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I am usually always logged on but a few day sago I was logged off and I can't log back in. I know my username is HorseLover or HorseLvr but I have a couple of questions I need to ask and am wondering what happened and how I can get back on. Thank you so much! (link)
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Your username is Horselover21. That could be the problem. ;-)
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My boyfriend and i had a huge quarrel and we haven't said a word to each other since then.. Its been three days now and he hasn't called.. I sent him 3 messages and his not replying his been giving me the silent treatment since what can I do somebody pls tell me what to say to him I don't want to loose my boyfriend (link)
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Hi there, you asked this twice. Here is the other one which will get answers:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=605029
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I feel like I am a failure at everything that I do. Everything I do seems to turn to crap. I was married and the skank left me, got pregnant by the guy she was screwing, and married a guy and has 2-3 successful business.
My brother has a successful computer business, and I have been struggling to get any number of business off the ground. I already had to close one, and cant seem to get the other three to do anything.
Everybody around me has money where I can't even keep a job. My job has been: quit, fired, fired, lost business, fired, fired, fired, fired, and now I am making less then I have made in the past 10 years. I want children, but can't, libido is in the crapper, I have jumped up to over 450lbs, can't get my current wife anything because of job situation, you name it & I suck at it. To make matters worse, I am a genius, and what do I have to show for it? Nothing.
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Hi there,
If you want to talk to someone who has had to pull themselves out of some very deep piles of crap, some similar and some different to what you are going through, then add me on Skype. My user ID there is the same as it is here: DangerNerd
I own the site you posted this on, and while I rarely get involved, due to time constraints, your situation really got to me.
I have some thoughts for you, but they are better expressed in a personal manner.
If you should decide not to contact me, then I would suggest that you talk to a counselor about this. The infidelity issue, which I am deeply familiar with, leads to an incredible mindset of failure. There is a way out of it, and even if you don't thing "counseling" will help, per say, I assure you that having someone to rant at for a solid hour is worth the price.
I have been where you are now, in many ways. I cal tell you what works for me. If you are interested, you know how to get ahold of me, and I hope you do.
DN.
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im 19 and a female my bf that i live with has a wireless router and doesnt remember the password so unfortunatly mylap top cannot be connected. im looking for a by pass code or a really simple way around it. its just a basic password security pleas if someone could help i kinda need my computer hooked up for school and work. (link)
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Two options:
1) Plug your laptop into one of the four wired ports on the back of the router.
2) Follow the instructions for resetting the router. There is usually a button on the back of the router but you should reference the instructions and make sure it won't ruin anything your boyfriend has customized in his router settings.
Happy routing.
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Romans 10:9-11
That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. As the Scripture says, "Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame."
I was in your shoes i wanted to die and cared about nothing i always knew there was a god but i felt like he didnt care then one day i cried out to him and said where are u if u dont show yourself im going to kill myself the next day my aunty took me to church and i asked god to come into my heart and all of a sudden i heard this sound and everything eles was mute it sounded like a waterfall it was amazing so i just wanted to let you know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD HE LOVES YOU AND SO DO I AND HE IS COMMING TO PICK US UP SOON THE END TIMES ARE HERE JESUS WANTS YOU :)
And to the other person who said praying to god is like praying to the wind well HE WANTS YOU TOO JESUS LOVES ALL OF US :) (link)
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I am pretty sure you meant to answer a question with this, right? Instead you asked a whole new question.
Head back where you were and click the link that says "answer this question"
Thanks.
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19/f 19/m- been together a year and a half on the 20th.
I'm the type of girl that likes to be showed she's loved, and being told sweet things. I know my boyfriend loves me, but I'd like to be reminded every once and a while. Is that too much to ask? I'm not talking about expensive jewelry; but like maybe a little sweet text, love note, or maybe a card or some flowers every once in a while to let me know that after all this time, he still loves me?
I do these things for him; whenever I'm out, I always see stuff that I think he'd like, and I'll get him a little something; I send him sweet texts; usually 5-8 pages long, and all I get back is 'I love you too baby'..
I mean, we do live together, but still??
I've talked to him about it, and he says its because he nver thinks about it?? That I should already know that he loves me;
and I do, but still. It would be nice to be reminded. I mean, at first, in a relationship the guy & the girl are doing things to KEEP each other; and after so long, they know they have each other and just quit doing those little thigns; but I like the little things; I want it back.. :(
Sometimes action speaks louder than words; and he said he would improve; but shouldn't it just come naturally? I mean it does for me? Don't get me wrong, he's very very affecionate & tells me he lvoes me, but still. I want a random "You're my world;; I never wanna be without you; you're beauitful" ect.
Is it ruined?? I don't wanna change him, and I understand some people have a difficulty expressing emotions like this; but still. I kind of told him out of hurt that it could become a deal breaker; than if he can't just show me he lvoes me OCCASSIONALLY, than I'll find a man who will;
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...tips?
What would you do? (link)
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Hi there,
This is a compatibility issue, but may also be something you are going to want to seek personal counseling over.
Couples counseling is a given, based on what you said to him about ending the relationship and going to a new man, basically because the man you say you know loves you doesn't send you long enough text messages.
When someone repeats it back to you like that, does it make you look at it differently?
Don't think I don't understand what you are saying, because I do. Example: I was in a marriage for YEARS where I did everything romantic for her, and got nothing in return. I get it. I do. But, if you love someone, you stick with them because you love them, not because they cater to your every whim.
If you were able to read what you wrote here from someone else's perspective, it would like to you like you don't love him at all... you just love someone doing certain things for you. When these things stop, you don't love him anymore.
Before you say: "THAT ISN'T TRUE!!!!1!111"
You said TO HIM that if he didn't do these things, you would leave him and go with a new man who WOULD do these things.
Not a new man who loves you... just a new man who does these certain things you want.
Does that make you realize how that sounded to him?
If it were me, and you said that, I would naturally assume you were already cheating on me trying to find a man who will text you five pages at a a time. No matter what, if I was your man, I would understand that your needs aren't being met, and so the relationship is over.
If you do actually love HIM, and not just the act of a man worshipping the ground you walk on, then act fast to undo the damage.
If I were him, I would, that very day, have made plans to exit the relationship.
Please understand: I am not saying your wants are wrong. Not at all. Just that you two aren't compatible if you are using extortion (blackmail) to get what you want. Some of the things you want aren't likely to happen. Example:
Texting 5-6 pages? Seriously? Most guys REALLY hate and I mean HATE texting! If you were around a group of guys, you would understand from the responses as the texts came in. Texting is COMPLETELY impersonal. If you want a guy's attention, do this in person, or at the very least let him hear your voice.
Girl sends a text and thinks: "I love him so much I am sending him a TXT!"
Guy gets a text and thinks: "Wonderful. Another text. She won't leave me alone for two seconds, and is too lazy to pick up the phone and TALK to me!"
You see where this isn't going to work out in your favor?
Sure, you can force him to text you 5 pages every time you text him 5 pages, but I promise you he will hate you for it.
There are guys who like to make small romantic gestures on a regular basis... I should know, I am one of them. He isn't one.
I have been in a relationship with someone who rarely gives back. Yes, it sucks. Yes, you feel unloved. The reality, however is that these things ARE NOT LOVE.
Love is putting up with the other person. :-)
The best definition of love I ever heard: Love is caring about someone else more than you care about yourself.
From what you have written here, you don't love him. Not at all. Why? Because you care MORE about a 5 page text than you do about being with him.
You told him you would leave him if he didn't do what you wanted. Think about this.
It isn't that he isn't expressing his emotions... it is that he is not expressing them the way you DEMAND he express them.
He is expressing himself, and you are telling him that he isn't good enough for you because he doesn't express things they way you DEMAND they be done.
Why am I using the word DEMAND? Because it is the right word. You are using extortion to get what you want. You make a DEMAND... and then you threaten him with another man if he doesn't comply.
How would you feel if he did this to you?
How about another example?
Let us say that there is something sexual you don't like to do.
He tells you that if you won't do this sexual thing, then he is going to dump you and find a woman who will!
Did your eyes spring open at that thought? It is just exactly THE SAME THING you did to him.
You told him if he didn't meet your needs you would go to another man.
If he told you that if you didn't meet his needs he would go to another woman... would you think he loved you?
If he said that to you, would you KNOW in your heart that the relationship was over?
Of course you would.
And so does he.
He does show you he loves you. Every day you wake up and he is still there, it is a sign he loves you. The fact that he even speaks to you, even a single word after what you said to him PROVES he loves you.
If you can't accept love from him, because it doesn't fit what you demand from a man, then maybe it is time to let him go and find a woman who will love him for who he is, instead of who she tells him he has to turn into to make her happy.
Obviously, he wants it to work since he didn't leave you after you said that. (I would have asked you to counseling and if you said no I would be gone.) If you also want it to work out, then realize the problem isn't all his, and tell him so.
Get into couples counseling. IT WILL HELP!
I hope the very best for both of you.
P.S. This CAN be fixed if you BOTH work at it. This isn't a problem HE has... this is a problem for BOTH of you. I know it hurts, but try and remember how incredibly bad you trying to end this relationship by what you said. BOTH of you will have to work at saving this. You will need help to get through this. Both of you will.
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Hey Razhie, I am just a bit confused as to what to say or do. My boyfriend of a year and 4 months tends to make very vague plans to skype with me every morning in his emails (we're doing long distance).. and as a result, we end up skyping at 8:00 pm and untill 10, when I should be heading to bed, so I'm not dead tired the next day. In the meanwhile, while he's out, I do my stuff, but I have the urge to write him, call him and wonder where he's at. I supress all those feelings, but I can't stop thinking that it's weird he couldn't be bothered to email me once in a while about something funny he saw or how he thought of me or whatever.- and the fact that he's a boy, is a very bad excuse.
Anyways, and so today I subtly mentioned that maybe he should write a concise time when we'll skype in his morning message to me, but he said no, that that isn't possible. I asked why, considering he doesn't always enjoy hanging with his friends, so coming to me wouldn't be too much of a chore? Also, it's a bit hypocritical, considering that I had to ALWAYS tell him when I'll be home and when we can skype. So first he argued saying, no, he can't give me a concise and earlier skyping time. And now, he said that okay, he'll stay home and wait for me. He won't go out with his friends, he'll wait. Then when I'm home we can skype all day like I want. I told him not to be childish, that that's a very unhappy life to lead, being enslaved to me and my wish. And I mentioned that a compromise would be great.. like him meeting up during the day when I'm busy, but meeting me late afternoon-ish so it's not too late and enough time for us both to have done our business during the day and also, have enough time to talk. But he brushed it off saying NO, he wants to wait on me all day long. I feel like he's being immature. And I told him so, and said that I know what that is like, to wait around all day, and it isn't nice, that I don't want him to do that. ... but he's being stubborn. He insists that he's 'not' teaching me a 'lesson' by acting like my slave. hmmm.. what now?
And yes he loves me and yes he is faithful, just unfortunately, he tends to be very immature and even more unfortunately, he DOES not see it. Most of my friends tell me that when I am sad about what we fought about etc. but when I tell him so, he get's mad at me. eeeks! Also, to what I mentioned earlier, is it just me, or isn't it weird, that when he fights with me, my day just SUCKS and his is OKAY?!?! He can easily sleep and meet with friends and laugh. -he says he is different, but I feel like I DEADLY in love with him, and he just loves me.
What to do?!
Thank you for any help. I appreciate it. I'm kind of stuck now... breaking up is out of question, because I'm too weak, but I know if I hear it often enough, I'll be able to see that there is more out there for me. ... thank you everyone. (link)
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Hi there,
You have to be logged in to ask her a question.
If you don't, it ends up in the admin's inbox. :-)
Please log-in or sign up here:
http://www.advicenators.com/register.php
... and then re-ask your question to her.
Thank you.
P.S. You can copy and paste the text from this question, you don't have to type it all over again. :-)
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i work construction started in 2008 and i was wandering when im done with construction i would like a new job a job that will let me have a none smoke break and a dayoff what jobs are out there (link)
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Would you please re-write this. It is very confusing. Example: What is a "none smoke break?"
Thank you.
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So, my little sister wanted the game Zoo Empire. I decided to buy it off of Big fish games, but when I am almost finished this comes up:
We're sorry, but we could not process this request. Please contact Customer Support at www.bigfishgames.com/help or via telephone at 1-866-921-6960 from 9:30am to 5pm, PST.
Anyone else get this, and know how to fix it?
Also, the number on there doesn't work. (link)
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Hi there,
I can't believe nobody answered this yet! :(
Hopefully you have already resolved this, but if not, and also for the folks who will find this while they are searching the web for help with their own account, I will put what I found out in here:
Here is another number which I know works:
206-213-5753
You can also use their live support chat or contact form here:
http://bigfishgames.custhelp.com/app/ask
... but I am pretty sure you have to be member to use the live help chat, so that might not work for you.
For problems with the game itself or anything they have help forums for each game big fish makes:
http://forums.bigfishgames.com/forums/list.page
I hope this all works out for you.
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Wondering if you can get any type of STD or any type of infection. I've been fingered once by my friends cousin...I've been experiencing some discharge and a weird smell from down there...I went to the doctor & they said I was fine with the bacterial Infections....I'm scared as hell...please help? :( (link)
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Yes, it is possible to get STDs from being fingered by an infected person.
You should have a full STD test panel done if you are having symptoms your doctor can't identify.
As a side note, here are a couple other things you should know:
Condoms DO NOT prevent the spread of herpes (either kind) or HPV (genital warts/cancer, etc.)
Here is another general rule of thumb (no pun intended:) If you aren't ready to let someone put their penis in you, don't let them put anything else in you either. STDs can come from/to the mouth as well.
Get yourself tested, and if hopefully you are ok, or have something that can be cured easily... then be smarter about things in the future.
I hope it all works out for you.
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what is in mind of baliraja abut me i want to know it (link)
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Why don't you ask Baliraja?
Nobody here reads minds or tells the future.
Could you PLEASE tell me where you got the idea that someone here could do these things? We are getting more and more questions like this, and I would like to put a stop to it.
Thank you.
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here's the link
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=604387
thanks (link)
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Hi there,
All taken care of.
DN.
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I went back today to a question I answered and I thought I gave some good advice. I see that my advice is still on my column but I found it's not under the question with the others' answers. Why is that? (link)
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No idea why this would be happening. Please drop a note in my inbox about this, and don't forget to include a link to the question.
Thank you.
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I want to delete a question off my column that I wrote and accidentally answered. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Drop a link to the question in my inbox, and I will take care of it.
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This is a better quality question that I gave more informatiom to you. I'm sorry for the length, but please help me. I NEED help.
So, hi! I had a treatment twice(i'm sorry, I don't know the name. Let's just call it treatment 1.) and they put a thing in my vagina. I think they called it a catheder, but it didn't look like one. It was a long, clear tube. Anyways, I had that treatment twice, now. And my parents told me I had to do it again. Well, I had a procedure(I don't know what this is called ;-( let's call it treatment 2.) where they put a pebble thing in(Or on) my vagina and they put me FULLY asleep. I'm afraid the treatment 2 will make the treatment 1 hurt more. The treatment 1 hurt a lot but it hurt worse the second time.
And I think when I didn't tighten my vagina(if you know what I mean) it didn't hurt as much. What do I do? I don't want to do this! My parents are forcing me to. They keep saying it's my last treatment but.. Uhhh! By the way, i'm not pregnant or it's not puberty. Please help as soon as you can!:( (link)
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Hello again,
I think I figured out something that would really help:
For some reason, you have no idea what the procedure is called, and you don't know what it does, or why you have had the first two?
You MUST talk to your parents and doctor and explain this. I am sure they think you understand all of this, and can't understand why you are upset. If they knew WHY you were upset, that you don't understand what is happening, it would make a big difference.
If your doctor is bad at explaining things, then ask a NURSE to help you understand.
This may be something that you HAVE to do, or something that you will wish you did when you were young. Again, because you can't tell us WHY this is being done, we aren't having much in the way of a clue for helping you figure it out.
Here is a secret: People are afraid of pretty much everything they don't understand.
If you better understood what was going on, and why it was happening, then you could have a better idea of how much it will hurt, and if it will be worth it in the end.
One more thing: You MUST tell your doctor about it hurting to tighten your vagina more now than it once did.
If you did, then tell them again and ask them what you can expect in the future.
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Please help me! Nobody will!:(
Ok, so I have a problem with my vagina. It's not sexuallity or puberty, it's just something wrong with it.
Anyways, i've done a treatment twice:
1st time: Didn't really hurt
2nd time: hurt bad!!
Ok so then I had a worse treatment. Ok anyways, i'm doing the same treatment for the third time, and I don't want to. I'm scared that it'll hurt worse because that worse treatment I had(Lets call it TREATMENT #2) might make it feel more painful.
So what do I do? Go suicidal? Run away? What do I do? My parents won't let me not go. Please help. No one will help me ;( (link)
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Hi there,
Your questions are anonymous. None of the users here can see who posted your questions, only the moderators who run the site... and they won't even look unless you use your account to do something bad on the site.
The reason I explained that, is that it is OK to ask a question and just tell what the name of the procedure is, and what exactly they are doing to try and fix whatever the issue is.
Whatever it is, you aren't the first one it happened to, and while it may be embarrassing, nobody will know it is you, so you can speak freely.
I don't normally answer questions like this, but it sounded like something a friend of mine once tried to explain without saying the truth of the matter. I am not suggesting that it is the same, but I will tell you that story and you can see if it fits, or helps you.
My friend was born intersex. Ambiguous genitalia they called it at the time. The short version is that she had some female parts and some male parts.
The doctors, in their infinite need to "fix" this, removed the parts that were more male than female. Her body didn't develop like they thought it would, and it would have been better if they left her completely alone down there.
Nothing was broken... just different.
Years later, there is a huge community of intersex individuals on the net... and if I knew then, what I know now... I would have done everything in my power to keep the doctors away from my perfectly healthy, but very different friend.
So, on the off chance that that is what is happening with you... Inbox me, and I will send you a list of resources and people you can contact to help you and your parents make the right decisions.
If it is something else, please just say what it is. There is no need to be shy.
If this is a matter of you being victimized, then whoever tries to help you in a legal manner (lawyer, different doctor, children's rights advocate, etc) is going to need to know what it is you would rather die than go through. :-(
Also, if there is anyone here who has gone through it, then they will be able to tell you if procedure #3 is worse than #2, or if it is less hurtful.
No matter what you choose to do, I wish you only the best outcome.
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First of all, there's nothing wrong with using a candle, it is no more dangerous than sticking anything else in your pussy, like a dildo or a vibrator, or banana,a finger and so on. But that's not what i wrote about. You are SOOO misinformed and have NO business passing out advice. Go look up what it means to lose your virgnity. 'Cherry popping' the slang for losing your verginity is breaking or tearing the HYMEN NOT the vulva, your vulva are the 'lips' to your vagina, the hymen is the small peice of skin INSIDE the opening of your vagina that all virgins have. Drop the advice column and get some life experience first. What are you like, 15 or 16? (link)
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The person you meant this to go to doesn't allow anonymous questions... so it went to the admin.
Please send me another question with a link to the question that has the answer you are referring to, and I will take care of that user's advice column post haste.
Thank you,
DN.
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im from nepal, who is my gf
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Why are you asking someone in the USA who your girlfriend in Nepal is?
Do you think we can tell the future for some reason?
I am sorry, but you will have to make your own future.
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I'm a girl, 14, and today for the first time I gave my boyfriend a blowjob. He's Kind of a player. He didn't cum in my mouth and wasn't wearing a condom. I came home and just found out about the risks of oral sex..I'm kind of scared ! Please help, thanks! (link)
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Not quite sure what you are asking, but just to confirm:
You can get STDs orally. From herpes to HIV.
You will have to start a testing regimen. Get tested immediately, then at 6 months. HIV can go 10 years without showing up in some people, so plan on being tested for the next 10 years, just to be safe.
Something that might also help you in the future:
Herpes (both kinds) and HPV (genital warts/cancer/) infections aren't stopped by condoms.
I wish they would put a big flashing sign up in sex ed classes and explain this to people before it is too late for them.
Get tested, and do it again in 6 months.
Most places only test for a few things unless you ask them to test for everything, so don't forget to ask.
I hope everything is well for you, and this isn't a lesson you have to pay too dearly for.
Side note: If he is a player, you will never be safe with him, you can never trust him.
Please re-think that. You can do better than him.
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Hey DN just wondering if you got that link I sent you?
here it is again in case you didn't!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?qsearch=589252 (link)
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Sorry about that. I am working on it. There is a programming error there, but I have yet to find what I did that might have caused it.
Figured I would reply when I had it fixed... but that hasn't happened yet.
Thanks very much for reporting the bug, and I will respond to your original question when I get this figured out and fixed.
I really appreciate the help. :-)
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