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friends and now girlfriend?
mainly for guys
Last monday my friend wrote "i love you" in german on my assignment book. (when i got to my next class i had another friend translate it) so the next day i wrote a letter asking him if he really felt that way cause he likes to play jokes on me. and he said yes and asked me out. i told him i'd give him an anwser tomorrow (which is tomorrow) i am gonna say no cause no offense hes not my boyfriend type and kind of ugly. how do i tell him no with out recking our friendship? i want guys advice cause i want to know the least hurtfull way to do it. thanks, i'll give 5's
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Guys are sometimes weird in this way. I think that if you just tell him you dont feel like having a relationship right now that he will understand and just move on. Just be nice and continue being regular friends like him. Eventualy he will just go back to acting like friends to.
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I know that you are worried about what will happen to your friendship, but you just have to let him know that you aren't really interested in the same way he is.
But I think that you are a little shallow if you are going to say that your own friend is ugly. Even if that's what you really think, it's just rude and it makes me think that you aren't really a good friend to him if you even say that. So, I think that even if he does decide to continue the friendship with you, that you are pretty lucky to have a good friend that can take rejection well and actually likes you for who you are.
He may not be the best-looking guy on earth to you, but he's your friend. Appearance shouldn't be a quality that matters in friendship and relationships. And you can be pretty surprised by how attractive they get to you when you actually start to fall in love. You begin to adore every little mistake they have in them that you may have usually not liked.
This all has to do with how he reacts to your decision of not being with him. I don't doubt that he'll push away from you because taking rejection is hard. It's hard to not be liked by the person you like, and it hurts a lot. So, I think you should give him space after this.
-TheTeenGirl
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To me it sounds like you don't want to go out with him because his looks aren't up to your standards. Am I reading this correctly? If not please let me know but if I am then I think you are being very self-centered. He might not be the best looking guy but trust me the less attractive ones treat woman better. I was with a guy who is not at all attractive and we were together for over 2 and a half years so looks aren't everything. This guy treated me like the world, gave me everything and we even talked about marriage. So like I said maybe you should just give him a shot, and if you don't like it then you can always tell him, "Hey I don't see this working in the future, maybe we should just stay friends." I hope you reconsider what you will do, if not I am sorry. Hope I helped.
Nikki
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Maybe you should give him a chance. Do you have a good reason to say no? "Kind of ugly" personality matters more. In time, the person will seem a lot better in appearance.
Just tell him you'll like to be friends.
Or that you don't want to be in a relationship at the time.
If you didn't want to be with him in the first place..why didn't you just tell him no? He's probably worrying..and thinking that you're just making him wait because you're gonna say yes.
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