Well, it might be a little scary to be called in for a meeting, but let's not forget the fact that you don't know for sure if that's the reason.

The mature way to go about this is to apologize for saying what you said if it is a confrontation for what happened. It's going to be alright, and you messed up by talking about your receptionist and need to know not to do it again even if you know for sure that whoever you are talking aout isn't in the room.

No matter how rude the people you work with get with you, you have to learn that you shouldn't disrespect them in any way because you do not want conflict going on with the people you work with. And the peple who you were gossiping to about your receptionist were probably thinking, "Oh, so this is the way she is, I wonder if she's talking behind my back about the way I work" Or something like that.

So even if this meeting has nothing to do with what happened, then you should still learn from this to always respect the people you work with. I think that you should try clearing the issue with your receptionist because it will be really tense if you keep working with her knowing that she has a huge problem with you.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, I definetly think that you should feel guilty for talking sexually with another guy that you are only friends with for that matter.

Now I understand that you may think online relationships aren't that important until you meet, but don't you think if you knew he was coming over to stay with you that it could really be considered cheating?

You were definetly disloyal for doing that and I think you should put a stop to what's been going on between the two of you. But, what makes me really confused is the fact that you talk about how guilty you feel for being disloyal and yet you are actually asking whether or not you and him should stop doing this when you know that your boyfriend is coming to stay with you. It makes me feel sorry for your boyfriend, because he's about to stay with a girl who apparently can't even keep from having a sexual talk with one of her friends.

I know this seems harsh, but would you want your boyfriend not taking you seriously as a girlfriend and talking that way to other girls? Now, I'm not saying he's Mr.Perfect and hasn't talked that way to another girl, but you have to give this guy a chance because he's your boyfriend.

I really don't know what to tell you. My instincts tells me that this guy deserves a girl who doesn't interact sexually with her own friends. I mean, I would hope that you'd learn your lesson and not do it again, but just the fact that you questioned whether or not to stop just makes me think you'll do it again. Ok, don't get me wrong, I completely understand the fact that you thought this online relationship was a little bit of a joke and it wouldn't be a big deal, but you did this with a friend. I am hoping that you wouldn't do this to a guy that you were seeing in person. I know that it looks like I only gave you a lecture, but I just wanted you to know how much that stuff can damage a good relationship.

-TheTeenGirl

Your question is confusing me a little bit but I think I understand what you are asking.

I wouldn't say that you are shallow for wanting a guy who only wants you for a certain body part, that makes that guy shallow. As for you, if you know for sure that that guy only wants you for that body part then it's just getting yourself in a situation with a guy who won't be very good to you.

My advice to you would be to not take the first guy in line who wants you. Don't settle for a guy just because he likes you in other words. It takes a lot more qualities in guys other than the fact that he's into you. I would also suggest that you take some time for yourself to love yourself a little bit more. You were talking about how you don't have a nice face or body and that might be why you are just picking any guy that wants you. You kind of feel like you don't deserve an attractive guy who loves every part of you when you deserve all of that.

Your appearance on the outside isn't what defines you. It is your inner spirit and soul that will tell people whether you are beautiful or not.

-TheTeenGirl

I definetly think it would be taking things too far if you aren't together.

I really think that if someone takes sex seriously, they'll have it when they know they are really in love and that they know for sure that they will be together for a lifetime which is after marriage. But if you aren't going to save yourself for marriage then at least wait until you've got a guy who you are considered to be his girlfriend and not some "Friends with benefits" thing going on or the "No strings attatched" stuff.

But I guess that this all comes down to your thoughts and your morals when it comes to sex. If you believe that sex should be shared between someone you love, then I wouldn't go for this guy because if you don't have the title of "boyfriend and girlfriend" you don't have anything else. I just don't see why you don't have that title for the both of you. To me, that just sounds like friends with benefits. It's not like you guys are anymore special just because you are close and aren't labeled 'in a relationship'.

My suggestion would be to take a step further with this guy by actually being his girlfriend officially because what if this guy were seen with another girl and you tried to call him on it and he just say, "What? It's not like you are my girlfriend or anything" And I know you think that he'd never do that, but the whole not having the title really makes me question this guy. I really advise you to be careful and not take things sexually with him just yet.

-TheTeenGirl

Theres no doubt in my mind that this guy is into you even though he's not showing it in public.

This kind of behavior is normal, and he's probably never held hands or put his arm around a girl in front of people before. And that might be a scary thought to him because of that. He might be afraid of rejection, or anything else a nervous guy can think of being scared of. I know that you wouldn't reject him, but that kind of stuff goes on in a guy's head.

Plus, if you find yourself making someone make him go further with you, then you are just pushing things a little too hard. This is all something new to him, so don't push him until he feels confident enough to do those things with you.

When you both are alone, just tell him that you really like it when he has his arm around you and that you'd really like it if he'd do that with you around friends too or something. That way he'll know that you want this to continue.

It's normal for two people to be shy in a relationship. You just have to keep spending time together and talking more and you can break that shell. Soon after you guys have been together for a long time, then that hand problem of yours won't be a big deal.

-TheTeenGirl

If you and this friend do have really good times together then just keep doing what you've been doing. When she starts bossing you around, tell her that you aren't going to take her orders because you are her friend, not her servant.

Try calling her on it when it happens, if she's denying it, just call her on it. When she starts to get mean and bossy,. stop her and say, "See, this is what I'm talking about, I'm not going to be bossed around by you" and leave or something. Let her know that you aren't going to tolerate her bossy attitude.

If you feel that during the whole friendship she's bossy, then just tell her that this friendship isn't going to work out because of her attitude. If someone is bossy to one person, trust me, they are bossy to everyone else too.

-TheTeenGirl

The truth is that there isn't a whole lot that you can do for her. I know you really want to be her savior and hero, but unfortunatly, it can't happen that way.

You can't make her mom divorce this guy, move back into their old house and make everything back to the way it was.

The only option she has is to move in with another family member or a friend if it's that bad for her. Now, I don't think that your family can take her in, but that is an option if she can't find anyone else to stay with. You can't make everything right for her, but maybe if you discussed this issue with your parents and asked them if there's anything else that can be done.

As for comforting her with advice, I would let her know that she needs to find a few ways to cope with this. A journal if she already doesn't have one, or talking to a counselor or going into therapy. And on weekends, tell her that she's welcome to stay over at your house to get away from her home life. I know that you really want to get her away from this life that she's living, but I guess that's just what you have to think of as friends. They are their to comfort you in anyway possible when life gets really rough.

-TheTeenGirl

I don't take this girl as someone whose mean. I think that she's feeling insecure of herself. It sounds to me like a lot of people make fun of her because of her laugh and that makes her insecure.

So with this insecurity problem, she may be scared of being left out so she might be accusing you and your friends of leaving her out even though that may not be what's actually happening.

In other words, I don't think trying to get rid of her is the right answer. I think what can only help her best is if she stayed friends with all of you and you made her feel more included. I know you may not be leaving her out in the first place, but I think you should try setting things straight again and including her in a lot of fun things that you and your other friends are doing. What makes me think that this girl isn't so bad is the fact that she doesn't have that many friends other than you.

I think that you should try working things out with this girl, just think about it. If you hardly had friends, would you want to feel extra included with friends?

-TheTeenGirl

What an interesting question. It's a really good one because it's true. Everyone seems to be splitting up and getting married multiple times.

It all comes down to the person you marry and what kind of person you are in relationships. There are tons and tons of mistakes you can make in relationships and marriages that can make it come crashing down. A lot of people rush into relationships too fast, or they get married way too soon before realizing the person they actually are.

For example, If you are with someone who is a jerk to everyone around them, don't count on that person not being a jerk to you later on down the road because they will be a jerk to you. You have to be with this person enough to know what makes them upset and what they do when they are upset or else you will be in for a big surprise that isn't very pleasant.

As hard as it is to believe, there are still tons of families who actually have good morals and everyone in that family matters to each other. It takes tons of work in order to keep a family and marriage up and going in life. That's another problem that I should mention. Parents tend to make the mistake that they can just skip out on cleaning in the house and are too lazy to deal with their children's needs, wants, and emotions. They don't realize that it takes more than feeding them and being there for just their needs. You have to be there for them emotionally.

The bottom line is that likely these parents get married and they think that they'll live happily ever after with children and run out and have fun when that isn't the truth. I'm not saying that you can't have fun when you have children, I'm talking about going out with friends anytime that you want to, or just partying late. If you have children, you have big responsibilities. Plus, it is fun to have children, to watch a life you brought into the world grow up, but it's definetly not always going to be fun. The way you raise them has a huge impact on them. So if you try to be the best friend instead of the parent, you are ruining them.

I completely understand your thoughts and your feelings about this issue going on. But, I wouldn't let it stop you from being more careful and having your happiness. Just because your parents or your best friend's parents didn't have the picture perfect family and marriage, it doesn't mean that you can't learn from their mistakes and live your married life better than they did. I think that's just another special part about having parents that don't have the best marriage, you look at it and you can learn from their mistakes. Don't let the fact that so many people have screwed up in marriages stop you from having a chance to make yours right.

I hope this answered your question, and it's honestly a great one. Thank you for addressing this issue.

-TheTeenGirl

I think you have a really good perspective towards this situation. Boobs isn't going to win you everything in the end with school and boys. Having the perfect body and figure doesn't mean that you have it all. Those girls still have imperfections and they still get heart-broken and rejected just like every other girl.

I don't know why your friend feels the need to narrow you down while she's building herself up, but it's a serious problem. I think that you should let her know that you do think that you have a great body and figure, but you would never try to put her down while talking about your body and that you do feel put down when she's talking about hers. Whether you've got boobs or not, if something hits you, it's going to hurt. And theres no need for her to make rude comments like that just because you get hit in an area that you aren't as developed in as she is.

Honestly, your friend sounds like a shallow person. Either she's shallow and hurts other people and doesn't know it, or she's become a real snob and puts people down on purpose. I think that you would know this since she is your best friend. But no mattter which she is, the issue needs to be put on the table for her.

-TheTeenGirl

I think you need to just tell her that if she can't even stand to look at you without giving you dirty looks just because you are wearing something that is your style, then you really would rather not even be friends with her.

I know that you both have had a long-term friendship, but the beauty of those friendships is the fact that you don't put down that person in any way because you've known them too long. It wouldn't be you ending the friendship, if she decides that appearance is a quality that matters in friendships, then she's the one putting an end to this.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, when you say that you can't ignore her catty comments, it makes me wonder what kind of advice you are looking for.

I don't doubt for one moment that this girl is hard to miss or ignore when you are doing your one special thing. But she sounds like an immature brat who has nothing better to do than make fun of other people. In situations like these, you have to be the mature person and simply let it pass you by like the wind hitting your face.

When she starts to make her rude comments, just smile and hold your head up high and walk away. When you fight back, all it does is satisfy her immaturity. She wants you to be mad and upset so that she'll be happy that she hurt your feelings for the day. Now, I know that you are angry to the point of hitting this girl, but if you ignored it, when you get home you can beat up a pillow and pretend it's her until your anger is satisfied. What matters is that you make this girl think that you could care less of what she has to say about you.

There will be tons of times when someone makes you feel bad, but all they are looking for is a bad reaction to make them satisfied. What fun is it to make fun of someone and have them ignore you? None at all, you want to see them angry, you want to hear them fight with you. I'm sure you've teased a sibling or family member before, and it wouldn't be any fun if they ignored you.

Whatever you do, keep getting back on that horse.

-TheTeenGirl

I just want to start out saying that I am truly sorry that the results didn't come out the way you wanted it.

I know this news is really devastating, but it doesn't mean that you can't turn your life around from here. I'm not sure why you and your ex-boyfriend are no longer together, but hopefully it has nothing to do with the fact that he's not your son's father.

However, it would be tough to take that in and still stay together knowing this child isn't yours. It's a really complicated and sensative situation and it may take a long time to repair it.

I think what you should do is have a talk with your ex-boyfriend and see if you can maybe get things right again. This isn't you or his fault that you were raped. It's not you or his fault that this child is not his and you have to realize that. You have to remind him of this.

I think what you really need is your family and/or friends as a support team behind you in this. There isn't anything that anyone can say to you or this guy you love that change the results or make you feel better. The only thing that can truly heal all of this is time. Raising your son, watching him grow as time passes by. I would also suggest seeing a therapist or counselor that can help you sort out your feelings. Or maybe even have your ex come with to help work things out. You have to remind yourself that everything will be ok and you can make things better. Life isn't over for you because of rape.

If you have anymore questions or concerns, don't hesistate to privatly ask me in my inbox. I am here to help.

-TheTeenGirl

I know that you are worried about what will happen to your friendship, but you just have to let him know that you aren't really interested in the same way he is.

But I think that you are a little shallow if you are going to say that your own friend is ugly. Even if that's what you really think, it's just rude and it makes me think that you aren't really a good friend to him if you even say that. So, I think that even if he does decide to continue the friendship with you, that you are pretty lucky to have a good friend that can take rejection well and actually likes you for who you are.

He may not be the best-looking guy on earth to you, but he's your friend. Appearance shouldn't be a quality that matters in friendship and relationships. And you can be pretty surprised by how attractive they get to you when you actually start to fall in love. You begin to adore every little mistake they have in them that you may have usually not liked.

This all has to do with how he reacts to your decision of not being with him. I don't doubt that he'll push away from you because taking rejection is hard. It's hard to not be liked by the person you like, and it hurts a lot. So, I think you should give him space after this.

-TheTeenGirl

The age difference is too much. You are a Freshmen in high school. You are just now getting an idea of what you want in the future. He is 17, and he's got a pretty good idea of what he wants and he's already talking about marriage and children, you know, things that you aren't even thinking about because you are only 15.

It's been 9 days and he's already talking about a future with you. That is how different you both are. I know you are thinking that it's only two years, but apparently not since he's discussing marriage with you, You both are in different places in your lives.

-TheTeenGirl

I think that you should honestly think about what damage you really do when you take your anger out on someone who doesn't deserve it.

I had a friend who liked me and he always took his anger out on me. When he was happy, we'd get along great, but when he was mad about something, I was his punching bag which was no fun and it made me really upset.

The truth is, I think he was taking his anger out on me because he liked me and I was with someone else so he got angry at me because I was apart of his anger and part of what he couldn't have. I always had to tell him that when life gets rough, you turn to your friends for their comfort and company, not put them down and make the whole world feel angry at you.

And I think I should tell you the same thing. When something happens in life that makes you feel depressed or angry, or even a mixture of both, you should turn to your friends for help or to talk to instead of using them as a punching bag because one day, they'll eventually understand that you are just going in patterns, You get angry, you yell at them, and then you apologize and it starts over. They won't be there for you anymore. And sadly enough, thats what I eventually did to this guy that I mentioned. I havn't spoken to him in almost a year and I'm honestly better off.

So the next time you get angry and you start feeling anger toward this guy, think about how much you are making him look down on you and look the other way than you want him to look. You want him to ask you out, but why would he want to get closer to you when you can't even function with him in a friendship? You need to start over with yourself and just change your ways. Actions tell way more than words.

-TheTeenGirl

Your best friend is the one with the issue. If she can't keep her mouth shut about your other friend being a Christian then why bother with her? She went out of control and had no right to bash him like that.

I don't think you or your other friend should apologize or even speak to her until she grows up a little bit and apologizes to your friend and you. Your best friend was the one who blew this out of proportion by calling him a prejudice. My advice to you is to not speak to her until she can get a little respect for her friends.

-TheTeenGirl

I do happen to own the 3-step Ance Free kit and I'm not getting results that I'd like to, and it's really hard to pay attention to.

But then I learned that I was using the wrong daily face cleanser. I was using products that was for dry skin, and I finally decided to use a gel. I am using Clean & Clear Oil-free Foaming Face Cleanser and it's really good on my face. It's for oily skin and it actually makes my acne not as noticable and it looks really great. I always just picked up a face cleanser that happened to be for dry-skin, but I tried it and learned that I do have oily skin and I do notice my face feels better. Actually, when I wash it off of my face it squeaks clean.

I definetly recommend this stuff even though it's not specialized for acne, it's just a daily cleanser but you will notice, trust me.

Here is a picture of it and it can be found at any local drug stores:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000052YJK/qid=1146451315/sr=8-3/ref=sr_1_3/103-1322228-8014255?%5Fencoding=UTF8&v=glance&n=3760901

I know it's a bit hard to see, but the liquid in it is orange and it says "Clean & Clear OIL-FREE Foaming Facial CLEANSER" on it.

[I occasionally use the Acne Kit, but truthfully, not as much as I used to because it's not working the way I'd like it to]

-TheTeenGirl

There is no exact way to know this, but I think that if it's just a rocky time in the relationship:

-You both havn't been able to see each other a lot, so it's hurting

-You both have spend a lot of time together, but your find yourself argueing with them a lot and need space

-You both usually get through a fight and make-up pretty good, but now it's not going as smoothly as usual

And if it's time to end the relationship:

-You feel like you can't talk to this person about anything anymore without having a huge fight

-You have been having huge fights over nothing for at least a few months

-You feel like you are the only one making an effort to make this relationship work

-You feel like that person no longer cares about your feelings when something is bothering you


-TheTeenGirl

I know this probably has to be bugging you, because this would bug anyone. And it's ok to be bothered by it, but this is a situation where you'll have to test the person she is when she's with other guys.

I know this doesn't sound like an appealing idea, but maybe you should be with her when she actually meets up with other guys instead of letting her go alone. I think you'll feel more secure knowing what is actually going on rather than sitting at home worrying about what's going on.

I think that it's ok to feel this way about your girlfriend still being in contact with her ex-boyfriends, but what you have to do is be fair and give her a chance to prove that she can be trusted with other guys. You both have been together for quite a while, so I think that you have to start learning to bring in the trust in this relationship.

-TheTeenGirl

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