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16/f
i'm normally an honest person but about recently i just got a new boyfriend. he's amazing and i could never wish for a better boyfriend. i want to keep him with me forever!! but i told him a lie and i regret doing it! and its a pretty big lie too. I told him that i finger myself but i really don't. I havent even worn a tampon yet! and i really really really really REALLY do not want to tell him that i don't finger myself because he will get mad that i lied and he told me that he really wants to finger me and if i tell him that i've never done it then it will all just crash and burn. we've been talking that when we are going to hang out again soon, that he wants to finger me but i'm not sure what to do. help!!! i don't know what to do!
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Ok first off I believe anyone who you decide to be sexually active with you should always remain honest and hope that they will do the same. As far as your situation, I would be honest in the fact that you have never done this before. You could tell him why you where scard and lied. The fact is alot of guys like the feeling of being first on something. It might even give him the feeling of being special, because this is something new and differant for you. I will also say this, never under any curcumstances do anything that you are not ready to do. Make sure this is something you want, and its not being pushed on you, or you feel pessured into. Never give up the person you are to suit someone elses urges. I hope this view point helps.
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Honestly, this lie is NOT a big deal. He won't be able to tell that you lied if he fingers you. So don't freak out about it. Before he does anything, how about you turn that lie around and make it the truth. It would probably be a good idea to do that before you guys mess around, just so you are comfortable and know what will happen. Just forget about the little white lie. It is not a big deal.
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Tell him you lied at some point, that you were nervous and insecure because you'd never done anything.
He won't care. Not really.
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Well, hands down no doubt about it, he'll eventually find out, so u should probably tell him. Because if you dont, then I'm sure he'll probably ask you why you keep putting it off
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say no and say that you dont want to do it. and you actually was being sarcy or something like tgat sorry :S hope this helps
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Oh dear.
That was a dumb lie... Let me just say that, but it's not as big as you think. Tell him, don't tell him, irrelevant. The important thing is what he does to you and if you want it. I know women having sex daily that don't like to finger themselves. It's a thing, it's a personal choice, but do you want this guy doing it to you? That's the real concern here.
Don't let this guy take advantage of you. A lot of the "great" guys in high school just want to get in your pants. I learned that the hard way over the course of four years in high school hell. So, like I said if you want it cool, if not don't let him.
The lie isn't really as crucial as you think.
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If this new boyfriend is the perfect boyfriend, you should be able to just be honest with him.
Explain to him that you haven't done all that yet. He'll understand. If not, there's a better guy out there.
Do you want to wait? If you feel uncomfortable with him potentially doing that, tell him that you're uncomfortable and that you want to wait. Like I said, if he's perfect, he'll understand and will want to move at your pace.
Cheers,
stargirl
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