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when is the appropriate time to have sex (when ur not marrie
17f. Ok heres the deal, i'm sorta talking to this guy and we're getting really close and everything but we're not actually together. We have all the elements of a relationship just without the title. But because we dont have that title we're not technically together and i just wanted to know since we're not together would it be wrong for us to have sex. It hasn't really come up as an issue yet but i don't really wanna get myself in a predicament that i'm not sure of.
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I definetly think it would be taking things too far if you aren't together.
I really think that if someone takes sex seriously, they'll have it when they know they are really in love and that they know for sure that they will be together for a lifetime which is after marriage. But if you aren't going to save yourself for marriage then at least wait until you've got a guy who you are considered to be his girlfriend and not some "Friends with benefits" thing going on or the "No strings attatched" stuff.
But I guess that this all comes down to your thoughts and your morals when it comes to sex. If you believe that sex should be shared between someone you love, then I wouldn't go for this guy because if you don't have the title of "boyfriend and girlfriend" you don't have anything else. I just don't see why you don't have that title for the both of you. To me, that just sounds like friends with benefits. It's not like you guys are anymore special just because you are close and aren't labeled 'in a relationship'.
My suggestion would be to take a step further with this guy by actually being his girlfriend officially because what if this guy were seen with another girl and you tried to call him on it and he just say, "What? It's not like you are my girlfriend or anything" And I know you think that he'd never do that, but the whole not having the title really makes me question this guy. I really advise you to be careful and not take things sexually with him just yet.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well first ask him if he will be your boyfriend. Then maybe when you're older, DO IT. Just not now trust me.
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If your questioning it and wondering about it, and if you have to come to us here on advicenators for this choice, you don't need to be having sex.
Simple as that. Don't do it if your in question.
-Ryan
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hey! well really the decision is up to you! do you think it's wrong? do you feel comfortable with it? the only thing that worries me is the fact that there is no title, but only emotions. this means that you can technically go out with other guys, and he can do the same with other girls. i don't think this will make either one of you happy, but that is the reason why people put titles on their relationships. it shows commitment! if you start having sex, then emotions will become even a bigger part of the whole thing, and one of you will get really hurt if the other starts to date other people! im sure you don't want that, so i suggest putting a title on your relationship or leaving emotions (which includes sex) out of the relationship unless you want to risk one of you getting hurt!
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