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My name is Fawn and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. I am a Christian, and like to think that I am a good listener. I hope to go back to college this year and eventually earn a my masters degree in psychology. It has been a dream of mine for many years now to be in an occupation that I can help people and receive the peace that will come with knowing that I am doing something important with my life. My husband and I lived in Virginia for a year and a half and we are looking forward to getting back there after I finish my education. I love dogs, music, books, travel and photography. Most of my time is spent with my church family, my immediate family and my wonderful husband. Be nice and I will be nice. Be rude and I will be rude. Ask my opinion and that is what you will get. I am open minded and honest and I give and expect respect.
I am check my inbox daily so send me a question and I promise (excluding personal illness or family emergency) that I will respond quickly. Take care and I hope to hear from you soon!
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I have a list of names that I like a lot. For my kids. *(I've always loved names, and making them up, and stuff)* Im Almost 15, and wont be having kids for atleast 7 more years, but i would still like to know some of the names for boys and/or girls that you all like! and you can add middle names too, if you so desire. Also, I use a lot of the names that I like when I play the Sims and the Sims 2. So If you could please tell me the names that you all like for boys and/or girls, that would be great, thanks! I'll rate a 4 or a 5 if you leave a *real* name! thanks!!
--KeLs--
Girl - Makalah Lea, Jessica Lynn, Aslan Mozel, Sarah, M'lynn, Ruth, Julianna, Lynette, Audrey, Adrianna, Penelope, Kira, Valerie, Taryn, Savannah
Boy - Ezekiel James (call him Zeke), Christian Scott, William Blake, Seth, Drew, Aaron, Houston, Shelton, Brady, Barry, Paul, Zack, Stephen, Monty, Carlton, Ethan, Edwin (call him Ted)
Those are the names that we are considering for our future children. Best Wishes!
i am 13/f, and i know this sounds really gross. but can you have a pimple on your (down there). when i was putting on my jeans the other day it started to hurt. and when i got out of the shower there is this big bumb down there. its kind of white on the top. which to me looks like a pimple. what can i do? i'm scared. how can i get rid of it? I RATE 5's!!!
ps. i am not a virgin, but its just now showing up and the last time i had sex was 3 months ago.
There are several possibilities as to what it could be. You could have a pimple (yes they could show up anywhere), it could be a boil (these are caused by allergic reactions to food or meds, infected hairs, hormonal changes, etc) or it could be a sign of an STD. First I would try putting some medicine on it (Bacitratian, Neosporin, etc) and keep a small piece of gauze over it all of the time. Sometimes friction can make boils larger. If it does not start to go away in 3 days, talk to your parents and go see your regular medical doctor. He/She will probably be able to tell you what it is and how to treat it. If it is a boil they might have to lance it off.
Put some medicine on it, keep it covered and give it 3 days. If it becomes red, inflammed or starts hurting really bad go see a doctor immediately.
I hope that you start feeling better. Best Wishes!
P.S. Im not a doctor so if you are really concerned contact your regular medical doctor right away.
I am at the end of my rope, I have been married almost two yrs to my High school sweetheart.(after a 18 yr seperation since high school)She has two kids age 13 and 10. I have two boys age 12 and 9. My problem is this, Her children disrespect me and lie to me and get away with murder, while I make my kids respect her and do what they are told. Her son 10, has A.d.d and cried to his dad so much, that he was taken off the prescribed medicine. His father was too proud to accept the fact that the boy needs the meds to concentrate. He repeatedly says this to his son until he is unbearable. He cried and cried to get his mom to stop the medicine, Because he didnt need it. He was an A student until a month or so ago, when his dad decided that he didnt need it. Since then the child is unruly .whiny, moody, throws temper tantrums, and lastly his grades have already dropped. Yesterday i checked the kids grades on the Internet, and he wnet from all A's to a D+, C, and a couple B's. He threw a temper tantrum, when told he was now grounded, and then blamed the teacher for his grades. He looked his mother in the face and screamed at her" you made me take medicine that I dont need. All while crying and throwing a fit. I said to my wife, if that isnt his dad talking i will kiss your a$$. I was the one reprimanded by her for saying that to her, not her sons bad grades. She then coddled him the remainder of the night. Herelies the problem, He calls the other kids names, he tattles, he Lies to my face, and He comes out smelling like a rose. He was grounded from his game boy, his brother asked to play one of his games, he said no, until i stepped in. The previous day he was allowed to play my other sons game boy because he was grounded from it for a bad grade. His mother made my son give him the gameboy because he forgot his at his dads house, yet said nothing when he wouldnt let the youngest use his. A little later the yougest son(of mine) said your being a jerk, and was immediately told to go to bed. Unlike her children, My son immediately complied and went to bed in tears. I am at the end, i just cant deal with this crap no more. I grew up with a step mother who acted the same way and it makes me sick to see my kids treated that way. My wife refuses to see this and it is ruining my marriage. Please Help. The question is How do I make my wife see this is going on, and stop it before its too late.
I am sorry for your situation. My sister is married to her second husband and many times her son from her first marriage is left out in the cold, less loved, yelled at more while her child from her second marriage is loved and yelled at less. It is tough to make a situation like that work because no matter what anyone says, your first feeling is to your own children, then to your spouses. You can overcome it but you must choose to. She obviously has not made that choice yet but since you are on here seeking advice that shows that she still has time.
Sit her down, WITHOUT the children and tell her that her attitude and indifference is ruining your marriage and hurting all of the children. Her son must be put back on his medication, it is irrational to think that its his teachers fault. Point that out to her. Tell her that she has to be the adult in this situation and since she, not his dad, is responsible for his daily care SHE must decide that he needs the medication. SHE must put him back on it. SHE must enforce punishments on all of the children. SHE must be fair to the children in all situations, taking great care not to slight one in favor of another. You must also do the same though it sounds like you are doing well considering the circumstances. SHE must not reprimand you about your childcare decisions because there is no "your child" "my child" it is "our children". You both are those children's parents. You both are responsible for their well-being. Be very blunt with her, do NOT pull punches. Make her see how her behavior is not only affecting your marriage but the childrens self esteem. Trust me, they see it when one child is treated better than they are. Children are without the adult capabilities that we have to express themselves but that does not make them stupid. They see, they know and yes it does hurt them.
Talk to her, making her listen to you until you are finished then hear her side of it. Do not walk away from the conversation until all that needs to be said and expressed has. Make her understand that you are not ready to give up yet but if she does not make an effort to change you will walk away. If she does not change you will have to take your children and walk away from this marriage. I know that you love her and her kids and do not want to see that happen but if she does not change you have to think of your children's well-being. Talk it out with her and give her some time to affect the changes. If you see that she is trying, be reasonable by giving her more time and helping her in everyway that you can. If she does not try to change, tell her that she is forcing your hand and consider your next option.
In a nutshell : Be blunt and talk to her about all of this. Do not make her feel as though you are wanting to leave her but let her know that she will eventually force you to if she continues her behavior. Talk to her and listen to her. Try to help her change.
Before you have this discussion with her talk to a close friend about how you should phrase everything, if you have faith pray about it, if you are close with a sibling or other family member talk to them about it. Get a game plan before jumping into the conversation. Go in prepared so that you will not regret not talking about something later on.
I hope that this works out for you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please contact me anytime if I can help you. Best Wishes!
Okay, 5 seconds ago I just dropped the camera that I got this Christmas! I know it cost like..130 dollars, and it was the gift from my parents, unlike the other ones from 'santa' hha. Anyway, i dropped it, and now its all scratchy inside, and I got it to turn on..and it wont now. It sounds like pieces in the inside are juggling around. I unscrewed the top to see if anything was in there, but the bottom doesn't unscrew, so you can't take it off, so I don't know. Wtf do I do? I LOVE that DIGITAL camera, and my parents are gonna be soo pissed. Should I blame my cat? Be like, "I think the cat hit this off the table' or something. Omg, please help, my mom's gonna be home soon. PLUS, I'm supposed to bring it to school tomorrow. Oh man :(
As much as you no doubt dont want to hear this, your mom probably wont believe that the cat did it and you do have to tell her. The good news, there is usually a 1-3 year warranty on digital cameras and since your parents bought it for you they probably have the warranty. They should be able to send it back in to the company and get it fixed (or even bring it to the store that they brought it from and have them ship it back to the manufactur. company). Apologize to them about dropping it but really, I think that you should tell them that it was an accident and ask them about the warranty. Chances are you can get it fixed without any cost to your parents which should save your hide somewhat.
Im sorry for your situation. I love my digital camera too. I hope it works out for you. Best Wishes!
I think I may have a blatter infection. This may sound gross, if it does, I'm sorry. Alot of times whenever I need to use the restroom, I feel like I need to REALLY bad. I try to go, but only a very little comes out and then I get this sharp pain near my blatter and it hurts really bad. When I wipe myself, it looks as if I was bleeding a little down there and I'm not due to get my period for another few weeks. I've been drinking so many liquids all day to try to make myself go to the bathroom, but it just makes it even worse because I still can't go! I'm going to be making an appointment with my doctor to see what the problem may be but in the mean time, I just need a heads up on what might be wrong with me. Can anyone help? I'm a 15 year old female.
Bladder infections and UTI's are common infections that are easily contracted and just as easily treated as long as you have no underlying health issues and the infection is caught in a reasonable amount of time. You will probably be treated by an antibiotic (cipro, macrobid, augmentin, septra, etc) for a period of 7-14 days depending on the type of bacteria and the level of infection. Until the medicine starts working well, killing the infection you will continue to experience some pain during urination, possible bleeding(minute amounts) and a feeling of "bathroom urgency". If the pain, bleeding or urgency becomes more serious, blood appears in your urine or if the pain spreads into your lower back contact your physician immediately. Those are usually symptoms of a more serious problem.
Every young woman goes through this so really it is nothing to worry about. With the proper treatment you will be feeling completely better within a few weeks.
For more information than what I listed below you can go to WebMD and type in UTI under the search listing or click on this link:
http://my.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/hw57228.asp
I hope that you get better soon. Best Wishes!
Taken from Web MD:
A urinary tract infection (UTI) is a bacterial infection of the bladder, kidneys, ureters, or urethra. These structures make up the urinary tract. Most UTIs are either bladder infections (cystitis) or kidney infections (pyelonephritis).
UTIs, including kidney infections, are rarely serious when they occur in otherwise healthy adults. However, they do have the potential to cause permanent kidney damage or life-threatening infection if they are not treated promptly, especially in people who have medical conditions that may complicate the infection.
Symptoms
Symptoms of a urinary tract infection (UTI) may include:
Pain or burning when you urinate.
Urge to urinate frequently but usually passing only small quantities of urine.
Dribbling (inability to control urine release).
Pain or a feeling of heaviness in your lower abdomen.
Reddish or pinkish urine.
Foul-smelling urine.
Cloudy urine.
Pain in your back just below the rib cage, on one side of your body (flank pain).
Fever and chills.
Nausea and vomiting.
Most urinary tract infections (UTIs) can be successfully treated with antibiotics. The goals of treatment for UTIs are to relieve symptoms, eliminate the infection and prevent recurrence, and prevent unlikely but serious complications such as kidney damage and sepsis. In pregnant women, treatment protects the fetus as well. Uncomplicated bladder infections are treated with oral antibiotics and home treatment, which includes drinking lots of fluids. Most bladder infections in women can be successfully treated with about 3 days of antibiotics. Additional testing is not necessary unless your symptoms do not improve.
I love to draw but the only problem is that I never know what to draw.I need some ideas on what I can draw!And if you name something that is very colorful and takes a while to color than I will rate you a perfect five!!!
Here are a few of the things that I like to sketch. I hope that you like a few of them.
Flowers - Lillys.....there are many different types and all of them beautiful.
Landscapes - You can draw the Montana countryside in 2005 or make it really interesting and draw a city in any state back in the 1800's. I have lots of fun with this one, creating people, towns, houses, animals.....very time consuming but rewarding.
Disney Characters - I pick a movie and try to draw all of the characters that I like from it. I paint/color/pencil them in and create gifts for children out of them.
Planets - Pick a planet in existance or create your own with moons and strange atmospheric activity. Think of how spectacular Jupiter is and have fun with it.
Sea - You can do a sea scene by creating the sea floor, all of the plant life that you want, coral reefs, fish and shell fish.
Houses - Pick your favorite style of house. Draw it out on a large section of land (perhaps a large sketchpad would be a good idea for this one), including an English Maze, servants quarters, gardens, tool/woodworking sheds, dairy houses, smokehouses, stables and farm animal sections.
There are so many things that you can do with any of these suggestions. I hope that you choose a few and have great fun. Experiment with different mediums as well such as watercolors and oils. Best wishes!
whats a site where i can send greetings to people on my buddy list? thanks
Here are a few that I have used before. Best Wishes!
http://cards.crossdaily.com/
http://cards.cardfountain.com/egreetings.php?aid=102300
http://www.123greetings.com/
http://www.800florals.com/virtual/
http://www.ecardfunny.com/
http://www.dayspring.com/
I'm 22/m and my sister just turned 16. We're very close with one another and usually can share anything. Recently, however, she has become more sexually explorative, which is fine, but now seems to be obsessed by it. She told me yesterday that she wants to hook up with this 19 year old freshman in college that I know. They're not dating, but are considering getting to know each other. My sister used to be so righteous and moral and I feel that she's going to just end up hurt with this new sexual discovery. She's thinking about getting ahotel room with this guy this weekend. What should I do? I don't want her to get hurt and frankly, I don't want her to turn into a slut. Thanks =Concerned Brother=
In situations like this there are few things that you really can do. Pull her aside before this "date" and talk to her, telling her that you think she is too young to be contemplating sex by itself let alone sex with someone older than her in that age bracket. Later in life age differences rarely matter (26 year old dating a 29 year old) because both are adults and have adult things in common. But, as a teenager a space of a few years can make the relationship be unfairly balanced unless both parties are equally mature and capable. In most, not all, cases a 16 year old has nothing whatsoever in common with a 19 year old because the lifestyles are different, the thought process are different, the lifestations are different. Try talking to her and explaining all of this and your concern for her heart and her future well being. You could also try talking to her "date" and informing him that in most states it is statutory rape for anyone over the age of 18 to sleep with a minor. That might give him pause.
Its a good thing that you are a concerned older brother. That role gives you few rights though. You can talk to her and him about this, you can even talk to an adult in your life about it (which I am not speaking against, dont misunderstand) but you have to be ready for the possible repercussions. She might feel bullied, pushed or controlled. If your concern is more for her personally as your sister than it is for her opinion of you or of your image, you should take the risk.
If she does decide to go ahead with this, make sure that she is prepared emotionally and practically (pregnancy information/statistics, safe sex materials such as condoms and so forth) otherwise she might not think to prepare herself. If you are a man of faith, pray for her. If you two attend a church you can always talk to your pastor about this. The bottom line is though, she has to make her own decision because she has free will and freedom as an American. Talk to her and him, take any other measures that you feel nessessary then if she does it anyway, you have done all that you can. The only thing left is to be there for her if the bottom falls out. Be loving and supportive of her no matter what and she will respect your position a lot more than if you come at her as a berating adult.
Contact me anytime if I can help you.
Best Wishes!
Can you skip your period and not be pregnant? In other words, if you miss a period, is the only explanation pregnancy?
Stress, poor eating habits, lack of physical activity, too much physical activity, illnesses and changes in hormonal levels can prevent periods. When I first started mine, I bled for a few days then didnt have mine again until over 6 months later. I have a good friend who is almost 26, perfectly healthy, who only has a period every 3-4 months. It all depends on your body's makeup and how well you take care of yourself.
If you have had unprotected sex recently, go see your OBGYN and have a pregnancy test done, or go to a free clinic to have it done. To be on the safe side, request that STD blood test screening be done as well. There are some STD's that can interfere with a womans period.
Having regular checkups with your OBGYN can prevent many problems (like this) from occuring. Many times, with parental consent, a doctor will choose to put the young woman on birth control pills to regulate the hormones that are constant. That is an option that you can discuss with your doctor. It really worked for my sister and will usually work in any young woman who has a history of menstral problems or who has those problems present in her family medical history.
Always call your OBGYN for any questions like this that you want answered. If you cannot speak with a doctor, there are always trained nurses present to help you. If you do not have an OBGYN, get one. They are a huge benefit.
Best Wishes!
This is crazy cause I've been cool with this character for some time now. we started off as cool friends, then we realized that we had a lot in common and also thought the same and finished off eachother sentences. After a while, we realized that we both liked eachother alot but decided to stay friends because we both still talked to other people and wasn't really ready for a relationship. even though we agreed all that, he still kept giving me mixed signals, all the time! we went out a couple of times and when we did he would hold my hand and things like that. when we kissed, i felt butterflies in my stomach. i really began to like him because i thought that he was different from all the other guys i talked to. we talked every night on the phone for like 3 hours. everything seemed so right, so i decided to take it to the next level cause i was curious. something happened. everything seemed right. he told me he ain't never felt like how he do for me so fast. well, the next day he didn't call. the following day i called him, he didn't answer. he did return my call like 20 minutes later and it sounded like he was in his car. i was talking to my friend so i told him i'll call back later. i called back and he said he was busy so i said call me back. well, to make a long story short, it seems like he's very different in the past 2 days. my question is, do you think he's acting this was because he's confused, or was he a jerk all along and i was just blind and i should 4get him!? help me please cause i'm so confused!!! i also feel used and betrayed.
There really is no way for you to know for sure what he is feeling unless you talk to him. If he is unhappy with the new change in your relationship and/or with what happened between you two he could be scared of sharing that with you and is trying to avoid you to avoid the situation. Or, he could just be really busy with life. Don't drag this out. Tell him that you need to talk to him, that it is very important that the two of you sit down, face to face, and talk. Ask him what is going on. If you have spent a lot of time with him you will know if he is being honest or not. Listen to him then make your decision. If he played you, walk away from him and forget the relationship. If he didn't talk to him about where to go from here.
Don't make any decision until you have talked to him and heard what was going on. Give him a chance to defend himself. If he used you, he is slime and doesn't warrent any more attention from you. If he didn't, see if a relationship is possible.
Best Wishes!
This is mostly to the females out there: What is the most romantic- meaningful gift you've ever received?
A complete night of relaxation. A massage, followed by a soak in a nice warm bubble bath with classical music playing in the background. After I got dressed again, dinner was waiting on the table (my favorite dish), a bouquet of stargazer lillys was in the middle of the table (roses do get old) and a gift wrapped box was on my plate. It contained a key. After dinner we got in his car, drove out to this cute cabin in the Shenendoah parkway that is part of a lodge there, and the key opened the door to the most beautiful cabin I had ever seen. There was a fireplace in front of the bed, huge windows, a deck and a beautiful hot tub in the bathroom. When my husband got the fire going (this was around Valentines, rather cold up there) it was a beautiful scene.
Elegant, tasteful and highly romantic.
Best Wishes!
I've been on zoloft for a while now on, uhm, I think 50mg, and I was doing all right, but then a couple of weeks ago, i started feeling more depressed. I went up to 100mg but my depression seems to be increasing? Can someone tell me what's going on? If you know if this happens or not?
I have heard many times that Zoloft and other products (like Prozac) can cause depression but I cannot say for certain. I have had friends to be affected by the side affects of Prozac and once they informed their doctor about the problem and were weaned off of the drug (be careful about stopping a nerve medication cold) their depression disappeared. Contact your therapist/doctor immediately about this. They can do something to stop this.
Best Wishes!
It has been about a year that my ex and I have been working on our relationship. I cheated and realized that it was a mistake and we have been trying to fix it ever since. We are divorced. It was what he wanted, I gave into it cause I had no room to protest. He doesn't trust me, he tells me that he wants it to get back together, but he has a trust issue and doesn't believe a word I say. I have tried everything I can think or to get him to talk to me about. He likes the time we spend together, but he says it is a friendship thing. He doesn't have the feelings of love yet. Yet I get confused because he always wants to see me, wants to hear from me at work and when I am on my way home (we don't live together), but he only looks at us now as friends. We still are intamate with each other. Friends don't do that though. I have asked how I can earn back his trust and he tells me at one time he will see it forhimself and there are times he says he may never getit back. I just don't know what to do. I want this to work and I ty so hard, just whaen it goes ok I ask how he feels and he gets mad....what can i do to help him open up? To trust me and believe my feelings are true?
Willing to help,
Mickey
I can only imagine what you are going through. You regret what you did, that is clear. Now, you need to show him. He will only believe you if you can back up what you are telling him. Call him and tell him that you want to talk, asking him to come over to your house (even if you have done this before, you should do it again). Apologize earnestly to him about what you did and the resulting divorce. Tell him that you want him to give you a second try but you know that he will have to decide that on his own. Explain to him that you see now that your cheating was the worst thing that you could have done to him and to your marriage and for that you are sorry. Tell him that you know that you want another chance even though he might not think that you deserve one and that you are willing to wait for it. Let him know that you are not going to push him about this anymore, that the ball is in his court completely. If you keep bringing this up to him it might serve to further alienate him, making it that much harder for you two to work things out. You need to let him think. Do not date anyone else or let him think that you are dating anyone else for as long as you two are trying to work this out. Let him know, through action and deed that he is the only man in your life and the only man that you want in your life. Take him out to dinner, make him his favorite dishes when he comes over to your house for dinner. Be romantic, but to a point for anything over a normal level of intimacy will seem smothering. Be interested in how his day went when you speak, offer to take care of him when he is sick. In other words, remind him, in action and deed, of the wife that you were before the cheating incident, and the kind of wife you will be again if you two get back together.
Time is going to be your best friend and enemy here. Time will lessen the pain for him and allow him to see you as a whole person, not just as an incident that brought him pain. You must wait on that if you want this to work. You will feel frustrated, as though he is dragging his feet and you are doing everything that you can. Perhaps he is dragging his feet but really that is his right. He is taking a huge gamble on you by still talking to you because it keeps the memories fresh in his mind and leaves him open to more pain. It seems that he might be trying to inflict some pain back on you as well, to make you feel some of what he felt by your actions. This is good for him to do to a point. Make sure that it does not continue much longer or get worse because you do not want this to be the basis of your marriage. You are sorry for what you did. You do need to show him and make it up to him as best as you can. You do not need to pay for it for the rest of your life though. If he loves you, he will forgive you in time. That forgiveness should be complete and total, meaning that he should not bring it up in arguments or to get you to do something that he wants you to do. You two should be able to move on and leave it in the past. If he is unable to do that, then he might be unable to forgive and forget which means that a marriage between you two will never work again. Hope and believe, until proven otherwise by his actions, that he will forgive you and forget the past. Love him and show him how much that you love him by actions not just words. I really do hope that you can patch this up. Please contact me anytime if I can be of help to you. Keep your head up. Remember, one way or another this too shall pass. Take care of yourself dear.
P.S. You are the best judge on the times of intimacy that you said the two of you share but I would be careful if I were you. Make sure that he is not just using you as a physical release because, as I am sure you know, sex means much more than that to a woman and you deserve more than that. Find out where he is coming from with this (as you said friends do not sleep together) as soon as you can so that you can protect your heart.
How the heck am i supposed to get credit if I don't have any??? In this world we live in, you can't get credit unless you already have some. I have been turned down every time I have applied, and I don't know what to do! ANY SUGGESTIONS please
JLH
I will tell you what a good friend of mine did and hope that this works for you. First of all, she took out a small loan against a car that she completely owned. The loan was for $1,000. She kept the $1,000 in a bank account that she had and used her own money from her job to make the payments for 4 months. At the end of the 4 months she took the thousand that she had held back and paid off the full amount of the loan. 2 months after she took out the loan she applied for a gas card with a local gas station. She was able to get a gas card with a $150.00 limit on it. She used it 2 times a month, paying off the total amount owed on it each month. After she paid back the loan that she had taken out she applied for a credit card with the bank that she had the loan with. She was able to get a credit card with a limit of $1,000. For 6 months she would charge $45.00 a month on the card, paying off the entire balance at the end of each month. At the end of that 6 month period she was able to apply for and receive 2 additional credit cards with limits of around $2500.00-$3500.00 . She is now 27 years old and has perfect credit. If you get a credit card as my friend did and try her method, buy things that you would normally pay cash for ie: gas, groceries, clothing, books, etc. It really isnt costing you that much more if you pay off the total balance at the end of each month.
The trick is to always make your payments on time or even early if possible once you do obtain credit. Now, taking out a loan of $1,000.00 may not seem like much but it establishes your credit history. You might have to have a cosigner as well as a car or something else to put down for collateral but it is worth it later on in life. Establish your credit early, you will regret it if you dont. Best Wishes!
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If this answer is jumbled, go to my column to read it. From everything that I have ever read, white marks on your nails, bones breaking easily, inability to increase muscle mass can be indicators of a low calcium level in your blood. To increase your calcium intake you can try one of the suggestions below. Again, I am not a doctor so always check with your doctor before making any changes to your diet or exercise program.
Information below was taken from this website:
http://calciuminfo.com/
Non-fat or low-fat dairy products provide the easiest, most plentiful sources of calcium in the diet. In addition, try adding broccoli, kale, and salmon, especially with the bones included, to your diet. Many foods are now fortified with calcium, including fruit juices, snack foods and breakfast cereals. You might find the easiest way to get the daily calcium you need is to make changes in your diet and take a calcium supplement.
If you have any further questions go the website above. I'm sure that you will find the answer that you are looking for. Best Wishes!
Okay well im a 16*f.. well okay the other day i went to my sisters house.. well my ex boyfriend tony lives wit her and like well since he's got out of jail he's been tryin to get wit me..and like a month ago he grabbed me off the side walk and yelled at me and called me an ignorant bitch for not goin wit him.. well yesterday i was sleepin and he got on top of my back and kept askin me out i said no..cause first off i dont care for him the same way and i have a boyfriend.. well he pushed me up against the wall and yelled at me and hit me twice in my back really hard and its bruised.. im like half his weight and like half his height i know its not right and i told my bf and he was so upset.. i went to the doctor and i have a bruised spine.. and i dont know what to do with this guy im scared if i press charges he'll come after me and hurt me when he gets out..please give me advice.. sorry long..~*DEZ*~
The first thing that you need to do is tell your parents about this. Ask your parents to contact a lawyer. Ask the lawyer to go with you and your parents (if you are able to get a lawyer) to the police station. Once there file charges on this nut for assault and request a restraining order. They will more than likely want to take photos of the brusing and request information from your doctor as to the damage and treatment from what the nut did to you. The reason that I suggest you getting a lawyer is you might have to go to trial against this guy and it is a good idea to have someone who can stand up for your rights and make sure that this guy gets the punishment and help that he needs. Also, a lawyer will help you get the restraining order. With a restraining order, he should not be able to get within 500-1,000 (depends on your state's laws as to the restrictions that this will place and the ease of obtaining it) feet of you or your house upon his release. If he tries to hurt you again upon his release and you have a restraining order, the amount of time he will be facing is much greater because he not only broke a court order but he will also be considered a repeat offender. Talk to your parents. Have this guy arrested. You will not be safe until you do. Take care of yourself dear and contact me anytime if you need help. Best Wishes!
how do you become a moderator on advicenators?
On the left side of this webpage you have 1 really long column divided into 4 areas. Look in the bottom area for the link Help & FAQ. Click on that link. Once there scroll down until you see the heading Moderators. The information that you want is listed right there. You can also just click on this link and it will take you right there.
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I am a virgin and im thinking about having sex but,HOW do you when you are about to have a orgasm?
please help.
And can you get pregnant that way.:no haters please:and if you say something really un called for,i will not rate.
Let me answer the second part first. There is a chance of pregnancy with protected or unprotected sex. The only way to avoid that risk (as well as STDs) is abstinence. You have to be very careful and weigh the risks against the gains before you have sex. I am a huge advocate for waiting for marriage but that really is your decision. Find someone you trust and love before even thinking of sex. You deserve that much respect.
There is no real way to answer your first question. It is different for everyone. It is something that you will just know when the time comes, something that you will just feel when the time comes. Sorry that I couldnt be of more help. Contact me anytime. Best Wishes!
Hi Makalah Lea,
22F
I've read your column and think you appear to be a steady Christian. You are also married. Which qualifies you as a good person to ask the following qn!
I have just started going out with a guy from my church. He is a Christian, we met at Bible study, and he pursued me for 6 months before I was ready to go out with him. He fulfills my criteria and my family have met and like him. We obviously want to wait until we get married, and I'm just wondering if you have guidelines re making this work?
So far, we've talked about how far we want to go ( ie: no tongue kissing, not lying down together etc) and both agreed we want to be accountable. We have an older couple from church mentoring us (ie: I meet with the wife, and my boy with the husband, once a week for coffee and a chat) and we are thinking of doing devotions together 3 times a week. We have only been going out 6 weeks, I don't want to rush things, but it's hard to slow it down, it seems right, he's 27 (and 18 months out of a 3 yr relationship.
I'd appreciate some hints :)
If this answer looks jumbled, please go to my column to read. It is a very long answer. Let me first apologize for my taking so long to respond. Tonight my husband, best friend and I were with a group from our church, spending time in fellowship with one another. My closest friend is a single Christian and I have helped her face this question before while dating so I will give you the same advice that I gave her and hope that it works for you like it worked for her. As Christians we know that sex before marriage is a sin. Now, the question lies within that statement....what constitutes as sex? For me I would think that anything beyong kissing and holding one another would be of a sexual nature that crosses into the gray area of definition. So, if I were you (as I told my friend and am now telling you) I would draw a line on just how far I would go with the intimacy, let my sigot (significant other) know what that line is and do my best to see that it isnt breached. The line that I would draw is nothing beyond simple kissing (no french) and holding.
We are taught to stay pure until marriage for many reasons in addition to the fact that it is holy in the eyes of the Lord. That pureness is something special that you will share with your husband only and that he will share with you. There will be no mental comparisons of who is better at intimacy because you will have known no other. Your relationship with your lifemate will be that much stronger when you both share the knowlege that you saved yourselves for eachother, for that promise of true love given by God which you trusted in enough to wait. God wants your marriage to start on strong ground and this is a very important building block.
I am very glad that both you and your boyfriend are strong Christians and have a wonderful church that you are rooted in. I think that the mentorship that you two are a part of is a wonderful idea and will help you two stay to the values that you have. Trusting completely in God and His will in your life will also help you stay true to these values. Pray that God will work His will and way in your life. Pray that if it is His will that you two be together, that He will bless you two to stay strong in your faith, values and love for one another as well as eachothers standing in the Kingdom. Pray that He will lay a guiding hand on your relationship, blessing you two to make the right decisions and to lead as pure of a life as He would direct you to lead. As I am sure you already know, the power of prayer is mighty because God is mighty and He is always there. I have seen many miracles lately in our church and I know that God will step in and move mountains with or for you if you ask Him to do so, believe that He will do it and stand on that faith. Remember this verse -Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
I would also suggest that you two do things with other couples in your church or with other Christian friends as often as possible. Being around others keeps you honest and helps you put things into the proper perspective. Also, this is a good idea until the relationship grows a bit and you both know where eachother stands in faith and in love. In other words, with other people around you do not have to worry as much about crossing that line. You will not do it. This will help you two learn the acceptable behavior as a couple which will see you through the rest of your relationship until you become man and wife (if that is what God wants for your life).
Doing devotions together is a wonderful idea but as I said above I would try to include other people as much as possible for a little while. When you two are more comfortable with eachother and the relationship, you might think on spending more time alone. I am sure that you two are both responsible adults so please do not misunderstand my meaning. I am just of the opinion that the easier things start, the easier they turn out.
So, in summation (I apologize for being so long winded)I would do the following things:
1. Pray and talk to God about this relationship.
2. Have the talk with your boyfriend and both of you agree on what you two think is the acceptable level of intimacy (again for me I think nothing beyond kissing or holding eachother). Go on and get it out of the way (though as you said earlier you two have already discussed this).
3. Start doing things with other couples. Perhaps you could start a inner Bible study group with other young couples in your church. One that would meet on a different night than the Bible study at your church, that is convenient for everyone and if not held at the church could be held at someones home, rotating hosting duties.
4. Let God and time decide how things go. If God has blessed your relationship and means for you two to be together, you will be. Continue to pray but also sit back and enjoy being young and falling in love. Stay within your boundaries and you will feel free to enjoy it.
God sent me a wonderful husband to bless my life and so far we have had over 2 perfect years together. I pray that God will richly bless your life and this relationship. Please contact me anytime sis. I am always here. God Bless You richly and Best Wishes!
I give up. I dont deserve gods love. I am not worthy enough for it. He gives me a gift and i dont use it. I fail one class, i am a porn addict. I give up i dont deserve god anymore. I dont even deserve to live, i, i really dont care. i am not good enough. I am not as loyal to him as i should be. i dont deserve him at all. im done. Please give advice or a way to end it all
I do not want to sound preachy but I do want to help you so I am going to be very honest. There are 2 very important things that the Bible teaches us that you need to remember. Jesus died on the cross and rose again for the sins of the world because He loved us. That means that even if you were the only person in the world He would have died just for you. He loves YOU just as much as He loves everyone else. We are all equal in the eyes of the Lord. Secondly, God knew everything about you, even the number of hairs on your head before He created you. That means that He knew everything that you would say, do or mean to someone else before He created you. If you were not good enough for God's love, He would not have created you at all. Everyone makes mistakes because we are human, born sinful, thinking with our flesh instead of our soul. There is nothing, absoloutely nothing that you can do that would ever make God stop loving you. If you want to start doing better in school and leave behind all of the fleshly addictions that are troubling you pray and ask God to help you. Find a good church and get rooted in it. Study God's word. If you are still a sinner, pray and ask Jesus into your heart. He never promised us that life would be easy but He did promise us that He would never leave us nor forsake us. Remember that God is always there, He always loves you and He always wants to help you carry your burdens. Forever His love is there.
There are 2 wonderful songs that are sung a lot in our church that I want you to find and listen to when your toubles seem too much for you to bear.
Through the Fire by the Crabb Family.
Lyrics:
So many times i've questioned certain circumstances
Or things I could not understand
Many times in trials, weakness blurs my vision
And my frustration gets so out of hand
Its then I am reminded I've never been forsaken
I've never had to stand the test alone
As I look at all the victories
The spirit rises up in me
And its through the fire my weakness is made strong
Chorus:
He never promised that the cross would not get heavy
And the hill would not be hard to climb
He never offered our victories without fighting
But He said help would always come in time
Just remember when your standing in the valley of decision
And the adversary says give in
Just hold on, our Lord will show up
And He will take you through the fire again
Bridge:
I know within myself that I would surely perish
But if I trust the hand of God, He'll shield the flames again, again
Repeat Chorus
Praise His Name - Jeff and Sheri Easter
When you're up against a wall
And your mountain seems so tall
And you realize that life's not always fair
You can run away and hide
Let the old man decide
Or you can change your circumstances with a prayer
Chorus:
When everything falls apart Praise His Name
When you have a broke heart
Raise your hands and say
Lord You're all I need
You're everything to me
And He'll take the pain away
When it seems you're all alone Praise His Name
When you feel you can't go on
Just raise your hands and say
Greater is He that is within me
And You can praise the hurt away
If you'll just praise His name
You can overcome by the blood of the Lamb
And by the word of your testimony
You'll see the darkness go
As your faith begins to grow
You're not alone so how can you be lonely
Repeat Chorus:
When everything falls apart Praise His Name
When you have a broke heart
Raise your hands and say
Lord You're all I need
You're everything to me
And He'll take the pain away
When it seems you're all alone Praise His Name
When you feel you can't go on
Just raise your hands and say
Greater is He that is within me
And You can praise the hurt away
If you'll just praise His name
If you are not saved but want to be, pray to God, tell Him that you know that you are a sinner and that you are sorry for your sins. Tell Him that you believe that Jesus died on the cross and rose again for the sins of the whole world. Ask Him to forgive you for your sins. Ask Jesus to come into your heart and to be your Saviour. If you pray that and really believe it you are heaven bound.
If you are saved, start praying to God and asking Him to guide your life. Find a church that you feel comfortable at, get rooted and read the word of God. God will richly bless your life if you lean on Him. Trust in Him. Contact me anytime if you want to talk, need a friend or would just like someone to pray for you. Take care of yourself and keep your chin up.