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hi,
i am a male and 21 years old.a year ago i used to masturbate more(probably 35 times a month).gradually i decreased the count.now its hardly 5-7 times a month.since three months i ve been experiencing an acute pain in my stomach after masturbating and i am feeling tired too.i am afraid if something is going wong with me.does masturbation harm one???please let me know why this is happening and if there could be any problems later....
thank you

hun, it doesn't harm you is your not doing it in a weird way that could hurt you. It's just for why your so tired you just kinda used up a lot of energy from yourself. That's why you see people naturally fall asleep after sex cause their exhausted. As for your stomach having a little pain that's a bit normal. Don't even worry about it. It's hurts a little when i masterbate too.

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Okay I have three questions.
1) Could discharge be a sign of pregnacy?
2) Is there anyway I can take a test befor my missed period? Like if I waited at least 3 weeks after the guy came inside of me?
3) Can I get a Serum Beta HCG test at like a local drug store?

Okay for Q1- no, it's usually a sign if your menstrual cycle is coming.

Q2- yes there is a test for like that. Just go into a normal drug store and look in the pregnancy section and read the labels. It should be there. That one works two weeks in advance.

Q3- No

Answer 4...........Hope i helped!!

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I think I masturabte tooo much...
Like I just discovered it 2 days ago
and I already did it about 4 times...
Is that normal? And plus after I do it
I feel like a total pervert for doing it
and it's weird, but hwen I'm doing it it feels sooo good. Im confusedddd

Trust me it's perfectly normal!!! When i started to masterbate i thought i was perverted too!! But i realized it's just my teenage hormones. Ur horny and that's okay, but don't u dare jump in bed with someone for it. What for the right time. Watch dirty movies or look at porn either way if it satifies you then go for it. But don't use money too much because if you that is now addiction. So just stay cool and have fun with it!! Old people wish they had the pleasure you get as much as you do! hope i helped!!!



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Ok so I came out to my family and friends three years ago. I haven't "liked" any specific guys before or had crushed on them or thought they were hot or anything (like I look at pictures in magazines of naked guys and I think the photography is good and they look "nice" but I do that with girls too) and I always had "crushes" on girls and thought they were hot.
So last year I started dating a girl a year older than me (I was 18 and she was 19) and we used to get sexual and stuff but it never felt right. It would get really heated while we were having sex but I didn't like being with her like holding hands and stuff and didn't consider us a couple. Eventually we broke up because of it and I figured maybe we didn't have any chemistry.
So a few months ago, I met this chick and she's the same age as me (19) and we got to know each other and we started going out. The same thing happened to me only we didn't even have sex yet. It just didn't feel "right". I didn't feel like I should be with a woman.
I am so confused now. I'm a nineteen year old female and I'm not attracted to -anyone-. Is there something wrong with me? I'm not bi. I'm not straight. I'm not even gay. I don't understand. Is this just me? Because I want to be close to someone and be in a relationship but I don't feel like I should be with guys -or- girls!

Don't rush your hormones when you'll like "someone" you'll know. Don't think your strange or anything. You may be just trying to like everyone else and have a relationship but in reality you aren't quite ready. Anyway go out with a guy and see how it feels and then write back to me. Also it could be that you really haven't found the right person. So don't panic enjoy life and take things as they come to you. Hope i helped!!

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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)

I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think?

I may not be an adult (my a female and 15 years old), but i truly understand how sad and terrible it is that young kids like me are sexually active. It often comes from just being rebellious or having low self esteem to themselves (mainly from the communication connections throughout the household with their parents). The parents i think should talk more with the kids and try to get on their level and give them some old schooling. My mom talks to me about being a lady and that the name of the game is not to give it up and that's what makes the guys go crazy. Kids my age should know like me to stay a child as long as they can as in no drinking, getting sucked into peer pressure, smoking, and sex. I don't know what's the fuss about kids my age having problems resisting peer pressure. I got it plenty of times and frankly it never bothered me to say NO. But probably for some kids it's probably really important to be in the "IN CROWD", be like "un" unique or to be cool. My parents taught me to love myself very well and just stay a kid cause i won't be a kid for long! It basically all depends on the parents and how they teach things to their kids. As much as the responsibilities, talking with them, and learning and asking about life in the house. Specially it's also most important to have a firm, but calm obedience structures. Hope i helped with this from a kid's point of view!

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Yesarday my ex bf went to a basketball game at my school.
And everyone was was saying,that i was talking shit about him.
The preps and stuff.
But i dont talk to them!
So now he wont talk to me at all,and he got a new gf.
I started to cry,because i never did that and i never would.
I like him to much.
So yesarday i told his friend,his friend likes me.
And i was kinda starting to like him.
And then last night,he started to hold me and touch me.
And now he wants to screw me.
But now,im like confused.
Whats wrong with me?
help

There's nothing wrong with you! It's just crazy and weird teenage hormones. You lost interest in the other guy and you have interest in this one.....PERFECTLY NORMAL! Don't go and screw this guy cause he likes you or you need closure from the ex you had. The name of the game is not to give up the sex or your screwed and every guy would just want to be with you just to get into your pants b/c your probably easy to them. Don't make it seem that way. The preps must hate on you or something or one of your unloyal friends must of talked to them and told them about your business. It could go either way. Let the ex go and move on and don't sleep or go out with the new guy cause sub-consciously you might need someone to hold on to..maybe. make wise choices with this. Hope i helped!!

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how do you know if ur bi my friend thinks she might be

14/f (shes already gone through puberty)

OH..MY..GODDNESS! It doesn't matter if you've gone through purberty or not. It's a natural feeling you develope. You and your friend need to not label herself at all b/c she's young and this may change in one year or two. Depending on the feelings and hormones teenagers have it's normal to be confused or just choosy on the sex and gender you like. Don't label yourself it causes problems just let this feeling flow and take it's course. Dont fight it or force this feeling she's having. Ur friend and you shud look on the internet about bisexuals and lesbians and about about how do you know if she is. No one can tel you that really it's JUST A NATURAL FEELING YOU HAVE ABOUT A PERSON OF THE SAME OR DIFFERENT GENDER! It helps to get find some internet resources. Also if you find out in this moment that you may like girls and guys for right know as your attraction don't thing your strange. Your still a person, but with more choices and benefits (a got point of view).Hope i helped!!

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Is being forced to makeout sexual abuse in any way? For example, if you're making out with a guy and he doesn't let you pull away when you want to.
And if it isn't sexual abuse, then what is it?
I'm just wondering.

Well, hun it's called a little harrassment!! And i think you need to get in control and tell him no and if he gets and attitude about it tell him he can go. Cause if he can't compromise then why bother with that kind of complication. Think about it! hope i helped!!

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we'll me and my bestfriend hang out every weekend and we hang out with these two boys, c and j and my best friend started to date c, and after a while me and j got kinda bored with having them date and everything so me and him we started talking a lot and some how we got to talking about becoming "friends with benefits" and at first it was just simple just us two making out but then after that it got more serious and well i let him finger me and i jacked him off and it was more then i intended to ever do with him, we'll now things have gotten more serious between me and him and well now he likes me and i like him, we arn't dating or anything but our feelings are gettn stronger everytime we talk and i've had sex before and so has he and well we always talk about maybe having sex with each other and now im thinking that maybe i shou;d..i need help on weather or not i should or not?

I say if he isn't one of those guys that talks mean about girls than go for it. If you like him not if you think it's your duty. What your doing seems fun and i wish i would have gotten that kind of offer (lol). Go for it girl and have fun you only live once!! hope i helped!

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ok so i probally sound stupid for asking this but what does it mean when someone pops your cherry i dont get it


stupid probally but help anyways

No it's not stupid cause actually it's good not to have suc have such a dirty mind to know it. It means to have intercoarse and bleed ( not a lot just a drop or two) during sex which has you be no longer a virgin. hope i helped!

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Am I missing something? Do most girls lose their virginities by the time they're 16? I'm just amazed, because when I was 12, NOBODY was having sex, or even kissing... and now I hear about 12 year olds having sex! I'm 18, so I'm not THAT old...

I'm just curious...

Aint that a shocker and just sad. Girls that are doing that aren't setting a good example and vibe for the girls coming in the future like our kids coming in the future. Especially in my high school i have girls in sophmore year getting birth control in the regular!!! By Junior year we have a quite few of pregnant girls every year. We even have a pregnant 14 year old freshman right now. It makes me made and seems like we have more sluts, whores, and unlady like girls this generation more than ever. Aint that somethin? (IM me:Mega hot mama7 )

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i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I?

If your a teenager you have nothing to worry about it happens to me to and as a teenager you have crazy emotions and feelings that you can't explain, but only experiment with. I feel the same way. It may just be a sexual urge you haven't tried yet probably and you need to challenge that urge to see how your sexual emotions are. If you like to kiss guys and get busy with them (just you ingenerally) than you may bi as well, but also as a teenager i wouldn't put a label on yourself so early. This is a natural instinct you just need to flow with. I would say talk to your bf about it if he can handle talking about it. Talk to your best friend about it to if she's that trustworthy and won't get freaked out. Don't freak and just go with the flow and if you want to you can IM ( screen name: Mega hot mama7) me back to tell me your age, ask more questions about this and for me to give you an article to read that will make perfect sense to you. hope i helped!!

(p.s this is something i've exlpored about too for my own self and i've looked up many things to find the answer.)

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hey have anyone read the book Queen of Cool? if so what is it about? this girl said that it has some sexual stuff in it but she wont exactly tell me what it said. also is it a good book to buy or no? i rate high for good answers and dont try to lie because i have ways of knowing. LOL!!!

Hey i say get the book it is a very good book. She's knows what she's talkin about. Any book that can offer sexual stuff to learn or know about is a great book to be. If you don't want to chance reading it and it turns out bad to you borrow the book from the library or just read it in the book store and decide there to keep it. hope i helped!!

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I have been taking guitar lessons from an older married man. Sometimes he says things to me like "look at me when you're playing", but says it in a turned on way. I've also caught him staring inappropriatley at my chest. I got really embarrassed at the last lesson because for no reason at all, while I had two of my fingers on the D chord, he put his hand on top of my hand; wouldnt let go, and slid our hands down the entire guitar all the way from the top to bottom, and very slowly. Now I'm not an idiot, and know this wasnt part of the lesson. I know my face was all red and when I looked up at him, he looked guilty.
Now I don't know what to do, because he had been offering the lessons for free. He's also my friends boss, and I don't want to say anything. What should I do?

Fuck the friend's boss i think your friend will understand this!! So as soon as possible tell policeman or let the boss know how serious this is and make sure he takes care of the situation ( by the way how old are you if i might ask? w/b). If he doesn't do anything don't take the lessons anymore you can always find another guitar lesson teacher. Even if they pay you it's more worth it then getting sexually harrassed. That's the teacher's way of you paying him by him making passes at you.

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Sorry this is so long...

There is this girl "A" and she and I used to be pretty good friends. Well, last summer she like my best friend "L". This whole time A has been writing L letters behind her boyfriend's back. a mutual friend, "B", of A and L Went and told A's boyfriend,"K" that L had letters that A had written him. Understand that, L and K used to be best friends. So, L gave K the letters. By now, nobody trusts anyody. Well I went on this other girls myspace and left a comment that was and inside joke betwwen me and her. at some point, A read this and thought it was and attack on her. It wasn't and now she is amd at me. What should I say to A to make her understand I didnt mean fro ti to be that way.

I wonder why no one interpret to "A" that you were not serious about what you wrote. You shouldn't have left a comment because on myspace everyone cane see a comment to another person so you should have left a message to her personally. To get yourself out of this directly talk to "A" and tell her the truth, make it look sincere and if she doesn't believe you let it go b/c you told her and that's all you can do. hope i helped.

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My girlfriend(17years old) has been raped by three different people. She only trusts me and hasnt got the confidence to tell anybody else. This means that the responsibility is down to me to give her my own sort of counseling service. I'm not really sure as to what to do apart from help her get it all out. Please could somebody give me some tips on more counselling advice? It would be much appreciated.thankyou x

Well, let her know first that she's not a bad and nasty person. She's shouldn't be ashamed of herself. That it's the guys WHO should be ashamed of raping a complete stranger, b/c the can't get a woman to touch them (ha ha). Then you have to tell the police and her parents b/c the police will find the idiots who did this and her parents just need to know these things b/c that's their daughter and they love her. If they find the guys she should go and identify the guys to not let them rape any more defenseless girls. Also take them to court and testify. It may be hard to do, but you have do it to get rid of the assholes who did and put them away for good. Hope i helped!!

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Everytime my boyfriend (who i have been with for 1 and a half years) gets a boner, his penis is bent, like a banana. If i try to have foreplay with him, this makes it difficult and i want to laugh. Im not sure what to do. It makes intercourse unsexy and turns me off. He just doesnt give me the pleasure i need. Does anyone know what to do? im thinking of breaking up with him because i need to laugh everytime he gets horny. Please get back to me as soon as possible!

You know you pretty cruel to break up with someone if the sex isn't working and you haven't tried anything. You should search on the internet and find sites about how to get pleasure from a curved penis. In fact it may and should be at times (for people find out how to get aroused by a curved penis the right way) pleasurable then straight ones. You need to tell him how you feel, but be nice about it he may be ashamed about it. You can laugh a little , but don't be so rude about it also. Hope i helped!!!

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okay so i have two sisters and it gets hard sometimes; oh yea, and theyre both younger than me--now youre startin to get it..

anyways i find myself soo frustrated sometimes--by my parents, my sisters, and the world itself. its seems so unfair sometimes that i feel like packing my bags and leaving--but where??

i have tried to confront my mom about it before, but it didnt help much(it just started up another arguement)..this all happens bc my sisters do not behave, and i start to yell(bc there is nothing else i can possibly do) -no timeouts-no consequences-nothing!!

sometimes i think of moving in with my dad(since my folks are separated) but im afraid ill miss my ma' even tho i have so much hate in me...wat do i do about all of this?!?! please help..

Well, hun life has it's sucky moments. I have a best friend just like this...wink, wink!! I think you should take every problem with that family with not a frustration, but with a diary or talk to yourself. It helps you collect and really think about the things going on with you and figure it out out loud. I know you have good friends that if you packed up your bags you could be with them. I think you should really tell your mom or dad that you always devote your time to those kids you never have time for yourself. As a teenager that may have common sense let her know that your not a babysitter all the time. You should say that if your in high school or going to be that she should think of all the time that will be gone from being a big babysitter. Just tell your mom that those aren't your kids and say you love them, but you see i get frustrated and i can'tdeal wiith them well. Tell her if she baggering of her giving you the kids all the time see bothering you that you gonna have to talk to dad about this. Just let her know your too old to be giving my time into the same thing that makes it seem like i'm getting ready for having kids soon. Let her know that's not fair and common sense. hope i helped a bit!!!!

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Is it true that guys don't really like hand jobs? And that everytime they get a girl to give them a handjob, they are really just looking for a way to convince the girl to give him a blow job? (if that makes sense)

Sounds like it makes sense to me, It may be true. hope i helped a bit!!

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Im 13, And Im female. I just kinda have a odd questions. You know how people say (While i heard it on tv once, & once on here..) When boys at school when they get hard, they try to stop it and cover it with the books in front of it..
Will honestly, do they REALLY DO THAT?
& doesnt it hurt, trying to make it not so noticeable...
I mean im a girl, and i just see it as pain, or something. hah.. Thanks i rate high.

Yeah, tht's true and it may hurt. I think it's quite cute and makes me a bit horny to think the guy you or I may like has a boner for no reason in class! Hope i helped!!!

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