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My ex and I have being talkin for over a month. He gave me a password to his MySpace I read the messages they were all from his exs he even told each and everyone of them that he wanted to get back with them. We got back together for about a week now. There was this message he send recently saying to the girl to call him asap. I want to break up with him so he can keep doing his flirty thang so it wont hurt me no more. WHY WOULD YOU SAY YOU WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH ME IF YOU WERE ASKING ALL THOSE OTHER GIRLS OUT?! right? plz help!!
he even told me that this girl was just a friend that gave him advice about love but when i read the messages he said that she was pretty and ect.. on and on. and the password thing i had to kill him for it but he didnt want me to get uppset over the messges does this even mean anything?
This guy is clearly not ready for a relationship of any kind. He is insanely immature and not worth getting mixed up with. Drop him right away. There's no way he should be doing those things while he is dating you. It's absurd. I'm sorry that you had to go through all of this and I know it must be painful, but save yourself from more and more and more pain in the future by just letting this jerk go. He's not going to change. If you stay with him it'll only make him feel like what he is doing is okay. Good luck.
ok so i want to get a really cute dress this year for homecoming. and i want NO ONE to have it, becuase you know how eveyone shops at like jc pennys, boscovs, sears, or wherever else at the mall. so i was wandering if any one had any other ideas of getting really cute pretty dresses.. if it matters im 16/f and live in pa
If you're looking for something that nobody else is going to have, I'd say try one of those rinky dink bridal shops. Or a bigger one, it doesn't matter that much. You might be able to find cute dresses there. They have more than just wedding gowns, they have bridesmaid dresses and dresses for guests and stuff. Some of them are really cute and nobody has to know you got it there if you don't want them to. I don't think it's embarrassing though, I think it's pretty cool! Good luck. :)
Ok, so i have this friend and she can kind of be the 'in ur face' type. And the other day i was at her house and she was curling my hair, and this kid in the grade below me, who has a crush on me, called me while she was doing my hair for this huge party. And she told me that she wouldnt finish the other half of my hair unless i asked this kid out. And we had to leave for the party in like 10 minutes so i just asked him. But i realllyyy dont like him at all. And so now hes guna tell all his friends hes 'going out with me' but i actually have feelings for this other kid. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO-I DONT WANA HURT THIS KIDS FEELINGS, BUT =O!!
Wow, that was such a terrible thing for your friend to do. You should have said no, no matter what she did with your hair. It's better to deal with that than seriously mess with someone else's emotions. What's in the past is in the past though, so you're going to have to take care of what has been done. As soon as you can, talk to this kid in person. Tell him that you changed your mind and that you don't want to go out with him. It's probably going to hurt him, but it's best to do it as soon as possible. The longer you wait the worse it's going to be. After you "break up" you need to tell your friend that what she did was terrible. You don't need to chew her out about it or anything, but stick up for yourself. Stand firm and don't let her try to laugh it off. What she did was very wrong and she needs to know that. Good luck.
Ok so I met this guy online. I never talk to anyone I dont know online this is the first one ever. Im 16, hes 20. I know it sounds stupid, but I really like him. I never gave him my address or last name. After I talked to him awhile online i gave him my cell phone number and we've been talking alot. I wanted to meet him at the mall this weekend but it didnt work out. Ive never done anything like this ever, and am not that kind of girl. Im very close with my parents and tell them everything. Ive never been in a real realationship. I think i might be over my head. Im not too into him and ive been trying to be realistic.
My real problem however is that I told my mom today. She is furious. She told me that I have endangered our family, that he can figure out our adress from giving him my number, and that she cannot believe how stupid I am. I read an article in seventeen about a girl who met someone online and talked to him on the phone and had her parents meet him and that everything was OK. I tried to find that article but i cant...
Im so sorry this is so long, rambling, and sounds stupid but im really upset. Please help
I know you like him and all, but a 20 year old should not want to be with a 16 year old. He is probably a few years older than what he said too. Do you remember who told their age first? People always lie about their age online, always. Your mom is right in that he can figure out a lot about you with just your cell number. He's probably not the type of person to do that, but from now on, don't give out your number to anyone no matter how nice they seem. Your mom shouldn't be angry that you told her, she should be glad, but she does know what she's talking about. No matter how much you like this guy it's time to face reality. Even if all he says is true, the relationship isn't going to work out. Plain and simple. If it's not gonna work out there's no point in having it especially with the potential dangers. It is so easy to sound like such a great person online. It's easy to fall for someone that seems like a great person. Don't take the easy road here, take the smart one. It's just not worth it. He's not the only guy that's right for you. The circumstances surrounding him just aren't right so just move on. Don't meet him and please stop talking to him. If you do do something foolish and set up another meeting with him out of false hope, DO NOT go alone. Always bring a friend along and never go anyplace with him no matter what. Maybe he's who he says he is and maybe he's not. It doesn't really make a difference. You need to make the right choice here and let him go. I know it's hard and it is going to hurt, but it's what needs to be done. Better to hurt now than to hurt worse later on. Good luck.
me and my best guy friend are both 14
i really like him, more than i've ever
liked a guy before,i've liked him since
like last december over the summer though
he came out to me and told me he was gay
i still like him though, and i really need
to get over him, what do i do?
& @ age 14 do you really think he could
be gay??
oh and i cant ask my friends, cos im the
only one that knows hes gay
I think that you should talk to him about it. Just pour your heart out to him. He will probably be very understanding and helpful. You'll be able to get it all of your chest and there won't be that tension between you anymore. If anybody can help you get through this it's him. Good luck.
About 3/4 of the seniors that attend my high school want to pull off a really good senior prank. We have only a few rules. Nothing severely vandalizing. Nothing illegal (to the point of jail time for those 18+), something that will be remembered, something that a bunch of people can do.
We don't want one of those stupid pranks that 4 kids do and barely anybody finds out about. We want our school and our class of 2008 to be remembered for a long time.
We are having secret meetings twice a month. We call ourselves the senior gift committee because we consider our prank a gift to all underclassmen. Something for them to remember and talk about for years to come.
We don't want to really hurt anybody, and if it can be multiple small pranks or one HUGE thing, it doesn't matter. We just need help with suggestions. A lot of things we've come up with either break a rule (too illegal, too harmful, etc.) or have been done a million times over.
So, if anyone has any suggestions or anything that they've done and that their school and peers have really enjoyed, any suggestions are welcome.
By the way, seniors have the same last day as underclassmen. (I know a lot of school have senior graduation before underclassmen get out, our school isn't like that).
Thanks =]
Release animals in the school. It'll be HILARIOUS. I've heard stories of this having been done before. A class released like 200 mice in their school! I kinda like the idea of chickens though...not so many of course. :)
Good luck and remember to leave no trail. Everybody will know you did it, but don't let there be any proof!
There is this girl I like & I think she she likes me, but I'm not sure. A couple of times she just got up in my face and stared at me, she smiles at me alot and makes alot of jokes.She got mad at me when i spilled water on her, but she got over it really quick. She also said when she points to me her thumb and pinky go out. What should I do?
There's nothing you should actually do...she might like you, she might not. It's frustrating not knowing, but what really can you do? If she does like you she'll tell you eventually. I'd say just wait it out. If it gets particularly excruciating, you can always just ask her if she has any feelings towards you. Good luck.
this is my family and my friends..
its like EVERYTHING i do is wrong. but like, i dont mean for it to be wrong? i lost my best friends (very close) but like what the f?
FRIENDS?
i always stood by him.. and then this girl he liked came up. and i told him i didnt think she was good news. we kept fighting everytime we talked. so i avoided talking to him because i hated fighting with him. :/? so then he says he misses me.. blahblahblah. so it was really stressful so i stoppped talking to everyone for a few days i didnt go on computer.. i kind of dissapeared. he was worried, he texted my cell called it like crazy. so i get on to tell him about something.. and then he was like "congratulations she screwed me over, you were right" and im like you actually think im happy that she f'ed you over? and you can guess how that ended.. massive fight. MASSIVE. in the end he was 'FK OFF' "im glad you left." "im glad youll stop coming on." "i'm glad youll be leaving." that was the most.. massivest and horriblest conversation i ever had with him.. now he hates me. :l ive known him since '05.
FAMILY
my parents dont live together.. i see my mom maybe 6 times a YEAR. i live with my dad.. i do everything i help around the house.. i clean up after dinner. just those things that arent important.. but need to be done.
so randomly if i forget to do something.. my dad just SCREAMS at me because i forgot.
my nephew left the door front door open.
and im upstairs doing my homework
and my dad literally SCREAMS at me 'WHY THE FK IS THE BLOODY DOOR OPEN?'
expecting me to know when I'M upstairs.
and hes downstairs about 2m away from the door.
everything i do with my family is wrong even though i try ALWAYS to make it right.. im like the mom because my mom doesnt live with us.. she refuses too. teen's usually go out and party. i havent gone to a party since ever. ive always been home. helping. i asked my mom to come back and help. and she refused, she made excuses.
so when i mess up once, just ONE single time. i get the lords shout over it. and now, ive gotten it so much. i get massive tears in my eyes. i feel like crying. i feel like dying. i feel suicidal.
i used to be strong.. but then everything in my life just fell apart.. i moved like 5 times in less then 2 years. my family split up. i lived with my mom. learnt a whole new language because i lived in a country that didnt speak english. i moved with my dad. i felt life without a mom. i felt life without my brother. i felt life without my dad. and no matter what. i dont feel like home.
am i fkd up?
whatsadfdtsafy
what do i do.
im seriously like dying here..
There's nothing you can really do about your family other than get older and move out. Your friendship though, you can save.
Ever think about what your friend is feeling right now? You may have seen through his gf all along but he didn't. He liked her. He trusted her and once he realized who she really was it hurt him, bad. He is hurting and he needed you, his friend, to help him through it. You didn't do that. Understand what he went through and what he is feeling. He thought she was great. So great that he decided that she was more important than you. He finally realized that you were right and that he needed you and he came back to you. He told you he missed you and your friendship. That must have been so hard to do. He really put himself out there. He truly expressed his sorrow for what he did to you and you didn't accept his apology. At least, you didn't express to him that you did. He feels like you didn't. It's not about what you feel in the friendship right now, it's about what he feels. Forgive him. Everybody does stupid things when they think they've found that special someone. He's learned his lesson and he has realized that your friendship is more important than any crummy girlfriend. What you need to do is apologize. Let him know that it is hard for you to understand why he liked her and why he didn't see what you saw, but that you are there for him to help him through the hurt that she has caused him. The past is the past, forget it. His relationship with her was a failure. There's no need to let it bother you any more. You weren't there for him when he needed you most, though. That's what matters now. When he felt alone and like he had no friends to turn to.....pretty much exactly how you feel now! I wonder who feels worse, you, or him? Either way, you both feel terrible. Your friendship with him can be resolved! Just admit your mistakes and be supportive and understanding of what he has to say. If he chews you out, take it. Let go of your pride for a little while. Having his friendship back is worth it. Just tell him that you had a lot going on in your life and were selfish to not recognize his pain too. Don't try to turn it into a pity party for yourself, though. Making excuses is one of the last things you want to do. Keep it about him. Don't worry, life will get better. This is just a bad time for you. Good luck. :)
i like him so much it hurts.
i'm a pretty shy girl, so i don't know how to
tell my boyfriend exactly how much i like him.
any ideas?
thanks in advance. :]
You tell him how much you like him every day just by being with him. That may seem silly, but it's true! If you want to be able to vocalize your feelings, just say exactly what you said here! Tell him that you like him so much that it hurts and that you can't even begin to explain how much you like him. Anybody that likes another person, no matter how shy or outgoing they are has trouble with words. Liking someone is such a powerful feeling that it can't really be described so just say that! Whatever is coming to your mind, no matter how vague or silly it sounds is what you really feel and your boyfriend will really appreciate it when it comes right from your heart. Another way to tell someone how much you like them is to do things for them. Make him something, buy him something, help him with his homework, just being nice to him and going out of your way to do things for him tells him that you like him more than words ever could. Good luck! :)
Ok I have dial up, and I download a lot of music and keep lots of pictures on my computer. I am gonna be taking online classes soon and my computer is so slow! I have a bunch of pop ups and I dont have a virus scan, which I know is bad because of me downloading music. How much does DSL or cable cost to set up and how much is it a month?
Roadrunner is $30 a month. It may seem like a lot, but think of it this way - it's one dollar a day. That's a small price to pay for not having to deal with dial up! If you set it up yourself, it's free. I highly suggest that you do that. It's a matter of plugging in cables - VERY EASY. Plus, if you can't figure it out or need help with something, you can always have someone from the company come help you and pay then. Just try it yourself first!
You can also make your computer faster by getting rid of all the spyware that you probably have. Virus scans won't pick it up. You need a separate program. This one is great: http://www.toggle.com/lv/group/view/kl25986/Ad-Aware_SE_Personal.htm
Do a full system scan and then scan for ADS! You should then do a smart system scan once a week or so to keep your computer at top speed. You will love this program.
Even though viruses probably aren't your problem, you should also download a virus scanner just in case. AVG free is an AMAZING virus scanner. It picks up EVERYTHING. Even things that top names like McAfee and Norton won't pick up. Don't feel like you have an inferior virus scanner just because it's free. http://free.grisoft.com/doc/2/
Good luck! :)
to start off i am (according to my BMI) over 75 lbs overweight
i am 5'5 200 lbs female, andd 14
how does reality shoes like biggest loser and fat march do it?
i mean 26 lbs a week??? what is so different!
one more question
if hilary duff was 5'1, 130 lbs during lizz mc guire (spelling?) and was beautiful and healthy looking,
why am i 5'5 needs to be 125 to be healthy?
help please!
-lynn from flordia
I don't think you need to be worrying about how much Hilary Duff weighs. You are severely overweight and need to focus on slimming down, not all at once, but in steps. Losing 20 pounds a week is NOT healthy. On the show, the contestants are very carefully monitored and are seen by doctors probably every day. 5 pounds a week is the healthy way to do it. Why don't you try just losing 20 pounds in 2 months? That's more realistic. Then go from there. There's no way you should be thinking about 125. That is very unrealistic for you right now and will only frustrate you and cause you to give up and end up not losing any weight at all. Plus, 145 is a normal weight for your height. There's no need to be aiming for 125. All by itself, 75 pounds is an insurmountable goal. You only really need to lose 55. Even that all together is too much. Split it up and you can do it. If you're not realistic about your goals, you'll never be able to get to where you need to be. You're setting yourself up to fail before you even start. The weight you are at now is dangerous. You need to lose weight and you need to do it the right way. Seek advice from a doctor or dietitian and start taking your health seriously. It's not about fads, game shows, celebrities, or pop culture. It's about your life. 145 is where you need to be and you can get there when you realize that your life is reality, not TV. What you see on TV just isn't the way that life really works.
I hate to say it, but -- Loneliness is getting the best of me. I want to be able to say "God is enough, all i need to be happy" or "I'm satisfied just having my family and a few close friends", but I can't, I'm not. I constantly find myself longing for the "myspace" life. Having lots of gorgeous female friends and funny male friends to do fun things with and take lots of pictures with. To have people constantly calling me. TO FEEL LOVED. This is not a question of how to make friends - go out, join a sports club, church group.. I know, I know, I know. Whatever.
I probably wouldn't be satisfied anyways. I keep longing for other peoples lives. And in a weak attempt to become them.. I get their hairdos, clothing styles, and even opinions. But (ofcourse) it doesn't work.
Help me please, I can't remember ever being satisfied. I've always hated myself, my friends, my life.
I'm lonely and I fear always feeling this way.
I know what you're probably going to think before I say this, but just hear me out. I think that you should get some counseling. You're not crazy. You're not stupid. Many, many people feel the way that you do. The problem is, it's affecting you a lot. It's one thing to know that you should be satisfied, but that knowledge isn't going to make you satisfied. It's one thing to feel envious of other people or ideas, but it's quite another to want to and actually try to be like them. This is a really tough situation that you're probably not going to be able to get through on your own. Talking with a friend about it isn't going to help too much because they most likely won't understand what you're going through since they're young too and are facing the same pressures. An adult will either baby you or tell you to grow up, neither of which is what you need. A professional, though, will be able to give you the most good advice and assistance in getting over this. You don't necessarily have to see a psychologist. Just talk to the counselor at your school. There's a reason why they are there. For people like you that have problems that aren't so serious they need to see a doctor or go through extensive therapy. Your school counselor is there for issues of self-esteem, belonging, and the pressures that teens face today. So please talk to a counselor about this, it really will help and you do need help. Good luck. :)
i recently hurt my knee (i have a torn MCL)
and my boyfriend is coming back into town this weekend and im worried about comfort during sex hes a pretty big guy and im just wondering what kind of position might be the most appropriate
thanks
I would say to try the "spooning" position. It's where you are both lying on your sides, guy behind. You could have your legs stretched out mostly straight and have your hurt knee on top of the other one. This is actually the recommended position for pregnant women, so it's pretty mellow. If that doesn't work, you could "do it" on the edge of the bed with your leg propped up on a chair or something. Just use your imagination and you'll probably think of something that will work well. Good luck! :)
I dated someone for almost 3 years and the entire time it was a long distance relationship. He was the best thing I've known. We broke up about a year and half ago and it's been about 2 years since we have seen each other. He lives in the Bay Area now and I'm in Texas. Around Thanksgiving I will be traveling for business to the Bay Area and I'm wondering if I should call or email him and let him know. I would love to see him. He's the only one I've ever loved. However, at the same time he might be seeing someone or he might not even be interested. I made mistakes during our relationship and that is why it ended. It was my fault. I've tried to make it better and redeem myself, but it hadn't worked for me in the past. So to make matters worse, not only do I miss him tremendously, but I feel very guilty, too. Help! Do I keep trying since I'll actually be local? Or should I just let it go?
I think that you should call him. Ask him for advice on what you should see, what you should do, and where the best places to eat are. DO NOT try to set up a date or a meeting. If he wants to see you he will do that. It would make perfect sense for him to do so with the conversation that you would have initiated. If he doesn't suggest meeting up, he's not interested. Then, you need to let him go. Letting him bring it up will save you the awkwardness of seeing him when he doesn't really want to see you. It would also avoid the awkward situation of telling you that he was in a relationship with someone else or worse, bringing her along! Good luck! :)
15/f
you see im about 5'6" and i weigh about 120 lbs and my measurements are 36"26"36" and i can wear a size 5 in juniors, and i wear a 36DD. everyone thinks im pretty, not hot or sexy, but not ugly either! i also have naturally wavy red hair, but the down side is im deathly white so i guess if i ever got into a modeling carrear id have to fake bake (cauz redheads dont tan)!
out of all this info about me is there any hope of for me to ever become a model, or even just having a slight chance to make it?
Definitely. Don't worry about your pale skin either. Pale skin can be very attractive. There's no harm in trying and it sounds like you have the perfect body type. Just remember not to base your whole life on the hope that you can make it in the modeling industry. Make modeling your plan B and have another plan for your future just in case. Good luck! :)
This probably sounds really disgusting, but i have r e a l l y bad acne on my back.. what are some good products i can use to get rid of it? (i mean i wash my back like everyday to, so it sucks)
See a Dermatologist. You'll be able to get a prescription acne wash and/or cream. Over the counter stuff doesn't have much medication in it and if it's not working for you, going to a Dermatologist is the best thing you can do. The appointment will be really quick and easy. Not embarrassing at all. Good luck! :)
I have braces, got them in Feb. And I use listerine now, but I am not too sure- does it affect my braces. I mean, will it damage the wires? Should I stop using it?
No. Listerine is a great idea when you have braces. If it really was a danger, your Orthodontist would have told you and it would probably have warnings on the bottle. Keep using it! :)
I lived in an area where metro pcs- a phone company, was very common and it wasn't here in the L.A. area til recently--
Sept.19.07
Does anyone know if the Los Angeles area of Metro PCS includes/extends to Torrance or Redondo Beach?
Contact MetroPCS and ask them. It's quick and easy. Nobody on here is going to have any idea.
Dial *611 from your MetroPCS phone or
1-888-8metro8 (1-888-863-8768)
I've recently started biking more often. I was just wondering where in your body is targeted when you are biking? For example, is it cardiovascular exercise? endurance? which muscle groups does it target? Thanks.
Here are some websites that answer your question. Next time, try searching for yourself! :)
http://beauty.expertvillage.com/experts/biking-exercise.htm
http://skiing.about.com/od/instructionfitness/a/skiingbiking.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biking#Health
http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/features/beneficial-biking
Is water suppose to make you bloat because people say to drink 8 bottles of water a day and I get really bloated when I drink water until i go to the bathroom, but my blatter is really strong, so i go maybe twice a day at the most, so if I drink a lot of water I get really bloated. Is that suppose to happen or is it just my type of wateR? I dont think it happened when I drank Dannon, but now I drink Dasani because we couldn't find Dannon anymore.
Yes, you will get bloated if you drink that much water. Your body needs 8 glasses of water a day, but there is water in all the food and other drinks that you consume too! You should only need to drink about 1 or 2 glasses of actual water a day. The other 6 or 7 are covered by everything else that you eat or drink, unless you're just eating dehydrated astronaut food. It can actually be dangerous to drink a lot of water. I wouldn't really worry about how many glasses you're drinking at all. Just drink something when you're thirsty! Your body will let you know when it needs water. :)