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17/f and confused.
k my boyfriend of two years and i have been rocky any way right now like we are fighting. well things were going good again until i go on facebook and see these pictures of these girls who are 15 16 with him but they were at his friends house and his friends little sister and her friend were taking pix now there were two that were just of the girls and him and he sees nothing wrong with them yet everytime i ask him who he is with its boys that he chills with and these were taken the other night and he said he told me but i think id remember him telling me that hes with a girl especially one im not to happy with. every time i see these i want to break up with him am i being stupid? and when something like that happends i want to approach it in a diffent way instead of straight bitching at him. idk what to do any more.
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I think you're overreacting.
He was at his friend's house, it just so happened that his friend's younger sister and her friend were there. I doubt he went there with the intention of hanging out with those girls. It sounds to me like he's just trying to avoid an argument with you.
It's normal to be jealous when we think our significant others are flirting or hanging out with people behind our backs but you've got to make sure you don't let your jealousy control you. Has your boyfriend ever given you any reason to think he'd cheat on you or lie to you?
If you have a situation like this in future, just mention it to him casually. Explain to him that you don't mind him spending time with his friends, male or female but that he needs to be honest with you. If you're constantly acting jealous and get upset everytime he spends any time with girls then he's bound to hide things from you to avoid confrontation.
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I don't necessarily think that just because he has pictures with them on facebook that he's interested in them, though. It's more than likely that these girls are the ones who want to hang around with him (younger girls love being around older guys) and are excited that he was there and therefore want to brag about their encounter with an older guy on facebook. They probably took the initiative to take the pictures and he just happened to be there to pose with them. Happens all the time. It's more than likely just an attempt to brag to their friends or make themselves seem more mature. He probably was just hanging out with his boys when the sister and her friends showed up and started getting in on the action. Trust me, my sister is 15, she tries to hang out with my boyfriend and his friends all the time. It's an attention thing. The younger girls like showing off that they talk to older guys. They probably don't even like your boyfriend, and even if they do, he's with YOU. You've been with him for two years, that has to count for something. I think that you should wait this out and see what happens. Don't throw away your relationship until you are absolutely positive that he isn't committed to you anymore - like if you find out that he's flirting with these girls or anything more serious than a couple pics. (As long as that's the only reason you were thinking of breaking up with him.)
I don't think you're being stupid. It's normal to feel uncomfortable when you see your boyfriend with other girls, especially when things aren't going so well for the two of you. When my boyfriend and I were on the rocks, I felt awful when I saw how happy he was when he was with his friends, and it was even worse to see him talking to another girl. I know how you're feeling. But you're right about how you should be approaching it in a different way as opposed to yelling at him. Don't accuse him of anything; try and be chill about it but also be direct in telling him that it's bothering you. Don't let this bottle up because then you'll be more likely to resent him and lash out later. What to do right now? Try and talk about how you feel with him - without getting mad but still being honest. Make sure he knows how you feel but don't be too harsh because that could push your relationship over the edge. Maybe he doesn't even know that this is hurting your feelings, and that's why you need to communicate with him in a calm, cool and collective way. If he is a jerk after all of that, or if anything more drastic happens, then I'd say it's time to end things. Hopefully everything will work out!
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Well to me he sounds like a player .and I bet you if you ask around people will tell you what he's doing .there are a lot of guys that arnt satisfied with just one woman sad to say but if he's doing something behind your back he will slip up trust me and the only fool will be him .should you give him the benifit of the dout when he has pictures of him on facebook ?not likely the truth is in black and white and why is he not with you hmmm something don't sound right with that I bet you there's more than meets the eye here .you can ask him what's going on all day but you know he will denye it that's what players do until the slip up and are cought redhanded then there's no way out .all I'm saying is go with your gut feeling its always the best one .oh by the way I'm a guy and I know how guys work trust me and good luck
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Well , that's normal , your not being stupid ,you sure like him and don't want to lose him because you obviously care ,which is a good thing. It sounds like your a bit jealous though , it seems you can or cannot trust him, but be sure of it. Do you think breaking up with him is good for this? not really , there's no proof that he's being doing stuff with either of the girls though , so until you have proof then make plans , see if you can go without him. Well approach him , maybe he's doing this on purpose to see if you care , maybe you should go and do the same or something similar so it's even see how he reacts. Just be calm and don't look at that stuff , talk to him straight up , don't biotch at him it will make it worse and he'll do it more, just take a fresher. My advice to you is your being totally normal , loving , caring for this guy , NOT stupid repeat NOT STUPID AT ALL! and approach him lovingly and caring calming dont do anything like yelling fighting it wont make it better.Do it a nice way.
Good luck girl : )
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