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Should I see my ex while I'm visiting his city?
I dated someone for almost 3 years and the entire time it was a long distance relationship. He was the best thing I've known. We broke up about a year and half ago and it's been about 2 years since we have seen each other. He lives in the Bay Area now and I'm in Texas. Around Thanksgiving I will be traveling for business to the Bay Area and I'm wondering if I should call or email him and let him know. I would love to see him. He's the only one I've ever loved. However, at the same time he might be seeing someone or he might not even be interested. I made mistakes during our relationship and that is why it ended. It was my fault. I've tried to make it better and redeem myself, but it hadn't worked for me in the past. So to make matters worse, not only do I miss him tremendously, but I feel very guilty, too. Help! Do I keep trying since I'll actually be local? Or should I just let it go?
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Call him and tell him you'll be in the area & would like to catch up, but doing anything more than that would be wrong for the both of you.
You'll never move on if you dwell in the past.
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I think that you should call him. Ask him for advice on what you should see, what you should do, and where the best places to eat are. DO NOT try to set up a date or a meeting. If he wants to see you he will do that. It would make perfect sense for him to do so with the conversation that you would have initiated. If he doesn't suggest meeting up, he's not interested. Then, you need to let him go. Letting him bring it up will save you the awkwardness of seeing him when he doesn't really want to see you. It would also avoid the awkward situation of telling you that he was in a relationship with someone else or worse, bringing her along! Good luck! :)
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