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bragging friend
one of my bff has been getting on my nerves recently. she is a c-cup and im an a-cup. i could really care a less about boob size tho. but shes always bragging about how big her boobs are and how skinny she is. like if a girl gets hit in the chest area it hurts no matter what, but if in gym or something i get hit there she'll be like "what boobs." and she always brags about her "perfect" figure. personally i dont think she has the perfect figure or good looks but why does she brag so much? i told her a million times that lifes not about boobs and when me and her hang out the boys are all over me not her.
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when it comes to boobs anything more than a handfull is wasted. guys are all over you, thats why she feels the need to brag. doesnt sound like much a friend to me, but thats your call to make.
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1 question the boy are all over you or her cause up there it says the boys are all over you...
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well tell i don't care about your boobs if you like them so much then marry them you nkow what you aren't pretty and if you keep bragging about your stupid boobs then we can't brag
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I think you have a really good perspective towards this situation. Boobs isn't going to win you everything in the end with school and boys. Having the perfect body and figure doesn't mean that you have it all. Those girls still have imperfections and they still get heart-broken and rejected just like every other girl.
I don't know why your friend feels the need to narrow you down while she's building herself up, but it's a serious problem. I think that you should let her know that you do think that you have a great body and figure, but you would never try to put her down while talking about your body and that you do feel put down when she's talking about hers. Whether you've got boobs or not, if something hits you, it's going to hurt. And theres no need for her to make rude comments like that just because you get hit in an area that you aren't as developed in as she is.
Honestly, your friend sounds like a shallow person. Either she's shallow and hurts other people and doesn't know it, or she's become a real snob and puts people down on purpose. I think that you would know this since she is your best friend. But no mattter which she is, the issue needs to be put on the table for her.
-TheTeenGirl
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Dear Bragging Friend,
Well, with the observation that "the boys are all over me not her" you can see that although she poses as a very confident young women, she's actually not! Anytime someone constantly refers to some aspect of their physique, 99.9% of the time it's to cover up how they really feel. There could be any number of reasons why she does this, but the bottom line is that your bragger doesn't feel she has any redeeming assets other than her "boobs!" Sad, huh?
You say she's actually a friend of a friend, so maybe one of you should consider having a little heart to heart with her about this. My guess is she's completely unaware of how she comes off. I'd also bet if given the chance to talk about how she really feels, you'll see first hand what I'm talking about. At any rate, developing some compassion in this situation would be a very mature response, as would being honest with her about how demeaning her comments are.
I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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insecurity. Pure and simple. Probably next to you she feels a bit inadequete, especially if, as you say, boys are all over you and ignore her. Saying this kind of stuff affirms to her she's got something you haven't. Doesn't make it any less annoying but pound to penny i'll bet that's what it is.
If she doesn't talk about being good at anything else try complimenting her on stuff that does matter occasionally like schoolwork or sports. Or even just make a point of telling her when some guy checks her out. Sounds stupid and like you'd ust be making the problem worse but if she gets a little more genuine self-confidence the bragging will most likely stop. x
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Hi
She brags because she's not as self-confident as she would like people to think she is.
She tries to make herself look better to others, by telling everyone how wonderful she is, when deep inside she's unsure.
You on the other hand, sound like a confident girl who knows that life does not revolve around the way you look...and especially the size of your chest!!
Boys are all over you, not her, because they see that you are real, and she is fake.
Remember that anything you say to her, could really upset her, for the simple reason that she's obviously hurting inside. So be gentle, but certainly don't stand by and let her treat you with disrespect.
Good luck,
Brenda
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I totally understand how annoying that is because my friend used to say that whole "what boobs" thing to me too...when she had tiny boobs lol. Anyway...it sounds like your friend in insecure with herself..and talking about some of her good aspects makes her feel better...I'm sure she doesn't realize how much she brags. Just talk to her in private and say you'd appreciate it if she didnt brag all the time about her awesome figure or huge boobs...that way your telling her how you fell while also boosting her confidence. Good luck! <3caitie
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well just say that it is getting annoying and that she is bragging and talk to her about it.
if the boys are all over you and not her than who cares about her boob size, just dont let it get to you.
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Wow, she's a stuck up bit**. She probably brags so much because she's jealous of you but doesn't want to show it so she's trying to make you feel bad about yourself and wish you were her. I know it's confusing but that's what happened with me and my friend.
Just sit down with her and tell her what's on your mind. If she's really your friend she will stop with the bragging. Tell her you don't give a care if her boobs are big and she'll stop. If she doesn't, get rid of her and find another friend. People like that arn't worth it in the long run. :)
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