okay i was at a horse show and i met this guy who instantly caught my eye. he's so sweet and i instantly liked him. there's two problems though..one he lives 2 hours away and 2 i have a bf already that i have been dating a year now. what do i do?
This happened to me last year. I had been dating my boyfriend for 1 year, then I went on vacation and met this guy that I instantly had a crush on. I felt so guilty for liking someone else while dating my bf, so eventually I broke up with him. In the end, I didn't end up with the guy I had just met, but meeting a new guy and having that spark happen made me realize that I wasn't happy with my bf of 1 year. You have to think about what YOU want. Your boyfriend will end up better off if you don't lead him on by pretending you're totally happy with him yet thinking about another guy. But you also have to remember that if things don't work out with this guy you just met, you'll have to deal with the consequences of your breakup. I also don't recommend jumping into another relationship right after a breakup because you won'thave a chance to have some freedom, be single and do whatever the heck you wanna do without worrying about a guy.
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I am moving next month and I wanted to write a letter to a couple of my friends about it so that they will have my new address and phone number handy in the letter. I do plan on telling them in person but I'd like to send them a letter afterward with my information. How can I write a letter about moving without sounding dumb? Do I just say, "Hey, I'm moving...here's my new address! See ya!" lol?
It might be a nice idea to write this information for them inside of a greeting card. Use ones that have a blank inside. If you google "moving announcements" you will find some creative ideas as well as thoughts on what should be said.
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thanks you helped me realise that he is just playing games i'm not gonna wait for something thats not gonna happen but i still wanna be firnds with my boyfriends friend do you think this is a good idea or should i avoid him till my feelings go away?
No problem. I'm glad that helped! I think that depends on how much you like this guy. If you didn't really like him very much, and see him as more of a friend, then being friends with him should be easy. But if you really liked him, and you still want to be with him, then I do think that some time away from him will be better. It may help you sort out your feelings, and it might make you more able to decide whether or not he's better of as being a friend. See how he acts. Try not talking to him for a little while, and if he doesn't make an effort to talk to you or be your friend, then don't waste anymore time on him. Just see how things play out and go with the flow. :)
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so i've been going out with this guy hes done with school and is now in college and im in school with his friend his friend and i started of being friends but then we both started getting really close and he eventually told me he likes me and we have a connection then we just started getting touchy then i find out that he tells my boyfriend lies about me and tells me lies about my boyfriend to try and break us up but when i spoke to him he didn't even mention the idea of the two of us dating and i like this guy more than my boyfriend but im afraid if he doesn't wanna date i would lose him and my boyfriend
please help me!
I was in a similar situation. For me, I dated my boyfriend for a year, and then I met a new guy that I was not only attracted to, but I really honestly liked him more than my boyfriend, which is hard for me to admit because I feel so bad about it. I broke up with my boyfriend for the other guy, but then when the other guy didn't show his interest anymore, I was left alone, so I tried to get back with my boyfriend.
I think that this is what you should avoid. If you like another guy more than your boyfriend, you know deep down that your relationship with your boyfriend is not really going to last much longer, and that you need to break it off. I am sure that you care about your boyfriend, but seriously, if you're considering breaking up with him, it's time to just do it. You may be afraid to hurt him, or that you will get hurt, and yes this will happen, but it's better than staying with him just so that you're not alone or so that you're not hurt. And please don't get back with your boyfriend solely because the other guy rejects you. (not saying he will, but if he does, i mean.) I know that you like both of them, but like the other person that answered said, you probably shouldn't be with either of these guys. The one guy - your boyfriend - just doesn't do it for you (since you aren't 100% dedicated to him), so you probably shouldn't waste more time with him. The other guy - your boyfriend's friend - is pretty much playing games. "he didn't even mention the idea of the two of us dating." but "we started getting touchy, then i find out he tells my boyfriend lies about my boyfriend"...does this really sound like boyfriend material?
My suggestion is that you stay single for a while until you find a guy that you really like that likes you back.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Well, you know that him being dishonest to you is wrong. And it's hard to be in a relationship with someone you don't trust, so I think you already know the answer to your question. He hid it because he knew it was wrong. It's definitely not fair of him to make this group about you on facebook. It's really rude and completely shady that he would keep it available for his friends to see but hidden from you. I think that you should confront him about it again. Tell him that you know that he had the group about you, because you could see it before he made it private. (don't even mention that your friend showed it to you.) And see what he says. If he still denies it, tell him that you know he's lying and that you're upset that he's hiding it from you. Tell him that it also upset you that he's posting personal stuff about your relationship for everyone to see, and that it's really unfair that he doesn't even admit it to you that it exists, on top of that. If he still denies it, then you need to give him an ultimatum - he needs to tell you the truth, or a breakup is in his near future.
Best of luck!
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Thank you very much for responding to my question on if I think this guy i have a good connection with is wanting something deeper. It made me feel much better. He asked me to hang out this week after school and this weekend which is a good sign i believe.
No problem! I wish you the best of luck, and thank you for your follow up!
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I started talking too a guy, A, about 8 months ago. He lives in another state then I do, but we've been making it work. He's a little bit closed off, just like I am, but there's something about him I just can't give up. He's in the same career I am, and that's music. He's very sweet and not normally my type. Though he tours all the time, I still get to see him when I can. We have a connection I've never felt before. I'm crazy about this guy.
But then about 4 months ago, I met this guy, B, through friends and he's been amazing. We spend so much time together. He's the same age as A, has the same career as I do, but doesn't really tour. He lives near by me. He's going to school and doing music. He's got a good head on his shoulders and has a back up plan in life.
Both of these guys are the same age. Have the same career, although A is more successful then B is. And I'm crazy about both of them. I know that I can make it work, long distance with A, but I don't know if I should just stay with B. I feel like B is the safe bet, and A is a risk. But it's a game between my heart and my head and I don't want to feel like I settled for anyone. I need serious help with this. I want to choose because I feel terrible seeing both of them.
Please give me your input.
-Anndie
I think that deep down you know which one is right for you. Please, don't ever "settle." You have to be with the guy that you're crazy about, because in the end, nothing less is going to compare. Go for the guy that you are most compatible with, but also the one that you have the strongest feelings for. I'm sure that there are qualities in each of these guys that keep you drawn to each of them respectively, but you have to think of them as people. Which person do you WANT to be with, is a different question than Which person SHOULD you be with. That's the key - you have to think about about who you WANT to be with rather than who you feel as though you SHOULD be with. From my own experience, you have to take a risk, because otherwise your relationship will be nothing but "comfortable." And it's nice to be comfortable with someone. But imagine how much better it would be feel to be "beyond" comfortable... to be head over heels, always-on-your toes, completely and utterly in love. I can't tell you who to choose, because I'm sure that both of these guys are great for you in different ways. But, I think you know what I'm getting at. Best of luck!!
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20F.
Hey I love your advice, I'm really hoping you can tell me what you think this guy feels after reading the situation. (Will be long but I will return the favor, I am in need of an opinion)
So it all started when I met this guy Brad. I met him through a friend, and I guess when he first saw me he never thought he could get me. My friend told him I thought he was really cute and so he said have her text me! Well I end up texting him, and we talk a little and then he stops texting and never texted back the next morning. Turns out he ended up getting drunk and forgot to save my number, he regretted not saving it earlier.
Then he texts my friend, and I was starting to get jealous, because at this point I didn't know he forgot to save my number. He tells my friend to come to this party he's at, he knew she was with me. So we get there, and this is kind of the first time actually hanging out with him. He wanted to go in the hot tub and was like "who wants to go??" Nobody said anything so I said, i'll go with you. So it was just me and him in the hot tub and I'm in my bra and underwear because I didn't have a swimsuit but I didn't care because I'm comfortable with my body. We ended up hooking up in the hot tub ..we made out and he fingered me. Me and my friend stay the night there and leave early in the morning. We talked all night about everything, he made me feel so comfortable. He tells me he's only had sex with three girls, all of them were long term relationships. This is when I find out he forgot to save my number and said he was texting my friend so he could see me.
Well then I forgot to give him my number again that night. So he still didn't have it. Well then about a week later he texts my friend like I'm having a party ..come and bring my girl Linds (me). I was like awww. We couldn't go though.
Well then finally I have the guts to just text him about a week after him inviting us to his party. I say Brad it's Linds whats up. So we start talking and I say ..so when am I gonna see you again? he says, I don't know you tell me! I say tomorrow night, my parents are gone. He said, I just might have to. Well then I say I'll text you tomorrow.
So then the next night at about 9 I text him and he says he's at work and asks what I'm doing, I said I was at a birthday dinner for my friend. He never texted back, and I was going to ask if he was going to come see me too. Well then the night goes on and me and some friends start drinking a little..I end up getting pretty tipsy and end up texting Brad. This was the jist of our convo.
AT ABOUT 1 IN THE MORNING:
ME: Fuck me Bradley
HIM: I will
ME: Why didn't you come see me tonight
HIM: You said you were out at dinner
ME: Yeah but then you never texted back, come see me now
HIM: I can't its too late now
ME: I wanna seee youuu
HIM: I wanna see you too but I can't leave
ME: I want you
HIM: No you don't, you only want me when you're drunk
ME: What the hell Brad, no I always do, you're so hot
AFTER 3 HRS OF TALKING ..SO NOW ITS ALMOST 4 IN THE MORNING..
HIM: Fine whats your address I'll come see you
ME: (I tell him)
HIM: You better be serious about wanting to see me, I'm coming
ME: Ok just walk through the garage when you get here I'll be alone.
Well then he gets to my house and we end up going in my room making out and one thing leads to another and we had sex. I was a virgin ..until then. But I was ready, I don't regret what I did at all. He was so nice about it, I said I'm a little scared you know I'm a virgin and he said don't worry Linds I won't hurt you, trust me. Then the next morning he texts me saying, did I drop my wallet in your room? Turns out it was under my bed so I said are you gonna come get it? And so then he came and got it, I ran it out to him and talked for a bit and he left.
I don't talk to him for about 2 days then I was at a party and these dumb boys end up taking my phone while I was drinking and saying something to him like "I'm horny, lets have sex it felt sooo goood last time." I find out they did this the next morning so I text him saying sorry the boys took my phone last night, I'm sorry for whatever they said. He said haha what boys? And I tell him and he says haha alright it's cool.
Well then I was like well have fun at school (he's gonna be a freshman in college), let me know when your home one time so I can see you since I won't have a hot boy like you to have fun with anymore! He said will do, thanks!
I just don't know what to do. I don't want to seem clingy. I just want him so bad sexually now that we had sex though ..and I can't because he's at college now. He's only 45 min away but I don't want to invite myself out there, we're not like together or anything. I just want to hook up with him again haha and so I feel like I should just wait for him to text me otherwise I feel like i'd be bugging him! I know he will be meeting other girls, and thats fine as long as I still get to hook up with him when he comes home!
What do you think? Do you think he'll text me next time he comes home? What if he doesn't do I text him then? I can't stop thinking about how good the sex was with him and how I want it so bad now. I don't know ..what are your opinions on the whole situation?
To be honest...I think that he had sex with you as a one time thing. Now that he's off to college he probably won't even remember the one girl he met and had sex with before he left. If you really want him to remember you, you have to keep yourself in contact with him, regardless of who's talking to who first. It doesn't have to be everyday, but if you want him to tell you when he's home for some time then talk to him! I guarantee you're not bugging him. Guys like it better when you talk to them first anyways, and if he doesn't want to talk he won't answer. Most guys at his age just prefer hookups instead of relationships in the first place, so you might want to make it clear that's all you want too. Thank you for your question, I hope this helped. Good Luck!
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Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?
It definitely seems like he sees you for something deeper than a one-night stand. It sounds like you two have an emotional connection that is obviously not easy for him to see in other girls (he said he's never met anyone like you.) and that's what I think makes this seem like it could turn into a relationship.
Could there be potential for a relationship? Yes. You met a guy that you get along great with, and he raved about you to his friend. You have a lot in common and he sees something unique in you that he doesn't see in anybody else. You two have been talking all day everyday. This means that he is more than likely interested in you. Will there be a relationship? It could go either way.
Why does he always want you to text first? That seems a little strange. Maybe he's insecure and thinks that he likes you more than you like him, and therefore he would feel better about the situation if you took initiative to talk to him first. I think you should let him know that you really like it when he talks to you so that maybe he will feel more comfortable talking to you first.
Did he treat girls badly in the past? If he did, that's not a good sign. But, sometimes players can change when they meet the right girl, and it sounds like you could be more than "just another girl" to this guy. Were you the one that was mistreated in the past? If so, it doesn't mean that all guys will treat you like that. Lots of guys are like that, but there are a few in this world that really do treat the girl they like extremely well. Hopefully you've found one that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. Only time will tell, but give him a chance and don't assume that he is just like all the rest. Who knows?! You may have found a real keeper.
I'd say that for now, you should keep talking to him each day and make some more plans to spend time together and get to know each other better. Go out with him a few more times, and if things go well and you're still not sure of how he thinks of you, sit him down and ask him about where you stand. Sometimes being straightforward is the best way to find out what he wants from you. Hopefully things will come naturally from there. Good luck!
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I'm 20/f, my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 3 years. We've had our ups and downs, but we've always worked out. Basically, he's done a lot of crap to me that I just put up with.Anyway, I found out that he cheated on me a couple of weeks ago. (He had sex with another girl;I don't know her) And now I can't figure out what to do. I know it seems obvious..I have always said I would dump somebody in a minnesota minute if they cheated on me, but I never expected this. Like I said, we've been together for 3 years. He is the only guy I've ever slept with, and I love him.
But I keep going back and forth about what to do, because I still love him and want to be with him, but at the same time, I can't get over him betraying me like that. All I can think about is how he was intimate with someone else, and it's driving me insane!
Plus, I don't trust a word he says now. I found out on my own about him cheating, and he denied,denied,denied until I finally drug it out of him cause he knew I knew. So now even if he just says he's going to walmart my mind starts spinning..
anyway, advice please!
is 'once a cheater,always a cheater' true?
should I even be trying to work this out?
help!
You've been with him for a long time, but if he's cheated on you, especially going all the way with someone else, then that means that he's not committed to you, and no wonder you can't trust him anymore. A relationship without commitment and trust is destined for failure. No matter what he says, he cheated on you, and that is WRONG. It's pretty hard to take something like that back - Especially since he lied to you about it until he had no choice but to tell the truth because he knew that you knew.
Has he come to you on his hands and knees begging you for forgiveness? It doesn't sound like it, and even if he did, I think you deserve even more than him begging for your forgiveness. You deserve for him to show you how much he loves you and for him to show you how he wants to be with you and ONLY you. And apparently the way that he shows he loves you is by sleeping with someone else, which means that he's doing a pretty bad job in showing you that he truly loves you and that he's committed to you. If you want this relationship to last, and you said that you do, you will have to work WITH him to work it out. You're going to have to communicate with him, and tell him how you feel about what he did. He's going to need to learn that he needs to earn your trust back if he expects you to be even remotely at peace with your relationship.
I think that the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" can be true or false. It depends on a lot of things - but if he cheated on you, it means that his heart is not with you 100%. It means that he's not committed to his relationship with you. Ask yourself - Is this the kind of relationship that I want? Is this the kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with, or any more of my life with, for that matter? Do I really want to be with a guy that I don't trust that feels like he can go off and have sex with another girl and think that he can get away with it?
I think you need to end things with him and eventually aspire to find a guy that you CAN trust. I know that it will be one of the most difficult things that you've ever had to do, but remember that respect for yourself comes first. I know that this guy was special to you and that you have a long history with him in your life, but is this relationship with him really worth sacrificing your self respect?
I wish you the best of luck and hope to hear how your situation turns out.
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so im trying to come up with some creative fantasy football names, can you give me any examples. ive seen the ones people use before and they have never been creative. last year mine was the pink panthers (my ex gfs idea). :) so if you have any ideas thatd be great.
Hey, well I don't really know much about fantasy football or what you may be looking for, but you can always try searching the Internet to at least get some ideas. I'm into website design, and one of the hardest parts about that is trying to find a unique, creative, and suitable name for the site, so I know where you're coming from. One thing that I do when I'm really stumped is use online name generators. Usually what is generated by those is never very suitable, but sometimes it gives you ideas for the name you're essentially looking for. You could also try brainstorming ideas on a piece of paper. Jot down everything that comes to mind, and then try combining words or phrases to get yourself the name you desire. Here are some links for fantasy football name ideas: http://www.customink.com/team/football-team-names.html - http://www.listafterlist.com/tabid/57/listid/8279/Sports++Recreation/Most+Hilarious+Fantasy+Football+Team+Names.aspx - http://hubpages.com/hub/Best-Fantasy-Football-Team-Names
Good luck and let me know what name you choose!
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k my boyfriend of two years and i have been rocky any way right now like we are fighting. well things were going good again until i go on facebook and see these pictures of these girls who are 15 16 with him but they were at his friends house and his friends little sister and her friend were taking pix now there were two that were just of the girls and him and he sees nothing wrong with them yet everytime i ask him who he is with its boys that he chills with and these were taken the other night and he said he told me but i think id remember him telling me that hes with a girl especially one im not to happy with. every time i see these i want to break up with him am i being stupid? and when something like that happends i want to approach it in a diffent way instead of straight bitching at him. idk what to do any more.
I don't necessarily think that just because he has pictures with them on facebook that he's interested in them, though. It's more than likely that these girls are the ones who want to hang around with him (younger girls love being around older guys) and are excited that he was there and therefore want to brag about their encounter with an older guy on facebook. They probably took the initiative to take the pictures and he just happened to be there to pose with them. Happens all the time. It's more than likely just an attempt to brag to their friends or make themselves seem more mature. He probably was just hanging out with his boys when the sister and her friends showed up and started getting in on the action. Trust me, my sister is 15, she tries to hang out with my boyfriend and his friends all the time. It's an attention thing. The younger girls like showing off that they talk to older guys. They probably don't even like your boyfriend, and even if they do, he's with YOU. You've been with him for two years, that has to count for something. I think that you should wait this out and see what happens. Don't throw away your relationship until you are absolutely positive that he isn't committed to you anymore - like if you find out that he's flirting with these girls or anything more serious than a couple pics. (As long as that's the only reason you were thinking of breaking up with him.)
I don't think you're being stupid. It's normal to feel uncomfortable when you see your boyfriend with other girls, especially when things aren't going so well for the two of you. When my boyfriend and I were on the rocks, I felt awful when I saw how happy he was when he was with his friends, and it was even worse to see him talking to another girl. I know how you're feeling. But you're right about how you should be approaching it in a different way as opposed to yelling at him. Don't accuse him of anything; try and be chill about it but also be direct in telling him that it's bothering you. Don't let this bottle up because then you'll be more likely to resent him and lash out later. What to do right now? Try and talk about how you feel with him - without getting mad but still being honest. Make sure he knows how you feel but don't be too harsh because that could push your relationship over the edge. Maybe he doesn't even know that this is hurting your feelings, and that's why you need to communicate with him in a calm, cool and collective way. If he is a jerk after all of that, or if anything more drastic happens, then I'd say it's time to end things. Hopefully everything will work out!
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i am depressed. i dont know why but i am. i just cant help but dislike everyone and i cant seem to find joy in anything lately. i am not usually like this. whenever im home alone im miserable, but at the same time i dont feel like seeing anybody.
i recently broke up with my boyfriend so im guessing thats a big part of it, even though i was the one who broke it off. i find myself wanting to go back to the relationship, but i feel like maybe if i get through this depressed stage ill be able to realize that i broke up with him for a reason. or maybe i just need him in my life.
any ideas on what would make me happy? im trying to keep away from music that reminds me of him but even the most irrelevant songs do. any ideas? thanks
My suggestion to you is to think about what your life was like before your boyfriend was in it. Maybe you can reconnect with some of the friends you may have lost touch with, or pick up on an old hobby you used to love. If these things aren't applicable, then it's time to make some new friends and get out and have a great time with them. It's hard to motivate yourself to get out and "have fun" when you're feeling depressed, though. I understand.
It sounds like you would feel more comfortable staying at home right now instead of going out with friends, but if you're home make sure you keep yourself loaded with fun things to do so that you don't let your mind focus on the depressing parts of your life. Rent a season of a new tv show (try looking for dvds of popular tv shows at the library or a movie rental store) and have a marathon. Bake cupcakes or brownies from scratch. Go back-to-school shopping. Take a long walk around your neighborhood. Make something super creative. Do some yoga or pilates moves. All of these things can be fun, somewhat productive, and will hopefully keep your mind in the right place and make you feel better than you do right now.
Music can be a good way to cope with depression - but it can be hard when certain songs remind you of a special person...especially a guy. Even though some songs are making you feel sad and are a reminder that you've lost him, sometimes it can help to crank up your iPod and cry your eyes out. That's what I feel like doing the most when I feel depressed; I don't know about you, but afterward I always feel a little bit better. Sometimes it helps to cry and feel upset about it. It's better than bottling that all up or pretending to be happy.
It sounds like your boyfriend was a huge part of your life, and that's probably why it's so hard to let go. But you even said that you broke up with him for a reason, so don't let yourself get confused into thinking that you have to be with him to be happy. Think of your breakup as more of an opportunity to find something (whether it be a hobby, an activity or even just being at peace with yourself) that really makes you happy. Just because you aren't walking on sunshine right now doesn't mean that your life is always going to be like this. It can only get better from here! Good luck.
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im in high school and i had a crush on this guy ever since freshman year and i am a junior now. so his sister is a freshman this year and i have a study hall with her. so she asked me who i would ask to sadie hawkins and i said no one and she suggested i take her brother. she was pretty enthusiastic about it actually. the weird part is, is that she and i never talked before and i find it odd she told me to ask her brother. i wasn't planning on it but now i think i might ask him. should i ask him since i technically got the sister approval
To ask or not to ask?...It depends. This is definitely good news that his sister thinks of you two as a potential couple, but do you think that he does? It's possible that his sister knows something you don't know, (who knows, maybe he's had a crush on you for two years now too, and that's why his sister brought it up!) or maybe her suggestion that you should ask him was totally at random. She could have even been going around seeing if many different girls would ask her brother to the dance since she knows no one has asked him yet. Since it could go either way, I think you should try and feel him out before you ask him - try and figure out where he stands with you before you ask. Basically all I'm saying is see how he reacts when you strike up a conversation with him. Does he seem like he's into you, or is he not very responsive? Since you like this guy, I wouldn't want you to get hurt. I'm not trying to discourage you, though!! If you feel like you have nothing to lose in asking him, then go for it! But otherwise, I'd try and decode his actions to see if he's interested before somewhat randomly asking him out.
Good luck and hope it works out!!
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I started hanging out with this boy, 16, I too am 16 and I am a female. I like hanging out with him, I love being around him and he's a cool guy to just know you're around. We're making plans to hang out a second time and I don't want it to be the last. Without being mushy and gushy "I love being around you and hanging out with you" How do I tell him that I want to hang out again after this second time? Also, without being annoying. I want him to be with his other friends but I don't want our hang outs to stop.
Please and Thank You!
Well, even though you don't want to come right out and say that you really enjoy hanging out with him, what's the sense in beating around the bush? I'm sure that he enjoys hanging out with you too if he agreed to do it again, so I think it's perfectly acceptable to honestly say "i really like hanging around with you." I don't think that a comment like this would scare him off or be considered annoying by him. In fact, knowing that you are happy to be around him will probably make him happy and will more than likely make him look forward to being around you again. If you still feel like it will be too awkward to come right out and say it, then hopefully actions will speak louder than words. All you have to do is act interested and excited to be around him (which I'm sure won't be too difficult to do from the sounds of things!!) and if he's into you he'll get the message. Concentrate on planning this second hang out for now. I wish you the best of luck with this new guy!
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What kind of job can a 17 year old get besides working at a store or at a fast food resturaunt?
How do you do a resume with no work experience?
It all depends on where you live - what restrictions your state puts on age influences who employers want to hire, and also what businesses are available. In my state (New york) we have labor laws stating that 16-17 year olds can only work a certain number of hours per week during the school year - that makes businesses want to only hire 18 year olds. It sounds like you're not too interested in being involved with customer service jobs, but to be honest there's really not many other jobs that you can apply for until you turn 18.
However, here are my suggestions for places you could apply at 17 based on what jobs my friends and I have had: Some after school daycare programs hire teenagers - you could try that if you don't mind working with kids each day. Where I live, there is an amusement park that hires teens 14 and up to run the game stands and the more mature teens are able to operate the rides. Also, some restaurants and banquet facilities/hotels hire teens that are under 18 to be dishwashers or bus tables. (most restaurants require servers to be over 18 in places where alcohol is served) You can become a lifeguard at 17 also, although that might depend on the weather where you live. Some of my friends also had jobs at a local nursing home when they were 17. Be sure to check out craigslist.org for your area and view the part time job postings to get some more ideas. It can never hurt to apply! And since you're 17, you've only got another year until you have a great chance at getting accepted for nearly any type of part time job that you may want.
But just to tell you, stores and fast food restaurants are really not too bad to work at. Since I turned 16 I've worked at Subway, a grocery store, and I currently work at McDonalds. I actually really enjoy working at McDonalds - it's not as bad as you might think. I am friends with all of my co-workers, and that's definitely the best part. It's not unbearably disgusting or anything to work in fast food - it's just a matter of getting one order done and moving on to the next one. It's different every day because every order is different, and that's what makes it fun too. I don't really like that it's minimum wage, but if you work a lot you don't even really notice because you do get some pretty hefty paychecks sometimes.
As far as building a resume, while you have no working experience right now you can always include any experience you have with volunteering. At this point in your life, most employers don't expect you to have much working experience, but volunteer experience makes you look like you are involved in something, and that's always a good thing. Volunteering could be considered anything from a one time donation or something you've been dedicated to for years. You can also include any sports, clubs or performances that you've been involved in both in school and outside of school. I would concentrate on including the things you've done in the past 4 years only, though. Try to make your resume about one page long so that it's full of information but not unbearably long to read.
Best of luck and hope to see you find a great job.
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Next year I will be going to college. My gpa isn't very good (2.5) so I assumed I'd have to go to a community college for two years then transfer somewhere better. Going to community college my parents could pay for all
of it. The plan was I'd get a job and save up for after community college so I wouldn't have to get loans or be in debt. However all my friends are going to Kent (in Ohio, party school) and it seems like a lot of fun there. I heard I can get in with my gpa. It's not too expensive there but more then community obviously. Which means all my money and
my parents would go to it plus I'd have to take
out some loans. Do you think I'm making a mistake by not going away? Kent is only an hour away...
I think that you are making the right decision by going to community first. You can always transfer to Kent once you are through with community if that's truly what you want. I think that you should concentrate on what type of program you'd like to study rather than where your friends are going. There is still a lot that goes on at community schools (clubs, sports, even parties) so I don't think that you will be missing out on too much. I myself am going to community college, and what keeps me happy with my decision is knowing that I will be going to a better, more fun school after, and that I am saving a lot of money while still getting a good education. And actually, when you apply for your career in the future, if you transfer to a university from community college you don't even have to tell them that you attended the community school. You can just put down the University.
Best of luck with your decision and have fun in school.
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hi i have been friends with this guy for about 2-3 years and he has liked me and i knew it... but that was about a couple of years ago... and i thought he went off me i have never reall as in REALLY loved him... but he went out with one of my sorta ish friend but she is not really my friend and they never worked out like at all!!
now he says he likes me... and idk if i feel the same... but he makes me feel good about myself and has always been there for me.. and we are really friends...
should i give him a chance...
or should i wait....
or should i stay friends ?
please help me please i really need some advise
thanks
A relationship has to be solid on both ends, and since you're not really sure what you want, it's probably not a good idea to jump into a relationship with him. Don't date him just because he likes you and wants to be with you - you have to truly want to be with him too if you want to have a real relationship.
I suggest that you tell him that you see him as "just a friend," but if you are in fact attracted to him and are beginning to consider the idea of him being more than a friend to you, take things slow and maybe try hanging out together alone (or if you already hang out alone, you could try going on a date.) Make sure you don't lead him on though, because that could put a lot of tension on your friendship - and this sounds like a good friend that you don't want to lose. Good luck!
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This is quite a long story. please bear with me.
17/f
There's this boy. he and i have been pretty close friends for more than 5 years. When we were younger, we had a little crush on eacother, but we were young, and nothing ever came out of it. A few years after that, when we were about 14, we started talking and i was convinced we were going to end up together. That year, i went on vacation, and when i came back, he had a girlfriend. (ive always hated this girl, just throwing that in there). I was upset with him for a while, but we weren't actually dating or anything, so i did the mature thing and didnt make a big deal out of it. We stayed friends since then.
now here's the "good" part. About a year ago, he and i were talking, and he told me that he's always (and stil has) had feelings for me. (He's still with the same girl from earlier in the story). So when he told me this, i got very excited because i still liked him too. A few months after he told me this, i moved to a new school an hour away. We've been talking since i moved, which was 9 months ago.
A few months ago, probaly in like, june, he tells me he wants to leave his girlfriend of 2 years, because 1. Things between them havent been so great, and 2. he wants to be with me. So since then, we've been talking every night for hours. He still hasnt broken up with her because he doesn't want to hurt her (so he tells me). he always tells me how sorry he is that he can't man up and leave her for me, and i know it sounds like a bunch of crap, but i believe him. A few weeks ago, we met up to hang out. And we kissed. While he still has a girlfriend. I feel super guilty because he still has a girlfriend, but i strangely don't regret it at all. In fact, i think id do it again.he just left for college 5 hours away. His girlfriend is clueless that he and i are even talking.
Am i "the other woman"? Does that make me a bad person? I can't take this anymore, its way too much stress. But i REALLY want to be with him. help?? Thanks so much
Well, yes, you pretty much are "the other woman." It doesn't make you a bad person to be his girl on the side - but it's definitely not something to be too proud of, because this guy is being a cheater.
He's also not putting forth any effort to be exclusive with you right now, and that isn't fair to you. I can only imagine how much you like him; and being a teenage girl, I respect and understand that you like him a lot. I know exactly how it feels to fall hopelessly for someone. But I will tell you from experience that it's never going to be what you want it to be as long as there's another girl besides you in the picture.
I really think you need to respect yourself and say to him, "Listen, if you really like me, you would be exclusive with me. I know that you're afraid of hurting your girlfriend, I understand that you guys have been together for the longest time, but you're lying to her, and that's WORSE. You know I have strong feelings for you, and if you have any of the feelings you say you have for me, you will be with me and only me, or else i can't talk to you anymore." instead of letting him have his way with you.
I can understand that he's been with her for a long time and doesn't want to hurt her, but what he's done/doing is truly wrong to his girlfriend, and to you. He's misleading his girlfriend to think that he is still committed to her when he's really not. How would you feel if you were in his girlfriend's position, and you thought that he was dedicated to you, but he was secretly kissing another girl and telling another girl that he has feelings for her and that he's going to break up with you for her? And how do you know that he doesn't say what he says to you to other girls?
To be honest, I don't think that this guy is worth it. He's dishonest to his girlfriend, so why would you want to start a relationship with a guy like that? I know that he's earned your trust, and that you believe that he's a good guy, but his girlfriend apparently thinks he's a good guy too and that he's dedicated to her, even though he's not at all - because he's slyly convinced you of the same thing. And this isn't the first time he convinced you that he wanted to be with you; he did it before when you were 14 - and he got away with it then just like he is now. I really hope that you will reevaluate your feelings for him and decide if this is really worth all that you're putting into it.
If you really think that he's genuine about his feelings for you, and you're willing to risk the fact that he could possibly do what he's done to his girlfriend to you too, I would give this guy two options: either break things off with the other girl for good if he expects to have ANYTHING with you, (even if it's just another hookup!) or stay with his girlfriend and quit messing with you. It's really not fair what he's doing, and even though it might seem like it's going good now, he's been dragging this "thing" on with you for too long. If he hasn't made a move and dumped his girlfriend by now, it doesn't seem too promising that he randomly will find the courage to do it later unless you give him an ultimatum: you or his girlfriend.
Now, maybe you don't even expect a relationship with him because he's five hours away, I don't know. You didn't really say. But if that's what you were hoping for or that's what you want to eventually happen, you definitely need to confront this guy and tell him how you're feeling. If you want to be more than a notch on his guy's bedpost, that is.
Good luck with this guy, and I hope you will remember that no matter how much you like a guy, respect for yourself comes first - you deserve to be the number one (and ONLY) girl that your guy has feelings for.
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what cell phone do you have and are you satisfied with it? my old cell broke and i need a new one. my service provider is at&t. i have no idea what to get.
i am thinking about a smart phone maybe, but seeing as how getting internet on it is expensive there's no point. but i want a qwerty keyboard like the motorola backflip or blackberry.
umm i guess it would be nice to also have good memory to store a lot of pictures and texts. that's it. any suggestions, please. thank you.
I have the blackberry curve; I absolutely love it. Like you, I am not a fan of touch screens. My blackberry came with a USB cable and software for the computer so you can easily transfer pics and music, etc from your phone to your computer and vice versa. Mine didn't come with a memory card but I have one. I don't have a data plan with my blackberry - yet I can still text and talk as per my phone plan. I have t-mobile though. I think that this phone is great and that you'll probably like it. It's definitely worth getting.
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