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Q: Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?

Hey there! The first thing I want to point out is that you're BEAUTIFUL, and you shouldn't change just for the purpose of having a boyfriend. I mean, it is absolutely normal. (I haven't had a boyfriend yet,I'm nearly 16 but I'm still happy =D). Just continue to be confident in yourself and be who you are, because your potential boyfriend should accept you for who you are, not what you attempt to change yourself to be. =)

Q: I hate my dad..I'm not joking. I honestly do and not just for some stupid reason.
My dad always is threatening my mom with a divorce and stuff she starts crying. I hate seeing her cry when she never even did anything to deserve this. He always is calling her horrible names and cussing at her and me. He hits her sometimes too..she almost called the police. He even hit me once..
I'm so scared of him and so is my mom and my brother. I haven't talked to any of them yet about this. Whenever I hear him yelling or something I'm usually in my room and I start crying because it really is starting to upset me. I can't even TALK to my own dad..whenever he says something to me all the horrible things that he has done to my mom and I in the past just flash back in my mind and I can't speak and I have tears in my eyes. Everytime I hear him screaming at my mom I just want to go down there and tell him to calm down and leave her alone but, I just can't..I'm too scared. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't talk to anyone in my family about this.
How do I help my mom and get my dad to stop yelling all the time?
Hey there! I agree with cj down there, the greatest thing you can do right now is to pray. Praying will truly help you divinely and can grant you that special peace especially needed when encountering problems like this... Also, the best thing you can do for your mom right now is to spend time with her and comfort her by just talking. Listening to someone who is going through a difficult time can help a million, and will truly make your mom feel better and stronger to face the situation. Helping her with errands or around the house is also very helpful, and your mom will truly appreciate it. Your mom, brother and you could also spend time together outdoors and do something fun, to be free from this problem, and to discuss it. The best thing you can do for your father right now is to just pray for him... Hopefully he'll be enlightened, and truly see how his actions are hurting others.
I really hope everything works out. Take care always and God bless....

Q: ok so im going to babysit this one family and i want to make a good impression so shell call me back... what should i do?

thanks i rate 5's
Hey there! In order to make a good impression on your babysitting family so that they may call you to return again is to:
1) Be confident in yourself and your capabilties.
2) Punctuality - Be on time at the babysitting home! Approximatley 30 minutes before family members are to leave the home, or as instructed.
3) Professionalism and politeness - Kindly greet and smile to the family members... Also, make sure that your attire is appropriate, and look is polished.
4) Follow verbal instructions efficiently
5) Ask questions!

I wish you the best of luck!!! Take care always..

Q: okay 2 nights ago i had some friends over and we decided to drink, and we all got really really really drunk. anyway, i found out that i called the boy i have a huge crush on and left a message telling him i like him. right now im talking to him on aim and he hasnt said anything. do you think hes not bringing it up because he has no feelings for me? or he doesnt know what to say?
im not really sure if i should like ask him if he got the message or apologize or tell him whats going on or whatever.. what should i do?!
Hey there! I kind of think that the guy you like is not bringing up the phone call because he doesn't know what to say, or is still surprised and startled that he needs to take it all in at the moment. Slowly try to question him about the message, and how you feel about it. In the message, was it really how you feel? You should explain to him then genuinely how you feel, and straight-forwardly, because when drunk, people may not have as much control over their words. Review your feelings, and tell him how you sincerely feel. I truly hope this works out... I wish you the best of luck.

Q: im hopefully going to this leadership camp as a counselor (i pray), and i was wondering if anyone had any good songs that are inspirational and motivational, that make you think about who you are and deep stuff. doesnt have to be religious (could be though), i have like the major ones like "go the distance" stuff like that, but anything that really reaches you deep in your heart. much appreciated!
Hey there! Possible songs may include:
1) Stay the Same - Joey McIntyre
2) These Words - Natasha Bedingfield
3) Man in the Mirror - Michael Jackson
4) Raindrops Will Fall - Tamyra Gray
5) Who I Am Hates Who I've Been - Relient K
6) Second Place Victory - This Day and Age
7) I'm Coming Out - Amerie
8) No One - Aly and AJ
9) Life is Cool - Sweetbox
If you need anything else, just hit me up on the inbox. I wish you the best of luck at your leadership camp, and hope you have a blast =D

Q: are the rich people exempted from having a credit? why?
Hey there! I'm sorry, but I don't really know the answer... My opinion is that possibly various things raise higher in price for wealthier people, such as school lunches, because of their incomes. If you need anything else, hit me up again in the inbox okay? Take care always =D
= normie

Q: Ok, two days ago (Wednesday) my boyfriend (Mike) wasn't at school because he was sick. Yesterday, he was at school. He was acting kind of wierd. Like, he wasn't doing things that he would normally do (such as walking up with me to my locker in the morning, talk to me the whole class that we have together, come up to my locker at the end of the day, and get out of class to go to the "bathroom" just to see me ). Then later yesterday online I told him about this guy that is one of my friends in Geometry class that played a little joke on me. I had my paper on his desk and I was turned around, so when I turned around again it said "Steph
Hey there! I personally believe there is an underlying problem in this that needs to be sort out with the help of you and your boyfriend. Set some private time for you guys to talk about what you feel about the relationship. It might not be just the note that triggered this problem, but maybe something else. It kind of appears that of you guys are being indifferent from lack of communication. Just need to clear the matter a bit on how both of you expect from each other in this relationship... If you need anything else, just hit me up in the inbox! Take care always, and I wish you the best of luck.
♥ normie

Q: Ive been really good friends with a guy for like 10 years, ever since we were 5. Lately, idk we're talking a lot more and getting along really well. Hes going to a dance with me and seems really excited. I told him one of my Lenten goals was to go to stations of the cross every friday night, and tonight he showed up too. I talked to him after and hes like "Oh, I decided to copy you:)" When he saw me he got this big smile on his face. Now my friends think he likes me. I like him. Does he like me? And how can i let him no i like him without actually telling him?
Hey there! Aww, hehe. I believe this is so cute. =DD Haha, but I believe that you can tell him how you feel through hanging out with him more, having a very genuine interest in the things he likes to do. Also, whenever you see him in the hallways at school, say "HI!" and smile, hehe. I do think that he feels the same way as he attended the Stations of the Cross after you had told him that's what you're planning to do. I wish you the best of luck! Take care always!

Q: I've been single for almost two years because all the guys like the "Popular girls" I really want a bf and cant seem to get one..can anyone help me ?


Ill rate 5's all the way♥
thanks=]
Hey there! I understand what you mean. But in actuality, all guys don't choose just the "popular girls". There's various qualities that guys like in girls besides status or looks that I've learned from my guy friends:

1) Personality-- If you are a friendly and confident person who is open to meeting new people, and understands their own capabilities and such, then this is a major plus! =DD

I've also learned that guys don't really favor girls who seem to be "emotionally dependent", as confidence is a MAJOR plus. So if you let others know that you're a very reliant and confident person, you're going far ahead, girl! Love is also kind of unexpected, as "it's like a butterfly, and you have to give it wings. the more you try to hold it down to you, the more it eludes you". So as you continue to be yourself, and being proud of yourself, then all will be fine.

Q: Hey everyone,
I want to create a calm atmosphere for my new room. What are some key elements? placement of furniture, and colors that can help me relax.

Oh and if anyone has any websites on stress busting you room I would appreciate it ! Thanks.
hey there! really great colors that could make your room more relaxing are light shades of blue, yellow and cream. While placing the furniture in your room, try not to stuff too many things in a certain corner or near the door, but to space the objects evenly. Also to add more fling to you bedroom, try not to face things so straight, like turning pillows and couches at an angle to make more of a lay-back kind of mood. Hope everything will work out great!

Q: on myspace how do you make your myspace private? like, so only your friends that you have added can see it? thanks!
hey there! how you can make your profile private is by clicking "Account Settings" at your homepage, then scrolling down to a box that says "My Privacy Settings". After that fill the "Friends only" button under "Who can view my profile". If you need anything else, just hit me up in the inbox...Take care!
love, normie

Q: I'm a high school sophomore. I've been playing volleyball for travel ever since I was in 7th grade. This year, I haven't really been interested in playing volleyball. I didn't try out this year for club, but they have an opening for me. My dad's heart is set on me playing volleyball, but it doesn't interest me anymore. When I told him I didnt want to try out, he got really mad at me. Should I play travel or not? I don't want to but it would make my dad happy. If not, what should I say to him that won't make him upset or mad at me? Please help!
Hey there! The best thing is to be honest and tell him how you feel. Set a time where both of you can sit down and have a meeting together on how you both feel on your joining volleyball this year. Just be straight-forward,be honest and tell him that although you know he has particular reasons for you to join volleyball this year, you want to try different things. Hopefully, your dad will understand because it truly is your decision. Take care always, and I wish you the best of luck....

Q: I am a dark, pessimistic, negative person. I feel totaly hopeless and that both the good and evil forces are against me. I try to be the positive, outgoing type, but that realy isnt me. Im realy pained inside with doubt and hiddin secrets. I have a crush on someone and today I was thinking about the girl, the way she acts when I flirt with her, the way she is so outgiong. Those happy, warming feelings turned cold. I have been doubtful about myself, I feel like I cant start a close relationship, not even a close friendship. Its more than that, but it would take forever to explain things. I feel weak and helpless. Can you help me?
--Caden--
hey there! i feel exactly the same way sometimes. but you should ask yourself, "for what reason am I doubting myself?" YOU know what your strengths and talents are, YOU know that you can work up to your personal potential, but why do you still doubt yourself, you know? Only you know how good you are and the weaknesses you may have, and your own power to fix them. The best thing is to look at yourself from both sides, find the things in your personality that you appreciate, and the others which you find less valuable, and begin to accept it because those two sides of yourself make up the person you are, and the definition of yourself is from these two things. Next, when you find something you don't like, change it. Remember, if there is something in your life that you don't appreciate, it's entirely up to you to change it. And if comparing yourself to others, stop it because comparing yourself will completely mar your own unique image and we need to live our own lives, not the lives of others. So you should always take the time to remember your strengths and stop underestimating yourself for the person you are. You should remember that you have the ability to get the things that you want in life. If you need anything else, you can hit me up in the inbox, and if you want to talk, you can aim me on: FLiPiNaYgRlz. Take care always...

Q: hey i added you if thats ok could you add me too?? thanks lots!:)
hey there! thanks for adding me! and of course, i shall add you. take carez!
♥ normie

Q: Does anyone know a Katrina H. She use to go to CHS and graduated in 99. Well we were friends for a couple of years but then all of a sudden she wanted to stop being friends. I mean she didn't call me anymore and didn't come by my house. It has been five years since we have talked I wrote her a letter to see what would happen and she didn't reply so I don't know what to do. I mean you would think that she would be friend enough to tell me why she no longer wants to be friends instead of having me wonder if I did something wrong or what. What do you think I should do? and if you know her could you get back to me too.
Hey there! The best thing is to talk to her. Do you still have her number? If so, then call her and ask her about how she's doing, and why she hasn't kept in touch after this long time. It's better to approach her directly than assuming and from hearing from other people, because you can directly see what may be wrong and fix the problem. Remember to never jump to conclusions, and try to clarify and solve the problem with her directly. I hope everything works out. If you need anything else, you can hit me up in the inbox. Take care always!

Q: I have to do a powerpoint on a country. Okay I'm almost done only problem is I need info on the history and goverment. I mean I have the info but I don't know what to put on the (pp). I want the important facts but I don't know how to pick them out. Can someone help me? Oh, the project is on Spain.
Hey there! Important information you could gather about Spain's history and goverment are:
+ what kind of government do they have? who is their leader?
+ you can include about how the Spanish nation began, the nations they've conquered, important people, landmarks, battles, important to their history, etc.

Because it's a powerpoint, gather only the MOST important information you need. When researching and starting your content for the powerpoint, you can print out information about Spain and highlight the only information you need. If you need anything else, just hit me up on the inbox. Take care!

Q: In order to know the real me, you have to know me well. I'm usually shy around people that i know know that much. This sucks cuz im a totally fun person! No one knows who I am!! ALl the guys of course want fun girls to go out with. I'm not ugly because people have told me (not my close friends) that im pretty. A hott boy even said so himself! I just wish people could see the real me. Does anyone have this problem? CAn anyone help me??
Hey there! The best thing is to be yourself. Don't care about what other people may think, because your character is WHO YOU ARE, and you reputation-only what people think of you. If the reason of holding back from being your true self is because of your reputation or what others think of you, then you have to stop beleiving in that reason right away, because do you really want to go through life, hiding who you really are? A lot of opporutnities and meeting a lot of people slips away if you aren't really yourself. So don't hold back, and be the person YOU want to be. I hope all goes well. Take care gherlie!

Q: k well my best friend krystal is always telling secrets about me to my other best friend ari(arianna) and well it dusnt exactly make me feel good:( but their always doing it!!!! especially at lunch. and wenever im around k(krystal) i feel down because of things like that. and not too long ago a(ari) called my house n said that k did not come to her house yet which i new was a lie cuz i knew she was going to her house and then i said hold on then i put the phone on mute and i heard them whispiring so i told her i had to go anyways she was acting all wierd so i knew k was over. and they just dont understand how i feel. and i also heard her dad say "hey girls!" in the background and a dusnt hav a sister. and they just really put me down especially k.
please please help me thnz guyys

sincerely,
sad gurlly
Hey there! Friendships should always be open. And most importantly, you should tell them how you feel. Be honest and tell them both straight-forwardly that you do not appreciate that they're telling each other secrets behind your back. Be open and ask what may be wrong. If you're just going to hold on to it, and not approach it directly by not telling them, or keeping it bottled up inside then the problem may never be solved, and the hurt builds up inside. Also, if your friends don't tell the truth when you ask them, then they're not worth your friendship. Friends are supposed to always be true to each other, adn this is made possible by confiding in each other with things that you know you woudn't tell anyone else. So the best thing is to approach them and be honest about the way you feel, and don't hold back. I wish you the best of luck, and if you need anything else, hit me up in the inbox. Take cares!

Q: how do i kno when i'm over someone or not. i'm going out with a cool boy (going on 2 months) but idk if i like him still or not or if i should break up with him. How do you know these things?

p.s. I also think this other guy that doesnt know me is hott and awesome. but i dont kno how I know if i like my bf or not or want to break up....any help is appreciated
Hey there! The best thing is to follow your heart in this situation. Ultimately, it won't lead you in the wrong direction. If you sincerely feel that the relationship is not working, then you should follow it, and if it's going really good, then the best thing is to stay in it. In every situation though, your heart and head also need to guide and so if you know that this guy that you are going out thinks you are really cool too, then you should kind of consider being with someone who you don't really know well. But if you truely and deeply feel that it's not working out, and that you may be breaking this guy's heart by being with him and you don't really feel the same way, then you should also think about ending the relationship. Overall, only you know what's best for you. Look at both sides of the sitauation and make your decision. I wish you the best of luck.

Q: yea hey everyone! ok there is this guy named walker, real sweetheart. he does nething for me and he helps me all the time but...here comes the weirdo part...he wont leave me alone. he calls me 24/7 texts me 24/7 and i cant take it anymore. the guy i like (nikk, you might want to read my other question about him) likes me alot and he is starting to get a little unencouraged on wanting to date me! and it will be all walkers fault and i feel so bad cuz he just wants to make me happy but were just not supposed to be together. how to i tell him to back off without using that phrase? someone help me get rid of walker the stalker! much love
Hey there! The best thing to do is to tell him how you feel. Go up to him and tell him straight-forwardly that you appreciate his kindness, but all you want to be is just friends. Rememeber to be honest, and don't hold back on how you feel. I was in the same situtation before, and my friend understood how I felt. I wish you the best of luck. Take care always...
= normie

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