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Ok, so the first question is easy really. Though it's something I've kinda worried about for a while about myself. To put it simply, I prefer to be friends with girls, perhaps date them, over sleeping with them. I'd rather stay in for a movie and cuddle than have sex. Does that make me weird, for a straight guy? None of my guy friends see what I like about it. (But my female friends tend to love it haha)
My main part to the question is, I see this aspect of me ruining future relationships. I tend to have a couple of female friends at all times, who I often spend an evening with alone. We might go out together, or watch a movie, or whatever. Nothing happens, we're just friends. At the moment I'm single. I worry though that when I have a girlfriend, she'll be always jealous of the fact that i'm alone with other girls (Because I thought about it, and I don't want to stop haning out with friends the way I do because some girl doesn't want me too). I do think that this will make it incredibly hard for me to start a relationship. When the trust isn't built yet, how do you persuade her there's nothing going on?
Any help would be appreciated, but don't insult me, I get enough of that already.
Having girls that are friends is fine, but what you do when you are around these girls is another thing. I guess the best way to look at it is this. Say, you just start dating this AMAZING girl and you find out after 3 weeks or so of dating that she keeps hanging around several of her guy friends and they hang out just the two of them alone and cuddle and watch movies... I am pretty sure you would be pissed. Cuddling isn't sex, but it is a side of emotional and physical intimacy. That is something a guy should not do with other females, if he is in a relationship. If you get a new girlfriend the best thing to do is distance yourself a little from these girls you are friends with for a while so you get accustomed to your new relationship. Let your girlfriend know first off who your girls are that you are friends with and maybe invite one or two of them over WITH you and your girlfriend, so she can meet them and know that they are trustworthy. You may also have to talk to these girls you are friends with and make it clear where the lines are crossed in regards to how much and what you guys do when hanging out. You may not realize it, but some of these girls you are friends with might even like you more than friends because of what you are doing, so making sure you have appropriate boundaries between your friends and your relationship is VERY important. I have had issues with my boyfriend and his "friends". A little bit different though, considering some of them he has slept with. We have agreed that the ones he has slept with just aren't worth him causing problems with us. Because the way I see it is, if you are really FRIENDS you do not sleep together. That is definetely crossing the line between friends and more. Now cuddling, I wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend cuddling on another girl. That is just too friendly and would definetely be taken the wrong way. So just try to see it from a possible girlfriends perspective. Hope I helped you!
This is a really long story, so i'll try to make it short.
I've known this boy for almost 7 months. we've dated for 4 of them. he left me, he just disappeared for 2 months. and i found him and we started talking again. he says he regrets doing what he did to me, and that he still loves me. he said that if he hadnt left we'd still be together. the thing is he now has a girlfriend who he started dating while we weren't talking. they fight all the time. she tells me what she says; she threatens to leave him almost daily but never does. i feel like she treats him like complete trash. shes only 13, and hes almost 18. which i find absolutely disgusting but thats beside the point. i've asked him multiple times to break up with her. he says that he cant just leave her because after everything shes done to him (lying and such) he still loves her. i says he cant leave because he'll feel bad, and he doesnt want her to be sad. he told me that if he stays he wont be happy and if he leaves he wont be happy.
i really really want him back. of all the boyfriends i've ever had hes the one i love and care about the most. we talk about having a life together but the way he talks about not being able to leave his current girlfriend, i dont think he'll ever leave her. he says it wont last forever but i feel otherwise. i need to know what to do. when i think about him and her i get very jealous and upset. i cant get him out of my mind.
right now he does say i love you to me, he calls me baby and such, just like when we were dating. but i wish the other girl was just out of the picture. im not really sure what kind of advice im looking for. i really want to know how to get them to break up but thats horribly mean, i dont want to hurt his feelings. whats the best thing for me to do?
I think everyone has a good point about this situation. I have been through many heart aches and break ups but the thing that makes them all the same? They weren't worth having ME! And that is how you should look at it. He "disappeared" for two months and never told you what happened. And now he calls you baby and is stringing you along WHILE he has a girlfriend. He is a player. I am not saying he doesn't love you or care about you. But what he is doing is keeping his options open. He is sick of this 13 year old and you are in the picture now. You are worth more than a rebound girl! So don't fall for it. If he wants to talk to you and be mature AFTER he leaves this girl, then maybe you should give him a chance. But right now?.... It should be out of the question! She is 13! Im sure he should be mature enough to leave her, not to mention it is illegal in most states to even be dating her, with his age and everything. So a guy like that isn't really worth your time hun! You can do better, and trust me when I say this, when you realize that, all the good guys start coming out of nowhere. So ditch this zero!
14f my boyfriend and I don't go to the same high schools so I don't know a lot of his friends. He gave some of them my number and I text them a lot. I mentioned how i hadn't talked to them in like 3 days and that it felt like forever. He said it bothered him that I texted them because one of them trashes him and how one flirts with me. I told him I wouldn't talk to the one who trashed him and how the other one only talked about him with me and how we were perfect for each other. He then randomly said he had to go. Is he being too controlling??I feel like he can't tell me who to talk to and who not to talk to...
He is not being controlling. If it was your friends and he was telling you not to talk to them than that would be controlling. But this is HIS friends, NOT yours. If he was texting a lot of your girls you are friends with, and one would talk bad about you and the other one would sometimes flirt with him, would you be jealous and think it is getting out of hand? ....Yes. You have a relationship with him. Not his friends. Not your friends. They come second. So if he has a good reason (which he does) to not have you talk to HIS friends, than you should respect that. If his reasons weren't valid or he was being overly jealous about your friends, than he would be controlling and you would have to put him in his place. But he does have a good reason to not like you talking to them. Have respect for each other as a couple and listen to why he is upset. He isn't power tripping or being controlling. He just doesn't want you talking to people that are trying to jeopardize your relationship. I think you would be the same way if the situation was switched. Hope I helped!
14f my boyfriend and I don't go to the same high schools so I don't know a lot of his friends. He gave some of them my number and I text them a lot. I mentioned how i hadn't talked to them in like 3 days and that it felt like forever. He said it bothered him that I texted them because one of them trashes him and how one flirts with me. I told him I wouldn't talk to the one who trashed him and how the other one only talked about him with me and how we were perfect for each other. He then randomly said he had to go. Is he being too controlling??I feel like he can't tell me who to talk to and who not to talk to...
He is not being controlling. If it was your friends and he was telling you not to talk to them than that would be controlling. But this is HIS friends, NOT yours. If he was texting a lot of your girls you are friends with, and one would talk bad about you and the other one would sometimes flirt with him, would you be jealous and think it is getting out of hand? ....Yes. You have a relationship with him. Not his friends. Not your friends. They come second. So if he has a good reason (which he does) to not have you talk to HIS friends, than you should respect that. If his reasons weren't valid or he was being overly jealous about your friends, than he would be controlling and you would have to put him in his place. But he does have a good reason to not like you talking to them. Have respect for each other as a couple and listen to why he is upset. He isn't power tripping or being controlling. He just doesn't want you talking to people that are trying to jeopardize your relationship. I think you would be the same way if the situation was switched. Hope I helped!
Me and my ex broke up about a year ago and i still havent gotten over him he was my first love and i miss him very much especially since i never really got to say bye im dating someone new now and they make me really happy but im scared that theyre gonna leave me the way my ex did i havent seen him since we split up but anyways i wanna give my heart to the new person im with but i cant because a part of me is still holding on to my ex im tired of crying over him i want to let go but i dont know how what can i do to get over him???
Eventually you will get over him. The main reason I think you are holding on is because you never got closure from him when you guys broke up. They are so many questions unanswered so it makes it harder to move on and start over. But starting a new relationship will help you realize how better off you really are! If he didn't have the decency and respect to leave you with at least a reason why you guys weren't working out, then that should show you something. You CAN and WILL do better than him. Believe that and get some strength and respect for yourself! You really can do better, and right now you are letting your ex control your life still even after he left you a year ago... So don't give him that. He already had whatever amount of months and years with you. And he made a mistake and left you. But that is his loss. Now it's your turn to move on and see whats best for yourself, and that is definitely NOT him. It may be hard the first couple months being with someone new, no matter how amazing they are. But just remember, don't compare this new guy to him and worry that he will be the same. Focus on him and you, and anything that comes to mind about your ex, forget about completely. Start fresh. Delete pictures, phone numbers, emails, etc. That will help you really realize he is over with and done for good. Break ups are hard, and sometimes that first love is the hardest to let go of. But let me tell you one thing from experience. I married my first true love and he turned out to be a cheater and didn't care about me at all. After leaving him, which was SO hard, I learned something. Every person Ive been with since him, treated me SO MUCH BETTER! So no matter how bad it hurts, I learned that break ups happen for a reason. So you can get a better man :) Hope I helped! If you have anymore questions inbox me!
Ive been taking Loestrin24 for 3 months and ive only had my period once. Ive taken 2 preggers tests and idk if its normal or not to go 2 months without having your period while on this birth control
Since you just started on a new birth control and have only been using it for 3 months your body is not used to the hormones yet and is adjusting, so your period is not going to be regular yet. If your periods are still irregular within the next month or so, you should contact your doctor.
My boobs are different sizes, ones a b and ones a d, WHAT DO I DO? i can never find a good bra and i look lop-sided in all shirts!
Most womens breasts and nipples are not exactly proportionate. But two cup sizes difference is very extreme! Breast augmentation is your only option to surgically fix the problem. Saline or Silicone are fairly expensive, and there is also a new option of injecting fatty tissue from another part of your body into your breast tissue. This is a newer procedure and is quite more expensive than silicone or saline.
In order to non-surgically fix your breasts you can purchase online or at your local sex stores silicone inserts. They are nude in color and have nipples and are soft to the touch, like a real breast would feel. They normally run $24 to $40 and come with two. They will increase your bust 1 cup size. I suggest purchasing bras with extra padding and then sliding this insert behind that in order to change it 2 sizes.
Okay, I'll try to keep this short but I don't want to miss the details..
I'm 15 (f) and my family and i recently moved to another town. my new bedroom is a lot smaller then my last. my room is about 9 ft. by 13 ft. i think.. anyways, it's a bastement room, so it has this legde about half way up my wall, going around my room. I also have 2 large windows.
Well, i'm really interested in re-decorating! I want it to look nice. Saphisticated, but still trendy. I was thinking of grey and yellow on the walls.. maybe a white a black bedspread? I don't know how i could do it though,
does anyone have suggestions?
How can I paint the ledge also?
like.. ex, should I paint the bottom half a different colour than the top?.
Should I go for a brighter room? or darker?
Do you know of any good websites that show ideas?
and, does anyone know of websites that have cheap, trendy furnitre?
thanks!
There are many options and color choices you can go with to make your room appear larger and also add a nice touch of sophistication and style. Now you mentioned grey and yellow as possible color choices. Grey is a neutral color which adds sophistication and also allows you to use brighter colors as accents.
In order to design your room you need to come up with a color palette of 3 colors. The main color for the walls, and two accessory colors that complement the main color. Because your room is small and is in the basement, the ceiling is probably lower than normal, and the lighting is not as bright, because the windows are higher up on the walls closer to the ceiling. So your main color choice should be rather light, because darker colors tend to make the room appear smaller. Some good neutral color choices would be a real light grey- which will make the room feel soothing and calming, or light beige/brown- which would make the room appear warmer and cozy. Choosing the mood you wish to have in your room will help you decide on your color.
Because the wall has a ledge it allows you to paint a two-tone. The best way to do this is whatever color choice you choose for the wall use that color only a few shades lighter for the top half. The upper part of the wall is closest to your ceiling and windows, so you want it to be lighter than the bottom half. Just keep the color choice the same color, just lighten the shade. Too much contrast will make your room appear broken up and smaller.
From there is the accessory color palette. Turquoise, Lime Green, and Black- Mixes bright and bold with sophisticated, Burghandy, Black and White- very warm and contemporary, or Yellow and Navy blue- which adds more of a contrast between the colors, making the mood of the room inspiring. Again, make your accessory color choices based on the feel that you want for your room.
Now what I mean by accessories is bedding, pillows, chairs, dressers, night stands, desk, picture frames, etc. For any of the color choices I gave above, the furniture should stay one color- Black or Dark Brown. This uniforms the design and allows the two other color choices in your accessory palette to stand out.
Bedding can have all of the color choices either in patterns, or combining it with pillows. For example: All Black bedding, with turquoise and lime green throw pillows, or Black and turquoise bedding with circles, and green throw pillows. From there you can pull those colors around the rest of your room, with a nice area rug of ONE of those colors (preferably no patterns just one solid color), candles, picture frames, pencil holder, etc. all alternating with those color choices.
Just be creative with your accessory and furniture choices. Wall decals are a great way to incorporate your accessory color choices on the wall also. If you have any more questions feel free to message my inbox!
Everytime me and my boyfriend have sex a few times I seem to develop a small bladder infection. I make sure I wash real well and I usually pee right afterwards. I know he is clean. Is there any way I can precent this? Also I get kinda itchy afterwards. Like I said I make sure I clean very well. Is there anyway I can prevent that also?
There are several reason why a girl can get a bladder infection. Now, first, are you 100% positive it is a bladder infection. If you are having a burning sensation when you pee, it is slightly painful around your abdomen when you use the bathroom, and it feels itchy, it is likely you have a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection). They have a kit that you can buy at your local drugstore that takes only a few minutes and tests your PH levels inside your vagina. This test only costs about $15 and based on the PH level of your vagina it will tell you if you have a UTI, yeast infection, etc. Also, you cannot have had sex that day before taking the test because semen can effect your PH levels. But I suggest getting this test so that you are 100% sure what you are experiencing, since it is imporant to accurately diagnose your symptoms. Once you have figured out what you have, you can take the proper medicine to solve it.
Now you say that you clean well afterwards. Do you douche? If you douche regularly I suggest you stop. Douching is a very bad for you vagina. It can actually cause an infection. Over cleaning your vagina actually cleans out the important "good" bacteria that helps fight and kill infection. So if you clean too much you may actually be allowing bacteria to cause infection, and your body has no defense to kill it off, which may explain why you are having this re occur often.
There is no way to prevent UTI and Yeast Infections, but if you can find out the underlying causes as to why you might be having this occur often, like over cleaning/ douching, etc. then you can hopefully decrease these infections. If you have eliminated these possible factors and you are still frequently having these problems, I suggest you go see your gynocologist immediately, because frequent infections are symptoms of larger underlying problems.
So I was only with my ex for 3 months, but in that short amount of time, we had that amazing connection.. it felt like we had been dating for years. we were even engaged. but a week after he proposed, he dumped me. and had a new gf the next day. I know that he's moved on.. and I'm trying to but I can't. I love him so much. In that short amout of time, I fell head over heels for him. I need some help getting over him.. I just can't do it by myself. Please help me!!
I am sorry that you are hurting but the one thing that will hinder you from moving on is all those "what-ifs" and "whys". It can be so hard to move on when there are so many unanswered questions about what went wrong in the relationship. But no matter how hard it is to not think about those ideas and keep letting them run over and over in your head, you have to stop thinking that way. It doesn't matter why he did change and move on. He made a mistake. And believe that! You need to have enough strength and care enough about yourself to realize that he made a mistake and you can do better than him. And no matter how much you love him, you need to realize to have respect for yourself. You can love someone within a few weeks, so I don't doubt at all that you fell madly in love with him within 3 months. But time heals all pain. And the first step of moving on and coming to terms with yourself and what you deserve. And you deserve better than that! I can't tell you why he changed and moved on so fast, but I can try to give you some thoughts on why I think he might have.
Based on my past experiences (I've been married before right out of highschool and it only lasted 3 months, and I've been engaged after that 6 months later, which also did not last) I can definetly try to give some insight as to why. You were engaged after 3 months. And three months can feel like a year based on your connection together, but 3 months is still what I call the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship. It is still new and fresh and you guys love is growing and youre learning so much about eachother. The longer the relationship the deeper the love, but also the more problems you will have. And that is life. And because he moved on so fast (within a day!) that is a HUGE red flag to me. He wasn't as honest as you may have thought he was. And since you were together 3 months, how well did you know him? Love is blinding and sometimes you don't notice things because of it. He couldn't have just jumped into another relationship with a random girl over night that he never spoke with or hung out with while you guys were together. I know it hurts to think he may have been unfaithful but I have plenty of experience with cheating relationships and I truly believe that this is what happened.
Also, you may have been engaged and that makes it hurt worse, I know! You start thinking about spending your lives together and never being apart so to lose a fiance makes it worse, no matter how long you were together. But just think positively. It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all. I live by this quote because it is so true. No matter how many heartaches I have felt, I have always moved on and found someone better! You learn so much from the difficult things in life and what doesn't kill you, makes you a stronger woman! So learn from this relationship and about yourself and your priorities of what you want for yourself. Just remember, you deserve and WILL get better! And he will, if he hasn't already, regret leaving you for another girl. And by the time he realizes this and is beating himself up over it, you will be in an AMAZING relationship with a guy that truly appreaciates you and the connection you two share. I know it sounds to good to be true right now, but I have been through SO much in my short life so if my heart has been broken so many times and I bounced back, I know you can do it too! Best of luck hun! If you need anything else feel free to message me :)
~Sherah
im a 17 year old gay male and ive accepted who i am i havent told anyone yet im nervous to talk especially my parents im not sure if they will accept it and i feel lonely sometimes i really want a boyfriend but im not sure whos gay none of the guys i know have come out im unsure what to do how do i find out which guys are gay what can i do to find the right guy?
Well this is very difficult because it can be VERY hard to tell what guys are and what guys aren't. I have gay friends, girls and guys, and I have found that girls are more open about their sexuality then guys are. This is because it is still very taboo for gay males in this day and age. The best way to find gay guys in your area is online. People are a lot more open online about their personal lives then in person in public. It is a lot harder to know someone's sexual preferences when you first meet them, so breaking the ice online and meeting guys that way is A LOT easier! Also, I seriously suggest speaking to your parents first before looking to date. It is not easy to try and date someone if your parents do not know. It will be a lot harder to open up to them and tell them after you are dating someone. Do you live with both parents? Or just one? Are they very conservative? And which one are you closer to and would feel might be easier to talk to? Which ever one is easier to talk to I would speak to them first. And then they can help you break it to the other parent. I am also curious? Have you been with a guy before or have you just came to terms that you are just physically attracted to a guy?
Hi i'm 25/m and I have an amazing gf I have been with almost 3 years. I love her very dearly and am ready to marry her. Only problem is I tend to screw things up by talking to other girls behind her back. I don't try to flirt but I guess I get creepy. I then lie to her about things cause i'm scared to lose her. Can anyone please help me figure out why I do this and how I can stop doing it. After the last time I could never do it again but she doesn't trust me as she shouldn't. I am willing to do anything it takes to fix my life. I have even started contacting psychologists.
This is not uncommon. But you DO need to do more than just acknowledge your problem. You need to fix it! First, you need to figure out WHY. Are you a jealous individual? Do you feel insecure about any aspects of your relationship? Do you sometimes think she may be flirting and talking to other men? Do you ever feel tied down and miss the fun independence of single life? There are many reasons why men and women can sometimes be both happy and still too flirty at the same time. Generally with men the reason is simply two things. Insecurity about themselves and their partner. Or the feeling of being repressed and tied down. Insecurity doesn't mean you have low self esteem, so don't get me wrong. What I mean by insecure is that you may feel that you have been with her so long that you are unsure if you still "have it" anymore. You may like to have the reassurance the other females, other than your significant other, find you attractive. And when you flirt and talk to these other girls it fills that void of insecurity. And it is addictive. It is almost like fishing for compliments. And everyone loves to be complemented. So it is a vicious cycle. Now as for the other reason: Many men, ESPECIALLY when they are about to be married or thinking about marriage, start to get what I like to call " the young mid-life crisis syndrome". This is basically because you still crave that independence and marriage can sometimes make you feel like the door on all the "fun" things in life is closing. You may be scared that you will lose all your independence so you flirt with other girls and talk to other girls to help make yourself feel like you still "can do what you want, when you want." These two reasons might not be why you are doing this, but they are the most common reason most men do this. Once you address WHY you are doing this, you need to address your fears and fix them! And it might not be easy. Seeking out help and talking to someone professional will help, because you may think you "know yourself", but everyone has complicated parts of themselves, that sometimes they can't even figure out. And another persons views can really show you what you might not be able to see yourself. I really hope this helped. If you have any more questions or need any more advice feel free to message my inbox. Best of luck!
~Sherah
does it feel good for the girl when the guy finishes inside her?
Well guys say it does. Sex without a condom allow the most sensitive areas and nerves in a guys penis to feel every aspect of intercourse, like the tightening of the pectoral muscles, wetness, warmth, etc. So when they finally climax, all their nerves tingle and tense up and their penis will flex at that moment. Afterwards it is very sensitive, especially the head of the penis. When a guy pulls out he doesn't get the same experience. He has to pull out and grasp his member to get a similar effect, but he won't get to "feel" what it is like to actually be inside so it feel as good.
Okay so I have been on the depo shot since November. I am currently in the two week time period my doctor told me to come back to get my next one. I always make my boyfriend wear a condom though too because I'm paranoid about getting pregnant. Anyway today when my boyfriend was done and pulled out the condom It kind of fell off and the cum fell out on the bed. I'm not sure if any got on me. Either way you should be protected during that 2 week period before getting your next shot right? Any chance I could be pregnant?thanks
Even with a shot you can still get pregnant! Especially during the first couple months of taking a new form of birth control. Because birth control are not all the same hormones, when you switch to a different birth control, or get on birth control for the first time your body can take 3 months or so to become fully adjusted to the new hormones. This trial period is what gets many girls in trouble because they assume as soon as they are on birth control that they are covered and can have unprotected sex and not get pregnant. But because of the facts I just told you, that is not the case. Now based on your question I am not sure if when you said the condom "fell off" if you mean it just fell off his penis after he pulled out, or fell off inside of you? Did the condom break? If it broke then there could be a chance of pregnancy. If it just fell off afterwards then you should be okay. Hope my answer helps!
I'm going to be a freshman in college next year. I plan on having a single dorm room. It basically consists of a twin bed (that i could raise if i wanted to), and on the opposite wall a desk, mirror and sink, and all the rest of the wall is closet space. It looked really boring when it didnt have anything in it and i want some suggestions on what i can do with it to make it prettier. Oh and im a girl
I am an Interior Designer so this right up my alley :) A dorm is quite like an apartment. You can't paint or do anything drastic. But that does not mean you can make your dorm room very stylish. For the walls you can add color that is easily removable with wall decals and peel and stick wallpaper. This option is great because the wallpaper literally peels right off and leaves no residue behind. It is also fairly inexpensive. You can find these options online. The wall decals are another cute option to add some personality. You can get designs, quotes, etc. and some websites you can design them yourself with any color and size you want! Some fairly inexpensive items you can buy to help liven up your boring dorm could be small 6x8 area rugs and cool funky accessories like mirrors, your favorite picture frames arranged in a neat pattern along the wall, unique lighting and lamps, bedding and pillows, and never forget your windows! Some long curtains with tie backs paired with sheers is a great way to dress up your windows. The sheers allow you to have some natural light because most dorms only have on dim light source on the ceiling, but the long curtains also add flexibility to close off the light for privacy. So the possibilities are endless. I am not sure what your style is but here are some links to some ideas for modern/contemporary meets retro. Hope you like them! Best of luck and happy designing :)
-Bedding:
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Microfiber-Bed-in-a-Bag-Zebra-Print/10087575
-Pillows:
http://www.bedroomfurniture.com/asp/superbrowse.asp?clid=1227&caid=&sku=JJD1262&refid=FR6-JJD1262
http://www.pillowdecor.com/Caravan-Cotton-Pink-16x16-Throw-Pillow-p/se1-0001-07-16.htm
http://www.pillowdecor.com/Caravan-Cotton-Black-9x18-Throw-Pillow-p/se1-0001-11-79.htm
-Retro Lamps:
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Kenroy-Home-Baubles-Table-Lamp-in-Brushed-Steel-Set-of-Two/12350371
-Hanging Lights (Easy to hang and remove and great on either side of the bed for more lighting. Because they are paper they are battery operated or have a plug for the wall and you can get very creative will all the different designs they have! Plus it is VERY inexpensive!!):
-http://www.paperlanternstore.com/
-Funky Shag Rug:
http://www.justshagrugs.com/The-Rug-Market-02204-TU1189.html
-Mirrors:
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Better-Homes-and-Gardens-Metal-Mirror/13273442
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Ashton-Sutton-Grape-Shaped-Wall-Mirror/12318980
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Ashton-Sutton-Grape-Shaped-Wall-Mirror/12318980
-Picture arrangement ideas:
http://interiordec.about.com/cs/arrangingartwork/l/aaarttipsa.htm
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Composition-Wall-D-eacute-cor-Set-of-2/8591441
-Cubes (Great way to store accessories, candles, small pictures, etc on the wall since you do not have much room for storage. They hang right on the wall. Plus alternating the shapes, sizes, and colors adds depth and interest!):
http://www.walmart.com/ip/3-Piece-Wall-Cube-Shelves-Black/10404235
http://www.walmart.com/ip/White-Wall-Cubes-Set-of-3/10975507
-Cool Accessories (Adding fake plants or different colorful ceramic or plastic vases on different sizes is a quick and easy way to dress up and accessorize your room. The vases look great sitting on the cubes too! The examples are have are just to show you ideas. These ones are VERY expensive lol)
http://www.horchow.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=cprod60190057&parentId=cat1410743&masterId=cat000101&index=11&cmCat=cat000000cat000089cat000101cat1410743
http://www.horchow.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=cprod61350012&parentId=cat1410743&masterId=cat000101&index=4&cmCat=cat000000cat000089cat000101cat1410743
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Kentia-Palm-In-Planter/11034742
-Curtains:
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recently my boyfriend and i had sex. i wanted to try to be on top, but i wasn't very good at it.
anyone have any tips? thanks.
The best way to do this is to have him sit on a chair, couch, or lay in a sitting position. Then you position yourself on top of him, but instead of having your knees on either side of him, "squat" with your feet on either side instead. Then rest your hands on his shoulders for balance. Then just bounce up and down or thrust your hips back and forth, front to back slowly. Either motion works great in this position. Plus he will love being able to see more of the "action" down there. Hope I helped!
What is a quick and not so painful to kill yourself or how do I die? I'd rather not kill myself, I want someone else to do it for me... how do I go about doing this?
Suicide is not something quick and painless. There are no other methods of doing so. And having someone else do it is not suicide, its murder. Life may seem hard, and trust me! Ive have been through it all! And yes, suicide has crossed my mind many times. And I have attempted suicide through pills. I thought it would be quick and painless, and it wasn't! My stomach was literally digesting so much of the medicine that it felt like my stomach lining was deteriorating. I had to have my stomach pumped and also had to go through counseling. One thing I learned after that whole ordeal, is that the issues and problems in life might seem so huge and there is no way out, but to take your own life, but time heals all pain. And that isn't just a corny phrase. It is true. If you need someone to vent to or have something difficult you need to discuss feel free to send me a message anytime. Im hear to listen.
~Sherah
Ok me and my boyfriend just had sex 2 weeks ago and I don't get my period till next week. We didn't use protection and he cummed inside of me. When he told me he did I ran to the bathroom and tried to clean it out because I got scared. Can I end up pregnant? Please help me because I am really scared!
The chance of becoming pregnant is higher because he came in you, but that does not neccesarily mean you are just because he did. The female body is only succeptible to becoming pregnant during ovulation. Every women ovulates during a certain time each month. Some women ovulate on their periods! There are ovulation tests that you can take so you can find out when you do ovulate to ensure that you do not have unprotected sex during this time!
Some more information you might find interesting, is although there are millions (yes millions!) of sperm that enter your body when he cums, almost 75% of them do not survive after 20 seconds. Your body has plenty of natural defenses to kill sperm. Your body actually FIGHTS the sperm because it sees it as foreign and dangerous material and seeks it out and destroys it, as if it is a disease.
If you were not ovulating during this time you will not get pregnant. So do not worry. Also, if you happen to miss you period, do NOT freak out. There are plenty of reasons why you can miss your period. STRESS can make you miss your period. Bad diet, age, etc. are factors that can make your period late.
If you are worried you can take a pregnancy test now to see if you are. Conception occurs within the first 24 to 48 hours after sex, so if this occured two to three weeks ago, a good pregnancy test, like First Response, can calculate your HCG levels (the pregnancy hormone), even if they are still very low at this stage. Just make sure to take the test in the morning when you first wake up that way your urine will have the highest concentration.
So relax! If you have any more questions message me :)
~Sherah
i cant seem to stop getting hurt by this boy. we dated for 2 years and i was in love. the first time he broke up with me it hurt so bad. he did it about 3 times and always came back to me. the last time he broke up with me i tried to make it work for a month and then gave up and tried to move on. about 3 months later he started talking to me again. of course throughout the time we didnt talk i still always thought of him and i still had a ton of feelings for him, i just was trying to get over him and it was working. but when we started talking again he had already gone off to college which is only about an hour from where i live. anyways for about 2 weeks we just texted and stuff until he finally asked me to come down. i said i didnt know if it was a good idea and he told me how he still had feelings and that he thinks he might still love me. so that weekend i went down tehre and it was amazing. he was soo nice, it was the good him the him that i missed, the him that loved me. when i got home that night i texted him and he didnt respond. the next day we didnt talk at all. it was strange because before he would text me everyday. so the day after i called him and he didnt sound like he wanted to talk? when we hung up i just started bawling because ive been through his whole i love you i miss you and then i dont like you thing tooooo many times. and i had this horrible feeling that he was going to let me down again even though he had said it wasnt going to be liek that anymore. but the next day he actually ended up texting me. just saying whats up, but i knew he was thinking about me. but i brought up going down there again adn he said "idk" like wtf does he mean idk? just before he was telilng me he still loved me he still misses me and now he doesnt know if he wants me to see him again?! at that moment i knew he was going to try to play those mind games with me again and my heart just cant take anymore from him..... yesterday i got on facebook and his status said he was coming home 2morrow. it just sunk down my stomach. like are you serious? you're coming down and he didnt even say anything to me? especially when i asked about comeing down ther again sometime.. i just cant do it anymore. i have so many feelings for him but i just feel like.... i deserve better?! what do you guys think?! i actually just like 20 minutse ago deleted him from a friend on facebook, and about 5 minutes later he called me. i didnt answer.. i think i need to just let it go?
Yes hun! Follow that gut instinct! YOU DESERVE BETTER! He is messing with your mind. He is using you for his own personal gain. He is walking all over you! Do not let him do it anymore! You have already taken the right steps in progressing your new outlook on this toxic relationship. You have already started deleting him. Continue this by deleting his phone numbers, pictures, etc. Anything you have of him, get rid of! This will make you feel SOOOO much better! If you are serious about doing this, follow through with it! Don't you want a guy that truly loves and appreciates you?! Of course you do! And how can you find that guy, if you are still connected to this guy! One rule of thumb that you need to follow for you new future relationships to break this cycle of mind games for future bfs is to always ask yourself: "Does he make me smile more than 90% of the time?" This guy has made you cry and feel miserable the majority of your guys relationship! He is not worth your time or energy! You need to put yourself first. Make yourself happy! Consider your true feelings, not just what your heart is telling you. Love can make you VERY blind.
I have been there! Trust me. I was with a guy for 2 and 1/2 years. He was my high school sweetheart. We broke up 3 times during our 2 and 1/2 year relationship. Every time we broke up he would be cheating on me with another girl. I could never prove it though so I continued to take him back and not follow my instinct to leave. This mind-playing relationship continued and I was MISERABLE! It was pretty sad that I could remember more times that I was crying, depressed, and angry than happy with him! That was a clue that I had to leave! Unfortunately that clue-in didn't occur until after I married him! We were married 3 months and during that time I found out that he had cheated on me with over 20 girls throughout our entire relationship, 2 were when we were engaged! Two of the girls he had gotten pregnant! So I got the guts and left! And trust me, I haven't been happier! Sometimes you just need to push yourself to move on and just take that leap of faith. Have faith in yourself that you are doing the right thing! Trust me, it is better to move on and take that risk, than to stay with this guy any longer and be miserable and possibly miss out on meeting the perfect guy! I have to say that love is a crazy cycle of love and hate. Sometimes you will have some bad apples before you fine the perfect one! The only way to find the right guy is to learn from the bad relationships! Best of luck and if you need any more advice just message me!
~Sherah
16/f
i'm normally an honest person but about recently i just got a new boyfriend. he's amazing and i could never wish for a better boyfriend. i want to keep him with me forever!! but i told him a lie and i regret doing it! and its a pretty big lie too. I told him that i finger myself but i really don't. I havent even worn a tampon yet! and i really really really really REALLY do not want to tell him that i don't finger myself because he will get mad that i lied and he told me that he really wants to finger me and if i tell him that i've never done it then it will all just crash and burn. we've been talking that when we are going to hang out again soon, that he wants to finger me but i'm not sure what to do. help!!! i don't know what to do!
Honestly, this lie is NOT a big deal. He won't be able to tell that you lied if he fingers you. So don't freak out about it. Before he does anything, how about you turn that lie around and make it the truth. It would probably be a good idea to do that before you guys mess around, just so you are comfortable and know what will happen. Just forget about the little white lie. It is not a big deal.