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Well my name is Monique Moreno and im nineteen years old. I am currently attending college at RcC... Right now im working on my associates in criminal justice. I want to become a law enforcement offier for LAPD... Its been my dream since i was little.. I love to help people... I have been through a lot of problems including family school and friends and i came out okay. so i believe that i should use my experience to help others... if you have any problems dont hesitate to ask. Im here to help.

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

first of all i do not know him. But what your describing is a very immature boy. he should not be putting out there any information about your relationship. when entering a relationship most people let down a guard and trust that your partner will not tell anybody. And for him to post it on facebook like he didnt care how you feel is childish. just because you turn a certain age doesnt mean you are ready for a relationship. you are a strong person and deserve a strong mature man by your side. dont let this boy get the satisfaction of you being upset over it. time to throw out the trash and look for someone else. remember relationships are supposed to make you happy! not upset. and trust is a key aspect in a relationship and he odviously doesnt care. hope this helps sweetie and if you ever need advice im always here :]

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Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?

He is showing good signs... for now! make sure you are smart about this. if you are sexually active please o please dont have sex with him to soon. that could kill everything... also see who else he is having this connection with... maybe your not the only one he is talking to. but all seems good right now...

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I'm starting college this year and I'm really starting to get annoyed with trying to find clothes that flatter my body. The problem is that I'm sort of flat chested. Not completely flat, but I'm 5'7'' and I weigh about 135lbs. Most girls that are my size have boobs, and most girls that are flat are like stick thin, so it's really hard to find clothes that look good because I feel like all clothes are made for women who have at least a little something on top. If this helps, I like to dress comfortably, and I wear skinny jeans a lot. What kinds of tops or outfits would flatter my body? I have no idea how to dress for my figure. Any ideas are appreciated. Thank you!

here are some idea!

okay i see a lot of flat chested girls or less than b cup wearing off the shoulder bigger shirts... they are super cute and comfortable...
http://imagecache.asos.com/inv/R/23/159/480307/DarkgreyCream/image1xl.jpg
here is something like what im talking about

also big plaid shirts are really in and this has a collar so this would take away from your chest problem...
http://media.photobucket.com/image/plaid%20shirt/fashionjuicecris/Forever21CheckedShirt/Lindsay_Lohan_Plaid_Shirt.jpg


when looking for clothes look the opposite direction to all shirts that are scooped neck and v neck... they make you look smaller... get shirts that are high neck like an average t shirt with different designs and shirts with shoulder detail...

hope this helps!

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I know this is kind of a dumb question but what do you bring to class in college? I was thinking like my computer, the textbook, a binder with some paper, a pencil, highlighter, and some pens, and a calculator for the math like classes. Do I really have to bring that much?

Its basically like high school... but here is some stuff i bring to school because you'll need it.

**flash drive... start saving all ur work that is done online in college... you'll never know when you'll need it and also it keeps life organized...

**tape recorder... some professors talk really fast and its inpossible to copy everything there saying... this way you can get all the info and even play it back to urself instead of reading...

**highlighters! highlight everything you feel that is important to you that ull need!

**planner... keep everything organized with school work and social events.

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I was wondering whats the best way to ask my mom to go on the pill without her thinking that my boyfriend and i are having sex..because we dont. we think about it, but our values overrule the idea. anyways, my period is 7 days long, sometimes a few days more than that and always heavy...is that a good reason to go on it?

Well just to disagree with the person below me lieing is never the right solution. we are all sexual beings so sex is a natural behavior. i mean you were brought into this world by sex... the perfect way of dealing with it is just being straight up...
"mom i am not sexually active at this moment when the time comes i want to be prepared and safe"
and also state the period thing... but also you need to realize the down falls of the pill... do some research and be honest... i hope the best for you.

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ok So a guy I have major feelings for he just wants to be friends..which I know that cold change with time. It just sucks because he leaves for the army next week but I still want him to know how I feel about him. My friends say leave it be cuz we are just friends and thats better than nothing then maybe after he gets done with training things could change. But how come when I went to his friends today his friend was like dude theres for girl and he smiled and hit him? hes 26 whats up with that?

Well if it was me i would tell him. This is one of those if you dont tell him you will never know what could have happen. The worse it that he doesnt like you... but atleast you will know and can move on... If he does then all this worrying would be for nothing... dont live life wondering would could of happened... I hope this helps...


TELL HIM!!!

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My girlfriend and i are moving into a apartment together in Augest and i'm overly worried about having enough money. Whats a good amount to have saved up to move out on ones own?

Thanks

Okay to he honest i am the perfect person to answer this question because i just went through this...
think about all this and write all this out...

prices may vary where you live...
1. rent
2. gas bill
3. electric bill
4. grocceries which could be 100.00 because thats how much me and my boyfriend use.
5. cable bill... look up a cheap provider.
6. internet bill...
7. Insurance
8. car payment...

and remember all these are double because its not just you its your girlfriend...
and also remember that your relationship with your girlfriend will be because she wont be just a girlfriend but a wife figure so there might be alittle more argueing then in your usual relationship

me and my boyfriend had about 9,000 and its wasnt enough...
so remember moving out on your own will maybe give you freedom but its expensive...

but i love living on my own...

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So, my really good friend, Anna has liked this guy named Jake for 2 years, and me and him started talking last year, and I'm in 8th grade now, and so is he and her, but she kind of didn't really have a chance with him, they're COMPLETELY different. And she can be bossy and stuff. But anyway, he likes me a lot, and I like him a lot too. And Anna found out so now she's really really mad at me, and doesn't talk to me at school or practice! Its driving me crazy. And I'm SO SO SO SO SO sorry! Like, extremely, but he is perfect for me. What should I do?

Well let me be the best solution for this problem. I have been through this and seen it around me. First of all you need to make a decision in yourself... if the boy more important then your friend? Look at it this way being so young boys will come and go in your life but your friends will always be there... So take it from me never let a boy step in a way of a friendship. there are other guys out there that will be perfect for you. just take your time and let destiny take its course. your still young.

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I'm a tomboy and all the girls at my school wear the same types of clothes from the same types of stores. All the guys that I like went out with all of those girls. They liked me but wouldn't go out with me so I don't know if it's because of me being a tomboy or what. I mean I'm not a complete tomboy,I wear some of that stuff every now and then but not all the time,so I don't know if I should just be like those girls or what. Well,also I wasn't popular and they were,so maybe that's what it was. I know you're not supposed to change who you are but I don't know what to do.

Wow this seriously sounds like me in high school... okay let me help you...

first of all i applaud you for staying true to yourself... dont follow the crowd because they are getting all the "guys" believe me there will be that guy who will except you for the way you are... not because you followed everyone else...

what is popular isnt always right....

theres going to be that one guy that is like damn you like sports?
they can joke around and mess with you unlike the other gurls that are like omg you broke my nail!


i hope this helps! :]

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Is losing your virginity on prom night the worst thing ever??

cause me and my boyfriend are staying in a hotel with his bro and my best friend... but with 2 rooms?

Im a good virgin but i love my boyfriend... and i dunno if im ready...

No its not. if you are not 100% percent sure you are ready do not do it. i waited to have sex with my boyfriend for two years before i gave him my virginity. if your boyfriend loves you then he will not push you. and if he doesnt except it then you made a great decision of not giving it to him.

guys on prom night are like a lion with a steak. they want it so bad they will do anything they can to have a story to tell there friends when school starts again. so make sure you make a good decision because you virginity is something that you should hold dear to you.

hope i helped :]

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13/f

i straighten my hair every other day because theres nothing else to do with it. my dad & mom found out that they did, told me i couldnt do it anymore because it damaged my hair. so they took my straighteners away. honestly, ive talked to them SO many times about my hair being straightened. they said i can't ever do it again. so i have no clue what to do with my hair. it looks bad natural and i need to straighten my side bangs, but no i cant do it. they hid my straighteners 2 times, i found them and used them, and they found out again and threw them out. honestly i have nothing else to do with my hair. it looks so shitty you have no clue. please help me, no curling, scrunching, braiding, buns, pigtails, ponytail, anything like that. im going crazy i have no clue what to do.

Okay so i understand why your upset. Your parents are trying to control you on a different level to where you can even have your hair the way they want. Have you ever thought of getting you hair permanently straigthening? Also there are millions of hair styles that you can do to have a cute hairstyle... curling irons are not only for curling the can be also used as a straightener... instead of turning the iron just run it down the strand of hair...

i hope this helps?

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okay, i like this guy ALOT. We always talk on the internet and we always flirt and he told me he liked me...alot. i told him how i felt and bla bla bla. well he has a girlfriend and he likes her alot too. He told me hes serious about her but if anything happens, i'm next in line. They've been going out for about a month or so now. It kills me every time i see them together. i dont' know what to do. plz help.

Sorry hun but ur the rebound girl... He wants something to fall back on when he gets tired of his girlfriend that he currently has... Ya he might like u but if he really truely liked u he would break up with his current girlfriend... If i were u i would go and find a new guy and rub into his face and be like u could of been with me but u lost your chance... Even thought thats not always the right thing to do...

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I skateboard, and my friend wants to learn.. So.. what is the best kind of skateboard for a beginner??

A Blank deck with venture/distructo/thunders with blank wheels and swissbone barings any kind of hardware... and kind of griptape and thats about it... Hoped that helped

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ok.. Ive been going out with this guy for a while and i just talked to his best friend and told me hes been cheating on this other girl with me.. I have heard her name b4 from his brother and i asked his best friend if that was the name and he said yeah, i really dont wanna lose him, but the bad part about it is i lost my virginity to him and he said he lost it to me, well his best friend told me out of the blue that he wasnt a virgin.. I don't know what to do, i actually fell for him and i know he is going to give me an excuse or make up a lie when i go and try to break up with him !! I dont know what to do!!!I will rate 5's for the effort!!!

Ok im being honest and ur guy might not be this way (but most of them are) guys want to get in ur pants... Thats something that he could fill more manly... Ive heard of guys that had black books and who ever they get they write it down... But back on track i seriously think he is trying to put a reputation on u.. Guys love it when they could say o ya i did her and shit like that... But i really think u need to let him go... No guy is worth u getting hurt.. And if he really liked you he wouldnt be with someone else...

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I have a lot of girl friends, and a bunch of guy friends but i want more guy friends and i dont remember how i got the ones i have...how can i seem more friendly to my guys?

Guys are always willing to have girls as friends... All you need to do it be out going and willing to just talk to one... Get one of ur friends in introduce you to them... Starting a conversation about anything is the key to getting a guy as a friend..

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im 16/f and i really like this boy but hes in a younger grade then me. hes still older than me because he got held back. he really likes me and wants us to hook up, but i dn, for some reason, the grade thing really bothers me...and i dont even know if im ready for a relationship. i like him most of the time, and other times he is a bit too immature...what the hell do i do?

Ok i know what ur going through... Believe me ive went through it... Like most people say age (or even grade) is no matter... But thats all bullshit... Grade does matter cause u dont feel like u have things in common or his to immature... But dont! i mean dont go out with him just cause he likes you and u dont want to hurt him... Thats just hurting your self... I say wait it out a little... Just remember dont make him ur whole life... Cause this guy would probably mean nothing to u when ur older... So make a decision based on ur happyness... -k-

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