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Online Dating?
Ok so I met this guy online. I never talk to anyone I dont know online this is the first one ever. Im 16, hes 20. I know it sounds stupid, but I really like him. I never gave him my address or last name. After I talked to him awhile online i gave him my cell phone number and we've been talking alot. I wanted to meet him at the mall this weekend but it didnt work out. Ive never done anything like this ever, and am not that kind of girl. Im very close with my parents and tell them everything. Ive never been in a real realationship. I think i might be over my head. Im not too into him and ive been trying to be realistic.
My real problem however is that I told my mom today. She is furious. She told me that I have endangered our family, that he can figure out our adress from giving him my number, and that she cannot believe how stupid I am. I read an article in seventeen about a girl who met someone online and talked to him on the phone and had her parents meet him and that everything was OK. I tried to find that article but i cant...
Im so sorry this is so long, rambling, and sounds stupid but im really upset. Please help
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Well, I've been where you are trust me. I agree with your mom, but it could work out. I'm just worried about your safety. There are tons of sick people, just trust your heart and meet in PUBLIC places, if you meet at all. The mall would be perfect. Tons of people. You don't sound stupid at all to me, I'm the same way. I don't know if you are or not, but I'm pretty obcessed with finding love. Believe it or not, I found my boyfriend online. Long distance but we've been seeing each other every few times a month by bus. We've been going out for almost 6 months, and are in love. What I'm trying to say is, it may work out, just be VERY careful. All I have left to say is, follow your heart and your brain too. And please don't believe everything you hear in the media. Some people are screwed up liars lol
but if you really care and like this guy, meet in public places, and NEVER go anywhere with him, no matter what he says. Only if he gains your trust, ok? Good luck! :D
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I know you like him and all, but a 20 year old should not want to be with a 16 year old. He is probably a few years older than what he said too. Do you remember who told their age first? People always lie about their age online, always. Your mom is right in that he can figure out a lot about you with just your cell number. He's probably not the type of person to do that, but from now on, don't give out your number to anyone no matter how nice they seem. Your mom shouldn't be angry that you told her, she should be glad, but she does know what she's talking about. No matter how much you like this guy it's time to face reality. Even if all he says is true, the relationship isn't going to work out. Plain and simple. If it's not gonna work out there's no point in having it especially with the potential dangers. It is so easy to sound like such a great person online. It's easy to fall for someone that seems like a great person. Don't take the easy road here, take the smart one. It's just not worth it. He's not the only guy that's right for you. The circumstances surrounding him just aren't right so just move on. Don't meet him and please stop talking to him. If you do do something foolish and set up another meeting with him out of false hope, DO NOT go alone. Always bring a friend along and never go anyplace with him no matter what. Maybe he's who he says he is and maybe he's not. It doesn't really make a difference. You need to make the right choice here and let him go. I know it's hard and it is going to hurt, but it's what needs to be done. Better to hurt now than to hurt worse later on. Good luck.
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You are trying to be realistic- that is good. You have to remember, while being realistic, that your mother is really right to be upset about this. I mean, you have never actually met this guy, so you really don't know for fact he is who he says he is. He can lie about his age and send you pictures of somebody else, claiming that is pictures of him.
Even if he is 20, like he says, or is they guy in pictures he sends, he COULD be a rapist, a murderer. You never know. You have to be extra cautious about these things.
A friend of ours met a woman by dating online, and things worked out well for them- they have been married now for some time. But you can't trust that things will work out so well for you, with so many predators online.
Maybe you would find great interest in reading Christina Long's story, posted at this myspace link. She was murdered by a 25 year old she met online:
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Not that I mean to scare you, or make you feel I think you are too young to know better, but in a way, I guess I am trying to scare you in order to teach you something.
Please don't think I'm trying to hurt your feelings- that is not the case. I wouldn't post this if I didn't feel you need to realize why your mother is so upset with you, and why I would be too. I'm also a mother.
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