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is he controlling?
14f my boyfriend and I don't go to the same high schools so I don't know a lot of his friends. He gave some of them my number and I text them a lot. I mentioned how i hadn't talked to them in like 3 days and that it felt like forever. He said it bothered him that I texted them because one of them trashes him and how one flirts with me. I told him I wouldn't talk to the one who trashed him and how the other one only talked about him with me and how we were perfect for each other. He then randomly said he had to go. Is he being too controlling??I feel like he can't tell me who to talk to and who not to talk to...
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He is not being controlling. If it was your friends and he was telling you not to talk to them than that would be controlling. But this is HIS friends, NOT yours. If he was texting a lot of your girls you are friends with, and one would talk bad about you and the other one would sometimes flirt with him, would you be jealous and think it is getting out of hand? ....Yes. You have a relationship with him. Not his friends. Not your friends. They come second. So if he has a good reason (which he does) to not have you talk to HIS friends, than you should respect that. If his reasons weren't valid or he was being overly jealous about your friends, than he would be controlling and you would have to put him in his place. But he does have a good reason to not like you talking to them. Have respect for each other as a couple and listen to why he is upset. He isn't power tripping or being controlling. He just doesn't want you talking to people that are trying to jeopardize your relationship. I think you would be the same way if the situation was switched. Hope I helped!
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He is not being controlling. If it was your friends and he was telling you not to talk to them than that would be controlling. But this is HIS friends, NOT yours. If he was texting a lot of your girls you are friends with, and one would talk bad about you and the other one would sometimes flirt with him, would you be jealous and think it is getting out of hand? ....Yes. You have a relationship with him. Not his friends. Not your friends. They come second. So if he has a good reason (which he does) to not have you talk to HIS friends, than you should respect that. If his reasons weren't valid or he was being overly jealous about your friends, than he would be controlling and you would have to put him in his place. But he does have a good reason to not like you talking to them. Have respect for each other as a couple and listen to why he is upset. He isn't power tripping or being controlling. He just doesn't want you talking to people that are trying to jeopardize your relationship. I think you would be the same way if the situation was switched. Hope I helped!
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You are right, he can't tell you who to talk to and who not too.
But he can, and he should, tell you if something makes him unhappy or uncomfortable. Then YOU get to decide what you do with that information.
If you want to keep talking to someone and know he has nothing to worry about, tell him so kindly. If you are willing to give up a texting buddy because of his fears, then do that.
The choice is always yours, but it's a good thing to have a boyfriend who is willing to share his feelings and opinions with you. Just make sure you are just as willing to share yours too and stand up for them.
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