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How could he move on so fast?
So I was only with my ex for 3 months, but in that short amount of time, we had that amazing connection.. it felt like we had been dating for years. we were even engaged. but a week after he proposed, he dumped me. and had a new gf the next day. I know that he's moved on.. and I'm trying to but I can't. I love him so much. In that short amout of time, I fell head over heels for him. I need some help getting over him.. I just can't do it by myself. Please help me!!
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I am sorry that you are hurting but the one thing that will hinder you from moving on is all those "what-ifs" and "whys". It can be so hard to move on when there are so many unanswered questions about what went wrong in the relationship. But no matter how hard it is to not think about those ideas and keep letting them run over and over in your head, you have to stop thinking that way. It doesn't matter why he did change and move on. He made a mistake. And believe that! You need to have enough strength and care enough about yourself to realize that he made a mistake and you can do better than him. And no matter how much you love him, you need to realize to have respect for yourself. You can love someone within a few weeks, so I don't doubt at all that you fell madly in love with him within 3 months. But time heals all pain. And the first step of moving on and coming to terms with yourself and what you deserve. And you deserve better than that! I can't tell you why he changed and moved on so fast, but I can try to give you some thoughts on why I think he might have.
Based on my past experiences (I've been married before right out of highschool and it only lasted 3 months, and I've been engaged after that 6 months later, which also did not last) I can definetly try to give some insight as to why. You were engaged after 3 months. And three months can feel like a year based on your connection together, but 3 months is still what I call the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship. It is still new and fresh and you guys love is growing and youre learning so much about eachother. The longer the relationship the deeper the love, but also the more problems you will have. And that is life. And because he moved on so fast (within a day!) that is a HUGE red flag to me. He wasn't as honest as you may have thought he was. And since you were together 3 months, how well did you know him? Love is blinding and sometimes you don't notice things because of it. He couldn't have just jumped into another relationship with a random girl over night that he never spoke with or hung out with while you guys were together. I know it hurts to think he may have been unfaithful but I have plenty of experience with cheating relationships and I truly believe that this is what happened.
Also, you may have been engaged and that makes it hurt worse, I know! You start thinking about spending your lives together and never being apart so to lose a fiance makes it worse, no matter how long you were together. But just think positively. It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all. I live by this quote because it is so true. No matter how many heartaches I have felt, I have always moved on and found someone better! You learn so much from the difficult things in life and what doesn't kill you, makes you a stronger woman! So learn from this relationship and about yourself and your priorities of what you want for yourself. Just remember, you deserve and WILL get better! And he will, if he hasn't already, regret leaving you for another girl. And by the time he realizes this and is beating himself up over it, you will be in an AMAZING relationship with a guy that truly appreaciates you and the connection you two share. I know it sounds to good to be true right now, but I have been through SO much in my short life so if my heart has been broken so many times and I bounced back, I know you can do it too! Best of luck hun! If you need anything else feel free to message me :)
~Sherah
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You can't change the fact that he dumped you what done is done you've got to realize everything happens for a reason & things weren't meant to be
between you two yes it may hurt now seeing as it just recently happened & you were engaged to him but
evenually the hurt your feeling will fade away & you'll move on you can't change what's happened even
though you probably wish you could keep yourself busy if your doing other things you won't have time
to think about what's happened or him your mind will
be focused on other things there's better boys out there for when you do decide to date again(:
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