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is this wrong to do?
i've had this friend for a couple of years now, we're in different grades (i'm a grade higher than him) but we're good friends. well recently when we speak on MSN we've been playing "truth & dare" and talking really sexual and intimate with one another. i do enjoy it, but i'm starting to think it might make things weird between us from now on. also, i kinda have a boyfriend. well, we haven't met yet.. it's an online relationship, but he's coming to stay with me in november. i don't really consider us together until he comes here, but i still feel it's sorta disloyal and "Cheating" for me to act like this with another guy. My bf and I never discuss sexual stuff for the record.
should we stop doing this? is this going to make our friendship too awkward? and i can't tug the feeling that it's cheating somehow, and i feel incredibly guilty about this..
..thanks.. i will rate
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Well, it really all depends. Would you want your boyfriend to find out about it. Does he feel the same way you do. (about the not being together until you meet) Because, if he does think your together this might upset him. It is cheating if he asked you out and you said yes. (or the other way around). Just think to yourself. If he was doing this with other girls, would it bother you?
If your in a relationship, its a relationship. Just because you haven`t met yet doesn`t mean that your not in this relationship.
If you do like doing this maybe you should tell your boyfriend that you`d like to wait untill you meet to actually start going out. This way it wouldn`t be cheating.
Or if you`d want to stop because you think it will ruin your friendship talk to your friend about it. This might make your friendship akward depending on how shy the person is in person. Or you for that matter. He, or you, might feel uncomfortable talking normally in person because of some of the things you`ve been talking about.
So i guess to answer your question, is to ask yourself some questions
1. would your boyfriend be upset if he found out?
2. does he feel the same way you do?
3. would you be mad if he was doing the same things you were?
just answer thoes questions to yourself.
Most likely if you would be upset if he was doing what you are. Then I`d say stop what your doing with your friend. It is disloyal to your boyfriend.
I hope I helped some.
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Well it depends on you you have to ask yourself which relationship is better you friend or your boyfriend but really if you want the right answer i would say you boyfriend that is coming to live wit you in november because he is older than you why would you want to go wit a youngster that is the question they say age isn't nothing but a number but i am sure of it you dont want a man younger than you now am i correct i would say go with Mr.November
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If you don't feel right about it, then yea... most likely you should stop. If I were you it would make things awkward for me. Just get back into the habit of talking to him regularly and when you see him, try not to think about your old convos. Put those in the past! If he questions, just tell him its getting a little old. Good luck, hope I helped.
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The fact that you have a guilty concience over this, and are asking this question leads me to believe that you are doing something wrong.
First lets deal with your friend. Do you have feelings for him as more than a friend? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should break up with your boyfriend and be with your friend.
If the answer is no, then not only are you "cheating" on your boyfriend, but you are leading your friend to believe that something could possibly happen between the two of you. If your friend has feelings for you, then this could lead to hearbreak. I'm sure you don't want to hurt him.
Now, as for your boyfriend. I met my husband on-line, and he is the best thing that happened to me. We did/do live in the same city, so that made it a bit easier.
If you and him have already discussed the "should we be boyfriend/girlfriend", and the answer is yes, then what you are doing is inappropriate..but I think you already knew that.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that playing with people's feelings is a dangerous road to go down, and you should turn left and get off. Decide who you want to be with, then make the appropriate steps to make that happen.
Good luck with your decision.
Brenda
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Well, I definetly think that you should feel guilty for talking sexually with another guy that you are only friends with for that matter.
Now I understand that you may think online relationships aren't that important until you meet, but don't you think if you knew he was coming over to stay with you that it could really be considered cheating?
You were definetly disloyal for doing that and I think you should put a stop to what's been going on between the two of you. But, what makes me really confused is the fact that you talk about how guilty you feel for being disloyal and yet you are actually asking whether or not you and him should stop doing this when you know that your boyfriend is coming to stay with you. It makes me feel sorry for your boyfriend, because he's about to stay with a girl who apparently can't even keep from having a sexual talk with one of her friends.
I know this seems harsh, but would you want your boyfriend not taking you seriously as a girlfriend and talking that way to other girls? Now, I'm not saying he's Mr.Perfect and hasn't talked that way to another girl, but you have to give this guy a chance because he's your boyfriend.
I really don't know what to tell you. My instincts tells me that this guy deserves a girl who doesn't interact sexually with her own friends. I mean, I would hope that you'd learn your lesson and not do it again, but just the fact that you questioned whether or not to stop just makes me think you'll do it again. Ok, don't get me wrong, I completely understand the fact that you thought this online relationship was a little bit of a joke and it wouldn't be a big deal, but you did this with a friend. I am hoping that you wouldn't do this to a guy that you were seeing in person. I know that it looks like I only gave you a lecture, but I just wanted you to know how much that stuff can damage a good relationship.
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