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not wanting?
well im going out with this guy.
and i have been wanting to DATE him for about 2 years now. and now that i have him ;; im kinda bored b.c when i was wanting him. i always had somthing to do. and now that i have him i feel like there nothing else to want so what can i do now.
the relationship is amazing its just.. you know werid b.c i got everything i wanted and i feel like theres. nothing else to want. and now i dont know what i should do?
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You are in danger of falling into a distructive cycle! Stop......and think about what you're feeling. This seems to be the classic case of "the grass is always greener on the other side". Is this the first time you have felt this way? or has this happened with friends, clothes, or any other material things...
What drew you to this guy? What is cool about him? Do you have fun with him?
Start evaluting what you feel in the moment for this guy, fill your time with what you can do with the guy. Also this guy seemed to consume your life before you started going out with him, maybe now that you are with him and he is actually in your life, you could look for something that you really enjoy so you could focus your energy on that. Sometimes when you are in a relationship you need to have something outside the relationship so tha you have something to talk about with your partner.
Good Luck!
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I know exactly how you feel because this happened to me. When it was me I dumped him and now over a year on, I still wonder what could have been had I given him a proper chance, you know? I would seriously recommend you do not dump him because believe me you may regret it and end up wondering what may have happened just like me.
Write a list of all that attracted him to you in the first place in order to remind you just how great he is. Then try to go out with him as much as you can and do all the coupley things like holding hands, cuddling, etc. A tip though for not getting bored is not to try it all at once. My recent boyfriend and I took it step by step and everytime he did something new, even when it was just a kiss on the neck, it gave me such a rush I got shivers all over! lol! This could be the same for you.
However if after say a week or two, you still feel the same, end it. It is not fair to prolong the relationship on either of you if your heart isnt in it because in the end he may just end up even more hurt.
Very best of luck hunni, I hope everything works out well for you
Sapphire Lily xxx
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I think you should tell him exactly what you posted! He'll understand and then you can both decide together where you want the relationship to go.
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ouh my gosh your just like me. I always give up when I get what I want. Honestly sweetie if you wanted him for this long there must be reasons why. Do fun things with him cuddle with him be sweet with him do romantic things. You guys will build a relationship and you will WANT him for ever. You do have something to want. You should want your relationship to last. Just keep thiings interesting doing different things adventuros things or just hang out and watch a movie.
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Hi
Here's a prime example of the chase being better than the catch!!! That's typical and normal.
If you want to keep this relationship, you are going to have to start plugging into it.
Do what you can to spice up the relationship (I'm not talking sex). I'm sure you guys have similar interests. Get out and do stuff.
If you continue thinking...ho hum, I have the guy, and now I'm bored...then you'll surely lose him.
You can still want him just as much now, as you did when the chase was on!
Good luck,
Brenda
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