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how to get over him?
Me and my ex broke up about a year ago and i still havent gotten over him he was my first love and i miss him very much especially since i never really got to say bye im dating someone new now and they make me really happy but im scared that theyre gonna leave me the way my ex did i havent seen him since we split up but anyways i wanna give my heart to the new person im with but i cant because a part of me is still holding on to my ex im tired of crying over him i want to let go but i dont know how what can i do to get over him???
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I totally agree with the other advice giver.... But the reason why I choosed to answer this question is because two and a half years ago I was in the same siuation as you....
I met a man that I thought was so perfect in so many ways... I thought I was even going to marry him... I was so head over heels in love that I ignored the fatal flaws that he had... Like being kinda selfish and also being a cold hearted person towards people who were close to him...
So when he left me after an argument without even saying good bye or giving me a closing peiord, I was crushed... And I was so heartbroken... I tried numerous times to contact him and each time he ignored me.. And so I finally after months gave up chasing after him...
Later I meet a guy like you have... but I could never really get over this guy... SO I destroyed my relationship... And it actally took me over a year to get over this guy...
Now over two years later I'm curently single... And I been threw alot since then and I often blame my down falls on my ex... I made a mistake of letting bitterness and hate consume my life... And the mistake of living life threw a rear view mirror...
Don't make my mistake... Please!!!!! I urge you... Life goes on... This guy have been gone for over a year... And the best thing you can do for yourself is to let go... Think about the pros and cons of your relationship... Everything you did wrong and right and learn from your mistakes... And try to be the best women you can for this new amazing guy you are with...
The thing about both of our exs are they were cowards... They were not man enough to give women that shared their life with them even a bit of closure... And the new guy I would bet my bottom dollar is no where near that way... But you never will know unless you give him a fair chance... You owe it to him and you owe it to yourself...
`````````The best of luck to you...and always````
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there is no one way to get over him. you always will have some feelings for the first person you loved. since you didnt get any closure that is some part of why you are holding on. i felt the same way you did and i never got any closure from him but if you are still in contact with him then if you really want closure im sure you can just meet up and get it.
and i get that you are scared about giving your heart to a new person but its a part of life. we all get hurt and no matter what you will be hurt in the end. you can try to avoid it but it doesnt quite work out.
i think that crying over your ex is silly. all girls are great and some guys are stupid and they pass up on it but you have a new boy and im sure he cares for you a lot. just keep going with that and when the time comes maybe you will fall in love with him too. you never know where life takes you but dont worry about it.
your ex is gone and he was a part of your past. you will never fully be over him. im still not over my ex but that doesnt mean it should stop you from anything.
hope i helped, sorry its long :)
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Eventually you will get over him. The main reason I think you are holding on is because you never got closure from him when you guys broke up. They are so many questions unanswered so it makes it harder to move on and start over. But starting a new relationship will help you realize how better off you really are! If he didn't have the decency and respect to leave you with at least a reason why you guys weren't working out, then that should show you something. You CAN and WILL do better than him. Believe that and get some strength and respect for yourself! You really can do better, and right now you are letting your ex control your life still even after he left you a year ago... So don't give him that. He already had whatever amount of months and years with you. And he made a mistake and left you. But that is his loss. Now it's your turn to move on and see whats best for yourself, and that is definitely NOT him. It may be hard the first couple months being with someone new, no matter how amazing they are. But just remember, don't compare this new guy to him and worry that he will be the same. Focus on him and you, and anything that comes to mind about your ex, forget about completely. Start fresh. Delete pictures, phone numbers, emails, etc. That will help you really realize he is over with and done for good. Break ups are hard, and sometimes that first love is the hardest to let go of. But let me tell you one thing from experience. I married my first true love and he turned out to be a cheater and didn't care about me at all. After leaving him, which was SO hard, I learned something. Every person Ive been with since him, treated me SO MUCH BETTER! So no matter how bad it hurts, I learned that break ups happen for a reason. So you can get a better man :) Hope I helped! If you have anymore questions inbox me!
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