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i have some anger issues and i cant help but take it out on the guy i like and i think this is why hes not asking me out..do u have any adivce on how to control it?
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Take it out on something not someone.
-write your feelings down in a notebook
-get a stressball
-read a book
-tak a jug or walk
-conversate with a friend
Whatever you do don't try to hold it in. Its just going to come out later.
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Try talking to him calmly. It may sound hard, but if you take a deep breath and just say what you have to say, things will be a lot better. Also, try taking out your anger on a pillow. You can punch it, scream at it and you won't be hurting anyone.
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Well, I get bullied at school sometimes, so I know how you feel. you feel like you wanna break stuff, try screaming into a pillow of squeezing something really hard.
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I think that you should honestly think about what damage you really do when you take your anger out on someone who doesn't deserve it.
I had a friend who liked me and he always took his anger out on me. When he was happy, we'd get along great, but when he was mad about something, I was his punching bag which was no fun and it made me really upset.
The truth is, I think he was taking his anger out on me because he liked me and I was with someone else so he got angry at me because I was apart of his anger and part of what he couldn't have. I always had to tell him that when life gets rough, you turn to your friends for their comfort and company, not put them down and make the whole world feel angry at you.
And I think I should tell you the same thing. When something happens in life that makes you feel depressed or angry, or even a mixture of both, you should turn to your friends for help or to talk to instead of using them as a punching bag because one day, they'll eventually understand that you are just going in patterns, You get angry, you yell at them, and then you apologize and it starts over. They won't be there for you anymore. And sadly enough, thats what I eventually did to this guy that I mentioned. I havn't spoken to him in almost a year and I'm honestly better off.
So the next time you get angry and you start feeling anger toward this guy, think about how much you are making him look down on you and look the other way than you want him to look. You want him to ask you out, but why would he want to get closer to you when you can't even function with him in a friendship? You need to start over with yourself and just change your ways. Actions tell way more than words.
-TheTeenGirl
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