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Brand New Guy. Relationship? One night stand?
Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?
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He is showing good signs... for now! make sure you are smart about this. if you are sexually active please o please dont have sex with him to soon. that could kill everything... also see who else he is having this connection with... maybe your not the only one he is talking to. but all seems good right now...
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Well, signs he is using you or is just trying to get in your pants..
-he calls you late at night and wants you to come over and "cuddle"
-he doesn't take you out on dates.
-he just wants to hang out at his house all the time just the two of you alone in the house
-he says I love you right away
-he tries to go too far with you too fast
-he doesn't want to stop kissing or whatever and tries to talk you into things.
-he doesn't call you often
-you guys don't hang out often and you know he is going out with his Friends (I don't mean like once, I mean like every weeked he cant hang out and makes excuses everytine you ask)
-he asks you out on dates and you do sexual stuff but he never asks you to be his girlfriend.
Basically, if he takes you out, seems interested, and you guys have a good time, it should be good. It seems like you guys have a good connection, so I wouldn't worry about it
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It definitely seems like he sees you for something deeper than a one-night stand. It sounds like you two have an emotional connection that is obviously not easy for him to see in other girls (he said he's never met anyone like you.) and that's what I think makes this seem like it could turn into a relationship.
Could there be potential for a relationship? Yes. You met a guy that you get along great with, and he raved about you to his friend. You have a lot in common and he sees something unique in you that he doesn't see in anybody else. You two have been talking all day everyday. This means that he is more than likely interested in you. Will there be a relationship? It could go either way.
Why does he always want you to text first? That seems a little strange. Maybe he's insecure and thinks that he likes you more than you like him, and therefore he would feel better about the situation if you took initiative to talk to him first. I think you should let him know that you really like it when he talks to you so that maybe he will feel more comfortable talking to you first.
Did he treat girls badly in the past? If he did, that's not a good sign. But, sometimes players can change when they meet the right girl, and it sounds like you could be more than "just another girl" to this guy. Were you the one that was mistreated in the past? If so, it doesn't mean that all guys will treat you like that. Lots of guys are like that, but there are a few in this world that really do treat the girl they like extremely well. Hopefully you've found one that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. Only time will tell, but give him a chance and don't assume that he is just like all the rest. Who knows?! You may have found a real keeper.
I'd say that for now, you should keep talking to him each day and make some more plans to spend time together and get to know each other better. Go out with him a few more times, and if things go well and you're still not sure of how he thinks of you, sit him down and ask him about where you stand. Sometimes being straightforward is the best way to find out what he wants from you. Hopefully things will come naturally from there. Good luck!
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