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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.
You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.
Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.
-Volleyball2150
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So I want to live in Europe in the future. I'm already a citizen of an EU country; i just wanna move back.
I've lived in NY for 10 years now, and I'm getting fairly sick of it. It's crowded, dirty, cramped, and traffic in NYC is ridiculous. Plus, I'm not that into America's profit-drivenness that has the laws favoring big business.
But anyway.
I was just wondering which country would be nicest/best to live in: Poland, Germany, or Spain? (I speak all three languages)
No, I'm not making a definite decision based on your answers, but I would like some opinions. If you can, please mention a specific region/city to back up your answer, as well as other (and any) factors. Tips would be appreciated, as well.
Thanks!
out of those 3, i've been to Germany and Spain.
Germany- I've been in the western part and its beautiful! there's small little towns everywhere and they're connected by roads. the downtown area's are so nice because they have little shops and cafe's along the streets and restaurants outside. the weather is pretty nice. i've only been there in the summer and the summers are nice. like around 70 degrees fahrenheit or 80. winters they get snow. the people there are unbelievably nice. i met my relatives neighbors and they are so nice, they invited me swimming with their younger daughter who i had never met hahaha. also, my relatives are doctors there and one time i went to their work to help them out and the patients talked to me a lot and super nice. I would consider Germany :)
Spain- i've only been there during the summer and i was at the southern tip of it, at a city called Malaga. the beaches there are soooo good. the only thing i wouldn't like is that its way too hot and sticky for me. (my opinion) I like the 4 seasons. the people there are also super duper nice. the guy who works at the beaches for chairs always talked to me whenever i went to the beach. they have small little shacks and boutiques along the boarderwalk. they have a lot of restaurants. oh and most of their "malls' are outside. its like a walkway with shops on the side but with no roof. people eat at restaurants outside too. also the food is so so. there's a lot of fish since it's near the sea. so i dont know if you like fish/seafood.
those are my opinions. i hope i helped a little :)
Hi!
I was wondering what currently the driving age was for people. I have heard so many different theories. I live in MA. I heard that at 16 you could drive, and at 15 1/2 you could got to drivers ed and earn a permit, but then just recently I heard that you couldn't even enter drivers ed until you were 15 nine and nine months. So, if you actually understand what I'm trying to explain, would you please tell me what the current policy for the age someone is eligible to enter into drivers ed, earn their permit, and are able to drive by themselves?
Thank you!
-Sky
14/f
you're allowed to go to drivers ed CLASSES when you're 14. you can get your permit when you're 15. you have to have your permit for 6 months and you take the behind the wheel classes when you get your permit. you can get your license when you're 16.
19/female.
whats a name that i can call this guy joe... we've been friends for about 4 years now .. we're not dating but i do have a crush on him ;) he doesn't know it. i havent told him because he just got out of a relationship of 3 yrs so it'd be too soon for him i think. we are close friends though.. "best friends" if you want to say that.
i don't really want to say like..
hey!...
boo
best friend (that sounds cheesy?)
boy
his ex girlfriend called him joejoe so i don't want to say that and just saying joe isn't fun and unique. i'm usually the only one who calls him joseph .. but that gets boring. any ideas?? i don't wanna say sweetie, hottie .. anything that would be too strong.
i have a good friend named joe and i call him
joe-schmo
joe-bro
oh-joe
ace (inside joke)
buddy
let me know what you think!
-volleyball2150
Guess what? I am stuck for an idea for an article for our school newspaper. I volunteered thinking it would be easy but I can't think of a thing to write about in our school paper.
Does anyone here write for their school paper? Did you in the past? Any ideas for me?
Please and thank you!
i'm not on the newspaper staff but our staff writes about things like recently they had an article about our school spirit. the headlines were "is our school too cocky about our sports? or do we just have a tremendous amount of school spirit?" and they just basically described how our students are always dressed up for football games and yelling and cheering their friends on and getting rowdy and how other schools think we are stuck up in our sports, but really we are just proud. another article was about how our school started to take away the fattening foods, like the icing on our scones. they took polls of what people thought. who liked the idea and who didnt. etc. they interviewed the health department of our school staff and questioned them why they chose to become health concious this year. there's another section on fashion and whats the new school fashion trend. right now its basically scarves, ugg boots, college sweatshirts, purses etc.
so yea, just pick a random topic and brainstorm with ideas, interviews, lead stories etc.
take a extra second when you walk around your school and recognize the small stuff. if you see a kid litering, start an article about that and how unfair it is to the janitors who have to pick up after us everyday afterschool. if you see a mysterious room that you've never been in or seen, try researching it and talking to staff and see what's in there. If you hear about a teacher retiring, talk to them and ask them why they are etc.
good luck :)
Hi!
I need to know if I should shave my vagina. I am old enough and when I asked my mom she said I needed to make up my own mind because it was a lot of work to keep it shaved. I guess the real questions I have are is shaved vagina cleaner and do guys like me to have a shaved vagina?
Does anyone else shave "down there?"
it really depends...
if its summer- i do because i love to go to the beach and swimming, and its embarassing if you don't shave it and then show it.
if its winter- i dont really want to because i'm either too lazy, or its not worth it because its not like i'm going to show it to anyone.
or....
if i have a boyfriend (i'm not getting into the topic) and he's going to see it, i'll ask him what he prefers.
ps: its not really a big deal. so don't think its the end of the world if you do or don't do it.
Okay so I have realized that whenever my friends and I have a fight, and its my fault, the reason is because I am jealous.
My tendancy to be jealous has ruined my relationship with my ex-bestfriend. And I can see it happening again.
You are probably saying, "well just stop being jealous." or "just be happy for her." but its not like that. its not that easy.
when i make really close friend, i only make one at a time. and lets name her... Sani. okay so sani and i became closer this year. at first i thought she was a a funny, chill, innocentish girl. and sheis... butnow she always talks about boys... and now shes getting closer to other people? and its making me so jealous. and now this really hot upperclass man likes her.
what do i do? i cant talk to her because that would make it soo awkward!
hah i'm the exact same way. my bff and i right now are having a little mini war thing. i do things that piss her off and she does things that piss me off.
the best thing you can do right now is just to hold it in. i know that sounds bad and unhealthy, but if you explode at her and act totally jealous, it could ruin a really valuable friendship.
here's what you can do- next time you're jealous of something.. think or write something that YOU have that she doesnt. then just keep reminding yourself that you're special and that this jealously issue won't get to you and it doesn't hurt you.
then think about something else. idk what but just pick something randomly and think very deeply about that.
also, if your friend gets super obnoxious- like she's always talking about that hot guy or always obsessing over these guys that get her, you can either
- change the subject right away and talk about something else.. that shows that you're not interested in that and that you want her to shut up.
- or you could politely tell her to stop talking about that because you have a lot of stuff on your mind and you don't want to hear about her issues.
- or you could secretly think to yourself "if she keeps this up... she's going to turn into a slut or bad person and it could seriously ruin her reputation." that's what i do sometimes and it makes me feel better.
- i hope i helped!!
I am super embarrassed but I tried to put one in and I found out that tampons HURTS! Is it like this for everyone or am I a freak?
yea they do hurt... a lot...
here's a little story to make you feel better. I'm 17 and still dont wear tampons. its not the end of the world. i'm not going to die if i dont wear them..
yea i do wear them if i absolutely HAVE to.. but if i dont, then whats the point? if its going to hurt me in someway, i'd rather not do it.
big deal!
i really dont care if people tell me that i'm werid that i dont wear them. its like telling someone they're weird if they hate halloween..
anyways, keep trying and hopefully you'll get the hang of it. i'm just saying that don't give in to peer pressure. a lot of people these days are being influenced by their other friends to do things they dont want to do. so if you dont want to do it, you dont have to. just saying :)
good luck :)
so this boy i like at my school who is in the year above me and he knows i like him. i really badly wont to ask him out but im not sure because if he said no then i would be heartbroken bt if he said yes i would be worried becasuse i dont know him that well or any of his friends and i would be worrid that if we went out to the park or something we wouldnt have anything to talk about and it would be really awkward and also im he likes to be woht his friends alott and i dont really know them at all and if we wnt out to the parc his friends would end up coming along aswell. so im just dont know what to do any help please ?
just like the other person said, if you don't take risks in life, how will you succeed at anything?
I think you should go for it :)
if he says yes- and you guys end up being alone, thats good :) take advantage of that. its okay to be nervous, because that means that you care about what happens. just be yourself. if he doesn't like you for who you are, he's not worth it. you don't want to be in a relationship with anyone who makes you feel like you can't be who you are. so just be yourself and ask him questions about his favorite hobbies, sports, food, etc. don't get too deep in the conversation like about politics or anything... that could ruin the moment. If his friends happen to join along.. thats also ok! because its a new thing for you 2 and maybe he feels nervous too. Have you ever noticed that when people are nervous, they always want to be with friends because their friends help them calm themselves down. so its not a bad thing if they tag along. just treat them with respect and hang out with them! even if you dont know them, get to know them! ask each person what they like to do for fun and just let loose and talk. let the conversations flow. dont ever stop and think about what you're going to say. just talk and be yourself. again, if they don't like you for who you are, its not even worth spending time with them.
if he happens to say no- don't feel bad. he's probably a jerk anyways. I think anybody should say yes and give a person a chance, even if they dont know them. you know that saying that's like- don't judge a book by its cover? its the same in this situation.. nobody should look at another person and say "no i dont want to be in a relationship with them" because they don't really know the person on the inside and it doesn't make sense to dislike someone, without even knowing them. just remember that there's PLENTY of fish in the sea!! I dont know how old you are, but i'm 17 and i've only had 2 serious relationships, and also hooked up with a few guys. so i have a little experience with them. If you think about it... there's SOOOOO many guys out there. think about how many are in your town... now quadroople that. thats how many there are in this world. you never know what could happen, you could move one day and there will be soo many different types of guys for you to meet. so even if he does blow you off, just shake it off and think "hey! he's just 1 guy out of 999999999. i can find other guys. maybe even a better one than him!" just be strong and hold your head up high. i know everything seems like the end of the world when you're young, but its really not... you're just begining to live life. so live it up to the fullest. you don't want to look back at your life and think "wow what the hell was i doing??"
-i hope i helped :)
i'm so nervous for tomorrow, i'm getting my picture re-taken. i don't know what to do or wear or anything- the last one i got was so incredibly awful. but maybe i just think i'm ugly or something? i don't know.
here's the thing, when i look in the mirror, i don't look great but i look okay. then when i see myself in pictures i look so awful, and other times i look even better than i normally do. it makes no sense. i know this is going to sound silly, but my face is really lopsided. people say no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, but mine is sooo noticeable. my left eye like, droops down and so does my eyebrow which causes me to constantly wear my side bangs in my face covering that eye so no one notices. in my last school photo, the one that was originally taken, (tomorrow is re-takes like i said), my hair is covering the other eye and i look really bad. but i've seen myself in other photos with it out of my face and i look really, bad too.
ugh i'm just so nervous and freaking out, i really want to look my best and get a nice photo. any tips? & should i wear my hair in my face or out of it?
hmm well what i think you could do is try having your bangs parted in the middle. that gives it the illusion that your face is symmetrical. then try wearing something catchy. Bright colors, patterns etc. anything that will draw attention to your shirt, rather than your face. Perhaps wear a bigger sized necklace? or long dangling earrings or hoops?
Also i dont know if you can do this but at our school we can- we take our picture and then before we leave, we ask the photographer if we can take a look at our picture and see if we like it. and if we dont, they'll let us retake it once more. now obviously some people aren't that nice... especially if they've been taking teenager pictures for a very long period of time. but remember, if you're nice and courteous, and say please and thank you, other people will acknowledge that and respect that.
i hope i helped!
what's a good christmas song to sing at my christmas show for school ? i want more of an orginal one. not one like "let it snow" or "have yourself a merry little christmas". if you know what i mean.
I know a good one but its a little tricky. Its by Christina Aguilera and its called- Its Christmas Time. The reason its hard is because she has a wide vocal range and its hard to hit those high notes that she is extremely good at.
So my bf has really bad breath. like i call him BBB whne he isn't around because it is so bad. Everyone else knows but him. What do I do about it? He can't smell it so he thinks everyone is kidding with him but my boyfriend's breath is AWFUL!
Help?
well if you guys are comfortable with making you, you could pop in a breath mint your mouth and then when you guys are kissing, just slip the breathmint into his mouth.
or you could ask him if he wants any gum or breathmints or anything, and offer other people around him so it doesnt seem like youre just thinking about his breath.
or what you could do is have a friend type up a survey like thing. something where its like- What is your favorite thing about your bf/gf. What is your least favorite thing about your bf/gf. What could your bf/gf do better in this relationship. What do you pinky promise your bf/gf. How much do you trust your bf/gf. etc etc. ect.
then be like "we should take this survey! it sounds fun!" and then for the spot that says, least favorite thing- you could mention his bad breath. or something like that.
i hope i helped!
PLEASE! can somebody tell me what I need to do to get big loose curls? I have tried everything and the curls just seem to fall right back out. Thank you if you can help me. :)
i'm not an expert on curls because i rarely have curly hair, but my friends tell me that what they do is they take a section of hair and put hairspray on it BEFORE they curl it with the curling iron or those hot roller things. and then they spray it again with hairspray after. then they leave it alone and let it cool off, dont touch it. then after everything is curled, they run their fingers through their hair to give it more life like textures.not just piecey hair.
I am an 18 year old girl and a senior in high school. I've known this boy, Kevin, since I was little and we've been best friends since freshman year. I've liked him romantically on and off since sophomore year, but he's always had a girlfriend. He broke up with his most recent girlfriend at the end of August, which gave me some hope. Last weekend, a mutual friend told me that, at a party a few weeks ago, he drunkenly told her that he really liked me romantically. My best friend's boyfriend, who was at that party, told me the same. However, I went to a party last night and Kevin completely ignored me, except to ask for a cigarette. Lame, I know. I'm starting to think he doesn't like me after all. Or maybe he did, but his feelings have changed since that party a few weeks ago. What should I do? Should I let it go? Talk to Kevin? If I do talk to him, where do I even begin?
if he told your friend "drunkenly" it probably isn't true.. a lot of people who are drunk say things they don't mean. also, don't trust rumors. a lot of rumors are false.
I think you need to talk to him though. Just casually call him and ask him to hang out sometime. you HAVE to talk to him in person, otherwise its not appropriate. then when you 2 are together, in a place with limited distractions, just ask him. "i heard a rumor that you like me romantically. is that true?"
good luck :)
I've been single for the past couple months... i would rather not get into the subject of why my ex and I broke up because i'm afraid if i start i will never stop.. and believe me..that's not a good thing.
Recently, i met someone new... problem is.. he is going into the navy within the next couple months. I can honestly say he is one of the nicest and most sincere guys I have ever met in my life. And I am definitely not blinded when i say this.. because after my last relationship I think I know by now the difference between when a guy is being real and when he's not.
I guess I'm at the point where i feel somewhat alone...he is going to leave in a couple months..and right now he is the only one keeping me from going insane. my best friend has compromised herself more then i ever imagined and i feel like i don't know her at all anymore. My parent's could care less about my personal life...and really no one seems to understand.
I don't know what to do anymore....
I feel like everytime something good comes into my life, it leaves just as quickly.
please help :(
there's nothing you can really do except appreciate this time with him. you can't pull him out of the navy. you could join the navy, to spend time with him... but thats your choice. you just need to stop worrying about the future, and take things slowly. don't rush into the future. just relax and have fun!
k so I'm 16 female and I am having some boy problems. I am totally ready for a boyfriend and I have liked this guy for a really long time. I have only had one boyfriend for a few weeks and It was a bad experience and I am really ready to move on. The guy that I like keeps giving mixed signals. He acts flirty and stuff and idk if he even knows I like him or not. I have tried everything and he can rarely hang out cause his parents are divorced. I want him to know how I feel but he gets really shy and embarrassed. We have a sweet 16 coming up and I want to know how to act around him to maybe win him over. I just would love to go out with him and I need some advice on how to get him to either like me back or tell me how he feels. Even though sometimes I feel like he likes me, I also feel like there is something holding him back and idk what it could be. HELP! oo we are also pretty good friends if that makes a difference. thank you =]
you need to tell him how you feel. if he cant hang out that much, trying telling him over an email or text or phone call. in life, you need to take risks. if you dont, then how are you to succeed in life and live your life to the fullest??
just tell him!!!
the worst that could happen is that he doesnt like you back, and then you just forget about it and move on. there are plenty of other fishes in the sea :)
Hi, My problem is that when I babysit my nephew he gets a bit violent. Today for example I had to get him ready to go to his baseball game. He didn't want to go, obviously. I have a slight handicap and he uses it to his advantege. He'll stike out and hit me on my foot. It's very painful. I've tried to explain to him why he can't do that. But he just rolls his eyes and walks away. My sister has tried to help but he keeps doing it. I can't stop babysitting him because my sister has college and no one else to watch him. So what should I do. I mean he is 8 years old, he should know better.
Elie Hayes
try playing a game with him. make an agreement that if he doesnt hit you for the entire day, he wins a prize. i know this is bribery, but bribes are only bad if the prize is big- like a new toy or something. for this prize- give him something small, like a cookie. or allow him to do something a little more mature- like staying up an extra half an hour or hour.
what you SHOULDN'T do is hit him back. thats child abuse and completely wrong. he wouldn't learn anything from that. you could punish him but nothing violent (putting soap in kids mouth is considered violent) a time-out is reasonable. or if he continues to do this, take away an hour of TV time.
-i hope everything goes well!
Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now.We don't fight much these days but when we do he yelle at me and he really scares me sometimes.He really makes me upset and makes me cry then he says he's sorry and he said i should treat him better and i wont yell at u.He tells his family things that aren't true,but i really love him i dont want to break up
i know you dont want to break up... but maybe he does...
things change. for the good, or for the worse.
all i can really say is to talk with him about it. dont try to hide your feelings. be really open and honest and just ask him why he's yelling so much. remember to keep a calm tone, because if you raise your temper level, so will he. communication is the number one important thing in a relationship, so you just have to discuss this with him.
-good luck!
So I'm 15/f and I have my first boyfriend. We've been going out for about two weeks and I haven't kissed him yet, and neither of us have ever kissed anybody before. I'm pretty nervous, and I'm sure that he is, too, but I'm going over his house in a few days and we're going to be alone, so that will probably be a good time to get my first kiss, and for him to get his. I really don't want to screw anything up, so does anyone have any advice on how to go about this? Thanks so much, I really appreciate it :)
first kisses are soo cute!! i remember mine. ok so what you want to do is RELAX. if you are really tense and jumpy, it will seem really awkward. thats how mine was haha. first of all, i wouldnt recommend to kiss while you 2 are sitting next to each other. my first bf and i were sitting right next to each other and when we tilted our heads, it was really awkward. so i suggest kissing when you are face-to-face. not side by side. secondly, make sure your breath is not stinky. brush your teeth, and eat lots of mints. trust me, guys love minty breaths :) it adds a spice to the kiss. third, you want to close your eyes. if you keep your eyes open, it gets awkward. fourth, the kiss doesnt have to be long. it could just be a peck. maximum 3 seconds. after the kiss, look him in the eyes. after my kiss, my face turned bright red and i looked away. he thought it was cute haha.
just remember, practice makes perfect. my first, second, and even third kiss was awkward. but after the first 3, you get really used to it. and its like eating candy. super easy and sweet :)
-good luck!
hi, well latley ive been feeling really down about myself. i mean i have amzing friends and i do a lot just that nothing feels like its going right. this isnt the first time either. im just cought in between a hole bunch of stuff and i dont know what to do about any of it. im confused and so scared about what people will think of me if i told people about what im going through. i just need someone to go to that i can look to for advice. i just dont know how i can come forward with my problem just yet. so what should i do ?
hey you can be buddies with me :) i'm feeling the exact way. i've got A LOT on my mind and i really need to vent to someone. but the thing is, i dont want to vent to any of my friends because i'm scared of what they might think of me if i tell them. i cant talk to my parents because i'm scared of confronting them... so looks like we are both stuck.
i'm here to help, so you can inbox me ALL of you problems, and i promise that i wont judge you or anything and i will take everything seriously and try my best to help you ok?
if you prefer to email, my email is twixtwix26@gmail.com
-volleyball2150
i AM a very shy person, and so i like this guy but i dont no if he likes me, he stares at me sometimes, but i dont no if he likes me or not. i dont no wat to do, i dont want to admit my fealings for him cause it jsut so hapends everytime i open up i always get hurt, (which means no, they dont like me) or something like that and i dont want to get hurt again. so wat do i do? please help lilly
_confused
i've always been taught to first get to know the guy. dont jump right into a relationship with him. be friends first and get to know him. it doesnt hurt to say "hi". the worst that could happen is that he goes "hi" and walks away. its not like he's going to point a finger at you and laugh and say "OMG THIS GIRL IS A RETARD!! SHE SAID HI TO ME!!!" haha. so just relax.
take it 1 little baby step at a time...
1. say hi
2. (some people would introduce themselves here, but i normally dont because it sounds too practiced and professional to say "hi, i'm _____") so here- you could make a joke, ask a simple question, or comment on something. just to break the ice a little. nothing too big like "what do you think of the war in iraq?". perhaps something like- "i really like your shirt, where did you get it?"
3. keep the conversation going. dont even stop to think about what you are going to say because that just causes an awkward silence. just keep talking from where you left off. (example- nice shirt-where did you get it?- hollister- i love that store- i like target better- they have cheap things- but they have good things there- i like walmart better- i work at walmart- where do you work. etc. etc. etc. just keep talking
4. NOW you can mention your name. something like "i'm _____ by the way" i wouldn't ask for their name because thats too cheesy. if they dont give it to you- wait until you guys are about to separate and then say "hey whats your name??"
5. go with the flow. i cant really tell you what to say now. just be yourself and talk with the dude. if you're feeling confident, you could say something like "my friends and i are going to a movie tomorrow, we have an extra ticket, do you want to come with?" or "this weekend i'm not doing anything, do you want to hang out?" or you could just simply ask for their number and say "i'm not sure whats happening this weekend, why dont i call you and tell you later?"
again.. just relax and be yourself. dont jump right into saying "i like you and i really want you". take baby steps, baby.
-hope i helped!