would have done in your situation. Then ask her what you can do to help.

I'd start off with something like....
"Jane, I'm sorry that you're mad at me, but because I care about you so much, I felt I needed to do something to stop you from hurting. I know that you would have done the same for me. If there is anything I can do to make things better between us or anything I can do to help you through this tough time please let me know."

If she doesn't open up or is still mad at you then try giving her some space. She will come to you when she's ready. It sounds like she's going through a lot right now and it's probably very hard for her to open up.

My boyfriend usually has to hold his penis while guiding it into my vagina. After a couple thrusts it falls out if his hand isn't there holding it. Is something wrong with me or him? Or is this normal?

Yes! Totally normal! Try guiding it in with YOUR hand. Think of it like how you would put a tampon in.

My B-day is on Valentines day and i dont know what theme my party should be. I am going to be 13 and i love rocknroll, animals, and nature. Can you help?

Thanks

For my 13th birthday I had a Hawaiian themed birthday. I think it would be adorable and funny if you had a summery vibe to your winter birthday! Sine you like rock you could have an 80s themed party! You could play 80s music and people could dress up in big hair and leather!

hey guys so my boyfriend and I have sex and fool around. after sex and "fingering" is it normal for the "inner flaps" of the vagina to swell (not huge but definitely swell) and feel raw? thanks so much :)

It's TOTALLY normal. If it gets to the point where you start bleeding - even if its just a little pink- you may want to take a couple days off from having sex for it to heal so it doesn't get worse.

The good news is, the more you have sex, the more elasticity your " lady parts" get. So it hurts less and less.

More good news! Most guys are ready to go without all the foreplay and would find it hot if you just went for it without getting warmed up first. It'll give you a little time to heal and you both get some pleasure out of it :)

Hi im 15 and mostly talk to a group of 3 girls every night on facebook..our conversations are quite short lived becus it will usually be 'wat u doing?' then they ask me and i might ask them something about school..im always the one who keeps the conversations going but am also boring them with the same questions! Does anyone have any advice on conversation.i also really like one of them but i think i am boring her is there any way of flirting without telling her how i feel until i think she feels the same:) all help appreciated

The best way to be a great conversationalist is to ask lots of questions about the other person. Here's a link to a ton of random questions that you can squeeze into the convo to make it more entertaining :)

http://www.futurescopes.com/romantic-ideas/597/102-questions-ask-your-boyfriends-or-girlfriends

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 months. We have been dating 9 months. My boyfriend goes to church twice a week. He reads the bible. He visits his parents twice a week. He also has a bachelors degree and a good job. He is 26 and I am 21.

I found out I was pregnant in October, a month after we moved into an apartment together. (We have never used a condom and he knows I am not on birth control.) I found out he still has not told his parents about the pregnancy and he does not bring me to his parents when he goes to visit. He told me he wanted me to get an abortion but he never offered to pay for it or take me. (I don't want an abortion anyway.) He brought up marriage briefly twice, when he was drunk. He doesn't remember. He has been going out drinking with his coworkers and coming home at 3 AM on weekends, and he never used to do that. Since I told him I was pregnant, he hasn't felt the need to take me out to dinner or bring a pizza home, and we used to have a date night once a week. Its been about 3 months since he took me out. He spends about 3-4 days of the week sleeping here. We don't even go for walks to the park or the swap meet in our town anymore.

I don't think we are too young for marriage and we can financially afford a baby, but he still probably thinks his life will be ruined. My thinking is, he should have put a condom on if he didn't want a baby.

Should I ask him if he is going to marry me? We are Christians and I want marriage before this baby comes. I don't need a wedding, a private ceremony at a courthouse is fine with me. Having a baby will be hard to do alone, but I will sue him for child support if he leaves me. It's only fair. I did not become pregnant by MYSELF and I should not have to raise it myself but if I do have to raise it myself, I will need the extra income from him. Also, when should I tell his parents? I already told my boyfriends that if he does not tell them, that I will pick up the phone and tell them. I know it is not my place to tell HIS parents, but I said that to scare him 2 weeks ago, and he has not told them still. I think they deserve to know that their oldest son is having a child. I know that they would want to be in the child's life as because my boyfriend said his mom mentioned she wants to be a grandmother. What the heck do I do?!

I was in almost an identical situation nine months ago(my daughter is now 2 months old and I am almost 21).

You have every right and then some to be angry at your bf. the best way to approach this is to have a serious conversation about why you're upset and what you expect out of him. Being up the fact that getting an abortion goes against everything he says he believes in and if he wants to be the Christian man he's making himself out to be, then he needs to man up and take care of his child.

Make sure you add in how much you care about him and how much it's hurting you to be treated like you and your unborn child come second to his partying or whatever he's doing when he's not home with you. Also ask him whaaat he expect of you so nothing is confused and you know where you stand.

As far as telling his parents goes, you may regret telling them in the future. They may talk him into staying with you and raising your baby with you but at the same time you may forever wonder if he's ONLY with you because his parents told him to be. That can put a lot of strain on a relationship and your self esteem. Let me know if you need any advice on pregnancy or anything else!

i never had an intercourse but the doctor said that i have my old ripped hymen and wounds call 6 o'clock 3 o'clock or something that i didn't understand because i am 12 years old at that time, the doctor insert me a thin metal when he found the result, its painful but when he told me to relax it would be done quickly and less painful, then the result that he told me is that i am not a virgin, and now i am 22 and still wondering what happened to my hymen because i never had a sex, what are the possible thing to ripped the hymen without intercourse? i am still a virgin even if the doctor told me i'm not virgin because of my old ripped hymen and i never experience sex?

There are sooo many ways to break your hymen other than sex. Many girls break theirs without even knowing it! And you're still a virgin until you actually have sex.

i have great feeling when i finger myself and it looks like i have a orgasim but in have nothing coming out like what comes out of a male when he has an orgasim

Don't worry! That's perfectly normal! If it feels good, keep doing what you're doing!!

How many times should I go to the gym a week (how long should I stay at the gym, and what exercise equipment should I use? I go to Bally Total Fitness), what can I do to control cravings, and what types of foods should I be eating, and how many times a day? I also want to train for volleyball season next school year, so if you know any special volleyball exercises that can help me get more in shape, please tell! I want to be skinny and toned when I get back to school, and shexy! haha. Thanks if you can help :)

It is recommended that you exercise at LEAST 3 times a week. If you feel like you could go more days, then more power to ya! You should stay at the gym for at least an hour and as long as you are doing cardio work outs, it doesn't matter what equipment. For example, make sure your doing a lot of lunges and side lunges. To make these more difficult, hold weights in both hands. Also, squats and crunches really help. Most gyms have personal trainers that are there to answer any questions you may have to to give you some extra advice you may need as well.
As for food, the best way to diet is to eat a lot during the day, but in verrrrry small portions. Take some healthy snacks every where you go, such as pretzels or grapes. You should be eating 5 meals a day, but healthy meals and in small portions. As to WHAT foods is up to you. My favorite diet is the Adkins diet because you basically eat nothing but protein(eggs, nuts, meat, etc). But I would add fruits and veggies in there too. Its easy to look up healthy recipes online as well.

:) hope this helps!!!!

im about to get my braces off and im really afraid ill have little white boxes around where my brackets used to be....i brushed and flossed really well the entire time i had braces, so should i expect them? im not worried about any pain....just wanna know what to expect.

I was nervous about that too, and I had mine for 5 years. What they do is basically scrape off any plaque that may have stained your teeth. :) nothing to worry about. if you have the square lines, trust me, they'll come off.

i have a spot on my arm its about 3 inches wide 4 long its red and swollen. it hurts when you press it, and has alittle dot in the middle of it. plus today i have gotten a rash all over and really sore muscles. is it a bite or to much time out in the sun?

from your description, it sounds A LOT like a bite. my advice would be to apply Neosporin on it and if it's not better by a week, I would go to a doctor because it could be more serious.

this might sound weird. but is it okay to make out with your best guy friend? because i read a lot of stories on yahoo answers about people that make out with their best friends but they arent going out. I want to do that with my best guy friend. so maybe if we do that. we might become bf/gf. unless it is wrong to do. but if its okay how would i start it?
please help. than you in advance.

I don't think it's wrong at all! But it really depends on if YOU think it's strange. Because if you're feeling weird about it, chances are, if you ask him about it, he may feel the same way. However, in all honesty, boys are pigs lol, so I think he'll be okay with you two having a little fun. To start it off I would say something like "So, *insert name*, would you ever consider having a totally random make-out session with me?...just for fun?" you can say this in a more serious way if you like, but I think it would be kind of cute and flirty if you said it like that.

So my boyfriend was at an event thing where they had a dance, and he ended up slow dancing and dirty dancing with girls. Do I have the right to not like that, or am I crazy?

ABSOLUTELY!!!! You have every right to be upset. If I were you, I would talk to him about it before you explode though. Tell him that you aren't comfortable with girls grinding up on him, especially if you don't know these girls. Tell him you are not sure what his intentions were but he really hurt you by disrespecting you in that way.

i'm 17/f and whenever i drink with someone, i kiss them. i don't know where this comes from, but it always happens. i was at my boyfriend's house drinking, and we made out but i thought nothing of it since we've been together for a while. then i was at my close friend's house and kissed her, which was pretty odd, but i just figured it was because we were close and i felt lonely. but then the other night a friend that i had recently started hanging out with came over and we got drunk and i kissed her. not only does this weird me out because its with whomever i'm with at the moment, but also because i'm not bisexual or lesbian. does anyone know where this behavior might come from, or is it just regular drunk behavior? thanks

This is DEFINITELY drunk behavior haha. :) Alcohol has a different effect on everyone, and for you, it may enhance sexual urges. Even if you aren't attracted to those people when you are sober, alcohol sees no beauty. Just because you kiss someone when your drunk, doesn't make you bi, trust me :) it's completely normal.

I am a 15 year old guy who's just finishing grade 10. I spend all my time making short and feature length movies mainly by myself and some of the time with my friends. Also I listen to alot of metal and instrumental techno music. I read books about the occult and death, along with really funny comic collections. I have never had a serious relationship, and I would really love to have one. I find it easy to become close to girls in a friendship way, so they trust me with anything but if I tell them I like them (which I have!) they get kinda awkward and won't want to go out with me. I know I'm not the best looking guy around, I'm very skinny, tall, glasses, and I have long hair because I love metal music, but I still think that if someone gave me a chance they might actually be pretty happy. Any advice for me to get a girlfriend?

I'd like to start off by saying the number one important thing is to stay true to yourself. Don't change who you are because you want a girlfriend. That will just lead into problems. What I suggest is trying to meet a girl who enjoys things that you do. For instance, you said you like heavy metal, so you could probably find a nice girl who ALSO enjoys metal at a concert. Or maybe you could go to a midnight production of a movie you'd like to see, or an opening for a new book. You could even go to a comic book convention. Try surrounding yourself with girls with the same interests as you. :)I wish you all the luck in the world.

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