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ugh..


Question Posted Wednesday September 26 2007, 8:36 pm

this is my family and my friends..
its like EVERYTHING i do is wrong. but like, i dont mean for it to be wrong? i lost my best friends (very close) but like what the f?



FRIENDS?

i always stood by him.. and then this girl he liked came up. and i told him i didnt think she was good news. we kept fighting everytime we talked. so i avoided talking to him because i hated fighting with him. :/? so then he says he misses me.. blahblahblah. so it was really stressful so i stoppped talking to everyone for a few days i didnt go on computer.. i kind of dissapeared. he was worried, he texted my cell called it like crazy. so i get on to tell him about something.. and then he was like "congratulations she screwed me over, you were right" and im like you actually think im happy that she f'ed you over? and you can guess how that ended.. massive fight. MASSIVE. in the end he was 'FK OFF' "im glad you left." "im glad youll stop coming on." "i'm glad youll be leaving." that was the most.. massivest and horriblest conversation i ever had with him.. now he hates me. :l ive known him since '05.


FAMILY

my parents dont live together.. i see my mom maybe 6 times a YEAR. i live with my dad.. i do everything i help around the house.. i clean up after dinner. just those things that arent important.. but need to be done.
so randomly if i forget to do something.. my dad just SCREAMS at me because i forgot.
my nephew left the door front door open.
and im upstairs doing my homework
and my dad literally SCREAMS at me 'WHY THE FK IS THE BLOODY DOOR OPEN?'
expecting me to know when I'M upstairs.
and hes downstairs about 2m away from the door.




everything i do with my family is wrong even though i try ALWAYS to make it right.. im like the mom because my mom doesnt live with us.. she refuses too. teen's usually go out and party. i havent gone to a party since ever. ive always been home. helping. i asked my mom to come back and help. and she refused, she made excuses.
so when i mess up once, just ONE single time. i get the lords shout over it. and now, ive gotten it so much. i get massive tears in my eyes. i feel like crying. i feel like dying. i feel suicidal.


i used to be strong.. but then everything in my life just fell apart.. i moved like 5 times in less then 2 years. my family split up. i lived with my mom. learnt a whole new language because i lived in a country that didnt speak english. i moved with my dad. i felt life without a mom. i felt life without my brother. i felt life without my dad. and no matter what. i dont feel like home.



am i fkd up?
whatsadfdtsafy
what do i do.
im seriously like dying here..

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sizzlinmandolin answered Friday September 28 2007, 6:46 pm:
There's nothing you can really do about your family other than get older and move out. Your friendship though, you can save.

Ever think about what your friend is feeling right now? You may have seen through his gf all along but he didn't. He liked her. He trusted her and once he realized who she really was it hurt him, bad. He is hurting and he needed you, his friend, to help him through it. You didn't do that. Understand what he went through and what he is feeling. He thought she was great. So great that he decided that she was more important than you. He finally realized that you were right and that he needed you and he came back to you. He told you he missed you and your friendship. That must have been so hard to do. He really put himself out there. He truly expressed his sorrow for what he did to you and you didn't accept his apology. At least, you didn't express to him that you did. He feels like you didn't. It's not about what you feel in the friendship right now, it's about what he feels. Forgive him. Everybody does stupid things when they think they've found that special someone. He's learned his lesson and he has realized that your friendship is more important than any crummy girlfriend. What you need to do is apologize. Let him know that it is hard for you to understand why he liked her and why he didn't see what you saw, but that you are there for him to help him through the hurt that she has caused him. The past is the past, forget it. His relationship with her was a failure. There's no need to let it bother you any more. You weren't there for him when he needed you most, though. That's what matters now. When he felt alone and like he had no friends to turn to.....pretty much exactly how you feel now! I wonder who feels worse, you, or him? Either way, you both feel terrible. Your friendship with him can be resolved! Just admit your mistakes and be supportive and understanding of what he has to say. If he chews you out, take it. Let go of your pride for a little while. Having his friendship back is worth it. Just tell him that you had a lot going on in your life and were selfish to not recognize his pain too. Don't try to turn it into a pity party for yourself, though. Making excuses is one of the last things you want to do. Keep it about him. Don't worry, life will get better. This is just a bad time for you. Good luck. :)

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blackrose13 answered Friday September 28 2007, 1:35 pm:
hey :D im sorry abot what is hapenin to you
first of all your not
fked up the people around you are fked up..
second of all your friend is the one OVERDOIN IT
AND SO IS YOUR DAD
forget your best friend
theres alot of people out there

and for your dad
he needs to chill.. seirously..
i mean sit down
talk to him
if he doesnt wana talk
then just dont be the same
make himm think theres something thats botherin you
acT diffrently..
btw all this isnt your fault so dont blame yourself ok
trst me one day
IF GOD WILLS.
you will no better ppl


i hoped i helped


I---M

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