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Belly Button
Dear Advicenators,
I want to get my belly button pierced so bad (for my 8th grade graduation) but my mom says no. I don't know what I can say to convence her that I really want this, and will do anything to get it.
What can I tell her to convince her to let me get it peirced? My dad will accept if she accepts, but I already brought up thae fact of good grades, good friends, and I dont' know what else to say! Thanks for the advive.
-Krys
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Whatever you do, do not pierce it yourself. You will cause more harm than good. Look up information on the internet, and visit a piercer with your mother. If she still doesn't go for it, there isn't a lot you can do. You are still young, and unfortunately have to do what she says. If I had every piercing I wanted done at your ages my face would be virtually unrecognisable.
I'd recommend not deliberately going against her wishes. Not because it's 'naughty' but because it's disrespectful and unfair on your mother, who is only trying to do what's best for you.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) is a good website for information and pictures of piercings, that will give you a good idea of the procedures and healing times involved with navel piercing.
I'd advise getting a navel piercing if you are obese (extremely overweight) as the piercing will not heal well. Also, even if you are thin, sometimes your stomach will fold horizontally at some point when you sit down or bend over. Try sitting down/bending over and see if you have this crease. If you do, if it runs through your navel it is best not to get a navel piercing, as it will not heal well then. Belly button piercings are very common, but due to their location, are one of the most difficult piercings to heal.
I'm sure if you assure your mom that you will take good care of it, then she will come round to the idea eventually.
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I guess that being an 8th grade you are still fairly young. It would help a lot if you got as much information about piercings and took advice from a professional. Once you have done that, present it to your Mum and ask her to talk through your desire to have it done. Present the facts in an adult manner and really listen to her objections. If she is really adamant that you should not have it done then there is not a lot you can do about it because without her permission a professional will not pierce your bellybutton. Compromising is a good way of going forward - telling your Mum that you agree to wait for a certain period and then ask again to have it done. I did not allow my daughter to have her bellybutton pierced until she was sixteen and I think that is a pretty reasonable age. Don't lose your temper with your Mum because she is only looking out for your welfare. You could also ask her to go with you to talk to someone who actually does piercings. Whatever happens please don't do it yourself because you could end up with a nasty infection. Hope this helps. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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There are two ways that you can do this: the good way, and the bad way. Here's the bad way first. Ask if you can go to the mall with your friends, go to Claire's or wherever they have a piercing pagoda at the mall and get it done. Don't show your stomach at all for at least a month or two. Also, don't wear it at home. Once you get older, (a few years or something) tell your mom that you got it pierced with friends. There's nothing she can do about it unless she goes to the extreme of not letting you wear any more studs until it closes again. The Good Way: Do whatever your mom says, and act on your best behavior. Ask your dad to talk about it with your mom and when she's in a good mood, ask her if you can get it pierced. Don't mention whether or not your friends have it. Just say that it would make you really happy and that's all you want for your 8th grade grad. Don't beg and if she says no just say okay, and give her a guilt trip for the next month or two.
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Ignore the what the person below me said, using forced tactics will never get you want you want, it's only going to get you in trouble.
Have you tried compromising or negotiation on any of this? Ask her what it is gonna take for her to approve it. And if she is still saying no, there isn't anything you can do about it. I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is true. But atleast try to negiotiate for it, I'm sure you both can reach something.
It's a valid question, and I hope I helped. Good luck.
-Ryan
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tell her if you dont let you get it done that youl do it yourself. which means ul get an infection and whatnot, so she'll have to take you. theres also ways to get it done without your moms permission..
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